Smacking to be outlawed ???
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It would be nice to know which country's laws people were referring to in this discussion! Debbie
Debs wrote: It would be nice to know which country's laws people were referring to in this discussion! The US, in my case. For the others, click on the poster's icon to check their bios - country of origin is included there.:) "When in danger, fear, or doubt, run in circles, scream and shout!" - Lorelei and Lapis Lazuli Long
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Christian Graus wrote: and in this state, is probably gay Eh ? Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
I think what Christian was implying was, given the demographics of the political district in which he lives, there's a good chance the man is homosexual... Shog9 ------
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I usually find a "time-out" works better than anything else. Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
- Marcia GraeschHe doesn't understand what a timeout is either. Raising my voice seems to work but only sometimes.
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KaЯl wrote: Why ? Everybody has been a child before, we all know the problem seen from the other point of view No, you don't. You remember not liking being punished. I wrote my mother a letter, telling her why I thought she was a terrible parent. I so wish I had waited until I had kids before presuming to talk about what is good and bad. I still think she was a bad parent, but I no longer expect parents to have all the answers, because I know what it's like to be one. Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
My mother, has actually asked me where she went wrong. Sounds harsh, maybe, but I understood the specific points she was refering to. I told her what's the difference. It's way past changing, and things are good the way they are now anyway. I say this, only because, even though I don't have children, I understand that people who have children do not have some magical ability given them during pregnancy that gives them all wisdom and knowledge regarding proper parenting skills. People make mistakes, but most parents do the best they know how to, and generally do an incredible job. BW "I'm coming with you! I got you fired, it's the least I can do. Well, the least I could do is absolutely nothing, but I'll go you one better and come along!" - Homer J. Simpson
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Christian Graus wrote: I just do not belive in hitting children at all. Get back to me when you have kids, and if you still think that there is some magic intonation in your voice that makes a child obey you right off without any guidance, then get back to me when they are in jail. This just doesn't follow: you don't smack kids and they go off the rails? What nonsense. I wasn't smacked as a child, and I don't smack my children either. I'm not a jailbird or a junkie, and I expect the statistics would show that countries where smacking has been suppressed have not sunk into lawlessness. I respected my parents without the need for it. No I don't have perfect children (thank goodness!) but there are far more effective ways to discipline *my* children. Threatening to withdraw his gameboy is pretty much the ultimate threat... Incidentally, I am not arguing that smacking should be criminalised, but I very much resent the fact that you are arguing that society would be better off if we all did it! Debbie
Spanking has its place as a means to get a childs attention if all else fails. If done, it should be one smack, swift, not very hard, but enough to get them to listen to you. Then you can continue to discilpine. It should also not be used very often, as it an exclamation saying "Hey!! Kid! I'm telling you stop, and you will listen". I have no children, so maybe I'm talking trash, but it seems reasonable, and worked for me as a child. BW "I'm coming with you! I got you fired, it's the least I can do. Well, the least I could do is absolutely nothing, but I'll go you one better and come along!" - Homer J. Simpson
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He doesn't understand what a timeout is either. Raising my voice seems to work but only sometimes.
Jason Henderson
start page ; articles henderson is coming henderson is an opponent's worst nightmare * googlism *Jason Henderson wrote: He doesn't understand what a timeout is either. Raising my voice seems to work but only sometimes. That's a shame. I hate it when I can't find any other way to make them listen and have to resort to smacking them. :(( Aaron (he was 2 in July) will stand in the corner if told he's to have a timeout. Ciaran (4 last July) will scream and pound on the door but I just ignore him until he calms down. Once he does, I'll explain to him why he was given a timeout and give him a hug to show him it doesn't change how I feel about him. Anna :rose: "Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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My 18 month old doesn't have a gameboy. So sometimes you have to spank.
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Christian Graus wrote: and in this state, is probably gay Eh ? Would you like to meet my teddy bear ?
