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    BillWoodruff
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    Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill

    "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic

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      Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill

      "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic

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      PIEBALDconsult
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      I generally ignore such things.

      BillWoodruff wrote:

      expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people

      The few people who still do that with my addresses get a VERY ANGRY RESPONSE!!!!! from me. Yet it continues. :sigh:

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        Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill

        "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic

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        I get a ton of linkedin requests. I don't use facebook or twitter. I ignore almost all facebook requests. I also ignore MSN requests from people I do not recognise.

        Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.

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        • B BillWoodruff

          Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill

          "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic

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          _Damian S_
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          I have two email addresses... One "real" one that I guard like the proverbial, and one web-based one that I use to sign up to websites etc (including FB). I ignore invites to FB that go to my real email address, as anyone who knows me should know that my other email is the one used for FB. I also get annoyed at people who don't know how to use BCC.

          I don't have ADHD, I have ADOS... Attention Deficit oooh SHINY!! Booger Mobile (n) - A bright green 1964 Ford Falcon - our entry into the Camp Quality esCarpade!! Do something wonderful - make a donation to Camp Quality today!!

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            I generally ignore such things.

            BillWoodruff wrote:

            expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people

            The few people who still do that with my addresses get a VERY ANGRY RESPONSE!!!!! from me. Yet it continues. :sigh:

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            PIEBALDconsult wrote:

            BillWoodruff wrote: expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people The few people who still do that with my addresses get a VERY ANGRY RESPONSE!!!!! from me. Yet it continues. Sigh

            The sort of people who would do that, have all stopped emailling me, because I'd respond to their bogus virus warning, or email that Bill Gates was giving money to people for forwarding mails, with a link to snopes and a polite request that people do some research and/or use some common sense before forwarding such crap.

            Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.

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            • B BillWoodruff

              Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill

              "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic

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              Namaskar Bill, I only ever search FB to see if people I know are already on it before I add them. I would never send an email invitation to somebody who's not using the service (any service) in order to entice them to join. I dislike it when other people do it, and simply delete the invitations, or if I'm feeling particularly uncharitable, add it to my spam list. I don't think you have to worry too much if all they have done is invite you to FB. (Can't read your link though, FB is blocked at work) I have another problem - I get friend requests from people I don't know. One guy was totally new, neither the name nor the picture rang a bell. Our conversation went like this: Me: Sorry, do I know you? Him: Yes. Me: I really don't remember. How do we know each other? Him: Through Facebook. Smart aleck. It took me all of 2 seconds to decline the Friend request.

              Cheers, Vikram. (Proud to have finally cracked a CCC!)

              Recent activities: TV series: Friends, season 10 Books: Fooled by Randomness, by Nassim Nicholas Taleb.


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              • B BillWoodruff

                Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill

                "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic

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                I have 3 accounts, one for family only, one for general ppl I don't want to be bothered with(chain mailers fit in this category) too often, and public email which I give to sites like fb, they can send all the recently-dead-billionaire-wants-to-give-money or cheap-(ahem)Viagra emails all they want to that address. As to facebook in particular, if i get a friend request from someone i don't know, i send em a private message on their inbox asking who the heck they are, and give em a week to reply back. If they don't reply back, reject the friend request (and block em in the privacy list depending on my mood) or if they do reply...well go from there.

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                  I get a ton of linkedin requests. I don't use facebook or twitter. I ignore almost all facebook requests. I also ignore MSN requests from people I do not recognise.

                  Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.

