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Anna :) wrote: In actual fact the Bible says nothing about transsexualism Agreed, so they tell me and I take it on good faith they are right. I am going to ask a prying question so if you are offended or do not want to answer then don't, I am just trying to get to the bottom of this (surname is Watson after all... :rolleyes:) Once your change is complete and when you marry will it be to a man or a woman? If it is a woman, then fine I don't see how that is against your religion. But if it is a man, then, so they tell me, it is quite clearly said that homosexual anything is not on. And by that you cannot be a Christian. Anna :) wrote: (For those who enjoy quoting scripture to try to insist I'm a man, look at Galations 3-28). Now counter to what I just asked above... If this change of yours is fine by the Bible and your religion will now accept you as a woman will you when you marry, marry a man or a woman? If a man then fine, no problem because you are a woman. If a woman then once again that is a homosexual act and a sin, right? So I guess it boils down to: What does the Bible say about your status after this change has occured? What is this Galations you talk about? (I have no Bible handy and would prefer to hear it from you anyway.) * And to think some people said you should never have posted your original post. But then we would have missed all this dicussion! What a sin that would have been :-D
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Cape Town, South AfricaPaul Watson wrote: Once your change is complete and when you marry will it be to a man or a woman? If it is a woman, then fine I don't see how that is against your religion. But if it is a man, then, so they tell me, it is quite clearly said that homosexual anything is not on. And by that you cannot be a Christian. Now counter to what I just asked above... If this change of yours is fine by the Bible and your religion will now accept you as a woman will you when you marry, marry a man or a woman? If a man then fine, no problem because you are a woman. If a woman then once again that is a homosexual act and a sin, right? So I guess it boils down to: What does the Bible say about your status after this change has occured? What is this Galations you talk about? (I have no Bible handy and would prefer to hear it from you anyway.) I suspect that the assumed link with homosexuality has a lot to do with why so many Christians (though not as many as you'd think) have a problem with transsexualism - or more specifically gender transition, despite the Bible saying nothing about it. There are some good discussions of TS issues and Christianity on Dr Becky Allinson's site (her Faith seems very similar to my own). I'd recommend having a look at God Don't Make No Junk[^] and I'm Not One Of Them[^]. It all boils down to this: Why would it be homosexual for me to marry a guy if I'm psychologically (as I have been all my life) and psychically (as I will be in a couple of years time) female? Surely it's not down to what sort of genitals you have when you were born - if that were the criterion intersexed people such as those males born with AIS (who appear female, and can even reproduce as such) would be in a non-win situation, don't you think? Are they excluded from God's Kingdom? As for myself, I really can't answer at the moment. I need to take some time to sort my life out, and I certainly have no plans to get involved with anyone right now. Galations is one of my favourite books in the Bible. 3-26 to 3-28 read as follows in the NIrV: (3-26) You are all children of God by believing in Christ Jesus. (3-27) All of you who were baptised into Christ have put on Christ as if He were your clothes. (3-28) There is no Jew or Gr
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"There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus." (Gal 3:28) This is not to say that transsexuals are ok. This is to say that just b/c your a Jew, or a man, or a freeman doesn't make you any more special, any more blessed, any more saved than the Greek, the woman, or the slave. A eunuch is not a transexual. He is a castrated man. Does the serial rapist that was chemically castrated become a transexual? No. Does the the neutered dog become a female dog? No. "What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?" (Rom 6:1) If you, being born a man, then be with a man, you are sinning. "What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not! Do you not know that to whom you present yourselves slaves to obey, you are that one's slaves whom you obey, whether of sin leading to death, or of obedience leading to righteousness? But God be thanked that though you were slaves of sin, yet you obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine to which you were delivered. And having been set free from sin, you became slaves of righteousness. I speak in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your members as slaves of uncleanness, and of lawlessness leading to more lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves of righteousness for holiness. For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. What fruit did you have then in the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death. But now having been set free from sin, and having become slaves of God, you have your fruit to holiness, and the end, everlasting life. For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Rom 6:15-23) Jason Gerard "This almost never matters, except quite often."
