Does anyone else think Elijah Wood...
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: There's a difference between thinking someone is attractive and being attracted to someone. There are a couple of male CPians that I think are attractive people, but I am in no way attracted to them. Precisely; well said. I guess I just assume everyone thinks like that too.
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David Wulff wrote: Precisely; well said. I guess I just assume everyone thinks like that too. Wouldn't it be nice? :-D Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: There's a difference between thinking someone is attractive and being attracted to someone. There are a couple of male CPians that I think are attractive people, but I am in no way attracted to them. Of course. But some people (usually guys) can't even admit to the former, so if they have felt an attraction, they certainly won't admit it! Jeremy Falcon wrote: Remember people are different. So, there could actually be some people on this planet that don't want to take it up the ass, nor do they fancy it. And, there are some people that do. Blunt, but true. Mind you, there's a difference between admitting an attraction for someone and wanting to sleep with them. In my case, although I'm attracted to some guys (I don't go for the rugged type, possibly because of my past) I can't see myself wanting to have a sexual relationship with one until after surgery (and maybe not even then). Wait and see. Jeremy Falcon wrote: I believe in Freudianism in the fact that everything does revolve around sex in one way or another - just pay attention to Trollslayer's "selective" posts for an example. And, if one guy finds another attractive without being attracted to him, per sé, I believe one explanation could be a subconscious hope that women will do the same. Hence, more of an opportunity to be around women, when being around that guy. I think you're right there - social interractions are based on sex and - more importantly reproduction...it's nature's way of ensuring the species survives. We just happen to have complicated things by being sentient and adding our own "rules" to the game. I can't speak for the explanation for attraction you give though, as I've never really been a guy! Jeremy Falcon wrote: Like sands through the hourglass, these are the days of our lives. I love the quote. :cool: Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
- Marcia GraeschAnna :) wrote: Of course. But some people (usually guys) can't even admit to the former, so if they have felt an attraction, they certainly won't admit it! I agree. In the male world, the pressure is much greater and the act is less accepted. Anna :) wrote: Blunt, but true. That's what sports will do to ya. :) Anna :) wrote: Mind you, there's a difference between admitting an attraction for someone and wanting to sleep with them. Yup yup. Anna :) wrote: I love the quote. Well, it's from a popular soap opera here in the US - Days of Our Lives. Just don't ask how I know that. :suss: :-D Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
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Anna :) wrote: Hmmm...I've got black hair, so with blue eyes - could make an interesting combination with a gothic outfit, don't you think? Eak! That would look seiously freaky! Anna :) wrote: what's Jason Behr look like? He's another twenty-something actor that usually plays teenagers. I guess that's a reason why I tihnk he's good looking... http://www.jasonbehr.com/flash_index.html[^] Before someone asks, I just typed jasonbehr.com into the address bar to see if it was there... :suss: Anna :) wrote: God certainly has a sense of humour when it comes to my life... You should have started an innocent conversation with her talking about something only a boyfriend would have known, and see if she picks up on it. You could have had soooooo much fun with that one!
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I'm not schizophrenic, are we.
David Wulff wrote: Eak! That would look seiously freaky! Hehe I can do freaky - I discovered recently that the gothic look rather suits me...:omg: David Wulff wrote: He's another twenty-something actor that usually plays teenagers. I guess that's a reason why I tihnk he's good looking... I see what you mean. He's not my type though - attraction's an odd thing, isn't it? David Wulff wrote: You should have started an innocent conversation with her talking about something only a boyfriend would have known, and see if she picks up on it. You could have had soooooo much fun with that one! If we'd broken up on (shall we say) less than amicable terms, that would have been interesting... However, Louise and I parted as close friends (we just lost touch a few years back) and she still means too much to me to drop a bombshell like that on her with no warning! Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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Anna :) wrote: Of course. But some people (usually guys) can't even admit to the former, so if they have felt an attraction, they certainly won't admit it! I agree. In the male world, the pressure is much greater and the act is less accepted. Anna :) wrote: Blunt, but true. That's what sports will do to ya. :) Anna :) wrote: Mind you, there's a difference between admitting an attraction for someone and wanting to sleep with them. Yup yup. Anna :) wrote: I love the quote. Well, it's from a popular soap opera here in the US - Days of Our Lives. Just don't ask how I know that. :suss: :-D Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
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Chris Losinger wrote: nope :omg: Have you considered going to the opticians and having your eyes tested? I think you must be short sighted... :laugh: Chris Losinger wrote: i think he's an overall decent actor and a fine Frodo, tho. Decent? Well yeah, once I have gotten over the initial visual admiration I can agree to that - with one exception as given above when he played Stu in The War, which for such a relatively young actor was IMHO a heck of a good performance.
