Emotions = Boo
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Three years ago, I lost my dad to cancer. Being a stereotypical dev (introverted, not on a first name basis w/ emotions, etc.), I absolutely hated when people would ask me how I feel, but I could write about it, no problem. Emotions are weird; why would I be uncomfortable discussing it, but fine writing about it? Maybe it's a control thing. Has anyone else noticed that in themselves? Anywho, should anyone want to read what I wrote a year after he died, clickety[^]. If not, no worries. Either way, Happy Holi from Florida to all.
An interesting piece, I especially liked the list of replies you wanted to give to the well-wishers. I too lost my Dad to Cancer three years ago(Feb), I don't think you ever totally get over it but sort of come to terms with it. Strangely he regularly appears in my dreams and in my dream state I am not aware he is no longer alive, but he never speaks, I'd be curious to know if anybody else experiences this when they dream of loved ones who are no longer with us?
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I would say more people would click on it if it was a long link and they knew where it was taking them.
“I believe that there is an equality to all humanity. We all suck.” Bill Hicks
ChrisElston wrote:
I would say more people would click on it if it was a long link and they knew where it was taking them.
Yeah, I assume all bit.lys are Rick Rolls until proved otherwise.
CPallini wrote:
You cannot argue with agile people so just take the extreme approach and shoot him. :Smile:
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Three years ago, I lost my dad to cancer. Being a stereotypical dev (introverted, not on a first name basis w/ emotions, etc.), I absolutely hated when people would ask me how I feel, but I could write about it, no problem. Emotions are weird; why would I be uncomfortable discussing it, but fine writing about it? Maybe it's a control thing. Has anyone else noticed that in themselves? Anywho, should anyone want to read what I wrote a year after he died, clickety[^]. If not, no worries. Either way, Happy Holi from Florida to all.
IndifferentDisdain wrote:
Happy Frosty Holi from Florida to all.
FTFY I know how you feel I am about ready to lose an old friend to cancer and I find it very difficult to talk to her family about it. Good luck from Jacksonville,FL
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An interesting piece, I especially liked the list of replies you wanted to give to the well-wishers. I too lost my Dad to Cancer three years ago(Feb), I don't think you ever totally get over it but sort of come to terms with it. Strangely he regularly appears in my dreams and in my dream state I am not aware he is no longer alive, but he never speaks, I'd be curious to know if anybody else experiences this when they dream of loved ones who are no longer with us?
Thanks; it was tough to not actually do that (most of my family are more sensitive in that regard). I had dreams about him consistently for at least 6 months after, and still do occassionally.
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IndifferentDisdain wrote:
Happy Frosty Holi from Florida to all.
FTFY I know how you feel I am about ready to lose an old friend to cancer and I find it very difficult to talk to her family about it. Good luck from Jacksonville,FL
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An interesting piece, I especially liked the list of replies you wanted to give to the well-wishers. I too lost my Dad to Cancer three years ago(Feb), I don't think you ever totally get over it but sort of come to terms with it. Strangely he regularly appears in my dreams and in my dream state I am not aware he is no longer alive, but he never speaks, I'd be curious to know if anybody else experiences this when they dream of loved ones who are no longer with us?
I had a dream last night that I was working around DFS and there were small groups of people in each display, one of whom was naked and being caressed, licked, or sucked by the others. I cannot now remember if any of them were people I know who have died, but I don't think anyone spoke at all.
“I believe that there is an equality to all humanity. We all suck.” Bill Hicks
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ChrisElston wrote:
I would say more people would click on it if it was a long link and they knew where it was taking them.
Yeah, I assume all bit.lys are Rick Rolls until proved otherwise.
CPallini wrote:
You cannot argue with agile people so just take the extreme approach and shoot him. :Smile:
Yep, rookie mistake on my part; hate to see it happen.
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I had a dream last night that I was working around DFS and there were small groups of people in each display, one of whom was naked and being caressed, licked, or sucked by the others. I cannot now remember if any of them were people I know who have died, but I don't think anyone spoke at all.
“I believe that there is an equality to all humanity. We all suck.” Bill Hicks
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Thanks; I'm also in Jax, small world!
Indeed - I'm in Lakewood area, thinking of moving to White Springs as I'm an avid outdoors person.
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An interesting piece, I especially liked the list of replies you wanted to give to the well-wishers. I too lost my Dad to Cancer three years ago(Feb), I don't think you ever totally get over it but sort of come to terms with it. Strangely he regularly appears in my dreams and in my dream state I am not aware he is no longer alive, but he never speaks, I'd be curious to know if anybody else experiences this when they dream of loved ones who are no longer with us?
