Why the "real world" sucks
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So I went out on a real DATE today - screwed it up real bad. I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world). All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I also decided that as an antidote, I'd get back to the internet and post my "disappointing" little taste of the "real world" on CP. I'm now going to consume a few beers and go off to sleep early today. :sigh:
"Be brave little warrior, be VERY brave" - Adriaan Davel
Here are a few things that you might find helpful: 0) Learn to have absolutely no expectations. Don't anticipate anything, good or bad, just go with the flow. Practice this, learn it, it's one of the most valuable skills in life for social situations. 1) Be genuine and authentic i.e. be yourself. There is nothing more precious or highly regarded in these times than authenticity. Being yourself, being authentic at all times will ensure you always end up with exactly the right people for you. Even people that are completely different in personality and interests will always appreciate and be happy to know someone who is truly authentic and genuine at all times. Trust yourself to let go and be yourself, don't try to be anything you are not. 2) Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less. 3) Nothing is ever as bad (or as good) in hindsight as you think it was. Generally speaking when someone out of social practice thinks a situation went badly it probably went a factor of 100 or more less badly than it did in their mind. Independent corroboration always confirms this. Learn to stop thinking about yourself and what you are saying or doing and focus outwards on the people you are with. Doing that will ensure you have a better idea of how things are going and will almost inevitably ensure they go better.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
And, very few things are as cool as walking into a bar/pub/whatever and have so many people there know you and like you - to the point it feels more like home than some strange place.
You are dating your drinking buddies??
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| FoldWithUs! | sighist | µLaunch - program launcher for server core and hyper-v server.peterchen wrote:
You are dating your drinking buddies??
:laugh: Um, no, I mean knowing the employees and the regulars there. Maybe pick a up chick every now and then. That sorta stuff. It just makes for a better time and environment than feeling like you're in some strange place.
Jeremy Falcon
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Here are a few things that you might find helpful: 0) Learn to have absolutely no expectations. Don't anticipate anything, good or bad, just go with the flow. Practice this, learn it, it's one of the most valuable skills in life for social situations. 1) Be genuine and authentic i.e. be yourself. There is nothing more precious or highly regarded in these times than authenticity. Being yourself, being authentic at all times will ensure you always end up with exactly the right people for you. Even people that are completely different in personality and interests will always appreciate and be happy to know someone who is truly authentic and genuine at all times. Trust yourself to let go and be yourself, don't try to be anything you are not. 2) Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less. 3) Nothing is ever as bad (or as good) in hindsight as you think it was. Generally speaking when someone out of social practice thinks a situation went badly it probably went a factor of 100 or more less badly than it did in their mind. Independent corroboration always confirms this. Learn to stop thinking about yourself and what you are saying or doing and focus outwards on the people you are with. Doing that will ensure you have a better idea of how things are going and will almost inevitably ensure they go better.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
John C wrote:
Learn to have absolutely no expectations. Don't anticipate anything, good or bad, just go with the flow. Practice this, learn it, it's one of the most valuable skills in life for social situations.
5 for that! It's so true.
Jeremy Falcon
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peterchen wrote:
Other alternative: get a dog
My dates with the dog were really a failure... :rolleyes:
If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
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peterchen wrote:
Other alternative: get a dog
My dates with the dog were really a failure... :rolleyes:
If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
This is going on my arrogant assumptions. You may have a superb reason why I'm completely wrong. -- Iain Clarke
[My articles]I hear you can have a bitch of a time...
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Going by Jeremy's advice, you just should try it more often ;)
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If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
This is going on my arrogant assumptions. You may have a superb reason why I'm completely wrong. -- Iain Clarke
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Try one of those "virtual world" games. You might do better. :) BTW, sorry to know you suck at socialising with others (in real world). Me too Ugh... I mean - a friend of mine is like that too.
“Follow your bliss.” – Joseph Campbell
I'm not your friend. :-\
If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
This is going on my arrogant assumptions. You may have a superb reason why I'm completely wrong. -- Iain Clarke
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So I went out on a real DATE today - screwed it up real bad. I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world). All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I also decided that as an antidote, I'd get back to the internet and post my "disappointing" little taste of the "real world" on CP. I'm now going to consume a few beers and go off to sleep early today. :sigh:
"Be brave little warrior, be VERY brave" - Adriaan Davel
Yeah, so I been trying to 'handy' lately. Today I pickup my Dremel, that I only have used 5 times or so, has a dead battery :( Lucky though, they allowed me to 'upgrade' to an electric one for a little more. :)
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peterchen wrote:
Other alternative: get a dog
My dates with the dog were really a failure... :rolleyes:
If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
This is going on my arrogant assumptions. You may have a superb reason why I'm completely wrong. -- Iain Clarke
[My articles]Clearly, Italian dogs are similar to the Indian ones. :((
“Follow your bliss.” – Joseph Campbell
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I'm not your friend. :-\
If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
This is going on my arrogant assumptions. You may have a superb reason why I'm completely wrong. -- Iain Clarke
[My articles]May be, but you still suck at socialising. :-\ :)
“Follow your bliss.” – Joseph Campbell
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Here are a few things that you might find helpful: 0) Learn to have absolutely no expectations. Don't anticipate anything, good or bad, just go with the flow. Practice this, learn it, it's one of the most valuable skills in life for social situations. 1) Be genuine and authentic i.e. be yourself. There is nothing more precious or highly regarded in these times than authenticity. Being yourself, being authentic at all times will ensure you always end up with exactly the right people for you. Even people that are completely different in personality and interests will always appreciate and be happy to know someone who is truly authentic and genuine at all times. Trust yourself to let go and be yourself, don't try to be anything you are not. 2) Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less. 3) Nothing is ever as bad (or as good) in hindsight as you think it was. Generally speaking when someone out of social practice thinks a situation went badly it probably went a factor of 100 or more less badly than it did in their mind. Independent corroboration always confirms this. Learn to stop thinking about yourself and what you are saying or doing and focus outwards on the people you are with. Doing that will ensure you have a better idea of how things are going and will almost inevitably ensure they go better.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
John C wrote:
- Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less.