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I'm not schizophrenic, are we.
David Wulff wrote: Have you considered going to the opticians and having your eyes tested? I think you must be short sighted... as someone who suffers from that same eternal youthful face thing, i have a hard time feeling anything but pity for others who share the condition. :( -c
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phykell wrote: Please excuse my ignorance, but can you explain what you mean by that? - Just interested, that's all... Well, the short answer is a borderline injustice to the belief, but to shed some light on it you first have to realize the main goal of any species is to procreate - whether it be a virus, a dog, or an amoeba. Humans procreate through sex, so regardless of us getting our rocks off with guys or girls or monkeys or crusty underwear, we still have an acute interest in sex. We revolve around this fundamental need. If you didn't, you wouldn't just happen to check out some fine-ass chick (or stud) passing by or do whatever silly things to you to appease the almighty hormones. I dare you to not have sex (including masturbation) for a long time. One of two things will happen. 1: You'll crack and do it anyway. 2: You'll find another method of sexual satisfaction, whether it be pr0n or something like animals. This also applies if you can't get women. Another extreme in this situation too, is some guys will even turn to other guys to get it (note, I didn't say this is the only reason, so don't read too much into it). There is a whole lot more theory I have about all of this and my short explanation needs a lot more substance, but alas, I am at work and I can't spend too much time writing it at the moment. phykell wrote: Wow! - desperation, subconsciously or not... One thing is for sure; there are a zillion variables in almost any given situation. And, don't be so quick to ridicule a subconscious thought. It revolves around people's insecurities. Well all have them, just different ones. Have you ever seen a chick you didn't approach for whatever reason? I have, even though I have no problem with getting women. You may or may not choose "good looking" friends. As I stated, this is one possible reason. To reiterate, there are many variables involved. My point was there are other reasons a guy could think another guy is attractive without being attracted to him. If you like the study of the mind and psychology, you'll most likely end up studying Freud, and FWIW I think it's an interesting learn. Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
Jeremy Falcon wrote: phykell wrote: Please excuse my ignorance, but can you explain what you mean by that? - Just interested, that's all... Well, the short answer is a borderline injustice to the belief, but to shed some light on it you first have to realize the main goal of any species is to procreate - whether it be a virus, a dog, or an amoeba. Humans procreate through sex, so regardless of us getting our rocks off with guys or girls or monkeys or crusty underwear, we still have an acute interest in sex. We revolve around this fundamental need. If you didn't, you wouldn't just happen to check out some fine-ass chick (or stud) passing by or do whatever silly things to you to appease the almighty hormones. I dare you to not have sex (including masturbation) for a long time. One of two things will happen. 1: You'll crack and do it anyway. 2: You'll find another method of sexual satisfaction, whether it be pr0n or something like animals. This also applies if you can't get women. Another extreme in this situation too, is some guys will even turn to other guys to get it (note, I didn't say this is the only reason, so don't read too much into it). There is a whole lot more theory I have about all of this and my short explanation needs a lot more substance, but alas, I am at work and I can't spend too much time writing it at the moment. Unfortunately I believe you missed my point. I was wondering what you meant when you referred specifically to Trollslayer. Jeremy Falcon wrote: One thing is for sure; there are a zillion variables in almost any given situation. And, don't be so quick to ridicule a subconscious thought. It revolves around people's insecurities. Well all have them, just different ones. Have you ever seen a chick you didn't approach for whatever reason? I have, even though I have no problem with getting women. You may or may not choose "good looking" friends. As I stated, this is one possible reason. To reiterate, there are many variables involved. My point was there are other reasons a guy could think another guy is attractive without being attracted to him. If you like the study of the mind and psychology, you'll most likely end up studying Freud, and FWIW I think it's an interesting learn. It's been a long time since I ever "approached" a "chick" (not my words). I certainly wouldn't even consider choosing my friends specifically to increase my chances of meeting women. Then again, I simply don't think along the lines