Of course eunuchs aren't transsexuals - transsexuals aren't mentioned anywhere in the Bible..but believe me the Bible's statements about them have been used against TS people in the past though (The Evangelical Alliance did so, for example). The terrible truth about transsexualism is that I (and those like me) was born looking like something I've never been, and trying to act the role society insisted I play. As a result I've never been true to myself, my friends of Jesus. I've hidden my feelings (invented my whole personality to hide them in fact), and got into what feel to me like lesbian relationships because it was what was expected of me. How do you think that makes me feel as a Christian? No more. Now that I accept who I am and what I must do I'm true to myself and to others in a way I never was before. I can't go back to the lie I lived - I'd rather die than try now. I don't expect you to condone what I feel I have to do, but I do expect you respect me and my Faith in the same way I respect yours. Go in peace my friend. :love: Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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You are in fact ignorant Jason. If you actually believe that homesexuality is some form of mental illness, then you are demonstrating ignorance of the highest order. I actually feel sorry for you! I still respect you however - I respect everyones opinion - in fact, it is better to have an opinion than none at all in my book - even if I don't agree with it personally. Unfortunately, as you have demonstrated, even intelligent people can be ignorant. Perhaps you should consider a more 21st century view of life instead of a 1st century one! ;) Regards.
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Jason Henderson wrote: Anna's lifestyle thread is unwanted and unwarranted on CP. Ah, so now you feel as though you should determine what is appropriate for all the rest of us to read. Not content with disapproving of Anna's lifestyle, you also want to tell us what we should and shouldn't read! Jason Henderson wrote: As for other posts in this thread, I was only responding to the posts of others. If you don't like it, maybe you should stop reading this thread! I'm interested in reading about Anna's choice and that's what I'm here to do. I wonder why you're here? "The folly of man is that he dreams of what he can never achieve rather than dream of what he can."
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Andy Metcalfe!?! I never would have guessed. I've got to admit, what you're doing seems very wrong to me, both in terms of abstract morality, and in terms of stomach-churning weirdness - not to be cruel about it, but you need serious help. Still, it's been fun trying to guess who you were; you'd be amazed (or not...) who i had fingered at one point... ! :laugh:
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Shog9 wrote: I never would have guessed. Neither would anyone else. TS people are very good at hiding their feelings and true gender - it's the way we cope in a role that's alien to us, but it's ultimately what dives us to depression or suicide if it's not sorted out before it's too late. The essay Why We Lie[^] by Janet Flecher sums up why this happens: The main reason we lie is denial. T*'s are the originators of the concept of denial. We are professionals at this. We wrote the book on denial. Denial is a type of lying. A extremely dangerous type. It starts with facts. We know deep inside that we are different. But we do not want to acknowledge that difference. Because to acknowledge that difference is to allow ourselves to be recognized. Perhaps only by ourselves. But still recognized and labeled. No one wants to be labeled Transgendered, or Transsexual or Crossdresser or Transvestite. These words have serious ramifications in society. Negative connotations. Severe connotations. Yet to admit internally that we are a T*, we are admitting that society will condemn us, has the right to condemn us. ....You see, I was taught that if you were different, it was your fault. And that you, and you alone, could correct that fault. You, and you alone, were responsible for that fault. I was faulted. I wanted so bad to be a girl. But I was born a boy. And I honestly thought that I was mentally ill. I was terrified of what would have happened if I told anyone. Terrified that any one would every find out. So I lied. I lied about who and what I was. I lied about my dreams. I lied about everything. I lied to everyone. Worse of all, I lied to myself. Shog9 wrote: I've got to admit, what you're doing seems very wrong to me, both in terms of abstract morality, and in terms of stomach-churning weirdness - not to be cruel about it, but you need serious help. How do you think I feel about it? :confused: Believe me I never wanted to be this way - I just wanted to be "normal". Now at least I accept I'm different and am doing what I can to heal myself. I'm sick to death of lying. Shog9 wrote: Still, it's been fun trying to guess who you were; you'd be amazed (or not...) who i had fingered at one point... ! Glad I could provide some entertainment. ;) Anna :rose