I have nothing against gay women per se, but having said that, our public service is overrun by man hating, militant lesbians. Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
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Christian Graus wrote: I just do not belive in hitting children at all. Get back to me when you have kids, and if you still think that there is some magic intonation in your voice that makes a child obey you right off without any guidance, then get back to me when they are in jail. This just doesn't follow: you don't smack kids and they go off the rails? What nonsense. I wasn't smacked as a child, and I don't smack my children either. I'm not a jailbird or a junkie, and I expect the statistics would show that countries where smacking has been suppressed have not sunk into lawlessness. I respected my parents without the need for it. No I don't have perfect children (thank goodness!) but there are far more effective ways to discipline *my* children. Threatening to withdraw his gameboy is pretty much the ultimate threat... Incidentally, I am not arguing that smacking should be criminalised, but I very much resent the fact that you are arguing that society would be better off if we all did it! Debbie
Debs wrote: This just doesn't follow: you don't smack kids and they go off the rails? No, if you don't discipline a child, then they are going to have no guidance as to what is right and wrong, and it's a toss of the dice if they end up in jail or not. Debs wrote: Threatening to withdraw his gameboy is pretty much the ultimate threat... That worked when he was 2, did it ? Debs wrote: but I very much resent the fact that you are arguing that society would be better off if we all did it! Fine - if both you and your children have been able to respond to other forms of discipline, then I'm all for it. But the legal moves afoot here in Tasmania tend to promote 'reasoning' with your child. I've been watching 'The Human Body', an excellent BBC series, and it states that the human brain becomes capable of empathy at about 6. There is certainly no way when my two year old is DESTROYING things that I can expect to discuss with him why this is a bad thing. Debs wrote: I respected my parents without the need for it. If you're claiming you were born respecting your parents authority so they never had to punish you, you did what they said of your own volition when you always had to option to draw on the walls, stay up late and throw rocks at the windows, then you were a miracle baby. Could you make some for the rest of us ? Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
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Spanking has its place as a means to get a childs attention if all else fails. If done, it should be one smack, swift, not very hard, but enough to get them to listen to you. Then you can continue to discilpine. It should also not be used very often, as it an exclamation saying "Hey!! Kid! I'm telling you stop, and you will listen". I have no children, so maybe I'm talking trash, but it seems reasonable, and worked for me as a child. BW "I'm coming with you! I got you fired, it's the least I can do. Well, the least I could do is absolutely nothing, but I'll go you one better and come along!" - Homer J. Simpson
My goodness - someone with no kids who is making a sensible statement in this thread !!! I agree - smacking should be one only, controlled, and a mechanism for re-enforcement of discussion of what is right and wrong. Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
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Christian Graus wrote: Get back to me when you have kids Christian Graus wrote: 'Reasoning' with a two year old does not work, saying 'no' is meaningless if all you do when they ignore you is say 'no' again. I have a child. Maybe I am lucky, but we are good freinds, and have a terrific relationship. Mpt to say that he stretches his wings a bit now and then and tries to assert himself. I deal with it in a non-violent manner. Do I hit? NO. Have I been known to yell LOUDLY? YES. There is always an alternative when it comes to raising a hand to a child. Period.
Ray Cassick wrote: I have a child. Maybe I am lucky, but we are good freinds, and have a terrific relationship. You're not lucky, you've obviously worked at it. It doesn't happen any other way. To restate - I have two. My six year old daughter gets a smack from time to time, and my two year old son rarely does. The reason is that he does not respond to being smacked, he is just as upset by being told 'no' ( which didn't phase Hannah at all ) and either way tends to keep doing wrong until he is sent to his room. I don't smack because I like to, if it does not work in disciplining him, there is no point, so he gets sent to his room. The point is that I have an amazing relationship with Hannah, Calvin tends to prefer his mother. So it does not follow that physical discipline will capsise a relationship with a child. Ray Cassick wrote: Mpt to say that he stretches his wings a bit now and then and tries to assert himself. I bet he does :-) Ray Cassick wrote: Have I been known to yell LOUDLY? YES. To be honest, yelling loud shows that you have lost control, a controlled smack to me is more consistent with the goal of teaching the child, rather than just losing your temper and being free to because you're the biggest. Ray Cassick wrote: There is always an alternative when it comes to raising a hand to a child. You'll note that I am not stupid enough to claim that all children need to be smacked, I am just saying that it is an effective form of discipline for some children and should not be banned by law. I've seen the usual alternative, it's brats running around the supermarket, playing on the roads, spitting on their teachers and generally growing up with the mistaken idea that they can do what they want. I presume this is not what you mean by 'spreading his wings', but one mistake too many parents make is to not be able to see their child through other peoples eyes. 'Look how advanced he is, he can flick matchs and he's only three', sort of thing. If you want to yell your guts out, do so. My mother did the same and while it taught me to do what she wanted, it did not teach me to respect her. I say again that every child is different, but my 6 year old has had her share of smacks and the end result is that she knows when I say to do something I mean it, I mean it for her own benefit, and she loves me to bits. Christian No offense, but I don't really wan
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Why are you so defensive and touchy? You post something here and ask about how things are in different countries.. then you critise. When I used the word "beat", I meant "beat". When I said, "smack".. I meant "smack". In this country, people still "beat" children! Why can't I enter this debate if I don't have children? You are not the only man with a child! I have cousins, friend's children who look up to me... I've been a child! You are not very open-minded.