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...is damned attractive? I mean, damn, Anna - hold that bus for me I'm coming with you! The guy must be one of the cutest human beings I have ever seen - male or female - and I know he is only 21, but when he is forty he will still look nineteen, and those eyes... well did I mention THOSE EYES? There is something hypnotically enthralling about those eyes! Paul Mckenner eat your heart out! Sure he smokes, drinks coffee and bites his nails, but hey no-one is perfect. :suss: :-O For those living in a cave, this is he. If you really didn't know who he was at least form his performances in the three LOTR films then but for the love of god you do not deserve to have eyes. Best performance to date - whatever that date happens to be - is always going to be The War (1994) where he played alongside Harrison Ford in the most emotional coming-of-age film I have ever seen. Nay, the most emotionally real film I have ever seen - and I laughed when the little baby was shot in that Planet of the Apes programme. It may seem silly if you watch it now, but at the time it made more connections with me than a home elctronics kit. Pure unadulterated acting brilliance from Wood, and one that has made me a bigger fan than my sister. So they you go; it seems I may have a bit of closet homosexual in me yet. No pun intended of course. *cough* ;) I can't be alone, so who else thinks Elijah Wood is damned attractive then? Fluffly tigeress's not alowed, I want admissions from butch lions...
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I'm not schizophrenic, are we.
He certainly does have one of those very pleasing faces to look at. In a completely hetrosexual way. :)
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: phykell wrote: Please excuse my ignorance, but can you explain what you mean by that? - Just interested, that's all... Well, the short answer is a borderline injustice to the belief, but to shed some light on it you first have to realize the main goal of any species is to procreate - whether it be a virus, a dog, or an amoeba. Humans procreate through sex, so regardless of us getting our rocks off with guys or girls or monkeys or crusty underwear, we still have an acute interest in sex. We revolve around this fundamental need. If you didn't, you wouldn't just happen to check out some fine-ass chick (or stud) passing by or do whatever silly things to you to appease the almighty hormones. I dare you to not have sex (including masturbation) for a long time. One of two things will happen. 1: You'll crack and do it anyway. 2: You'll find another method of sexual satisfaction, whether it be pr0n or something like animals. This also applies if you can't get women. Another extreme in this situation too, is some guys will even turn to other guys to get it (note, I didn't say this is the only reason, so don't read too much into it). There is a whole lot more theory I have about all of this and my short explanation needs a lot more substance, but alas, I am at work and I can't spend too much time writing it at the moment. Unfortunately I believe you missed my point. I was wondering what you meant when you referred specifically to Trollslayer. Jeremy Falcon wrote: One thing is for sure; there are a zillion variables in almost any given situation. And, don't be so quick to ridicule a subconscious thought. It revolves around people's insecurities. Well all have them, just different ones. Have you ever seen a chick you didn't approach for whatever reason? I have, even though I have no problem with getting women. You may or may not choose "good looking" friends. As I stated, this is one possible reason. To reiterate, there are many variables involved. My point was there are other reasons a guy could think another guy is attractive without being attracted to him. If you like the study of the mind and psychology, you'll most likely end up studying Freud, and FWIW I think it's an interesting learn. It's been a long time since I ever "approached" a "chick" (not my words). I certainly wouldn't even consider choosing my friends specifically to increase my chances of meeting women. Then again, I simply don't think along the lines