The Bhai wrote:
Strangely he regularly appears in my dreams and in my dream state I am not aware he is no longer alive, but he never speaks, I'd be curious to know if anybody else experiences this when they dream
I have had dreams where people I knew that are now deceased in it. When they first appeared it was as such that I was unaware. As the occurrence happens more with in the dream I am more quick to recall that the person is deceased. When this first occurred I recall trying to explain it to the person before the dream morphed. It was not a lucid dream so I thought I was in reality, but felt the person should know they are dead. After that dream if the person appeared I usually was able to disclose this earlier in the conversation etc. with the person. It usually did not concern them. Not because they dismissed it but because they seemed fine and accepting with it. Now when I dream of such a person it usually causes the dream to become lucid (i.e. I realize I am dreaming). At this point I go with it and try and get a message from the deceased. While I know that it is just my subconscious, there is no reason to think a message is not trying to get through to my conscious. May as well sit down a listen :)
Computers have been intelligent for a long time now. It just so happens that the program writers are about as effective as a room full of monkeys trying to crank out a copy of Hamlet.
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Indeed - I'm in Lakewood area, thinking of moving to White Springs as I'm an avid outdoors person.
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Three years ago, I lost my dad to cancer. Being a stereotypical dev (introverted, not on a first name basis w/ emotions, etc.), I absolutely hated when people would ask me how I feel, but I could write about it, no problem. Emotions are weird; why would I be uncomfortable discussing it, but fine writing about it? Maybe it's a control thing. Has anyone else noticed that in themselves? Anywho, should anyone want to read what I wrote a year after he died, clickety[^]. If not, no worries. Either way, Happy Holi from Florida to all.
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Three years ago, I lost my dad to cancer. Being a stereotypical dev (introverted, not on a first name basis w/ emotions, etc.), I absolutely hated when people would ask me how I feel, but I could write about it, no problem. Emotions are weird; why would I be uncomfortable discussing it, but fine writing about it? Maybe it's a control thing. Has anyone else noticed that in themselves? Anywho, should anyone want to read what I wrote a year after he died, clickety[^]. If not, no worries. Either way, Happy Holi from Florida to all.
IndifferentDisdain wrote:
Has anyone else noticed that in themselves?
Funny - for me it's quiet the opposite. I find it easier to talk then to write about some emotions. But I'm auditive. Perhaps it's because of that. :rolleyes:
------------------------------ Author of Primary ROleplaying SysTem How do I take my coffee? Black as midnight on a moonless night. War doesn't determine who's right. War determines who's left.
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Three years ago, I lost my dad to cancer. Being a stereotypical dev (introverted, not on a first name basis w/ emotions, etc.), I absolutely hated when people would ask me how I feel, but I could write about it, no problem. Emotions are weird; why would I be uncomfortable discussing it, but fine writing about it? Maybe it's a control thing. Has anyone else noticed that in themselves? Anywho, should anyone want to read what I wrote a year after he died, clickety[^]. If not, no worries. Either way, Happy Holi from Florida to all.
I can relate to a lot of what you're writing, my mother died this summer in cancer. On my fathers birthday. It wasn't a nice way of going away either. My father wanted to go to the hospital to say a last goodbye. The hospital had a special memorial room for that purpose. So I went to my hometown to escort him there. He appreciated that a lot. But to me that was a huge mistake, I had dreams about it for months afterwards. People change after death. Another thing that I regret is that she never met her granddaughter. She was too afraid of infections, and my little daughter got the flue when she was born and had to stay at the hospital for a week. And after that she had a cold every two weeks for the first three months of her life. But she's a real sunshine (in the old meaning of the word) and I haven't had time to mourn yet.
"The ones who care enough to do it right care too much to compromise." Matthew Faithfull
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Three years ago, I lost my dad to cancer. Being a stereotypical dev (introverted, not on a first name basis w/ emotions, etc.), I absolutely hated when people would ask me how I feel, but I could write about it, no problem. Emotions are weird; why would I be uncomfortable discussing it, but fine writing about it? Maybe it's a control thing. Has anyone else noticed that in themselves? Anywho, should anyone want to read what I wrote a year after he died, clickety[^]. If not, no worries. Either way, Happy Holi from Florida to all.
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Ah - I live in Southside by Town Center, work on the south bank next to the schoolboard building.
Interesting coincidence! I used to work across from the schoolboard building at ICS a few years back.
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