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"If you are going through hell, keep going." - Sir Winston ChurchillYep. I still respect you. I have learned to respect others, even when they are displaying ignorance, because most of the time they actually can't help it. People who hold such blinkered views as yourself usually do so because they are uneducated or because they are spouting the opinions of others (their parents, their religion, whatever). You are walking around with your eyes shut my friend. A shame. Perhaps you will learn one day eh? I mean ... homosexuality as a mental illness ... ha ha ha ha ha. Perhaps you are a troll? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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Yep. I still respect you. I have learned to respect others, even when they are displaying ignorance, because most of the time they actually can't help it. People who hold such blinkered views as yourself usually do so because they are uneducated or because they are spouting the opinions of others (their parents, their religion, whatever). You are walking around with your eyes shut my friend. A shame. Perhaps you will learn one day eh? I mean ... homosexuality as a mental illness ... ha ha ha ha ha. Perhaps you are a troll? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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Of course eunuchs aren't transsexuals - transsexuals aren't mentioned anywhere in the Bible..but believe me the Bible's statements about them have been used against TS people in the past though (The Evangelical Alliance did so, for example). The terrible truth about transsexualism is that I (and those like me) was born looking like something I've never been, and trying to act the role society insisted I play. As a result I've never been true to myself, my friends of Jesus. I've hidden my feelings (invented my whole personality to hide them in fact), and got into what feel to me like lesbian relationships because it was what was expected of me. How do you think that makes me feel as a Christian? No more. Now that I accept who I am and what I must do I'm true to myself and to others in a way I never was before. I can't go back to the lie I lived - I'd rather die than try now. I don't expect you to condone what I feel I have to do, but I do expect you respect me and my Faith in the same way I respect yours. Go in peace my friend. :love: Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
- Marcia GraeschAnna :) wrote: Of course eunuchs aren't transsexuals - transsexuals aren't mentioned anywhere in the Bible..but believe me the Bible's statements about them have been used against TS people in the past though (The Evangelical Alliance did so, for example). Look, I don't defend anyone who twists the Scriptures for their own personal agenda. "and consider that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation--as also our beloved brother Paul, according to the wisdom given to him, has written to you, as also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things, in which are some things hard to understand, which untaught and unstable people twist to their own destruction, as they do also the rest of the Scriptures. You therefore, beloved, since you know this beforehand, beware lest you also fall from your own steadfastness, being led away with the error of the wicked;" (2 Peter 3:15-17) Anna :) wrote: The terrible truth about transsexualism is that I (and those like me) was born looking like something I've never been, and trying to act the role society insisted I play. You were born a man, that makes you a man. If you feel that having a relationship with a woman is not right for you, then by all means don't. But that does not give you liberty to have a relationship with a man and still be acceptable to God. Christian liberty has it's limits. If doing something like dating a woman makes you feel guilty, violates your conscience, then you shouldn't do it. But at the same time, you shouldn't do things like be with a man because it makes you feel better, or more in touch with who or what you think you really are. No matter how you view yourself, you were born a man, you are a man. If you have a relationship with a man, you will be committing sin. "Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you." (1 Cor 6:10-11) This shows that being a sodomite (the masculine in the homosexual relationship)and the homosexual (the greek word means feminine in the relationship) are sinful acts. And Paul clearly states that some of the Corinthians were these things, among other things. WERE. They changed, the realized they were sinning against God, they repented, that is turned away from sin to God. They did not continue in they're sin. Look, I cannot judge your heart, only your