phykell wrote: Unfortunately I believe you missed my point. Well, not to focus solely on her, other female CPians do this as well (like Lauren), but the fruit of many of their conversations revolve mainly around male CPians who have a pic. I'm sure I'm not the only one that picked up on this pattern because we are all programmers here. This, of course, goes the other way around too. I see male CPians using any opportunity to reply/talk to a female CPian with a picture. There's nothing bad or wrong about this, that's just life. phykell wrote: I certainly wouldn't even consider choosing my friends specifically to increase my chances of meeting women. This is not what I am implying directly. For one, some people do choose their friends like that. I don't. But, I'm referring to the subconscious aspect in which you do not think about what's happening, you just feel a connection. And, if you weren't interested in sex, you wouldn't be married. Some people manifest their needs differently. You may find your needs fulfilled through a monogamous relationship and therefore get what you like at home in a secure environment amiss of first impressions and snap judgements. phykell wrote: I don't dress to attract them and I don't drive a specific car to attract them. In fact, the sort of women that might be impressed by cars/money, whatever, are exactly the sort of women I wouldn't want to meet. Which is exactly why you didn't do these things. But, you have gone through some ritual to get your woman - it was just probably different. Whether it's intelligence or a nice butt, people have their criteria for the perfect mate. phykell wrote: I will freely admit that I am not in the position of having to look for a female partner as I'm already happily married. Perhaps my opinion might be different if I was single, but I certainly hope not. People do look for it if it's not already present. If you didn't, you wouldn't be married in the first place. If you got divorced, in enough time, you'd be looking for it again. Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
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David Wulff wrote: Eak! That would look seiously freaky! Hehe I can do freaky - I discovered recently that the gothic look rather suits me...:omg: David Wulff wrote: He's another twenty-something actor that usually plays teenagers. I guess that's a reason why I tihnk he's good looking... I see what you mean. He's not my type though - attraction's an odd thing, isn't it? David Wulff wrote: You should have started an innocent conversation with her talking about something only a boyfriend would have known, and see if she picks up on it. You could have had soooooo much fun with that one! If we'd broken up on (shall we say) less than amicable terms, that would have been interesting... However, Louise and I parted as close friends (we just lost touch a few years back) and she still means too much to me to drop a bombshell like that on her with no warning! Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
- Marcia GraeschAnna - next month the local goth night starts again here and there is NO way I'm missing that :cool: :cool: :rose: Elaine (black fluffy tigress with black stripes :cool: ) Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
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phykell wrote: Unfortunately I believe you missed my point. Well, not to focus solely on her, other female CPians do this as well (like Lauren), but the fruit of many of their conversations revolve mainly around male CPians who have a pic. I'm sure I'm not the only one that picked up on this pattern because we are all programmers here. This, of course, goes the other way around too. I see male CPians using any opportunity to reply/talk to a female CPian with a picture. There's nothing bad or wrong about this, that's just life. phykell wrote: I certainly wouldn't even consider choosing my friends specifically to increase my chances of meeting women. This is not what I am implying directly. For one, some people do choose their friends like that. I don't. But, I'm referring to the subconscious aspect in which you do not think about what's happening, you just feel a connection. And, if you weren't interested in sex, you wouldn't be married. Some people manifest their needs differently. You may find your needs fulfilled through a monogamous relationship and therefore get what you like at home in a secure environment amiss of first impressions and snap judgements. phykell wrote: I don't dress to attract them and I don't drive a specific car to attract them. In fact, the sort of women that might be impressed by cars/money, whatever, are exactly the sort of women I wouldn't want to meet. Which is exactly why you didn't do these things. But, you have gone through some ritual to get your woman - it was just probably different. Whether it's intelligence or a nice butt, people have their criteria for the perfect mate. phykell wrote: I will freely admit that I am not in the position of having to look for a female partner as I'm already happily married. Perhaps my opinion might be different if I was single, but I certainly hope not. People do look for it if it's not already present. If you didn't, you wouldn't be married in the first place. If you got divorced, in enough time, you'd be looking for it again. Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