Pett wrote: When I used the word "beat", I meant "beat". When I said, "smack".. I meant "smack". I was commenting about a number of past discussions where people used the terms interchangably. I said smack, they said beat. Pett wrote: In this country, people still "beat" children! Then someone should beat the crap out of them. Pett wrote: Why can't I enter this debate if I don't have children? You can, but only if you admit ignorance to begin with. Pett wrote: You are not the only man with a child! That's good news, otherwise who would she marry ? Pett wrote: I have cousins, friend's children who look up to me... I've been a child! In none of those cases were you responsible for helping a young life evolve into a human being capable of participating in society. Pett wrote: You are not very open-minded. You've only just noticed ? Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
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Debs wrote: This just doesn't follow: you don't smack kids and they go off the rails? No, if you don't discipline a child, then they are going to have no guidance as to what is right and wrong, and it's a toss of the dice if they end up in jail or not. Debs wrote: Threatening to withdraw his gameboy is pretty much the ultimate threat... That worked when he was 2, did it ? Debs wrote: but I very much resent the fact that you are arguing that society would be better off if we all did it! Fine - if both you and your children have been able to respond to other forms of discipline, then I'm all for it. But the legal moves afoot here in Tasmania tend to promote 'reasoning' with your child. I've been watching 'The Human Body', an excellent BBC series, and it states that the human brain becomes capable of empathy at about 6. There is certainly no way when my two year old is DESTROYING things that I can expect to discuss with him why this is a bad thing. Debs wrote: I respected my parents without the need for it. If you're claiming you were born respecting your parents authority so they never had to punish you, you did what they said of your own volition when you always had to option to draw on the walls, stay up late and throw rocks at the windows, then you were a miracle baby. Could you make some for the rest of us ? Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
Christian Graus wrote: No, if you don't discipline a child, then they are going to have no guidance as to what is right and wrong, and it's a toss of the dice if they end up in jail or not. Originally, you were equating discipline inextricably with smacking in your quote. It doesn't always, and, indeed you yourself say as much elsewhere. Christian Graus wrote: That worked when he was 2, did it ? No of course it didn't. I didn't mean it a literal advice for all parents everywhere to use for all children at all ages. It was a tongue-in-cheek comment to imply I had more ways of disciplining my children than hitting them. I wouldn't be so arrogant as to imply that my way of parenting is ideal for everyone. It works for me, and I resent anyone else telling me how I should do it. Your original rant was against the powers-that-be trying to enforce their set of rules on you, yet you appear to be trying to tell me that your way of parenting is better than mine? It isn't not for *my* kids, but I'm not trying to tell you that my way would work better than yours. Christian Graus wrote: If you're claiming you were born respecting your parents authority so they never had to punish you, you did what they said of your own volition when you always had to option to draw on the walls, stay up late and throw rocks at the windows, then you were a miracle baby. Could you make some for the rest of us ? Excuse me, but where exactly did I say I had no punishments, no discipline? Again, you are misinterpreting my comment that I was not hit as a child to mean I had no discipline. The two are not inextricably linked, you know? Debbie
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Christian Graus wrote: No, if you don't discipline a child, then they are going to have no guidance as to what is right and wrong, and it's a toss of the dice if they end up in jail or not. Originally, you were equating discipline inextricably with smacking in your quote. It doesn't always, and, indeed you yourself say as much elsewhere. Christian Graus wrote: That worked when he was 2, did it ? No of course it didn't. I didn't mean it a literal advice for all parents everywhere to use for all children at all ages. It was a tongue-in-cheek comment to imply I had more ways of disciplining my children than hitting them. I wouldn't be so arrogant as to imply that my way of parenting is ideal for everyone. It works for me, and I resent anyone else telling me how I should do it. Your original rant was against the powers-that-be trying to enforce their set of rules on you, yet you appear to be trying to tell me that your way of parenting is better than mine? It isn't not for *my* kids, but I'm not trying to tell you that my way would work better than yours. Christian Graus wrote: If you're claiming you were born respecting your parents authority so they never had to punish you, you did what they said of your own volition when you always had to option to draw on the walls, stay up late and throw rocks at the windows, then you were a miracle baby. Could you make some for the rest of us ? Excuse me, but where exactly did I say I had no punishments, no discipline? Again, you are misinterpreting my comment that I was not hit as a child to mean I had no discipline. The two are not inextricably linked, you know? Debbie
