A Date
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Just try to relax: don't start gushing and DO NOT give her anything on the first date; no flowers or chocolates or little gifts: that is just creepy. The best way to be is amusing: make a woman laugh and you've pretty much done all you need to do. And do not force a kiss at the end of the date: let it happen and it doesn't always. Whatever happens be polite and charming: she'll appreciate it which means you might get to appreciate it! Oh, and do not put on too much after shave; best not to use anything that makes you smell odd. Most of all just have fun.
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Digital's advice is probably the best in this thread so far. Do NOT turn up with gifts - the signal you're giving is that you're not good enough on your own so you need to buy her time and affection. Not a good thing. Also realise that she's probably at least as nervous as you - it's your job to set her at ease by being a man and leading the way. That means that you've got to act comfortable and relaxed. Don't push into her personal space - lean back. This will make you appear less needy and more confident. Try not to fidget and don't feel like you've got to fill every second of time with conversation. The big one - first dates aren't about you. This is an opportunity for her to talk about herself (which most women love to do!) Ask about her interests, family, friends, experiences. Don't talk over her and try not to interrupt or be rude like that. Try and pick up on things she says and ask questions about that. Dinner for two is fine on a first date (though not what I'd do personally). See if you can meet her for a drink in a nice bar first so you can say hello and have a chat for a few minutes. Don't drink too much - you'll want to keep an eye on this, especially if you're nervous. Above all, try and enjoy yourself - if you can have fun, this will rub off on her and she'll have fun too and that's got to work out better. Remember, attraction isn't a choice - it's something you can create!
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_Damian S_ wrote:
you have the nicest earlobes I've ever seen
but only if she is a ferengi.
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OK, I think the barrel of monkeys is empty now. :doh: Since any future relationship requires friendship why not treat it as having a meal with someone and simply enjoying the companionship? Being able to share things - e.g. kind of films - can open up conversations and it is fine to have different interests. I'm saying to simply enjoy time with someone and if a relationship develop in time then that is something else. It's a way to take the pressure off and be yourself. Good luck. Elaine :rose:
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Stick a fresh fish in your pocket. If conversation gets difficult, whip it (the fish) out as a magic trick. Works for me all the time.
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Digital's advice is probably the best in this thread so far. Do NOT turn up with gifts - the signal you're giving is that you're not good enough on your own so you need to buy her time and affection. Not a good thing. Also realise that she's probably at least as nervous as you - it's your job to set her at ease by being a man and leading the way. That means that you've got to act comfortable and relaxed. Don't push into her personal space - lean back. This will make you appear less needy and more confident. Try not to fidget and don't feel like you've got to fill every second of time with conversation. The big one - first dates aren't about you. This is an opportunity for her to talk about herself (which most women love to do!) Ask about her interests, family, friends, experiences. Don't talk over her and try not to interrupt or be rude like that. Try and pick up on things she says and ask questions about that. Dinner for two is fine on a first date (though not what I'd do personally). See if you can meet her for a drink in a nice bar first so you can say hello and have a chat for a few minutes. Don't drink too much - you'll want to keep an eye on this, especially if you're nervous. Above all, try and enjoy yourself - if you can have fun, this will rub off on her and she'll have fun too and that's got to work out better. Remember, attraction isn't a choice - it's something you can create!
Sarchasm : The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.
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Zen and the art of software maintenance : rm -rf * Math is like love : a simple idea but it can get complicated.
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dinner date? no spaghetti. or anything with red sauce hopefully. unless you are adept at noodling. (the art of eating noodles without slurping or looking like me) cocktail? perfect. coffee? Never for a first date. coffee makes people agitated and raises alertness. as opposed to a nice glass of red wine which helps...lubricate the rough spots :P
jgasm wrote:
cocktail? perfect.
You didn't write that... Really!!! :omg:
I wasn't, now I am, then I won't be anymore.
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Stick a fresh fish in your pocket. If conversation gets difficult, whip it (the fish) out as a magic trick. Works for me all the time.
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And if you hide a loaf of bread in the other, you can perform miracles...
I wasn't, now I am, then I won't be anymore.
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My advice is be yourself (if she doesn't like the real you it won't last anyway) and don't drink too much (too drunk is not attractive and you tend to lose your judgement). Have fun!
Ali
I've lost many things when I'm drunk, but I've never heard it called by that name before. :)
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My advice is be yourself (if she doesn't like the real you it won't last anyway) and don't drink too much (too drunk is not attractive and you tend to lose your judgement). Have fun!
Ali
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Very well thought out statement.
I thought there'd be more interest, though...
Will Rogers never met me.
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Stop farting on the first date and you may get a chance to find the right one.
"If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." Red Adair. nils illegitimus carborundum me, me, me
If I found the right one, how would I find any time for CP? :confused:
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talk a lot about your friendship with Micheal Martin that will impress her Bryce
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bryce wrote:
talk a lot about your friendship with Micheal Martin that will impress her
Indeed it does, that is why you have managed to get your Missus to stick around as long as you have. Unfortunately I don't have a clue who this bloke is, so he won't be as lucky as you were, when impressing your Missus.
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