Jeremy, to be honest I can't remember offhand which male CPians have a picture of themselves on their profiles and which don't. Sorry, but I am just responding to people not pictures. I respond to how someone's personality comes over, e.g. some people have an open sense of humour, some a very subversive one etc.. I'm not trying to turn this on you, but how would you describe how you react to other CPians ? Elaine (curious fluffy tigress) Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
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Jeremy, to be honest I can't remember offhand which male CPians have a picture of themselves on their profiles and which don't. Sorry, but I am just responding to people not pictures. I respond to how someone's personality comes over, e.g. some people have an open sense of humour, some a very subversive one etc.. I'm not trying to turn this on you, but how would you describe how you react to other CPians ? Elaine (curious fluffy tigress) Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
Trollslayer wrote: Sorry, but I am just responding to people not pictures. The bad thing about using a specific... ya gonna get defensive. The bad thing about not using one... someone might ask for a specific. Herm. Do you talk to people without pics - yes. But, I've seen your attitude change (akin to flirtsy) towards individuals with pictures on their profile. The one fresh in my mind is Jörgen Sigvardsson, but I don't really care to look up others because this is not important. Like I said, it's not wrong or bad. I flirt with chicks, and I admit that freely. No big friggin' deal. Trollslayer wrote: I'm not trying to turn this on you, but how would you describe how you react to other CPians ? I usually say what people think but don't actually say. Most people try to be a peacemaker and don't verbally expose their thoughts. Is this a fault, maybe, because nobody really ever wants to hear something unless it pleases them. Does this make me an asshole? I'd like to think no, but it probably does. :) Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
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Trollslayer wrote: Sorry, but I am just responding to people not pictures. The bad thing about using a specific... ya gonna get defensive. The bad thing about not using one... someone might ask for a specific. Herm. Do you talk to people without pics - yes. But, I've seen your attitude change (akin to flirtsy) towards individuals with pictures on their profile. The one fresh in my mind is Jörgen Sigvardsson, but I don't really care to look up others because this is not important. Like I said, it's not wrong or bad. I flirt with chicks, and I admit that freely. No big friggin' deal. Trollslayer wrote: I'm not trying to turn this on you, but how would you describe how you react to other CPians ? I usually say what people think but don't actually say. Most people try to be a peacemaker and don't verbally expose their thoughts. Is this a fault, maybe, because nobody really ever wants to hear something unless it pleases them. Does this make me an asshole? I'd like to think no, but it probably does. :) Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
Defensive ? One of the problems with a message board is that you can't hear someones tone of voice or watch their eyes so its easy to misinterpret what they say (this is probably a factor in flame wars on the net). And yes, I'm going to say it again, its nothing to do with pictures. The reason ? Its not. Simple. Believe me, if it was about pictures I would say so, yet despite this you have told me twice what drives my decisions. I find this interesting :suss: As to flirting, if we didn't do it the next generation wouldn't exist ! The interesting part is that its you thats has been looking at pictures. I actually look at profiles for what else is there since a static picture tells you very little about someone. Ravi Bs profile is one of the best and his site the most fun. Elaine (fluffy tigress emoticon) Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
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(start of David being shallow) Well if this[^] is the same she then I'll have to agree... (end of David being shallow)
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I'm not schizophrenic, are we.
David Wulff wrote: Well if this[^] is the same she Abslutely. I can't see any movie with her without getting a serious heartache. To make matters worse, her acting always reminds me of a girl I... dumped accidentally, so to say.
