Why the "real world" sucks
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peterchen wrote:
Other alternative: get a dog
My dates with the dog were really a failure... :rolleyes:
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Going by Jeremy's advice, you just should try it more often ;)
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Try one of those "virtual world" games. You might do better. :) BTW, sorry to know you suck at socialising with others (in real world). Me too Ugh... I mean - a friend of mine is like that too.
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If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
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So I went out on a real DATE today - screwed it up real bad. I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world). All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I also decided that as an antidote, I'd get back to the internet and post my "disappointing" little taste of the "real world" on CP. I'm now going to consume a few beers and go off to sleep early today. :sigh:
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peterchen wrote:
Other alternative: get a dog
My dates with the dog were really a failure... :rolleyes:
If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
This is going on my arrogant assumptions. You may have a superb reason why I'm completely wrong. -- Iain Clarke
[My articles]Clearly, Italian dogs are similar to the Indian ones. :((
“Follow your bliss.” – Joseph Campbell
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I'm not your friend. :-\
If the Lord God Almighty had consulted me before embarking upon the Creation, I would have recommended something simpler. -- Alfonso the Wise, 13th Century King of Castile.
This is going on my arrogant assumptions. You may have a superb reason why I'm completely wrong. -- Iain Clarke
[My articles]May be, but you still suck at socialising. :-\ :)
“Follow your bliss.” – Joseph Campbell
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Here are a few things that you might find helpful: 0) Learn to have absolutely no expectations. Don't anticipate anything, good or bad, just go with the flow. Practice this, learn it, it's one of the most valuable skills in life for social situations. 1) Be genuine and authentic i.e. be yourself. There is nothing more precious or highly regarded in these times than authenticity. Being yourself, being authentic at all times will ensure you always end up with exactly the right people for you. Even people that are completely different in personality and interests will always appreciate and be happy to know someone who is truly authentic and genuine at all times. Trust yourself to let go and be yourself, don't try to be anything you are not. 2) Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less. 3) Nothing is ever as bad (or as good) in hindsight as you think it was. Generally speaking when someone out of social practice thinks a situation went badly it probably went a factor of 100 or more less badly than it did in their mind. Independent corroboration always confirms this. Learn to stop thinking about yourself and what you are saying or doing and focus outwards on the people you are with. Doing that will ensure you have a better idea of how things are going and will almost inevitably ensure they go better.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
John C wrote:
- Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less.
Alternatively, you can go and find a true love and then no skill will be required (really!). :-\
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Here are a few things that you might find helpful: 0) Learn to have absolutely no expectations. Don't anticipate anything, good or bad, just go with the flow. Practice this, learn it, it's one of the most valuable skills in life for social situations. 1) Be genuine and authentic i.e. be yourself. There is nothing more precious or highly regarded in these times than authenticity. Being yourself, being authentic at all times will ensure you always end up with exactly the right people for you. Even people that are completely different in personality and interests will always appreciate and be happy to know someone who is truly authentic and genuine at all times. Trust yourself to let go and be yourself, don't try to be anything you are not. 2) Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less. 3) Nothing is ever as bad (or as good) in hindsight as you think it was. Generally speaking when someone out of social practice thinks a situation went badly it probably went a factor of 100 or more less badly than it did in their mind. Independent corroboration always confirms this. Learn to stop thinking about yourself and what you are saying or doing and focus outwards on the people you are with. Doing that will ensure you have a better idea of how things are going and will almost inevitably ensure they go better.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
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So I went out on a real DATE today - screwed it up real bad. I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world). All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I also decided that as an antidote, I'd get back to the internet and post my "disappointing" little taste of the "real world" on CP. I'm now going to consume a few beers and go off to sleep early today. :sigh:
"Be brave little warrior, be VERY brave" - Adriaan Davel
Abhinav S wrote:
I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world).
That's why they invented alcohol. ;) Marc
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Abhinav S wrote:
I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world).
That's why they invented alcohol. ;) Marc
No easier way to be "authentic and genuine"! I was once drunk and told a girl she had nice boobs. Surprisingly, I didn't get slapped. Though that was probably because had she flashed them earlier. Ah, the wonders of overconsuming alcohol. :rolleyes:
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No easier way to be "authentic and genuine"! I was once drunk and told a girl she had nice boobs. Surprisingly, I didn't get slapped. Though that was probably because had she flashed them earlier. Ah, the wonders of overconsuming alcohol. :rolleyes:
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Abhinav S wrote:
I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world).
It's like riding a bike. You get better at it with more practice. With more practice, you'll be more comfortable. The more comfortable you are, the more free your mind is to think about stuff to talk about and/or goof around. Just don't quit on it. There are a ton of interesting people in the world to meet. And, very few things are as cool as walking into a bar/pub/whatever and have so many people there know you and like you - to the point it feels more like home than some strange place.
Jeremy Falcon
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Abhinav S wrote:
I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world).
