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    Joezer BH
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    Here's some of the conclusions I picked up in the last 6 years, If you are in the beginning of the road in terms of kids, you'll be grateful. If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore... 1. Think before you make bombastic statements. 2. Coordinate with the Mrs (remember that being a modern mop is not not a good idea, you have compliment her, but not to succumb) 3. Stand your ground firm on statements you've already made (or they'll despise your frivolity). 4. Always stand up to the expectation you have from your kids, especially when it comes to virtues. 5. NEVER give in to whining and\or crying when you think it wrong. 6. NEVER be mad when you limit your kid, the key to education is the compassion you show even when you don't give in to crying. 7. Learn always to give the warm feeling, and hugs after you've made your point. The kid needs to understand that you are not mad at him/her but rather on the improper behavior. * NOTE: If you can't handle it and it's too much, just stick to complimenting your wife, she'll probably be able to transform it to enough energy to do the rest. Good luck, Edo

    Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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      Here's some of the conclusions I picked up in the last 6 years, If you are in the beginning of the road in terms of kids, you'll be grateful. If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore... 1. Think before you make bombastic statements. 2. Coordinate with the Mrs (remember that being a modern mop is not not a good idea, you have compliment her, but not to succumb) 3. Stand your ground firm on statements you've already made (or they'll despise your frivolity). 4. Always stand up to the expectation you have from your kids, especially when it comes to virtues. 5. NEVER give in to whining and\or crying when you think it wrong. 6. NEVER be mad when you limit your kid, the key to education is the compassion you show even when you don't give in to crying. 7. Learn always to give the warm feeling, and hugs after you've made your point. The kid needs to understand that you are not mad at him/her but rather on the improper behavior. * NOTE: If you can't handle it and it's too much, just stick to complimenting your wife, she'll probably be able to transform it to enough energy to do the rest. Good luck, Edo

      Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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      Pete OHanlon
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      There's only one rule. Never lie to your kids. Remember - rules are made to be broken.

      I was brought up to respect my elders. I don't respect many people nowadays.
      CodeStash - Online Snippet Management | My blog | MoXAML PowerToys | Mole 2010 - debugging made easier

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        There's only one rule. Never lie to your kids. Remember - rules are made to be broken.

        I was brought up to respect my elders. I don't respect many people nowadays.
        CodeStash - Online Snippet Management | My blog | MoXAML PowerToys | Mole 2010 - debugging made easier

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        Joezer BH
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        I beg to differ. E.g. - If you give in to whining you had better pad your wallet (and savings) to when they reach adolescence ... :~

        Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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          Here's some of the conclusions I picked up in the last 6 years, If you are in the beginning of the road in terms of kids, you'll be grateful. If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore... 1. Think before you make bombastic statements. 2. Coordinate with the Mrs (remember that being a modern mop is not not a good idea, you have compliment her, but not to succumb) 3. Stand your ground firm on statements you've already made (or they'll despise your frivolity). 4. Always stand up to the expectation you have from your kids, especially when it comes to virtues. 5. NEVER give in to whining and\or crying when you think it wrong. 6. NEVER be mad when you limit your kid, the key to education is the compassion you show even when you don't give in to crying. 7. Learn always to give the warm feeling, and hugs after you've made your point. The kid needs to understand that you are not mad at him/her but rather on the improper behavior. * NOTE: If you can't handle it and it's too much, just stick to complimenting your wife, she'll probably be able to transform it to enough energy to do the rest. Good luck, Edo

          Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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          Mike Hankey
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          Kids don't come with an instruction manual and every one is different. Be true to them and to yourself. < 11 You're the mentor. >11 You're the counselor.

          VS2010/Atmel Studio 6.1 ToDo Manager Extension Some days, it's just not worth chewing through the restraints.

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            Kids don't come with an instruction manual and every one is different. Be true to them and to yourself. < 11 You're the mentor. >11 You're the counselor.

            VS2010/Atmel Studio 6.1 ToDo Manager Extension Some days, it's just not worth chewing through the restraints.

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            Mike Hankey wrote:

            < 11 You're the mentor. >11 You're the counselor.

            and = 11??? Out of range exception?

            Why can't I be applicable like John? - Me, April 2011
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            Da mihi sis crustum Etruscum cum omnibus in eo!
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            Just because a thing is new don’t mean that it’s better - Will Rogers, September 4, 1932

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            • J Joezer BH

              Here's some of the conclusions I picked up in the last 6 years, If you are in the beginning of the road in terms of kids, you'll be grateful. If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore... 1. Think before you make bombastic statements. 2. Coordinate with the Mrs (remember that being a modern mop is not not a good idea, you have compliment her, but not to succumb) 3. Stand your ground firm on statements you've already made (or they'll despise your frivolity). 4. Always stand up to the expectation you have from your kids, especially when it comes to virtues. 5. NEVER give in to whining and\or crying when you think it wrong. 6. NEVER be mad when you limit your kid, the key to education is the compassion you show even when you don't give in to crying. 7. Learn always to give the warm feeling, and hugs after you've made your point. The kid needs to understand that you are not mad at him/her but rather on the improper behavior. * NOTE: If you can't handle it and it's too much, just stick to complimenting your wife, she'll probably be able to transform it to enough energy to do the rest. Good luck, Edo

              Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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              Keith Barrow
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              Edo Tzumer wrote:

              remember that being a modern mop is not not a good idea,

              Is that like a Vileda or something:~? Otherwise I co-ordinate quite well with the missus, by which I mean I get regular instructions.