One day I might find it quite amusing how touching tongues make life so confusing Anne Clark again [sighist]
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Defensive ? One of the problems with a message board is that you can't hear someones tone of voice or watch their eyes so its easy to misinterpret what they say (this is probably a factor in flame wars on the net). And yes, I'm going to say it again, its nothing to do with pictures. The reason ? Its not. Simple. Believe me, if it was about pictures I would say so, yet despite this you have told me twice what drives my decisions. I find this interesting :suss: As to flirting, if we didn't do it the next generation wouldn't exist ! The interesting part is that its you thats has been looking at pictures. I actually look at profiles for what else is there since a static picture tells you very little about someone. Ravi Bs profile is one of the best and his site the most fun. Elaine (fluffy tigress emoticon) Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
Trollslayer wrote: And yes, I'm going to say it again, its nothing to do with pictures. I said you do speak to all sorts, but you only act flirty with the CPians with pictures on their profiles that I assume you find attractive. A picture alone doesn't do it. Don't take my word for it, look at your own backlog. Trollslayer wrote: Believe me, if it was about pictures I would say so, yet despite this you have told me twice what drives my decisions. I find this interesting As to flirting, if we didn't do it the next generation wouldn't exist ! You answered it yourself. And, as I said, I flirt too and think it's no big deal that's it done. But, I do defend my points. I used you as a point of reference because you were the CPian that was fresh in my mind in that regards. If anything, you should take that as a compliment. Trollslayer wrote: The interesting part is that its you thats has been looking at pictures. I actually look at profiles for what else is there since a static picture tells you very little about someone. Ravi Bs profile is one of the best and his site the most fun. Um, are you telling me you look at profiles wihtout looking at the pictures? Does Chris M have a special filter for you to disallow you from seeing them? Yeah, I look at profiles for the people that interest me. So what? You're blowing this out of proportion because a simple illustration was in reference to you. Which means you are getting defensive, despite what you're claming at the moment. And, now I'm defensive just to preserve my original point, which has become skewed. Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
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Anna - next month the local goth night starts again here and there is NO way I'm missing that :cool: :cool: :rose: Elaine (black fluffy tigress with black stripes :cool: ) Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
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(start of David being shallow) Well if this[^] is the same she then I'll have to agree... (end of David being shallow)
David Wulff http://www.davidwulff.co.uk
I'm not schizophrenic, are we.
David Wulff wrote: (end of David being shallow) Hey, nothing wrong with being shallow now and then :-D Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
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Trollslayer wrote: Sorry, but I am just responding to people not pictures. The bad thing about using a specific... ya gonna get defensive. The bad thing about not using one... someone might ask for a specific. Herm. Do you talk to people without pics - yes. But, I've seen your attitude change (akin to flirtsy) towards individuals with pictures on their profile. The one fresh in my mind is Jörgen Sigvardsson, but I don't really care to look up others because this is not important. Like I said, it's not wrong or bad. I flirt with chicks, and I admit that freely. No big friggin' deal. Trollslayer wrote: I'm not trying to turn this on you, but how would you describe how you react to other CPians ? I usually say what people think but don't actually say. Most people try to be a peacemaker and don't verbally expose their thoughts. Is this a fault, maybe, because nobody really ever wants to hear something unless it pleases them. Does this make me an asshole? I'd like to think no, but it probably does. :) Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
Your theory about pictures is a bit extreme - I myself don't look at a person's profile (let alone the picture) unless (a) it is singled out by another member, (b) I need to check the person's nationality, age, skills or if possible the sex before making a relavent reply, or (c) they happen to appear above me in the Most Active list. I'll flirt with anyone if they choose to flirt back; a personality trait which often gets me into strange situations but I wouldn't want to change for all the world. Who gives a fuck if a person is male or female? Just like a magnet, your personalities either attract or they repel. If you need to examine physical differences to converse then you have real issues that need to be solved. Jeremy Falcon wrote: I usually say what people think but don't actually say I often find the problem with that perception is that there is never any proof for it... :rolleyes:
David Wulff http://www.davidwulff.co.uk
I'm not schizophrenic, are we.
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Your theory about pictures is a bit extreme - I myself don't look at a person's profile (let alone the picture) unless (a) it is singled out by another member, (b) I need to check the person's nationality, age, skills or if possible the sex before making a relavent reply, or (c) they happen to appear above me in the Most Active list. I'll flirt with anyone if they choose to flirt back; a personality trait which often gets me into strange situations but I wouldn't want to change for all the world. Who gives a fuck if a person is male or female? Just like a magnet, your personalities either attract or they repel. If you need to examine physical differences to converse then you have real issues that need to be solved. Jeremy Falcon wrote: I usually say what people think but don't actually say I often find the problem with that perception is that there is never any proof for it... :rolleyes:
David Wulff http://www.davidwulff.co.uk
I'm not schizophrenic, are we.