Anonymous wrote: Your original rant was against the powers-that-be trying to enforce their set of rules on you, yet you appear to be trying to tell me that your way of parenting is better than mine? The majority of parents in my experience who are against smacking are the owners of uncontrollable brats. I realise the majority != all, but it IS the majority. If you have used another method that works in your case, that is fine. However, when I spoke originally I was not speaking to any one person, I was speaking generally, and in general, the children of the 'how could you punish your child' brigade are insufferable. I'm sure your children are well behaved little angels. :rose: Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
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Ray Cassick wrote: They rememebr it (even if you think they don't). I do. I am sorry that you were smacked out of anger, or in an otherwise inappropriate manner, and that it has clouded your judgement. No kids, right ? Either that, or they will end up in prison. I was smacked out of anger a lot, too, but that does not mean that I have some airy-fairy notion of parenting that has no basis in reality. It means that I know the difference between 'smacking' and 'beating'. It disturbs me when this is discussed how many people use the terms interchangably. Ray Cassick wrote: It's not just the fact that you say NO, it's how you say it... Ray Cassick wrote: I just do not belive in hitting children at all. Get back to me when you have kids, and if you still think that there is some magic intonation in your voice that makes a child obey you right off without any guidance, then get back to me when they are in jail. Seriously, I am sick of bleeding heart crap from people who have no idea. I am truly sorry that you've had a bad experience, but this jump from one extreme to another is what is killing society as a whole. Reasonable use of physical punishment in a consistent manner is part of teaching a child how to turn into a socially responsbile adult. 'Reasoning' with a two year old does not work, saying 'no' is meaningless if all you do when they ignore you is say 'no' again. Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
Christian Graus wrote: Get back to me when you have kids, and if you still think that there is some magic intonation in your voice that makes a child obey you right off without any guidance, then get back to me when they are in jail. Christian Graus wrote: 'Reasoning' with a two year old does not work, saying 'no' is meaningless if all you do when they ignore you is say 'no' again. My son will be 6 in a couple of months and NO doesn't work most of the time. He knows he will be in the shit and get a belting but seems intent on pushing the boundaries anyway. If I followed the no smacking rule he would be completely out of control. I await the government that introduces such a stupid law, I expect my public smacking of said Prime Minister would give me national coverage. Michael Martin Australia mjm68@tpg.com.au "I personally love it because I can get as down and dirty as I want on the backend, while also being able to dabble with fun scripting and presentation games on the front end." - Chris Maunder 15/07/2002
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Christian Graus wrote: I should send you people my 2 year old for a bit, there is obviously some trick I am missing Put him on a plane !! I'll pick him up. -> I have never smacked my kids. My reasoning is that, I'll sort things out before it becomes a problem. The wife thinks I have to much control over the kids because I can make them cry by telling them that they have upset me. ->I hope that I never have to smack them, but I'd do it if I thought it was necessary, after seeking all other alternatives or their life's were endangered. No, even though I think smacking isn't needed I still don't want that right removed from me. ->Unfortunatly a lot of other parents still seem to use physical punishment far to easily. Smacking or even threatening to smack a child on a regular basis, I see as stupidity, and proof that a parent has a lack of communication with the child. My opinions anyhow. :-) Regardz Colin J Davies
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You are the intrepid one, always willing to leap into the fray! A serious character flaw, I might add, but entertaining. Said by Roger Wright about me.