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                  Hi Christian, I am interpreting your reply to mean you are using LinkedIn. May I ask you how you find that useful ? best, Bill

                  "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraical and analytical. This is an error. The engine can arrange and combine numerical quantities as if they were letters or any other general symbols; and it fact it might bring out its results in algebraical notation, were provisions made accordingly." Ada, Countess Lovelace, 1844

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                  • B BillWoodruff

                    Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill

                    "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic

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                    Do what I do, register with the absolute minimum information possible, use a hotmail account, enter name and THATS it no more data at all. If it is required just put in garbage. Then you can follow up on the contact, I do this with the kids who post photo's and all sorts of personal rubbish on FB, much to my horror. I had to admonish them NOT to identify me in any photos. FB regularly sends requests for more info, goes into the junk folder. I recently got a happy birhtday from an FB contact and ripped into the site to check my details but it has 1/1/1900 which is close to the day of my actual so I just thanked him :)

                    Never underestimate the power of human stupidity RAH

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                      Hi Christian, I am interpreting your reply to mean you are using LinkedIn. May I ask you how you find that useful ? best, Bill

                      "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraical and analytical. This is an error. The engine can arrange and combine numerical quantities as if they were letters or any other general symbols; and it fact it might bring out its results in algebraical notation, were provisions made accordingly." Ada, Countess Lovelace, 1844

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                      BillWoodruff wrote:

                      May I ask you how you find that useful ?

                      Not even remotely. I succumbed to pressure to create an account, and the only way I use it, is to accept invitations from people who I like, and who I wouldn't want to think that I was rejecting them, rather than rejecting linkedin.

                      Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.

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                        BillWoodruff wrote:

                        May I ask you how you find that useful ?

                        Not even remotely. I succumbed to pressure to create an account, and the only way I use it, is to accept invitations from people who I like, and who I wouldn't want to think that I was rejecting them, rather than rejecting linkedin.

                        Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.

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                        Christian Graus wrote:

                        Not even remotely. I succumbed to pressure to create an account

                        Sounds familiar... haven't logged into it since!

                        I don't have ADHD, I have ADOS... Attention Deficit oooh SHINY!! Booger Mobile (n) - A bright green 1964 Ford Falcon - our entry into the Camp Quality esCarpade!! Do something wonderful - make a donation to Camp Quality today!!

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                        • M Mycroft Holmes

                          Do what I do, register with the absolute minimum information possible, use a hotmail account, enter name and THATS it no more data at all. If it is required just put in garbage. Then you can follow up on the contact, I do this with the kids who post photo's and all sorts of personal rubbish on FB, much to my horror. I had to admonish them NOT to identify me in any photos. FB regularly sends requests for more info, goes into the junk folder. I recently got a happy birhtday from an FB contact and ripped into the site to check my details but it has 1/1/1900 which is close to the day of my actual so I just thanked him :)

                          Never underestimate the power of human stupidity RAH

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                          _Damian S_
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                          Mycroft Holmes wrote:

                          close to the day of my actual

                          Wow, you are 109? ;P :laugh:

                          I don't have ADHD, I have ADOS... Attention Deficit oooh SHINY!! Booger Mobile (n) - A bright green 1964 Ford Falcon - our entry into the Camp Quality esCarpade!! Do something wonderful - make a donation to Camp Quality today!!

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                          • B BillWoodruff

                            Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill

                            "Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic

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                            I never use, and have never used, my real name on-line (except for banking), so I ignore all invitations from messengers, social sites, and web-sites unless the person sending the invitation clearly demonstrates that they know me by my on-line name. I've never seen the web as being a place where you can be free and open about yourself, because it's always been pretty obvious that a large sector of the Internet populace will be people who want to exploit other people -- why would anyone expect it to be different from the real world?

                            I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!

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                              Do what I do, register with the absolute minimum information possible, use a hotmail account, enter name and THATS it no more data at all. If it is required just put in garbage. Then you can follow up on the contact, I do this with the kids who post photo's and all sorts of personal rubbish on FB, much to my horror. I had to admonish them NOT to identify me in any photos. FB regularly sends requests for more info, goes into the junk folder. I recently got a happy birhtday from an FB contact and ripped into the site to check my details but it has 1/1/1900 which is close to the day of my actual so I just thanked him :)

                              Never underestimate the power of human stupidity RAH

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                              Mycroft Holmes wrote:

                              it has 1/1/1900 which is close to the day of my actual

                              WHAT!? you're one hundred and nine years old! Congratulations!