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Anna :) wrote: Of course eunuchs aren't transsexuals - transsexuals aren't mentioned anywhere in the Bible..but believe me the Bible's statements about them have been used against TS people in the past though (The Evangelical Alliance did so, for example). Look, I don't defend anyone who twists the Scriptures for their own personal agenda. "and consider that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation--as also our beloved brother Paul, according to the wisdom given to him, has written to you, as also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things, in which are some things hard to understand, which untaught and unstable people twist to their own destruction, as they do also the rest of the Scriptures. You therefore, beloved, since you know this beforehand, beware lest you also fall from your own steadfastness, being led away with the error of the wicked;" (2 Peter 3:15-17) Anna :) wrote: The terrible truth about transsexualism is that I (and those like me) was born looking like something I've never been, and trying to act the role society insisted I play. You were born a man, that makes you a man. If you feel that having a relationship with a woman is not right for you, then by all means don't. But that does not give you liberty to have a relationship with a man and still be acceptable to God. Christian liberty has it's limits. If doing something like dating a woman makes you feel guilty, violates your conscience, then you shouldn't do it. But at the same time, you shouldn't do things like be with a man because it makes you feel better, or more in touch with who or what you think you really are. No matter how you view yourself, you were born a man, you are a man. If you have a relationship with a man, you will be committing sin. "Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you." (1 Cor 6:10-11) This shows that being a sodomite (the masculine in the homosexual relationship)and the homosexual (the greek word means feminine in the relationship) are sinful acts. And Paul clearly states that some of the Corinthians were these things, among other things. WERE. They changed, the realized they were sinning against God, they repented, that is turned away from sin to God. They did not continue in they're sin. Look, I cannot judge your heart, only your
Jason, believe me I do understand and respect your feelings and views on this. I don't expect you to agree with who I say I am (to do so is plainly against your Faith), but if you've read my life story on my website I hope you'll understand how and why I've come to be here. I certainly didn't want to be this way, but I can't carry on lying and acting anymore. If I tried, I'm sure it would kill me this time. Be yourself and follow God - it's plain He's in your heart. God Bless, Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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Paul Watson wrote: If God came down from the heavens and told me homosexuality was wrong but did not say why, then I would still not change (I would be sh*t scared but I would not change.) If he told me why and I agreed with his logic then yes I would change. Suprisingly, I don't find that hard to believe. Such was the case when Jesus walked on the earth and performed miracles. However, in your view, you have to agree with it to make it right or wrong. That is moral relativism. What if my logic said that it was ok to rape, or murder, or have sex with a 5 year old child? Would that make it ok? As a philosopher once said, "Without God, everything is permissible." Paul Watson wrote: and if no god accepts me for that, then I say the gods are at fault not me. If your boss tell you to have X module finished by Friday and you don't do it and get fired, is that his fault, or yours? You have to believe in an objective truth if you are to have any morals at all. What one person thinks is right, another thinks is wrong. With this system, everything is permissible. It's ok for you to steal my car, it's ok for me to kill your mother. If you believe killing is wrong, but do not believe in God, then why is killing wrong? Jason Gerard "This almost never matters, except quite often."