That's why they invented alcohol. ;) Marc
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Here are a few things that you might find helpful: 0) Learn to have absolutely no expectations. Don't anticipate anything, good or bad, just go with the flow. Practice this, learn it, it's one of the most valuable skills in life for social situations. 1) Be genuine and authentic i.e. be yourself. There is nothing more precious or highly regarded in these times than authenticity. Being yourself, being authentic at all times will ensure you always end up with exactly the right people for you. Even people that are completely different in personality and interests will always appreciate and be happy to know someone who is truly authentic and genuine at all times. Trust yourself to let go and be yourself, don't try to be anything you are not. 2) Go on a lot of dates. Dating is a skill and like any skill it only gets better when it's practiced and developed. Accept that it might take you a *lot* of dates before you feel like you are more successful at it, however if you really work on item 1 above it will take far less. 3) Nothing is ever as bad (or as good) in hindsight as you think it was. Generally speaking when someone out of social practice thinks a situation went badly it probably went a factor of 100 or more less badly than it did in their mind. Independent corroboration always confirms this. Learn to stop thinking about yourself and what you are saying or doing and focus outwards on the people you are with. Doing that will ensure you have a better idea of how things are going and will almost inevitably ensure they go better.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
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Thanks. Nice signature, btw.
Me, I'm dishonest. And a dishonest man you can always trust to be dishonest.
Honestly. It's the honest ones you want to watch out for...Abhinav S wrote:
Nice signature, btw.
I read Poul Anderson *many* years ago and sort of forgot about him, then recently picked up a bunch of his stuff at a used bookstore and it's some of the best fiction I've ever read. Well worth it for any one who loves good fiction.
Yesterday they said today was tomorrow but today they know better. - Poul Anderson
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I hear you can have a bitch of a time...
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So I went out on a real DATE today - screwed it up real bad. I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world). All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I also decided that as an antidote, I'd get back to the internet and post my "disappointing" little taste of the "real world" on CP. I'm now going to consume a few beers and go off to sleep early today. :sigh:
"Be brave little warrior, be VERY brave" - Adriaan Davel
Abhinav S wrote:
All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer.
Social skills, like any other skills, take practice to prefect. Maybe you were just with the wrong person. The only way you will acquire social skills is to get out there and learn from your mistakes.
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So I went out on a real DATE today - screwed it up real bad. I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world). All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I also decided that as an antidote, I'd get back to the internet and post my "disappointing" little taste of the "real world" on CP. I'm now going to consume a few beers and go off to sleep early today. :sigh:
"Be brave little warrior, be VERY brave" - Adriaan Davel
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So I went out on a real DATE today - screwed it up real bad. I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world). All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I also decided that as an antidote, I'd get back to the internet and post my "disappointing" little taste of the "real world" on CP. I'm now going to consume a few beers and go off to sleep early today. :sigh:
"Be brave little warrior, be VERY brave" - Adriaan Davel
Hey dudes, Dating is somewhat like a job interview. Both, are for seeking a position. And, both take practice. Often it's a numbers game, you may have to go through a lot of bad dates to experience a good one. And, also often it's a matter of timing. Being in the right situation at the right time. That's why you have to keep trying in order to "get lucky". Some basic advice: Be courteous and attentive : open doors, pull out chairs and pay the check! (Women want equal rights right up until the check comes.). Listen and ask questions, just like a job interview, major points earned. Dating is all about earning enough points to qualify... Don't provide solutions unless specifically asked to do so. This is a major hard one to learn considering we men want to solve problems. My experience shows, for the most part, women want empathy not solutions. Phrases like "I can FEEL what you are going through" earns points. This may seem phoney when you start but, as you practice and get some positive results it becomes part of your nature and that's what you want is to change your behavior and outlook for positive returns. I'm an average Joe so here I am not bragging. Since I have had some success mixed with a lot "Jees what am I doing here?" moments. I just want to let you know if you want it don't give up. There is a woman out there who will get naked for you. You just have to qualify for the position.
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So I went out on a real DATE today - screwed it up real bad. I realised I'm just not good at being social (definitely not in the real world). All the while I kept thinking I might have fared better if I spent more time in the real world instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I also decided that as an antidote, I'd get back to the internet and post my "disappointing" little taste of the "real world" on CP. I'm now going to consume a few beers and go off to sleep early today. :sigh:
"Be brave little warrior, be VERY brave" - Adriaan Davel
It's practice. Naturally I have a personality that is difficult to score with the ladies. Fortunately I'm addicted to girls, my life spins around women. Everything I do, I do for them. This caused me to invest too much time on them, and things that would make me look good to them since my early years. From that I got experience and practice. When you are not a natural dom juan, practice will help out. Its difficult at first as you will not socore much, but with time things will get better and everything will become natural. Make yourself a dom juan, if you are not born one, transform yourself into one. Don't allow the frustrations to hold you from trying again. Go out to night clubs regularly, try scoring with anyones, so when you get a good practice you can dedicate that experience to someone you are really interested in. I have to do a recycling period everytime I end a relationship, because relationships wear down the don juan skill, so I often have a few months of dry streak after breakups. So bottom line, its either natural and/or practice. Good luck