Alternatively, you can go and find a true love and then no skill will be required (really!). :-\
Greetings - Jacek
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Here are a few things that you might find helpful: 0) Learn to have absolutely no expectations. Don't anticipate anything, good or bad, just go with the flow. Practice this, learn it, it's one of the most valuable skills in life for social situations. 1) Be genuine and authentic i.e. be yourself. There is nothing more precious or highly regarded in these times than authenticity. Being yourself, being authentic at all times will ensure you always end up with exactly the right people for you. Even people that are completely different in personality and interests will always appreciate and be happy to know someone who is truly authentic and genuine at all times. Trust yourself to let go and be yourself, don't try to be anything you are not. 2) Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less. 3) Nothing is ever as bad (or as good) in hindsight as you think it was. Generally speaking when someone out of social practice thinks a situation went badly it probably went a factor of 100 or more less badly than it did in their mind. Independent corroboration always confirms this. Learn to stop thinking about yourself and what you are saying or doing and focus outwards on the people you are with. Doing that will ensure you have a better idea of how things are going and will almost inevitably ensure they go better.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
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So I went out on a real DATE today - screwed it up real bad. I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world). All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I also decided that as an antidote, I'd get back to the internet and post my "disappointing" little taste of the "real world" on CP. I'm now going to consume a few beers and go off to sleep early today. :sigh:
"Be brave little warrior, be VERY brave" - Adriaan Davel
Abhinav S wrote:
I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world).
That's why they invented alcohol. ;) Marc
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Abhinav S wrote:
I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world).
That's why they invented alcohol. ;) Marc
No easier way to be "authentic and genuine"! I was once drunk and told a girl she had nice boobs. Surprisingly, I didn't get slapped. Though that was probably because had she flashed them earlier. Ah, the wonders of overconsuming alcohol. :rolleyes:
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No easier way to be "authentic and genuine"! I was once drunk and told a girl she had nice boobs. Surprisingly, I didn't get slapped. Though that was probably because had she flashed them earlier. Ah, the wonders of overconsuming alcohol. :rolleyes:
aspdotnetdev wrote:
overconsuming alcohol
The bane of my life!
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Abhinav S wrote:
I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world).
It's like riding a bike. You get better at it with more practice. With more practice, you'll be more comfortable. The more comfortable you are, the more free your mind is to think about stuff to talk about and/or goof around. Just don't quit on it. There are a ton of interesting people in the world to meet. And, very few things are as cool as walking into a bar/pub/whatever and have so many people there know you and like you - to the point it feels more like home than some strange place.
Jeremy Falcon
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Here are a few things that you might find helpful: 0) Learn to have absolutely no expectations. Don't anticipate anything, good or bad, just go with the flow. Practice this, learn it, it's one of the most valuable skills in life for social situations. 1) Be genuine and authentic i.e. be yourself. There is nothing more precious or highly regarded in these times than authenticity. Being yourself, being authentic at all times will ensure you always end up with exactly the right people for you. Even people that are completely different in personality and interests will always appreciate and be happy to know someone who is truly authentic and genuine at all times. Trust yourself to let go and be yourself, don't try to be anything you are not. 2) Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less. 3) Nothing is ever as bad (or as good) in hindsight as you think it was. Generally speaking when someone out of social practice thinks a situation went badly it probably went a factor of 100 or more less badly than it did in their mind. Independent corroboration always confirms this. Learn to stop thinking about yourself and what you are saying or doing and focus outwards on the people you are with. Doing that will ensure you have a better idea of how things are going and will almost inevitably ensure they go better.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
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Abhinav S wrote:
I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world).
That's why they invented alcohol. ;) Marc
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Thanks. Nice signature, btw.
Me, I'm dishonest. And a dishonest man you can always trust to be dishonest.
Honestly. It's the honest ones you want to watch out for...Abhinav S wrote:
Nice signature, btw.
I read Poul Anderson *many* years ago and sort of forgot about him, then recently picked up a bunch of his stuff at a used bookstore and it's some of the best fiction I've ever read. Well worth it for any one who loves good fiction.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
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I hear you can have a bitch of a time...
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