              “Education is not the piling on of learning, information, data, facts, skills, or abilities - that's training or instruction - but is rather making visible what is hidden as a seed”
              “One of the greatest problems of our time is that many are schooled but few are educated”

              Sir Thomas More (1478 – 1535)

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                Mike Hankey wrote:

                < 11 You're the mentor. >11 You're the counselor.

                and = 11??? Out of range exception?

                Why can't I be applicable like John? - Me, April 2011
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                Beidh ceol, caint agus craic againn - Seán Bán Breathnach
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                Da mihi sis crustum Etruscum cum omnibus in eo!
                -----
                Just because a thing is new don’t mean that it’s better - Will Rogers, September 4, 1932

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                You've somehow started to live life like the film Groundhog day! :laugh:

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                • J Joezer BH

                  Here's some of the conclusions I picked up in the last 6 years, If you are in the beginning of the road in terms of kids, you'll be grateful. If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore... 1. Think before you make bombastic statements. 2. Coordinate with the Mrs (remember that being a modern mop is not not a good idea, you have compliment her, but not to succumb) 3. Stand your ground firm on statements you've already made (or they'll despise your frivolity). 4. Always stand up to the expectation you have from your kids, especially when it comes to virtues. 5. NEVER give in to whining and\or crying when you think it wrong. 6. NEVER be mad when you limit your kid, the key to education is the compassion you show even when you don't give in to crying. 7. Learn always to give the warm feeling, and hugs after you've made your point. The kid needs to understand that you are not mad at him/her but rather on the improper behavior. * NOTE: If you can't handle it and it's too much, just stick to complimenting your wife, she'll probably be able to transform it to enough energy to do the rest. Good luck, Edo

                  Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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                  I think the best way to handle yourself around the kids is to have none. Its always better that way. Your money is all yours to do whatever you like. Your time is yours alone and there are no sleepless nights wondering where your child is and with whom

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                  • J Joezer BH

                    Here's some of the conclusions I picked up in the last 6 years, If you are in the beginning of the road in terms of kids, you'll be grateful. If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore... 1. Think before you make bombastic statements. 2. Coordinate with the Mrs (remember that being a modern mop is not not a good idea, you have compliment her, but not to succumb) 3. Stand your ground firm on statements you've already made (or they'll despise your frivolity). 4. Always stand up to the expectation you have from your kids, especially when it comes to virtues. 5. NEVER give in to whining and\or crying when you think it wrong. 6. NEVER be mad when you limit your kid, the key to education is the compassion you show even when you don't give in to crying. 7. Learn always to give the warm feeling, and hugs after you've made your point. The kid needs to understand that you are not mad at him/her but rather on the improper behavior. * NOTE: If you can't handle it and it's too much, just stick to complimenting your wife, she'll probably be able to transform it to enough energy to do the rest. Good luck, Edo

                    Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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                    Can I add "If you declare a punishment, carry it out in full"? Because if you don't they know that it doesn't matter and it reinforces negative behavior instead of making it less attractive.

                    The universe is composed of electrons, neutrons, protons and......morons. (ThePhantomUpvoter)

                    "I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony
                    "Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt

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                      I think the best way to handle yourself around the kids is to have none. Its always better that way. Your money is all yours to do whatever you like. Your time is yours alone and there are no sleepless nights wondering where your child is and with whom

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                      You have got to get yourself some kids to know why it's worth everything!

                      Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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                        Can I add "If you declare a punishment, carry it out in full"? Because if you don't they know that it doesn't matter and it reinforces negative behavior instead of making it less attractive.

                        The universe is composed of electrons, neutrons, protons and......morons. (ThePhantomUpvoter)

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                        Joezer BH
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                        Aye, you may indeed.