What if my logic said that it was ok to rape, or murder, or have sex with a 5 year old child? Would that make it ok? As a philosopher once said, "Without God, everything is permissible." Yes, I know that's what Christian preachers like to say. But that's because you and they have built their ethical framework on Christianity. I think you're operating on a gross misconception if you think right and wrong can only be known when it is delivered to us through some Holy Book. (In fact, didn't God give mankind the capability to tell right from wrong - if so, then whether or not someone believes in God, they would still have a moral compass, right?) For those of us who don't believe in God, you might be surprised to learn that right and wrong are based on empthy for others and the "golden rule" (which exists in some form in most every religion - not just Christianity). I'm sort of curious about this then: do you accept marriage after someone has been divorced? Most Christians don't give it much thought, but most of them are also ignoring what the Bible says about it. Do you treat people who have been divorced and remarried as adulterers? That's what the Bible says about them. And it's in the NEW Testament - not the old. Do you avoid talking to them except to tell them to "stop living in sin"? Matthew 5:31-32 (Jesus' words) "It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.' But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. " Romans 7:2-3 "For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man. " ------------------------------------------ "Isn't it funny how people say they'll never grow up to be their parents, then one day they look in the mirror and they're moving aircraft carriers into the Gulf region?" - The Onion
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What if my logic said that it was ok to rape, or murder, or have sex with a 5 year old child? Would that make it ok? As a philosopher once said, "Without God, everything is permissible." Yes, I know that's what Christian preachers like to say. But that's because you and they have built their ethical framework on Christianity. I think you're operating on a gross misconception if you think right and wrong can only be known when it is delivered to us through some Holy Book. (In fact, didn't God give mankind the capability to tell right from wrong - if so, then whether or not someone believes in God, they would still have a moral compass, right?) For those of us who don't believe in God, you might be surprised to learn that right and wrong are based on empthy for others and the "golden rule" (which exists in some form in most every religion - not just Christianity). I'm sort of curious about this then: do you accept marriage after someone has been divorced? Most Christians don't give it much thought, but most of them are also ignoring what the Bible says about it. Do you treat people who have been divorced and remarried as adulterers? That's what the Bible says about them. And it's in the NEW Testament - not the old. Do you avoid talking to them except to tell them to "stop living in sin"? Matthew 5:31-32 (Jesus' words) "It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.' But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. " Romans 7:2-3 "For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man. " ------------------------------------------ "Isn't it funny how people say they'll never grow up to be their parents, then one day they look in the mirror and they're moving aircraft carriers into the Gulf region?" - The Onion
Brit wrote: I'm sort of curious about this then: do you accept marriage after someone has been divorced? Most Christians don't give it much thought, but most of them are also ignoring what the Bible says about it. Do you treat people who have been divorced and remarried as adulterers? That's what the Bible says about them. And it's in the NEW Testament - not the old. Do you avoid talking to them except to tell them to "stop living in sin"? Yes, anyone who marries after a divorce, unless they divorced their spouse because their spouse committed adultery are commiting aldultery themeselves. I would not have fellowship with that person. Most so called Christians don't read their Bible. Most so called Christians just listen to their "pastor" and don't search the scriptures to see what they say is true. (Acts 17:11) Brit wrote: In fact, didn't God give mankind the capability to tell right from wrong - if so, then whether or not someone believes in God, they would still have a moral compass, right?) Correct. And it's God that gave us that moral compass. I was not debating with Paul the Bible per se, but that God exists and that without God, there could be no morals. Jason Gerard "This almost never matters, except quite often."
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"If you are going through hell, keep going." - Sir Winston ChurchillJason Henderson wrote: Then why are you reading so deeply into this thread? Now go away, I tire of this argument. There is no way this rates as an argument. So far, you've offered nothing but negative comments and unsubstantiated opinion. You've made outrageous claims such as "I'm proud to be intollerant" which is exactly why your opinion is so worthless, especially in this thread. As for finishing this "argument", that's fine with me, you have nothing left I wish to hear. "The folly of man is that he dreams of what he can never achieve rather than dream of what he can."
