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phykell wrote: but I just don't see the need for humourless spite This isn't about Anna, but I am curious. Is being spiteful acceptable if it is delivered with humor? The only reason I ask is that my wife has a liberal friend who is a self proclaimed "Tolerant person". This woman has been know to say all types of cruel and intolerant things to myself and others and then say, "Only joking" when someone takes offense. Gary Kirkham A working Program is one that has only unobserved bugs I thought I wanted a career, turns out I just wanted paychecks
Gary Kirkham wrote: This isn't about Anna, but I am curious. Is being spiteful acceptable if it is delivered with humor? The only reason I ask is that my wife has a liberal friend who is a self proclaimed "Tolerant person". This woman has been know to say all types of cruel and intolerant things to myself and others and then say, "Only joking" when someone takes offense. I reckon it's probably all about intention. If the woman you mention, honestly means it when she says "only joking" then I guess that's OK, though hopefully, she would then modify her behaviour. If she's not sincere, then in my opinion, it's unacceptable. I just have no time for spiteful people and I really don't understand why they have to be that way. I'm also at a loss why people argue like they do. If you enter an argument, you should be aware of what it is you're trying to achieve. For example, in an argument with my wife, I could know I was in the right and argue forever until she gives in but if I know she will be humiliated if I prove her wrong, then there's no justification. Arguments with family members are the same - you can argue your point until you're blue in the face if you know you're right, but what will the result be? Will you end up not talking to that family member? Will there always be a rift between you as a result? This is my argument against people who say what the hell they want with the excuse that they are entitled to their opinion and anyone who suffers as a consequence deserves to. The World would be a better (and just nicer) place if it wasn't for people like this. "The folly of man is that he dreams of what he can never achieve rather than dream of what he can."
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Bah, ignore John, he just doesn't seem able to grasp the concept that someone can be so different to the norm and just how important it is not to suppress who you are (I am all too familiar with the emotional problems and shame that breeds). John, if you do read this, it takes more guts to admit something like this to yourself that I think you've ever had in you, let alone take the extraordinarily hard step to approach those you love and care about with it. If you think you've experienced insecurities, unadulterated fear and a kind of melancholy hopelessness that even Wordsworth couldn't put onto paper, then trust me mate – you haven't even sighted the iceberg, let alone scraped it. And those people who don't care about Anna don't matter – life doesn't work like that; never has and never will do. In your own choice phrases: I doubt Anna could give a shit what you think of her. Now that's over with, welcome back Anna! I hope this year will be a good one - well done! :rose: I'm looking forward to that new version of ResOrg – it's one of the few adding for VS that I actually use. :)
David Wulff http://www.davidwulff.co.uk
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I don't agree with what Anna has done with his life, but its his life. I'd rather not hear about it like John, but I think he has just as much of a right to post (in the soapbox) as anyone else. John does say what he feels, but that can get you into trouble. Sometimes its better to be quiet than to be [EDIT]vocal[/EDIT] about your feelings.
Jason Henderson
start page ; articles henderson is coming henderson is an opponent's worst nightmare * googlism *Jason, I know we disagree on this subject, but I'd appreciate it if you don't refer me as "he" or "his". Please? Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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Well, dammit! Someone has to say it: That really took balls! :omg: "Any clod can have the facts, but having opinions is an art." Charles McCabe, San Francisco Chronicle
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John, Guess what? I don't care what you think. You're bigotry is your problem, not mine. You leave me to live my life and I'll leave you to live yours, OK? I may have been born looking like a guy, but that doesn't mean I have to spend the rest of my life pretending to be one. One more thing. As far as how I look is concerned, I'm quite happy with my appearance and figure, and so it seems are most others...I've been receiving emails at work today congratulating me on how good I look, and I don't get a second glance when I go out in public. Stay out of my life and I'll stay out of yours. Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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Jason, I know we disagree on this subject, but I'd appreciate it if you don't refer me as "he" or "his". Please? Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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It will be difficult, because I think of you as still being male but hiding it. I would be lying and I really can't do that. I will do my best to avoid the situation. I hope you can understand.
Jason Henderson
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Bah, ignore John, he just doesn't seem able to grasp the concept that someone can be so different to the norm and just how important it is not to suppress who you are (I am all too familiar with the emotional problems and shame that breeds). John, if you do read this, it takes more guts to admit something like this to yourself that I think you've ever had in you, let alone take the extraordinarily hard step to approach those you love and care about with it. If you think you've experienced insecurities, unadulterated fear and a kind of melancholy hopelessness that even Wordsworth couldn't put onto paper, then trust me mate – you haven't even sighted the iceberg, let alone scraped it. And those people who don't care about Anna don't matter – life doesn't work like that; never has and never will do. In your own choice phrases: I doubt Anna could give a shit what you think of her. Now that's over with, welcome back Anna! I hope this year will be a good one - well done! :rose: I'm looking forward to that new version of ResOrg – it's one of the few adding for VS that I actually use. :)
David Wulff http://www.davidwulff.co.uk
Thanks Dave. :) I do try my best to ignore John and his bigotted comments, but at times I really do have to restrain myself from telling him what I think of his opinions! :mad: As far as the new version of ResOrg goes - once the code's done, I expect to have to take at least a couple of weeks to update the help and website. That's the real boring bit. :| Once I get that far I'm quite happy to send you an advance copy (I'd guess source is best) so you can have a sneak preview. Just let me know. :) Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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Well, dammit! Someone has to say it: That really took balls! :omg: "Any clod can have the facts, but having opinions is an art." Charles McCabe, San Francisco Chronicle
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He actually looks kinda gay if you ask me. :eek:
When I am king, you will be first against the wall.
