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I met a person in 1998 when I first got on Yahoo messenger. We talked for several months via IM, when one evening she called me. It was strange at first, but interesting and we continued this pure friendship for several years. In 2002, I decided that it was time to travel to the US to meet this person I had never physically met. Cut to 2009, I had spent several years travelling back and forth across the pond. I'm now married to her, with a child, our own home and both in good jobs, living in the US. It's risky, and a very scary prospect to a lot of people. You hear more of the horror stories than you do the happy endings, but some of the relationships work out.
But does your other wife know about her or is she a secret wife for when you are in the states?
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But does your other wife know about her or is she a secret wife for when you are in the states?
------------------------------------ "When Belly Full, Chin Hit Chest" Confucius 502BC
Haha! What maniac would actually want two wives?!
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
Well here's another success story... Way back before Al Gore invented the internet, I used to call BBS's. One of the BBS's that I called on a regular basis was a fairly tight-knit group. One day they decided to have a party and invited me to come over (setup!). Well one of the woman that I would chat with was there and we sort of hit it off (the Sysops wife thought we would), started dating and then 2 years later, we were married.
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Henry Minute wrote:
After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get?
No, that is it, then nadir of you life, it is only up from there! You are welcome anytime Henry.
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Well here's another success story... Way back before Al Gore invented the internet, I used to call BBS's. One of the BBS's that I called on a regular basis was a fairly tight-knit group. One day they decided to have a party and invited me to come over (setup!). Well one of the woman that I would chat with was there and we sort of hit it off (the Sysops wife thought we would), started dating and then 2 years later, we were married.
Why is common sense not common? Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level where they are an expert. Sometimes it takes a lot of work to be lazy Individuality is fine, as long as we do it together - F. Burns Help humanity, join the CodeProject grid computing team here
It would seem that the ayes have it. Far more positive outcomes than I expected. Well done to both of you. But would you have gone if it was going to be a 1 to 1 situation, rather than a group event?
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
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Wait... You're not the least disturbed by the fact that this "gf" turned out to be a "he" and that the Canadian guy apparently is OK with that? WTF?
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Haha! What maniac would actually want two wives?!
hammerstein05 wrote:
What maniac would actually want two wives?
:) Exactly. The smart money is on a wife who doesn't mind "sharing".
"Creating your own blog is about as easy as creating your own urine, and you're about as likely to find someone else interested in it." -- Lore Sjöberg
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It would seem that the ayes have it. Far more positive outcomes than I expected. Well done to both of you. But would you have gone if it was going to be a 1 to 1 situation, rather than a group event?
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
Well knowing me it would have taken a lot more than just a few board postings to get me out there. I was way more comfortable with a group situation than te 1-1 especially when I already knew some of the other people that was going to be there.
Why is common sense not common? Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level where they are an expert. Sometimes it takes a lot of work to be lazy Individuality is fine, as long as we do it together - F. Burns Help humanity, join the CodeProject grid computing team here
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Strange how people are so fearful of flesh and blood contact, and yet are more than happy to reveal the most intimate of detais over the interweb. Anyway, blathering aside, to answer your question: probably not. More out of apathy than anything else.
martin_hughes wrote:
Strange how people are so fearful of flesh and blood contact, and yet are more than happy to reveal the most intimate of detais over the interweb.
"There are things so deeply personal that they can be revealed only to strangers." – Richard Rodriguez, "Mr. Secrets".
Cheers, Vikram. (Proud to have finally cracked a CCC!)
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Carpe Diem.
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Wait... You're not the least disturbed by the fact that this "gf" turned out to be a "he" and that the Canadian guy apparently is OK with that? WTF?
Lets hope they don't end up in bed and he rolls the wrong way :rolleyes:
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
My best friend from school met his wife that way (not while he was at school, obviously - that was over 20 years ago :~) - he lives in the UK, she was in Australia, they're now happily married with kid in the UK.
Java, Basic, who cares - it's all a bunch of tree-hugging hippy cr*p
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Lets hope they don't end up in bed and he rolls the wrong way :rolleyes:
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Norm .net wrote:
rolls the wrong way
I'm not sure that there's a right way :~
Dave
BTW, in software, hope and pray is not a viable strategy. (Luc Pattyn)
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
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Norm .net wrote:
rolls the wrong way
I'm not sure that there's a right way :~
Dave
BTW, in software, hope and pray is not a viable strategy. (Luc Pattyn)
Visual Basic is not used by normal people so we're not covering it here. (Uncyclopedia)
Why are you using VB6? Do you hate yourself? (Christian Graus):-D :-D :-D
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Wait... You're not the least disturbed by the fact that this "gf" turned out to be a "he" and that the Canadian guy apparently is OK with that? WTF?
LOL - Right? LOL
Know way too many languages... master of none!
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hammerstein05 wrote:
What maniac would actually want two wives?
:) Exactly. The smart money is on a wife who doesn't mind "sharing".
"Creating your own blog is about as easy as creating your own urine, and you're about as likely to find someone else interested in it." -- Lore Sjöberg
I was just thinking the same thing :-D
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
I used to be very much like you. I heard the stories, but always thought it crazy. I chatted with these people (mostly gaming friends) more than my "IRL" friends. A long time ago, I was witness (not literally) to two of my best online friends hooking up and getting married (she was from LA, he was from NY). I know it works, but it is rare and never willing to take that chance (even to just meet the people I spent a very large amount of time with as friends without any chance of romance involved). Now that I'm older (but still a gamer), I'm much more open to the idea and would probably go ahead and make the trip. Mostly because I don't have the same financial burden as before so it is less of a risk. The social risk doesn't scare me but the combonation of both social and financial certainly used to.
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
:) for report