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Shog9 wrote: I never would have guessed. Neither would anyone else. TS people are very good at hiding their feelings and true gender - it's the way we cope in a role that's alien to us, but it's ultimately what dives us to depression or suicide if it's not sorted out before it's too late. The essay Why We Lie[^] by Janet Flecher sums up why this happens: The main reason we lie is denial. T*'s are the originators of the concept of denial. We are professionals at this. We wrote the book on denial. Denial is a type of lying. A extremely dangerous type. It starts with facts. We know deep inside that we are different. But we do not want to acknowledge that difference. Because to acknowledge that difference is to allow ourselves to be recognized. Perhaps only by ourselves. But still recognized and labeled. No one wants to be labeled Transgendered, or Transsexual or Crossdresser or Transvestite. These words have serious ramifications in society. Negative connotations. Severe connotations. Yet to admit internally that we are a T*, we are admitting that society will condemn us, has the right to condemn us. ....You see, I was taught that if you were different, it was your fault. And that you, and you alone, could correct that fault. You, and you alone, were responsible for that fault. I was faulted. I wanted so bad to be a girl. But I was born a boy. And I honestly thought that I was mentally ill. I was terrified of what would have happened if I told anyone. Terrified that any one would every find out. So I lied. I lied about who and what I was. I lied about my dreams. I lied about everything. I lied to everyone. Worse of all, I lied to myself. Shog9 wrote: I've got to admit, what you're doing seems very wrong to me, both in terms of abstract morality, and in terms of stomach-churning weirdness - not to be cruel about it, but you need serious help. How do you think I feel about it? :confused: Believe me I never wanted to be this way - I just wanted to be "normal". Now at least I accept I'm different and am doing what I can to heal myself. I'm sick to death of lying. Shog9 wrote: Still, it's been fun trying to guess who you were; you'd be amazed (or not...) who i had fingered at one point... ! Glad I could provide some entertainment. ;) Anna :rose
Anna :) wrote: Believe me I never wanted to be this way - I just wanted to be "normal". And this is the problem. From birth on, those around us force us into a mold, one which few people fit perfectly, and many do not fit at all. We are put in classes to learn about extraordinary people, doing extraordinary things in extraordinary ways, and then, after hearing about a man who looks at life and picks out the important bits, we are set to pointless tasks, writing the same reports, that will be judged in the same ways, by the same people, and then tossed in the same waste bins. We are told education is the cure for all life’s ills, and that those who buy more of it are better people. We pay so much for education we spend our lives in debt, working at jobs we hate to pay for knowledge we don’t use, but that’s ok – we can still turn up our noses at the high-school dropout putting up siding. Pop-culture tells us how we interact with other people, what appropriate hobbies are, how we can spend our free time, how much free time we can have… We’re supposed to be in a “relationship” from the time we hit puberty, but marriage is a shackle and should be shunned until we’re quite sure there’s no chance we can still have any fun. Being a jack-of-all-trades is good. Being a master of one is bad. Caring about other people, simply because they are people is right out. In the end, it’s what you do, not what you’re given. I know men, both male and female, who have accomplished far more than I, with far less. I’m sorry you’ve chosen the path you’re on, as it seems to be causing you a great deal of trouble. But if in the end it lets you recognize that it’s not what you are, but who you are, then it will not be a total loss. When I started writing this post, I was drunk. At this point, I’m stone cold sober. There is nothing humorous about this subject, when you get right down to it; choices that affect people’s lives in drastic, often devastating ways are at best funny when they are abstract. The comment I made this morning was a cop-out: truthful but not useful. Shit like “yer some messed-up weirdo” is just that: shit. You are a sinner like the rest of us, and any attempt to try and be aloof is hypocrisy. Andy/Anna – I can’t in good conscience comment or congratulate you. I must condemn the path you are taking, as from your description it has caused pain to both your former wife and your children. But I can ask that you seek G
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Jason, believe me I do understand and respect your feelings and views on this. I don't expect you to agree with who I say I am (to do so is plainly against your Faith), but if you've read my life story on my website I hope you'll understand how and why I've come to be here. I certainly didn't want to be this way, but I can't carry on lying and acting anymore. If I tried, I'm sure it would kill me this time. Be yourself and follow God - it's plain He's in your heart. God Bless, Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
