Too many feels

fjdiewornncalwe

I did the same last summer. Just keep in touch with the people who are important. Every couple weeks or so I get together with some of them for lunch to catch up. It helps that their office is only a block away from where I am now, though.

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Jorgen Andersson

If you're looking forward to the new job you should try champagne. Your old mates shouldn't mind.

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OriginalGriff

Did you see each other outside work - and not just in the pub after a hard day? If you did, then keep that up. If you didn't, then probably LinkedIn/Google+/FarceBook is best - you aren't actually friends...

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S Houghtelin

There are a few former work mates that I still keep in touch with and have the occasional lunch with. I have friendships that I've made that extend beyond the workplace with some great people, for instance, I met one of my current band members through someone who I used to work with when we get together play music.

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Lost User

Fredrik Bornander wrote:

Any tips on how to deal with the seperation anxiety?

Yeah, man up you whiny little bitch :)

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Fredrik Bornander

I tried that. It made matters worse.

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Fredrik Bornander

Yeah, it's probably the solution I'll go for. I was just hoping someone knew a way that didn't take as much effort :)

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Karthik A

Ah, you were expecting an online tutorial :)

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Nagy Vilmos

Fredrik Bornander wrote:

Too many feelings

You want to be careful, people have lost peerages for less.

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Keith Barrow

And their position as Cardinal.

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Nagy Vilmos

Brings a whole new angle to Cardinal Sin

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AspDotNetDev

It helps to fill the void with some addiciton. For example, crack. Or if you are really desperate, Objective-C.

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OriginalGriff

It's Cardinal McSin isn't it?

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Fredrik Bornander

I am dissapoint. It's actually grammatically correct, you just need to spend more time on the internet. :)

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Nagy Vilmos

Only if he uses the entire chicken*. *The original joke was "What's the difference between kinky and perverted? Kinky you use a feather, perverted the whole chicken." No, I didn't think it was funny either back in 1987.

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Septimus Hedgehog

Keep in touch with your good mates there. I keep in touch with two really good colleagues from two years ago and I regularly have lunchtime coffee with the blokes at another company a couple of miles up the road from where I work now. It's nice to keep in touch and you never know, you might work with them elsewhere again. :)

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Fredrik Bornander wrote:

Any tips on how to deal with the seperation anxiety?

Just stay in touch with the people you liked. I still speak to people I worked with 25 years ago - maybe a once or twice a year but that's fine. Also, use LinkedIn - that's a good way to maintain a network of colleagues/friends form work.

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BillWoodruff

Fredrik Bornander wrote: Any tips on how to deal with the separation anxiety?

Hi, I'm assuming that by the word "anxiety" (which has so many semantic connotations "layered over" it, that it can mean so many things), you mean: "feelings," as your post's title suggests. I think every person is quite different in what, at a given point in their life, in their current social context, in their culture, in their "natural temperament," helps them at moments like this. For me, a long walk out in nature, alone, would be the kind of "activity" I would choose to allow whatever feelings were present to emerge into my conscious mind, and be expressed, and experienced. And a talk with a trusted friend, who is completely "outside" the whole context in which the "separation" happened: with someone who knows how to listen, without judgement, would be equally helpful: to me. For me, that "trusted friend" would always be from "outside my family," (a sad comment on my family, perhaps ?) but, for many people, I think. they might find that "trusted friend," inside their family. For other people, I can imagine a near-death work-out in the gym might just the thing to bring them to the state where they could "let their feelings out;" for others, perhaps, getting drunk, or stoned, might work (but, I doubt that one, because it's often done as an "escape," and, while drunk or stoned, one may, indeed, pour out their feelings ... literally and figuratively ... whether they have a true "healing catharsis," of enduring value, is something I have serious doubts about). The gym-thing would work for me. For me, "grief" (I am not assuming you are grieving, by the way), is always a "flux" of different emotions: including, at times, anger, a depressing sense of emptiness, a frightened feeling that the future is uncertain, and unclear. And, at times, really relatively "crazy" thoughts: grandiose fantasies, thoughts of bizarre acts of "revenge." Or, "denial:" "this isn't really happening;" "it's just a mistake that will be cleared-up soon." And, a "flux" of varying mental content: from "worry" about: "what to do next;" to, sometimes, depressing thoughts about: "how I failed, how I could have done better, where did I go wrong." At other times, there are angry thoughts, angry emotions: "how unfair this is;" "how could that s.o.b. f*k me like this," etc. And, to balance the focus of these comments on what you might call the spectrum of "negative states," I'd like to asser