In the doghouse.
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
Like you, I'm completely not into jewelry and also like your father, my father never wore a ring. The first time I put the ring on my right finger (engaged) it felt super awkward, unnatural and I'd keep forgetting it places. Then it got to be habit. Then the same thing happened all over again when I put the ring on my left hand (married). Its been a almost 2 years now and I still take off my ring when I wash,shower etc and when I code. If it'll make her happy, you can try? It won't kill you, at least that's the mentality I approached it with. :shrug:
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
If I were getting married, I'd have the same problem as you - I don't wear a watch and I wouldn't want to wear a ring. My Dad never wore one (nor my Grandad) - I didn't realise until I was quite old that it wasn't just women who wore wedding rings.
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
I wear one, and after it was welded to my finger I have no worries about it. In fact it has proved useful, getting chatted up, unwantedly you understand, one can tap the ring and apologise for being already taken! Actually after a few weeks you never even notice it is there, until you take it off! Honestly, I would advise you do wear it, for her, after all you will be ringing her neck finger soon. (BTW Good luck, I hope all the preparations aren't driving you round the bend)
------------------------------------ "The greatest tragedy in mankind's entire history may be the hijacking of morality by religion" Arthur C Clarke
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
Rob Philpott wrote:
My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days
When was this? My dad did 40 years ago, it was a signet ring with his initials on (which I still have, and his father's). Perhaps a ring like that wouldn't look so washer-like? Personally I'd wear one. Maybe she wants you to wear it as a sign you're no longer available?
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
Just try it on for about 27 days. After that it will become a habit. I used to sleep with my uniform on after a hard day (I know it's dirty and all but I'm really tired). But I realized this is a very bad habit so I put a stop to this (someone advised me about the 27 days). I make it a point to change even if my eyes are betraying me. After that, it became a habit. I can't sleep if I won't change. :zzz: I hope it will work for you.
A designer knows he has achieved perfection not when there is nothing left to add but when there is nothing left to take away Antoine de Saint-Exup'ery
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Rob Philpott wrote:
My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days
When was this? My dad did 40 years ago, it was a signet ring with his initials on (which I still have, and his father's). Perhaps a ring like that wouldn't look so washer-like? Personally I'd wear one. Maybe she wants you to wear it as a sign you're no longer available?
My dad is in his 70s now, getting married in the 50s. Speaking to other folk at work about what their father's did or didn't wear, its seems to be the case.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
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I wear one, and after it was welded to my finger I have no worries about it. In fact it has proved useful, getting chatted up, unwantedly you understand, one can tap the ring and apologise for being already taken! Actually after a few weeks you never even notice it is there, until you take it off! Honestly, I would advise you do wear it, for her, after all you will be ringing her neck finger soon. (BTW Good luck, I hope all the preparations aren't driving you round the bend)
------------------------------------ "The greatest tragedy in mankind's entire history may be the hijacking of morality by religion" Arthur C Clarke
Thanks for the good wishes Dave. I don't seem to get chatted up much these days anyway so I don't need a ring to fight them off. Not sure it that's good or bad. As for wedding preparations, jut don't go there. I will just do as instructed on the day, I think that's the safest approach.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
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Just try it on for about 27 days. After that it will become a habit. I used to sleep with my uniform on after a hard day (I know it's dirty and all but I'm really tired). But I realized this is a very bad habit so I put a stop to this (someone advised me about the 27 days). I make it a point to change even if my eyes are betraying me. After that, it became a habit. I can't sleep if I won't change. :zzz: I hope it will work for you.
A designer knows he has achieved perfection not when there is nothing left to add but when there is nothing left to take away Antoine de Saint-Exup'ery
27 days huh? That's quite precise! Everyone seems to think it becomes normal or habitual in time so I guess I might be fussing over nothing.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
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Thanks for the good wishes Dave. I don't seem to get chatted up much these days anyway so I don't need a ring to fight them off. Not sure it that's good or bad. As for wedding preparations, jut don't go there. I will just do as instructed on the day, I think that's the safest approach.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
Rob Philpott wrote:
I will just do as instructed on the day, I think that's the safest approach.