- Marcia GraeschAnna :) wrote: Be yourself and follow God Therein lies the problem. Me being myself is on many fronts in direct opposition to following the Christian God. Therefore I cannot claim to follow your God, no matter how much I want to be able to claim it. Lets say I suddenly realised that sex before marriage is a sin and I repented my past indescretions and strived to not do it again in the future. But I still did not believe that homosexuality was a sin. I would be no closer to being a Christian than before and I would still be rejected at the gates of heaven (or wherever you are so rejected.) I could believe 99 out of a 100 "checkpoints" in Christian belief and I would still not be a Christian. Anyway, "What is a Biblical View of Transgender"[^] seems a bit confusing to me, but it seems to say that God "tells" you what sex your are at the moment of conception. From then on you are to act according to what he told you. So if after conception there is a problem and you come out as appearing to be opposite to what he told you, then that is fine so long as you "remember" what he said and act according to it. So I guess in your case he told you female at conception but things went "awry" and you came out as male, people treated you as male and you thought you were male, except for some almost subconcious feeling deep down that you weren't. So the sin would have been you trying to follow social convention by going out with, and sleeping with, women. Now you are changing and I assume will "swap" to men, so falling in to line with what your God has said (which is all that really matters right?) And I assume you "repent" your past sins. If so then, and once again I am just saying this not expecting you to actually take what I say as law or anything, you are perfectly fine in calling and being a Christian. I just want to get this all sorted out in my head, it is fascinating, and by the looks of it, an increasing occurence. I wish I was as brave as you with problems half this size :)
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Anna :) wrote: Believe me I never wanted to be this way - I just wanted to be "normal". And this is the problem. From birth on, those around us force us into a mold, one which few people fit perfectly, and many do not fit at all. We are put in classes to learn about extraordinary people, doing extraordinary things in extraordinary ways, and then, after hearing about a man who looks at life and picks out the important bits, we are set to pointless tasks, writing the same reports, that will be judged in the same ways, by the same people, and then tossed in the same waste bins. We are told education is the cure for all life’s ills, and that those who buy more of it are better people. We pay so much for education we spend our lives in debt, working at jobs we hate to pay for knowledge we don’t use, but that’s ok – we can still turn up our noses at the high-school dropout putting up siding. Pop-culture tells us how we interact with other people, what appropriate hobbies are, how we can spend our free time, how much free time we can have… We’re supposed to be in a “relationship” from the time we hit puberty, but marriage is a shackle and should be shunned until we’re quite sure there’s no chance we can still have any fun. Being a jack-of-all-trades is good. Being a master of one is bad. Caring about other people, simply because they are people is right out. In the end, it’s what you do, not what you’re given. I know men, both male and female, who have accomplished far more than I, with far less. I’m sorry you’ve chosen the path you’re on, as it seems to be causing you a great deal of trouble. But if in the end it lets you recognize that it’s not what you are, but who you are, then it will not be a total loss. When I started writing this post, I was drunk. At this point, I’m stone cold sober. There is nothing humorous about this subject, when you get right down to it; choices that affect people’s lives in drastic, often devastating ways are at best funny when they are abstract. The comment I made this morning was a cop-out: truthful but not useful. Shit like “yer some messed-up weirdo” is just that: shit. You are a sinner like the rest of us, and any attempt to try and be aloof is hypocrisy. Andy/Anna – I can’t in good conscience comment or congratulate you. I must condemn the path you are taking, as from your description it has caused pain to both your former wife and your children. But I can ask that you seek G
Thank you Shog. I appreciate your honesty. :rose: I have two huge regrets in my life - firstly that I wasn't strong enough to get this sorted out 20 years ago, and secondly that I can never carry a child. I love my kids deeply and also (despite the abuse I've endured from her over the years) my ex-wife. My refusal (and that of others like me) to accept my nature just put off the moment of truth and made it far more painful to deal with for everyone around me. That's the tragedy of transexualism. The younger it's diagnosed and treated, the better for everyone. God Bless, Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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Anna :) wrote: Be yourself and follow God Therein lies the problem. Me being myself is on many fronts in direct opposition to following the Christian God. Therefore I cannot claim to follow your God, no matter how much I want to be able to claim it. Lets say I suddenly realised that sex before marriage is a sin and I repented my past indescretions and strived to not do it again in the future. But I still did not believe that homosexuality was a sin. I would be no closer to being a Christian than before and I would still be rejected at the gates of heaven (or wherever you are so rejected.) I could believe 99 out of a 100 "checkpoints" in Christian belief and I would