David Wulff wrote: Your theory about pictures is a bit extreme Well yes, but nothing is rarely cut and dry. I'm not saying this is the way things are; I'm saying these are possible reasons for particular circumstances. There are so many variables in life that I only try to think upon some in some situations. David Wulff wrote: they happen to appear above me in the Most Active list. As I understand it, that's practically grounds for war. :) David Wulff wrote: I often find the problem with that perception is that there is never any proof for it... So true, so true. And, most of what I say can't be considered factual until I write a book and on it and have a lot of people read/believe it. Hey, it works for religion. :-D Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
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phykell wrote: Unfortunately I believe you missed my point. Well, not to focus solely on her, other female CPians do this as well (like Lauren), but the fruit of many of their conversations revolve mainly around male CPians who have a pic. I'm sure I'm not the only one that picked up on this pattern because we are all programmers here. This, of course, goes the other way around too. I see male CPians using any opportunity to reply/talk to a female CPian with a picture. There's nothing bad or wrong about this, that's just life. phykell wrote: I certainly wouldn't even consider choosing my friends specifically to increase my chances of meeting women. This is not what I am implying directly. For one, some people do choose their friends like that. I don't. But, I'm referring to the subconscious aspect in which you do not think about what's happening, you just feel a connection. And, if you weren't interested in sex, you wouldn't be married. Some people manifest their needs differently. You may find your needs fulfilled through a monogamous relationship and therefore get what you like at home in a secure environment amiss of first impressions and snap judgements. phykell wrote: I don't dress to attract them and I don't drive a specific car to attract them. In fact, the sort of women that might be impressed by cars/money, whatever, are exactly the sort of women I wouldn't want to meet. Which is exactly why you didn't do these things. But, you have gone through some ritual to get your woman - it was just probably different. Whether it's intelligence or a nice butt, people have their criteria for the perfect mate. phykell wrote: I will freely admit that I am not in the position of having to look for a female partner as I'm already happily married. Perhaps my opinion might be different if I was single, but I certainly hope not. People do look for it if it's not already present. If you didn't, you wouldn't be married in the first place. If you got divorced, in enough time, you'd be looking for it again. Jeremy Falcon Imputek "In fact it is quite simple, men and women both only want one thing - what they can't have!" - phykell
Jeremy Falcon wrote: Well, not to focus solely on her But that's exactly what you did - you mentioned Trollslayer by name. Jeremy Falcon wrote: I see male CPians using any opportunity to reply/talk to a female CPian with a picture. Well, I'm a relative newcomer but I've not noticed that sort of behaviour. Perhaps you are just much more observant than me. Jeremy Falcon wrote: Which is exactly why you didn't do these things. But, you have gone through some ritual to get your woman - it was just probably different. Whether it's intelligence or a nice butt, people have their criteria for the perfect mate. No, you're trivialising it or trying to categorise and rationalise. It's much more complicated. I have ethical and moral values also which come into play as you can imagine. I'm simply *not* just driven by sex and I don't necessarily have specific rituals. The fact is that I believe in love at first sight and I firmly believe that's what happened to me - no mere, short-lived chemical reaction... :) For example, I might have specific preferences but depending on the girl, those can all go and fly out of the window. That's how it *really* is (thankfully). "The folly of man is that he dreams of what he can never achieve rather than dream of what he can."
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Defensive ? One of the problems with a message board is that you can't hear someones tone of voice or watch their eyes so its easy to misinterpret what they say (this is probably a factor in flame wars on the net). And yes, I'm going to say it again, its nothing to do with pictures. The reason ? Its not. Simple. Believe me, if it was about pictures I would say so, yet despite this you have told me twice what drives my decisions. I find this interesting :suss: As to flirting, if we didn't do it the next generation wouldn't exist ! The interesting part is that its you thats has been looking at pictures. I actually look at profiles for what else is there since a static picture tells you very little about someone. Ravi Bs profile is one of the best and his site the most fun. Elaine (fluffy tigress emoticon) Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
Trollslayer wrote: The interesting part is that its you thats has been looking at pictures. I actually look at profiles for what else is there since a static picture tells you very little about someone. Agreed, the only picture I've looked at is Trollslayer's teddy bear and obviously, I don't consider that flirting :) In fact, everyone should look at my picture because it's easily the most attractive you'll see here :) Perhaps I should add my homepage but then you lot might discover what truly awful code I've written! "The folly of man is that he dreams of what he can never achieve rather than dream of what he can."