Colin Davies wrote: The wife thinks I have to much control over the kids because I can make them cry by telling them that they have upset me. Me too. It reeks of mind games. Michael Martin Australia mjm68@tpg.com.au "I personally love it because I can get as down and dirty as I want on the backend, while also being able to dabble with fun scripting and presentation games on the front end." - Chris Maunder 15/07/2002
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Christian Graus wrote: Get back to me when you have kids, and if you still think that there is some magic intonation in your voice that makes a child obey you right off without any guidance, then get back to me when they are in jail. Christian Graus wrote: 'Reasoning' with a two year old does not work, saying 'no' is meaningless if all you do when they ignore you is say 'no' again. My son will be 6 in a couple of months and NO doesn't work most of the time. He knows he will be in the shit and get a belting but seems intent on pushing the boundaries anyway. If I followed the no smacking rule he would be completely out of control. I await the government that introduces such a stupid law, I expect my public smacking of said Prime Minister would give me national coverage. Michael Martin Australia mjm68@tpg.com.au "I personally love it because I can get as down and dirty as I want on the backend, while also being able to dabble with fun scripting and presentation games on the front end." - Chris Maunder 15/07/2002
Michael Martin wrote: If I followed the no smacking rule he would be completely out of control. We know people who do not smack or discipline their kids, we do not visit them anymore. It's just unbearable. Michael Martin wrote: I await the government that introduces such a stupid law, I expect my public smacking of said Prime Minister would give me national coverage. You smack Jim Bacon, I'll pay for your ticket here myself... Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
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Anonymous wrote: Your original rant was against the powers-that-be trying to enforce their set of rules on you, yet you appear to be trying to tell me that your way of parenting is better than mine? The majority of parents in my experience who are against smacking are the owners of uncontrollable brats. I realise the majority != all, but it IS the majority. If you have used another method that works in your case, that is fine. However, when I spoke originally I was not speaking to any one person, I was speaking generally, and in general, the children of the 'how could you punish your child' brigade are insufferable. I'm sure your children are well behaved little angels. :rose: Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
Christian Graus wrote: The majority of parents in my experience who are against smacking are the owners of uncontrollable brats. Well, I'm glad to see that you aren't making such sweeping generalisations as earlier. My experience differs from yours: I've seen brattish behaviour in similar measures from those who are subject to smacks and those who aren't. It would be interesting to see any less subjective stats on the delinquency vs. smacking issue, because I feel it isn't so polarised as your experience would show. Maybe you just have bad neighbours :eek:. Christian Graus wrote: I'm sure your children are well behaved little angels. I'd be very, very worried if they were, all the time! They have their moments, but they are generally well behaved and considerate and I'm very proud of them. OK, I'm as biased as any other parent, so that is just my perpective! Debbie
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My goodness - someone with no kids who is making a sensible statement in this thread !!! I agree - smacking should be one only, controlled, and a mechanism for re-enforcement of discussion of what is right and wrong. Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002
Christian Graus wrote: My goodness - someone with no kids who is making a sensible statement in this thread !!! Which should be giving you a clue to the fact that maybe you are assuming that his statement is sensible because you agree. There are however an overwhelming lot of psychiatrists that would disagree on violence as an educational tool. And why would it be a hindrance to comment on the subject just because I don't have children myself (yet), I mean, following that thread wouldn't that make it illegal to discuss politics or religion unless your'e a politician or a priest?. "After all it's just text at the end of the day. - Colin Davies "For example, when a VB programmer comes to my house, they may say 'does your pool need cleaning, sir ?' " - Christian Graus
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Christian Graus wrote: The majority of parents in my experience who are against smacking are the owners of uncontrollable brats. Well, I'm glad to see that you aren't making such sweeping generalisations as earlier. My experience differs from yours: I've seen brattish behaviour in similar measures from those who are subject to smacks and those who aren't. It would be interesting to see any less subjective stats on the delinquency vs. smacking issue, because I feel it isn't so polarised as your experience would show. Maybe you just have bad neighbours :eek:. Christian Graus wrote: I'm sure your children are well behaved little angels. I'd be very, very worried if they were, all the time! They have their moments, but they are generally well behaved and considerate and I'm very proud of them. OK, I'm as biased as any other parent, so that is just my perpective! Debbie
Debs wrote: My experience differs from yours: I've seen brattish behaviour in similar measures from those who are subject to smacks and those who aren't Me too - the key is being consistent. Some of the worst kids I have seen are kids who get beaten in anger, when the parent is sick of just saying 'no' and not getting a result. The children are brats because they are not being controlled, they have simply learned that whatever they do, they RISK being smacked ( in an unreasonable manner ), but 9 times out of 10 they get away with it. They feel neither love nor security. Debs wrote: OK, I'm as biased as any other parent Hell, aren't we all ? :rose: Christian No offense, but I don't really want to encourage the creation of another VB developer. - Larry Antram 22 Oct 2002 Hey, at least Logo had, at it's inception, a mechanical turtle. VB has always lacked even that... - Shog9 04-09-2002 During last 10 years, with invention of VB and similar programming environments, every ill-educated moron became able to develop software. - Alex E. - 12-Sept-2002