what do you do when you receive a FaceBook invitation from someone you don't know ? [modified]
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Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill
"Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic
If you want to be on a social network, the best thing to do is to create an extra mail account in order to avoid getting spam or similar. I never use them, but I started using Facebook a while ago. :sigh: In order to do that I created another GMail account as my normal account but with "facebook." in front of it. It is useful as I've linked it into my outlook and now I can receive notifications directly without having to log in, but anyway, if some day I get tired of it, I'll remove the account and never use it again. My two cents. PS1: Regarding the raiding of the contacts you can select to do it or not. PS2: When somebody that you don't know try to contact you can simply ignore that. PS3: There is a lot of people out there that have no life and that try to get one using the social networks in order to meet or regain contact with other people. Possibly that is the case.
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Mycroft Holmes wrote:
close to the day of my actual
Wow, you are 109? ;P :laugh:
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Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill
"Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic
BillWoodruff wrote:
Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though.
Carlos the Jackal isn't up to his old tricks trying to destabilise the world by getting people to sign up to Social Networking sites and disclose their email addresses again, is he?
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Mycroft Holmes wrote:
it has 1/1/1900 which is close to the day of my actual
WHAT!? you're one hundred and nine years old! Congratulations!
___________________________________________ .\\axxx (That's an 'M')
The guy didn't look at the date he just got one of those reminders, you know "Oi dipstick, someones birthday" so he probably just pushed a button. My kids don't even do that as they know I'll growl at them.
Never underestimate the power of human stupidity RAH
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Hi, I am, by choice, not using any of the so-called social networking sites (MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter, LinkedIn), but I do, as I did today, receive invitations that require me to register in order to fully view the person who invited me's content or pictures, or whatever. If the invitation is from a friend who somehow is not already aware of my strong preferences to not have my "real" e-mail address disclosed without my explicit advance permission to any commercial company or people I don't know : I just write them a gentle letter and ask them to tell me what they find valuable to me about the service they think I might want to join, and ask them to e-mail the service and remove my name from the company's database. In fact if a friend wrote me a "compelling" reason I should join one of these services and shared his or her positive experiences with me, I'd re-consider my choices (once I had done "due diligence" and looked around for any evidence of abuse of privacy by the service provider). Interestingly, I find that it is my more "academic" friends (archaeoloy, history, ethnography, literature, and such) that seem to find my attitudes about privacy (like don't expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people you send some message to) who tend to feel they can do anything they please information wise. But, with one exception (who I no longer consider a friend), all my friends have responded reasonably to my explanation of my personal choices about privacy, and respected them as I respect their limits and choices. Today I received a FaceBook invite from someone who looks like (based on a thumbnail picture enclosed in the invite) someone I know, but not quite ... it's been a long time ... it would be "in character" for that person to be using another name, though. I am not about to "register" on FaceBook to find out if it really is the person I knew long ago. Reading comments like this on FaceBook about FaceBook "raiding" people's contact lists[^] certainly "turn me off." So I have replied to the person who invited me's gmail address, asking them, politely, how they know me. Just curious what you do in similar circumstances. best, Bill
"Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraic
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PIEBALDconsult wrote:
BillWoodruff wrote: expose my e-mail address using cc to the other fifty people The few people who still do that with my addresses get a VERY ANGRY RESPONSE!!!!! from me. Yet it continues. Sigh
The sort of people who would do that, have all stopped emailling me, because I'd respond to their bogus virus warning, or email that Bill Gates was giving money to people for forwarding mails, with a link to snopes and a polite request that people do some research and/or use some common sense before forwarding such crap.
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Fortunately that worked with most people, but one of my wife's college friends still sends crap.
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I automatically reject Facebook invites from people I know, yet you agonize over invites from strangers?
Hi Daniel, I am in awe of your "psychic" powers : someone asks a question out of curiousity, and you can "divine" their inner mental state, feel their "agony." And, since the way you do what you do is, de facto, the way things should be, then I would guess you might even be : "god-like." I'm trying to feel your "blessing" now, but it's not coming through; I must be doing something wrong :) best, Bill
"Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraical and analytical. This is an error. The engine can arrange and combine numerical quantities as if they were letters or any other general symbols; and it fact it might bring out its results in algebraical notation, were provisions made accordingly." Ada, Countess Lovelace, 1844
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Hi Daniel, I am in awe of your "psychic" powers : someone asks a question out of curiousity, and you can "divine" their inner mental state, feel their "agony." And, since the way you do what you do is, de facto, the way things should be, then I would guess you might even be : "god-like." I'm trying to feel your "blessing" now, but it's not coming through; I must be doing something wrong :) best, Bill
"Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraical and analytical. This is an error. The engine can arrange and combine numerical quantities as if they were letters or any other general symbols; and it fact it might bring out its results in algebraical notation, were provisions made accordingly." Ada, Countess Lovelace, 1844
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My point was that I wouldn't have spent the amount of time you must've spent writing that long-winded post just trying to decide whether you should accept a Facebook invite or not. :-D
Brother Daniel, Yes, it is obvious to me you experienced my post not in terms of what I said, but in terms of what you would be if you said the same thing. An addiction to unwarranted assumptions is something we all share, and only a continual process of self-examination can lead us from our absorption in "answers" to the freedom of "open-ended questions." Why are you so short-winded ? Is it time for you, brother, to develop your "wind-power" ? Why do you assume I was not already clear, in my own mind, as to what my own choices and values in this area are ? Do you assume that seeking to know what other people's choices and values are (people you respect), and a willingness to examine your own values and choices in the light of what other people do or think, is "confusion" ? Look : in a flower, not a mirror :) best, your older ~but never wiser~ brother, Bill
"Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraical and analytical. This is an error. The engine can arrange and combine numerical quantities as if they were letters or any other general symbols; and it fact it might bring out its results in algebraical notation, were provisions made accordingly." Ada, Countess Lovelace, 1844
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Brother Daniel, Yes, it is obvious to me you experienced my post not in terms of what I said, but in terms of what you would be if you said the same thing. An addiction to unwarranted assumptions is something we all share, and only a continual process of self-examination can lead us from our absorption in "answers" to the freedom of "open-ended questions." Why are you so short-winded ? Is it time for you, brother, to develop your "wind-power" ? Why do you assume I was not already clear, in my own mind, as to what my own choices and values in this area are ? Do you assume that seeking to know what other people's choices and values are (people you respect), and a willingness to examine your own values and choices in the light of what other people do or think, is "confusion" ? Look : in a flower, not a mirror :) best, your older ~but never wiser~ brother, Bill
"Many : not conversant with mathematical studies, imagine that because it [the Analytical Engine] is to give results in numerical notation, its processes must consequently be arithmetical, numerical, rather than algebraical and analytical. This is an error. The engine can arrange and combine numerical quantities as if they were letters or any other general symbols; and it fact it might bring out its results in algebraical notation, were provisions made accordingly." Ada, Countess Lovelace, 1844
BillWoodruff wrote:
Why are you so short-winded ?
Because most people appreciate conciseness. I'll give you an example. When I read your message, two words came to mind: Verbal. Diarrhea. You see? Straight and to the point, and it expresses everything I need to say.