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  • W wizardzz

    loctrice wrote:

    We discussed private school instead of the nanny, but as I stated in a reply below the nanny gives us more time together with less stress.

    Do you think she will reach an age when time with her peers will beneficial? I'm not trolling, just trying to understand the home school mindset. Most of the people I know that are interested in it for their children are so because they would've liked it themselves.

    "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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    Eventually I believe she will. And when she is old enough to make an educated decision on the matter then I will talk with her and decide what is best. We expect that near high school she will be wanting to be in private school. However, we do make sure she is not socially "cut off". She has friends, she is around people often, etc. Before the nanny we had a daycare we met through some friends of ours. Their two kids were among the several at the daycare, so it was not like she sits around alone or anything. We also have regular family get togethers, and let her invite friends over, etc. We have a friend of mine that comes and picks her up about once a month for the weekend with some other kids. These other kids she met before we moved, so it's like she gets to go hang with her old friends. We are active in making sure she does not have a social stigma. -edit- I didn't think you were trolling, and it's a valid question. Besides, you can't expect that you would be the first to challenge that decision (if you were challenging it I mean). -end-

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      Do you know anyone who didn't utterly hate primary school?

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      wizardzz
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      Well, myself for one, but I guess that makes me out of the ordinary in the engineering world.

      "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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        loctrice wrote:

        My daughter will also tell if anything happens

        Not to be too negative and nothing against you or your daughter but this statement has been made by many a parent before their child is abducted or molested.


        Failure is not an option; it's the default selection.

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        She saw something unfortunate before, and did tell. It didn't happen to her, and she did the right thing. We do talk to her often as well. I am still confident in both the nanny we chose, and my daughter.

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          loctrice wrote:

          run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work

          Sounds like being an adult and parent. Good thing you hired one.


          Failure is not an option; it's the default selection.

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          loctrice
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          Not trying to be combative, just want to take everyone's opinions correctly. In order to do that I need to understand them correctly. Are you saying that as a joke? Or do you mean that I am attempting to escape responsibility that I should shoulder instead? Do you think this was a bad choice? If so, why?

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            Not trying to be combative, just want to take everyone's opinions correctly. In order to do that I need to understand them correctly. Are you saying that as a joke? Or do you mean that I am attempting to escape responsibility that I should shoulder instead? Do you think this was a bad choice? If so, why?

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            It doesn't matter what anyone, here or elsewhere, thinks or what their opinion is. It is your decision.


            Failure is not an option; it's the default selection.

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              It doesn't matter what anyone, here or elsewhere, thinks or what their opinion is. It is your decision.


              Failure is not an option; it's the default selection.

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              loctrice
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              I understand that point of view. I've already made my choice. However, it is beneficial to weigh the opinions of other people and/or peers.

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              • W wizardzz

                Well, myself for one, but I guess that makes me out of the ordinary in the engineering world.

                "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                So it wasn't insanely boring and filled with arrogant teachers who corrected you when you were right and they were wrong, and loads of kids lacking anything remotely resembling brains? Or were you just OK with that?

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                  So it wasn't insanely boring and filled with arrogant teachers who corrected you when you were right and they were wrong, and loads of kids lacking anything remotely resembling brains? Or were you just OK with that?

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                  It was full of that, but so is adult life. You can't exactly homeschool your job. You can work from home, or start your own business, but even then, you will be in contact with dolts. Personally, I was a troublemaker and loved it. Got it out of my system early, and still got a college scholarship.

                  "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                    Eventually I believe she will. And when she is old enough to make an educated decision on the matter then I will talk with her and decide what is best. We expect that near high school she will be wanting to be in private school. However, we do make sure she is not socially "cut off". She has friends, she is around people often, etc. Before the nanny we had a daycare we met through some friends of ours. Their two kids were among the several at the daycare, so it was not like she sits around alone or anything. We also have regular family get togethers, and let her invite friends over, etc. We have a friend of mine that comes and picks her up about once a month for the weekend with some other kids. These other kids she met before we moved, so it's like she gets to go hang with her old friends. We are active in making sure she does not have a social stigma. -edit- I didn't think you were trolling, and it's a valid question. Besides, you can't expect that you would be the first to challenge that decision (if you were challenging it I mean). -end-

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                    wizardzz
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                    Responding to your edit- It's just nice to have an intelligent conversation on the internet.