When I was 'Organising' my wedding I had a simple approach, let the mothers and the bride get on with it, my job was just to hand over increasingly large amounts of money and wait to be told where and when to be. I chose the Men's outfits and the menu, selected My ring and picked a bit of music, that was it! It was a great day! It is the best way, trust me! :)
------------------------------------ "The greatest tragedy in mankind's entire history may be the hijacking of morality by religion" Arthur C Clarke
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Rob Philpott wrote:
I will just do as instructed on the day, I think that's the safest approach.
When I was 'Organising' my wedding I had a simple approach, let the mothers and the bride get on with it, my job was just to hand over increasingly large amounts of money and wait to be told where and when to be. I chose the Men's outfits and the menu, selected My ring and picked a bit of music, that was it! It was a great day! It is the best way, trust me! :)
------------------------------------ "The greatest tragedy in mankind's entire history may be the hijacking of morality by religion" Arthur C Clarke
Well, that sounds uncannily like my wedding to be!
Regards, Rob Philpott.
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Like you, I'm completely not into jewelry and also like your father, my father never wore a ring. The first time I put the ring on my right finger (engaged) it felt super awkward, unnatural and I'd keep forgetting it places. Then it got to be habit. Then the same thing happened all over again when I put the ring on my left hand (married). Its been a almost 2 years now and I still take off my ring when I wash,shower etc and when I code. If it'll make her happy, you can try? It won't kill you, at least that's the mentality I approached it with. :shrug:
Don't forget to vote if the response was helpful
Sig history "dad" Ishmail-Samuel Mustafa "There is no wealth like knowledge, no poverty like ignorance" Ali Ibn Abi Talib
Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote: Keep it up. Fool.
I now think of you as Mr. T! - Trollslayer
Thanks for the reply. It looks like I will be wearing one!
Regards, Rob Philpott.
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Just try it on for about 27 days. After that it will become a habit. I used to sleep with my uniform on after a hard day (I know it's dirty and all but I'm really tired). But I realized this is a very bad habit so I put a stop to this (someone advised me about the 27 days). I make it a point to change even if my eyes are betraying me. After that, it became a habit. I can't sleep if I won't change. :zzz: I hope it will work for you.
A designer knows he has achieved perfection not when there is nothing left to add but when there is nothing left to take away Antoine de Saint-Exup'ery
Mawi Ramos wrote:
Just try it on for about 27 days.
Why 27?
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
It's the same as wearing glasses - they seem odd and weird when you first start wearing them, but soon you stop noticing them, and it feels odd and weird when you don't wear them
Help me! I'm turning into a grapefruit! Buzzwords!
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Mawi Ramos wrote:
Just try it on for about 27 days.
Why 27?
Regards Senthil [MVP - Visual C#] _____________________________ My Home Page |My Blog | My Articles | My Flickr | WinMacro
That's when the bills start coming in and take your mind off the ring! :-D
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
I have no wedding ring, since I really hate rings (have a wedding bracelet though). Anyway I don't wear the bracelet often (my wife, thankfully, does't care much about). :)
If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
This is going on my arrogant assumptions. You may have a superb reason why I'm completely wrong. -- Iain Clarke
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If I were getting married, I'd have the same problem as you - I don't wear a watch and I wouldn't want to wear a ring. My Dad never wore one (nor my Grandad) - I didn't realise until I was quite old that it wasn't just women who wore wedding rings.
Glad to hear I'm not alone in my opinion then. It looks like I have no choice however...
Regards, Rob Philpott.
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
congrats for/on the upcoming nuptuals :-) maybe there's middle ground - maybe wear the ring on a leather thong around your neck .. or something - it would still show your better half you care enough 'g'
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It's the same as wearing glasses - they seem odd and weird when you first start wearing them, but soon you stop noticing them, and it feels odd and weird when you don't wear them
Help me! I'm turning into a grapefruit! Buzzwords!
benjymous wrote:
soon you stop noticing them, and it feels odd and weird when you don't wear them
I can barely see the end of my nose without them so I notice pretty quickly if I'm not wearing them!
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
Take the middle road and don't wear it around your finger but on a chain (golden or not) around your neck. My brother does the same, and I will (one day hopefully :) ). I can't stand the feeling just as I can't stand the feeling of a watch. But as said before it's a habit I'm sure if I was to wear a watch after a month I wouldn't notice it anymore.