Love?
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Hand yourself in to the local police, you are a stalker, and given the determination you have to inject yourself into her life, a potentional threat to her. If she is becoming less receptive it is because her instincts are to avoid you. Seriously, get help, I have read about cases like this. It appears you have little or no experience, thus you are posting here, and have limited social interaction or skills, otherwise you would be asking friends. The fact you are here indicates you have no friends, and this is a major indicator of other underlying psychological problems. Difficult childhood? Overbearing Mother? You need to get out more and develop more social interaction, otherwise you will become fixated with this woman, it will lead to anger when you are finally told to fuck off, and then will come violence. From what I can tell from your post you are borderline sociopath, emotionally immature and lacking in self esteem. Seek help immediately.
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It's not what I think It's what I want. So I guess that does Make Me a ummmm (trying to think of a nice way to say stalker) Dedicated voyer. :laugh:
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If you, even in your hopelessly enamoured state, sense that she's not interested... well, I've been down this road, many have. You'd be doing yourself a huge favour to move on.
That is what I was thinking. But I want to hear it from her. I'm only speculating on her cooling off cause she started this to begin with. Now I'm not sure what to think. Despite what You may think, I want Her to be happy either way. Just I want to know how she feel's!
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Little harsh, don't you think? Not every little boy with a crush is a sociopath. (or is this humour that I'm not getting?)
Look at the larger picture. He comes to a developers forum to ask whether his behaviour is appropriate. He is not asking friends or family, one has to ask why? Given that he has already admitted to stalking shows that he has psychological issues. I was being serious. Ed Gein was a lonely child with an overbearing mother, he had no social interaction and had a friendless existance. He too became fixated with women, and would stalk them. Wiki Entry[^] Not a nice man I think.
------------------------------------ I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC League Table Link CCC Link[^]
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Look at the larger picture. He comes to a developers forum to ask whether his behaviour is appropriate. He is not asking friends or family, one has to ask why? Given that he has already admitted to stalking shows that he has psychological issues. I was being serious. Ed Gein was a lonely child with an overbearing mother, he had no social interaction and had a friendless existance. He too became fixated with women, and would stalk them. Wiki Entry[^] Not a nice man I think.
------------------------------------ I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC League Table Link CCC Link[^]
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Dalek Dave wrote:
Not a nice man I think.
Oh...he was influenced top dangerous fictional characters. :omg:
thatraja
**My Tip/Tricks
My Dad had a Heart Attack on this day so don't...
**Ed Gein was a real monster, but not the only one. Read about the psychology of other serial killers, patterns emerge.
------------------------------------ I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC League Table Link CCC Link[^]
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For The last Year I have been consumed with this woman. At first She seemed receptive to My advances, However over the last few week's She has grown ummm Let's just say less receptive.:confused: My thought's are of her and for her but my Internal voice say's STOP! She has Invaded My dream's (verry pleasnt one's) My blog is all about Her. So My question is: Is this love or am I just a stalker? I think at the min. it's borderline OCD :^) Ok the bottom line, What do You think? Please forgive me for posting this here but i need help ;P Frazzle
If I seem rough arround the edeges well I am
frazzle-me wrote:
Is this love or am I just a stalker?
If you ask this, it's because deep down, you know. 'Seemed receptive', I assume means 'little clues' and not any actual interest. Leave this poor woman alone.
Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.
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She has seen what he is and is now cooling. I think he may turn violent. Hmmm violence is not in My nature, My mother God rest her soul was verry Loving. I have talked to My friend's (Despite what You think more than 1) However they have only met her once or twice in case of My ex-wife. Whom I did not ask! My daughter Love's Her as I think I may. I am no wierdo, just trying to express My inner thought's and get feedback.. Thanks for the positive outlook
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That is what I was thinking. But I want to hear it from her. I'm only speculating on her cooling off cause she started this to begin with. Now I'm not sure what to think. Despite what You may think, I want Her to be happy either way. Just I want to know how she feel's!