                    "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                    • W wizardzz

                      Sounds like you hired a fulltime one, yes that is out of the ordinary in the States, especially for a one child house. It is also out of the ordinary to home school, sure plenty of people do it, but it is out of the ordinary. What I find the most out of the ordinary is that you would home school your child, then hire a nanny to teach her? That being said, on the block I live there is one Asian nanny per house (I see them walking the white children like dogwalkers do), one housewife with 2+ children (I see Mrs. Trophy going to and from appointments in their Range Rover), and one male bread winner that is out of town on business 50% of the time (I see the limos every day). So depending on where you live, maybe it is quite ordinary.

                      "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                      wizardzz wrote:

                      I see them walking the white children like dogwalkers do

                      Do they put muzzles on the loud or snippy ones? Do they carry plastic bags to pick up their "business"?

                      Don't blame me. I voted for Chuck Norris.

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                        wizardzz wrote:

                        I see them walking the white children like dogwalkers do

                        Do they put muzzles on the loud or snippy ones? Do they carry plastic bags to pick up their "business"?

                        Don't blame me. I voted for Chuck Norris.

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                        wizardzz
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                        Wouldn't be surprised, but I do see harnesses and leashes

                        "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                        • K kmg365

                          A cow-orker has a Kurdish wife. They shipped one of her relatives over to act as a Nanny/house keeper. He installed nanny cams behind book cases disguised as clocks and such and has a window open on his work computer so he can "make sure every think is all right". :~

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                          kmg365 wrote:

                          A cow-orker has a Kurdish wife.

                          Is that kid sister safe?

                          The difficult we do right away... ...the impossible takes slightly longer.

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                          • W wizardzz

                            It was full of that, but so is adult life. You can't exactly homeschool your job. You can work from home, or start your own business, but even then, you will be in contact with dolts. Personally, I was a troublemaker and loved it. Got it out of my system early, and still got a college scholarship.

                            "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                            Yes but now I'm in the position to avoid them, at a cost sure but at least it's possible. I'm also not locked up with them in a prison where I'm tortured with an endless but far too slow and often inaccurate flow of information that is only occasionally interrupted by a spine-thinker wanting to ask a question that makes QA look good.

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                            • W wizardzz

                              Wouldn't be surprised, but I do see harnesses and leashes

                              "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                              loctrice
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                              I've seen those in the mall. They annoy me.... probably more than they should.

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                              • W wizardzz

                                It was full of that, but so is adult life. You can't exactly homeschool your job. You can work from home, or start your own business, but even then, you will be in contact with dolts. Personally, I was a troublemaker and loved it. Got it out of my system early, and still got a college scholarship.

                                "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                                You don't need to go to a public school to encounter or learn how to deal with "dolts".

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                                  I've seen those in the mall. They annoy me.... probably more than they should.

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                                  wizardzz
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                                  :sigh: They make it so hard to kidnap these days...

                                  "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                                    :sigh: They make it so hard to kidnap these days...

                                    "I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson

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                                    loctrice
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                                    it does come in handy when you need to drag them both away though.....

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                                    • L loctrice

                                      I understand that point of view. I've already made my choice. However, it is beneficial to weigh the opinions of other people and/or peers.

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                                      R Giskard Reventlov
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                                      As a parent of 4 (and guardian of 1) you need to do what suits you best, not what others think you should do (mostly becuase the ones with the loudest opinions are usually wrong anyway). And it's really no one else's business what you do (provided it's legal! :-)) as long as you believe it to be of benefit to your family. Please stop worrying about what other people think and think for yourself!

                                      "If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." Red Adair. nils illegitimus carborundum me, me, me

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                                      • L Lost User

                                        So it wasn't insanely boring and filled with arrogant teachers who corrected you when you were right and they were wrong, and loads of kids lacking anything remotely resembling brains? Or were you just OK with that?

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                                        harold aptroot wrote:

                                        So it wasn't insanely boring and filled with arrogant teachers who corrected you when you were right and they were wrong, and loads of kids lacking anything remotely resembling brains?

                                        I feel your pain, mate. It was the same for me. I got lazy as hell just because of being over-underchallenged.

                                        Regards. -------- M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpfull answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.

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                                        • L loctrice

                                          So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?

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                                          Nelek
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                                          I don't have kids yet, but this is something already spoke with my girlfriend. She is about to finish medicine and I am quite well payed. I will probably move with her when she get a place in a good hospital. A point I have in my list to speak with possible new companies is the flexible horary or even home-work. She is probably going to earn more than me very soon, so I don't mind staying at home and taking care of kids. On the other hand, if new job is good, has a nice atmosphere where I feel comfortable and I like it, then we will hire someone as well. As my father always tells: Money and nuts, to be used on demand So if paying someone to take care of some activities, you get more time to enjoy your family and increase the quality of your life... Why the hell should not be done?

                                          Regards. -------- M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpfull answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.

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