                              ___________________________________________ .\\axxx (That's an 'M')

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                                I never use, and have never used, my real name on-line (except for banking), so I ignore all invitations from messengers, social sites, and web-sites unless the person sending the invitation clearly demonstrates that they know me by my on-line name. I've never seen the web as being a place where you can be free and open about yourself, because it's always been pretty obvious that a large sector of the Internet populace will be people who want to exploit other people -- why would anyone expect it to be different from the real world?

                                I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!

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                                Lost User
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                                Mark Wallace wrote:

                                I never use, and have never used, my real name on-line

                                Wait a minute... Mark Wallace isn't your real name? So, out of all the millions of names you could have chosen, why Mark Wallace?? It could have been "Fonzie" or something cool!

                                ___________________________________________ .\\axxx (That's an 'M')

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                                  Mark Wallace wrote:

                                  I never use, and have never used, my real name on-line

                                  Wait a minute... Mark Wallace isn't your real name? So, out of all the millions of names you could have chosen, why Mark Wallace?? It could have been "Fonzie" or something cool!

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                                  _Maxxx_ wrote:

                                  It could have been "Fonzie" or something cool!

                                  Yes, but if he picks a bland name people are likely to assume it's his real name!! That's assuming he's a he and not a she!

                                  I don't have ADHD, I have ADOS... Attention Deficit oooh SHINY!! Booger Mobile (n) - A bright green 1964 Ford Falcon - our entry into the Camp Quality esCarpade!! Do something wonderful - make a donation to Camp Quality today!!

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                                    Mark Wallace wrote:

                                    I never use, and have never used, my real name on-line

                                    Wait a minute... Mark Wallace isn't your real name? So, out of all the millions of names you could have chosen, why Mark Wallace?? It could have been "Fonzie" or something cool!

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                                    _Maxxx_ wrote:

                                    It could have been "Fonzie" or something cool!

                                    I considered Fonzie for about the same length of time I considered LookAtMeImAPrat ;) I actually picked MW by creating a list of potential names, then searching for instances of them. MW got the most unrelated hits, therefore is the most anonymous. It's just a sod if I want to sign up for anything; all variants of it as a username are already taken.

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                                      _Maxxx_ wrote:

                                      It could have been "Fonzie" or something cool!

                                      Yes, but if he picks a bland name people are likely to assume it's his real name!! That's assuming he's a he and not a she!

                                      I don't have ADHD, I have ADOS... Attention Deficit oooh SHINY!! Booger Mobile (n) - A bright green 1964 Ford Falcon - our entry into the Camp Quality esCarpade!! Do something wonderful - make a donation to Camp Quality today!!

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                                      _Damian S_ wrote:

                                      That's assuming he's a he and not a she!

                                      [bats eyelids] Hi, Sweetie... [Hits send quickly, before his wife sees the screen]

                                      I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!

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                                        Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill

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                                        If you want to be on a social network, the best thing to do is to create an extra mail account in order to avoid getting spam or similar. I never use them, but I started using Facebook a while ago. :sigh: In order to do that I created another GMail account as my normal account but with "facebook." in front of it. It is useful as I've linked it into my outlook and now I can receive notifications directly without having to log in, but anyway, if some day I get tired of it, I'll remove the account and never use it again. My two cents. PS1: Regarding the raiding of the contacts you can select to do it or not. PS2: When somebody that you don't know try to contact you can simply ignore that. PS3: There is a lot of people out there that have no life and that try to get one using the social networks in order to meet or regain contact with other people. Possibly that is the case.

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                                          Mycroft Holmes wrote:

                                          close to the day of my actual

                                          Wow, you are 109? ;P :laugh:

                                          I don't have ADHD, I have ADOS... Attention Deficit oooh SHINY!! Booger Mobile (n) - A bright green 1964 Ford Falcon - our entry into the Camp Quality esCarpade!! Do something wonderful - make a donation to Camp Quality today!!

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                                          Officially a member of the crusty old farts, even without the spurious date. Walter Matheau is my role model.

                                          Never underestimate the power of human stupidity RAH

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