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Ed Gein was a real monster, but not the only one. Read about the psychology of other serial killers, patterns emerge.
------------------------------------ I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC League Table Link CCC Link[^]
All I'm saying is I think it's a bit quick for you to be seeing these patterns emerge. In fact, I believe you have to have done something more than once for it to be considered a pattern. You've never felt like this? I know loads of people, normal people, who have behaved like this at some point in their life (read: when they were teenagers).
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Yes, and she said "I don't know if it's Love, but she like's My company" But I still wonder if this could be "The One". Or is She as they say "stringing Me along" I think I have made My feeling's quite clear. Both here and to her, as well as on My blog. As Dave was saying: I do not have the greatest of social skill's. But I have no problem talking about My feeling's. If that make's me "dangerous" I guess everyone secure with thier own feeling's is equally dangerous. Thanks for not assuming I am a pervert
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You forgot to include your age.
thatraja
**My Tip/Tricks
My Dad had a Heart Attack on this day so don't...
**I am 52, She is 56
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Yes, and she said "I don't know if it's Love, but she like's My company" But I still wonder if this could be "The One". Or is She as they say "stringing Me along" I think I have made My feeling's quite clear. Both here and to her, as well as on My blog. As Dave was saying: I do not have the greatest of social skill's. But I have no problem talking about My feeling's. If that make's me "dangerous" I guess everyone secure with thier own feeling's is equally dangerous. Thanks for not assuming I am a pervert
frazzle-me wrote:
Yes, and she said "I don't know if it's Love, but she like's My company"
frazzle-me wrote:
Or is She as they say "stringing Me along"
frazzle-me wrote:
I think I have made My feeling's quite clear.
If you can swear to yourself that all these things are 100% true. Bail. Bail now. I know you don't want to, but stop investing effort in this relationship. If she will ever be interested in you, she may go looking for you. If she is stringing you along, she will be upset that you are not paying her enough attention. If you are not up to cutting her out, then you need to be comfortable with the fact you will only ever be this woman's friend. You will most likely watch her have fun with other men, date them etc. and harbouring a secret love for her will only make this friendship more painful. I have had this exact situation several times personally and so have friends. Girls like this like attention, you need to stop giving it to her because she's toying with what seems to me to be your sensitive personality. She'll tear your heart out and stomp on it time and time again until you stop giving her the power to do so. PS I don't know you or her personally nor much about the circumstances - obviously you should take what I say with a grain of salt, I am only telling you from my personal experience and those of close friends. Taking love advice from a programming forum could be dangerous :)
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frazzle-me wrote:
Yes, and she said "I don't know if it's Love, but she like's My company"
frazzle-me wrote:
Or is She as they say "stringing Me along"
frazzle-me wrote:
I think I have made My feeling's quite clear.
If you can swear to yourself that all these things are 100% true. Bail. Bail now. I know you don't want to, but stop investing effort in this relationship. If she will ever be interested in you, she may go looking for you. If she is stringing you along, she will be upset that you are not paying her enough attention. If you are not up to cutting her out, then you need to be comfortable with the fact you will only ever be this woman's friend. You will most likely watch her have fun with other men, date them etc. and harbouring a secret love for her will only make this friendship more painful. I have had this exact situation several times personally and so have friends. Girls like this like attention, you need to stop giving it to her because she's toying with what seems to me to be your sensitive personality. She'll tear your heart out and stomp on it time and time again until you stop giving her the power to do so. PS I don't know you or her personally nor much about the circumstances - obviously you should take what I say with a grain of salt, I am only telling you from my personal experience and those of close friends. Taking love advice from a programming forum could be dangerous :)
So what you are saying is: Trying to gain feedback from My peer's, Is not the way to get other perspective's on this matter. so maybe the news paper? JK I will take Your advice into consideration, I also have seen this kind of behavior from other women, However She is sweet but... (here is why I am confused) She is well let's just say not as affectionate as I. Maybe I am too emotional, ??? But that is how I feel. The funny thing is, I met her in a poker tourney. we laughed accross the table at things that were being said over the table. She won the tourney, I came in second, (texas Holdem) That was the day she stole My heart
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frazzle-me wrote:
Is this love or am I just a stalker?