This is getting into a real mud wrestling match. ;P I will admit he could very easily have been in The Village People, but you shouldn't go round calling people gay or lesbian purely because of how they look or act - that creates bad stereotypes and gives John something to laugh about. :rolleyes:
David Wulff http://www.davidwulff.co.uk
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Well, dammit! Someone has to say it: That really took balls! :omg: "Any clod can have the facts, but having opinions is an art." Charles McCabe, San Francisco Chronicle
Stan Shannon wrote: Well, dammit! Someone has to say it: That really took balls! It sure did. :-O But now it's done, I've got a pair going spare. Hmmm....Ebay? :wtf: Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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Well, dammit! Someone has to say it: That really took balls! :omg: "Any clod can have the facts, but having opinions is an art." Charles McCabe, San Francisco Chronicle
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Stan Shannon wrote: Well, dammit! Someone has to say it: That really took balls! It sure did. :-O But now it's done, I've got a pair going spare. Hmmm....Ebay? :wtf: Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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Anna-Jayne Metcalfe wrote: Ebay Someone is bound to buy them (I hear they are quite a delicatessen in Germany ;P)!
David Wulff http://www.davidwulff.co.uk
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Thanks Dave. :) I do try my best to ignore John and his bigotted comments, but at times I really do have to restrain myself from telling him what I think of his opinions! :mad: As far as the new version of ResOrg goes - once the code's done, I expect to have to take at least a couple of weeks to update the help and website. That's the real boring bit. :| Once I get that far I'm quite happy to send you an advance copy (I'd guess source is best) so you can have a sneak preview. Just let me know. :) Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
- Marcia GraeschTrouble with resource IDs? Try the Resource ID Organiser Add-In for Visual C++
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John, Guess what? I don't care what you think. You're bigotry is your problem, not mine. You leave me to live my life and I'll leave you to live yours, OK? I may have been born looking like a guy, but that doesn't mean I have to spend the rest of my life pretending to be one. One more thing. As far as how I look is concerned, I'm quite happy with my appearance and figure, and so it seems are most others...I've been receiving emails at work today congratulating me on how good I look, and I don't get a second glance when I go out in public. Stay out of my life and I'll stay out of yours. Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
- Marcia GraeschTrouble with resource IDs? Try the Resource ID Organiser Add-In for Visual C++
A close friend of the family (husband of my mum's closest friend) has recently come out, and I'm finding some of the bigotted reactions of people around me very surprising (and tbh I found the entire concept a bit unreal myself, to start out) I'm glad you're comfortable at work, as he (hmm, still feels strange thinking of someone I've known all my life as a him, as a her) lectures in a university, so I imagine there could be some incredibly hurtful comments from the students. I know I was hugely reluctant to see the photos, but she does look fantastic, and more importantly, looks happy which is the most important thing, imo Oh yeah, I notice you like to Jennifer Diane Reitz's site - are you hooked on unicornjelly.com[^] too? -- Help me! I'm turning into a grapefruit!
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This is getting into a real mud wrestling match. ;P I will admit he could very easily have been in The Village People, but you shouldn't go round calling people gay or lesbian purely because of how they look or act - that creates bad stereotypes and gives John something to laugh about. :rolleyes:
David Wulff http://www.davidwulff.co.uk
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It will be difficult, because I think of you as still being male but hiding it. I would be lying and I really can't do that. I will do my best to avoid the situation. I hope you can understand.
Jason Henderson
start page ; articles henderson is coming henderson is an opponent's worst nightmare * googlism *I really do Jason. :rose: It just hurts when I hear it, I'm afraid. Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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Anna-Jayne Metcalfe wrote: Ebay Someone is bound to buy them (I hear they are quite a delicatessen in Germany ;P)!
David Wulff http://www.davidwulff.co.uk
David Wulff wrote: Someone is bound to buy them (I hear they are quite a delicatessen in Germany )! That's the scariest thing! Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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I do try, but don't always succeed! :-O Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
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It will be difficult, because I think of you as still being male but hiding it. I would be lying and I really can't do that. I will do my best to avoid the situation. I hope you can understand.
Jason Henderson
start page ; articles henderson is coming henderson is an opponent's worst nightmare * googlism *Jason Henderson wrote: It will be difficult, because I think of you as still being male but hiding it. I would be lying and I really can't do that. Yet earlier you said "Sometimes its better to be quiet than to be honest about your feelings.", so while not a direct hypocrisy I think it is bordering on one. Also as I am no doubt you are aware I don't believe in idly sitting by when I disagree with something. I do try and be constructively critical though.
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Stan Shannon wrote: Well, dammit! Someone has to say it: That really took balls! It sure did. :-O But now it's done, I've got a pair going spare. Hmmm....Ebay? :wtf: Anna :rose: www.annasplace.me.uk
"Be yourself - not what others think you should be"
- Marcia GraeschTrouble with resource IDs? Try the Resource ID Organiser Add-In for Visual C++
you kept them? :wtf: Guess they might come in handy for scaring children, or something -- Help me! I'm turning into a grapefruit!