still not be a Christian. Anyway, "What is a Biblical View of Transgender"[^] seems a bit confusing to me, but it seems to say that God "tells" you what sex your are at the moment of conception. From then on you are to act according to what he told you. So if after conception there is a problem and you come out as appearing to be opposite to what he told you, then that is fine so long as you "remember" what he said and act according to it. So I guess in your case he told you female at conception but things went "awry" and you came out as male, people treated you as male and you thought you were male, except for some almost subconcious feeling deep down that you weren't. So the sin would have been you trying to follow social convention by going out with, and sleeping with, women. Now you are changing and I assume will "swap" to men, so falling in to line with what your God has said (which is all that really matters right?) And I assume you "repent" your past sins. If so then, and once again I am just saying this not expecting you to actually take what I say as law or anything, you are perfectly fine in calling and being a Christian. I just want to get this all sorted out in my head, it is fascinating, and by the looks of it, an increasing occurence. I wish I was as brave as you with problems half this size :)
Paul Watson
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CapThanks Paul. :rose: I'm not surprised you were confused by the paper you referenced if this statement is anything to go by: "God doesn't create a person with the genitals of a male and the consciousness and heart of a female.". In contrast, transsexualism is now accepted as a birth defect by the medical professtion - I'd recommend reading An Open Letter To Physicians[^] for a good medical perspective. I've always thought of my Faith as a pragmatic one. I CANNOT accept that God would create anyone imperfect in any way whatsoever - that would destroy my Faith. Ergo I believe that He creates our souls, but our bodies are products of the Nature He created...otherwise he'd be directly responsible for all birth defects and my Faith would be totally gone. I'm under no illusions about how close to Christian ideals my life is. I call myself Christian because I've asked Jesus into my life as my Saviour, and I follow His teachings as closely as I can. However, as far as marriage goes according to the Bible I can't remarry (I'm divorced) or have relationships outside of marriage. I'm under no illusions I can remain celibate for the rest of my life - but if I do get involved with someone it will be for love. :love: I also know is that my sexual feelings are screwed up - 36 years of male social conditioning has seen to that. Right now, I feel an attraction to both sexes which doesn't help me sort my head out believe me - hence my intention to stay clear of relationships for a while. The one good thing that's come out of all this is that as a person I'm now much truer in every way - the "old" me was a sham and it showed! I'm closer to everyone around me, and I don't muck people about - what you see is what you get. :) As you seem to be curious about the subject, have a look at the Links page on my site - you'll find a lot of material from there (I'd particularly recommend going to the Gendys Network journal (http://www.gender.org.uk/gendys/magazine.htm[^]) and reading some of Revd. David Horton's writings). Doing a Google search for "Transsexual Christians" will unearth a lot of material too. As a footnote, you might be interested to know that the consultant who's overseeing my transition (Dr.
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phykell wrote: Why do some people feel the need to express their feelings no matter who they offend? Like Anna did? An offer of friendship is one thing, but telling people you're a woman trapped in a man's body is a little over the top. It doesn't belong here and you can expect everyone to accept it.
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"If you are going through hell, keep going." - Sir Winston ChurchillJason Henderson wrote: An offer of friendship is one thing, but telling people you're a woman trapped in a man's body is a little over the top. It doesn't belong here and you can expect everyone to accept it. One could use the same argument regarding statements of religious beliefs. However, I thought this forum was for general chat? People can choose to read, or not, as the case may be. Debbie
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Paul Selormey wrote: Just exclude me, please. Best regards, Paul. Jesus Christ is LOVE! Please tell somebody. If you're going to have a signature that saccharine, you should really check your attitude at the door. -- Paul A. Howes
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Robert Edward Caldecott wrote: You complete and utter tosser. People like you make me sick. Do not worry, Jesus will heal your sickness. Jesus will not accept you as gay, lesbian etc. it is a sickness and he will heal you, any better love? Failing to accept that you are sick is a problem, the world may decorate it but it will not become "less sickness". You are doing yourself and humanity a great harm if you do not help your brother who is sick realize his situation - even if you are sick too you can still help. Best regards, Paul. Jesus Christ is LOVE! Please tell somebody.
ROTFLMFAO! Fucking hilarious, absolutely fucking hilarious. I am tempted to have that shite printed on a T-Shirt so others can appreciate it - mind if I quote you?
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