If you ask this, it's because deep down, you know. 'Seemed receptive', I assume means 'little clues' and not any actual interest. Leave this poor woman alone.
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For The last Year I have been consumed with this woman. At first She seemed receptive to My advances, However over the last few week's She has grown ummm Let's just say less receptive.:confused: My thought's are of her and for her but my Internal voice say's STOP! She has Invaded My dream's (verry pleasnt one's) My blog is all about Her. So My question is: Is this love or am I just a stalker? I think at the min. it's borderline OCD :^) Ok the bottom line, What do You think? Please forgive me for posting this here but i need help ;P Frazzle
If I seem rough arround the edeges well I am
frazzle-me wrote:
love
This word does not exist here. (This is a site visited only by geeks).
The funniest thing about this particular signature is that by the time you realise it doesn't say anything it's too late to stop reading it. My latest tip/trick
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frazzle-me wrote:
love
This word does not exist here. (This is a site visited only by geeks).
The funniest thing about this particular signature is that by the time you realise it doesn't say anything it's too late to stop reading it. My latest tip/trick
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Frazzle the name say's it all
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Look at the larger picture. He comes to a developers forum to ask whether his behaviour is appropriate. He is not asking friends or family, one has to ask why? Given that he has already admitted to stalking shows that he has psychological issues. I was being serious. Ed Gein was a lonely child with an overbearing mother, he had no social interaction and had a friendless existance. He too became fixated with women, and would stalk them. Wiki Entry[^] Not a nice man I think.
------------------------------------ I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC League Table Link CCC Link[^]
Ed Gein was a very good fellow you know...
You must be careful in the forest Broken glass and rusty nails If you're to bring back something for us I have bullets for sale...
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So what you are saying is: Trying to gain feedback from My peer's, Is not the way to get other perspective's on this matter. so maybe the news paper? JK I will take Your advice into consideration, I also have seen this kind of behavior from other women, However She is sweet but... (here is why I am confused) She is well let's just say not as affectionate as I. Maybe I am too emotional, ??? But that is how I feel. The funny thing is, I met her in a poker tourney. we laughed accross the table at things that were being said over the table. She won the tourney, I came in second, (texas Holdem) That was the day she stole My heart
frazzle-me wrote:
So what you are saying is: Trying to gain feedback from My peer's, Is not the way to get other perspective's on this matter. so maybe the news paper? JK
Hahaha :laugh: I meant that the stereotypical IT community has little clue as to female matters :doh:
frazzle-me wrote:
Maybe I am too emotional, ??? But that is how I feel. [...] That was the day she stole My heart
Sounds like you've got a serious case of love sickness... I think you need to answer all these questions for yourself. Maybe this is just what the doctor ordered - a forum you can open your heart to, the proverbial sounding board, so that you can hear for yourself the answer. Sounds mushy but these matters are rarely solved by others (at least in my experience). Good luck, whatever happens :) For the record, I don't think you're a stalker - but it may upset her or drive her away if your love is far deeper than what she reciprocates.
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For The last Year I have been consumed with this woman. At first She seemed receptive to My advances, However over the last few week's She has grown ummm Let's just say less receptive.:confused: My thought's are of her and for her but my Internal voice say's STOP! She has Invaded My dream's (verry pleasnt one's) My blog is all about Her. So My question is: Is this love or am I just a stalker? I think at the min. it's borderline OCD :^) Ok the bottom line, What do You think? Please forgive me for posting this here but i need help ;P Frazzle
If I seem rough arround the edeges well I am
Have you ever considered becoming gay?