                        Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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                          Here's some of the conclusions I picked up in the last 6 years, If you are in the beginning of the road in terms of kids, you'll be grateful. If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore... 1. Think before you make bombastic statements. 2. Coordinate with the Mrs (remember that being a modern mop is not not a good idea, you have compliment her, but not to succumb) 3. Stand your ground firm on statements you've already made (or they'll despise your frivolity). 4. Always stand up to the expectation you have from your kids, especially when it comes to virtues. 5. NEVER give in to whining and\or crying when you think it wrong. 6. NEVER be mad when you limit your kid, the key to education is the compassion you show even when you don't give in to crying. 7. Learn always to give the warm feeling, and hugs after you've made your point. The kid needs to understand that you are not mad at him/her but rather on the improper behavior. * NOTE: If you can't handle it and it's too much, just stick to complimenting your wife, she'll probably be able to transform it to enough energy to do the rest. Good luck, Edo

                          Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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                          Marc Clifton
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                          Edo Tzumer wrote:

                          If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore...

                          #8: It's never too late. Marc

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                            Aye, you may indeed.

                            Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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                            OriginalGriff
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                            I don't have kids, but I've seen it with friends. One couple were terrible: "No sweets for a week!" was the common punishment, which was forgotten the next day...and they always wondered why the kids never stopped being naughty! :sigh:

                            The universe is composed of electrons, neutrons, protons and......morons. (ThePhantomUpvoter)

                            "I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony
                            "Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt

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                              Edo Tzumer wrote:

                              If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore...

                              #8: It's never too late. Marc

                              Testers Wanted!
                              Latest Article: User Authentication on Ruby on Rails - the definitive how to
                              My Blog

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                              When you f***ed up your relassionship with your kid(s) (or you don't have one) at her/his age of 20 - 25 its too late.

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                                Edo Tzumer wrote:

                                If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore...

                                #8: It's never too late. Marc

                                Testers Wanted!
                                Latest Article: User Authentication on Ruby on Rails - the definitive how to
                                My Blog

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                                Nagy Vilmos
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                                100% with you. Eldest is just 11 and only now is she becoming a tolerable human being. She still has an awful temper, but at least it is now mostly controlled.

                                Reality is an illusion caused by a lack of alcohol

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                                  I beg to differ. E.g. - If you give in to whining you had better pad your wallet (and savings) to when they reach adolescence ... :~

                                  Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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                                  Pete OHanlon
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                                  See, this can be dealt with by my rule: "I'm not going to give you money because you're an ungrateful little wretch"

                                  I was brought up to respect my elders. I don't respect many people nowadays.
                                  CodeStash - Online Snippet Management | My blog | MoXAML PowerToys | Mole 2010 - debugging made easier

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                                    Can I add "If you declare a punishment, carry it out in full"? Because if you don't they know that it doesn't matter and it reinforces negative behavior instead of making it less attractive.

                                    The universe is composed of electrons, neutrons, protons and......morons. (ThePhantomUpvoter)

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                                    My dad hates parents that don't follow that rule. A woman we know once said to her 6 year old son, "If you don't stop that right now, I'm going to break your little arm." He stopped for about 3 seconds just long enough to listen to her, then continued doing what he was doing. My dad asked her if she truly was going to break his arm, to which she replied, "Well, no." He told her that she shouldn't threaten punishments that she has no intention of executing, because her son knows that he isn't actually going to get punished. Growing up, I knew that if my dad ever threatened any sort of punishment on me for something, and I still did that something, I was going to be punished to the full extent of what he said. I'm quite glad that I was raised that way, because it instills in you a sense of what repercussions your actions might have. You still have a choice, but you have to weigh all possible outcomes of that choice.

                                    The United States invariably does the right thing, after having exhausted every other alternative. -Winston Churchill America is the only country that went from barbarism to decadence without civilization in between. -Oscar Wilde Wow, even the French showed a little more spine than that before they got their sh*t pushed in.[^] -Colin Mullikin

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                                      100% with you. Eldest is just 11 and only now is she becoming a tolerable human being. She still has an awful temper, but at least it is now mostly controlled.

                                      Reality is an illusion caused by a lack of alcohol

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                                      How did today go for her? Is she happy to have the first SATS out of the way?

                                      I was brought up to respect my elders. I don't respect many people nowadays.
                                      CodeStash - Online Snippet Management | My blog | MoXAML PowerToys | Mole 2010 - debugging made easier

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                                      • J Johnny J

                                        Mike Hankey wrote:

                                        < 11 You're the mentor. >11 You're the counselor.

                                        and = 11??? Out of range exception?

                                        Why can't I be applicable like John? - Me, April 2011
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                                        Beidh ceol, caint agus craic againn - Seán Bán Breathnach
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                                        Da mihi sis crustum Etruscum cum omnibus in eo!
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                                        Just because a thing is new don’t mean that it’s better - Will Rogers, September 4, 1932

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                                        Mike Hankey
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                                        Johnny J. wrote:

                                        and = 11???
                                         
                                        Out of range exception?

                                        Reloading..you're bound to hit em if you keep at it. :)

                                        VS2010/Atmel Studio 6.1 ToDo Manager Extension Some days, it's just not worth chewing through the restraints.

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                                          You have got to get yourself some kids to know why it's worth everything!

                                          Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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                                          Moykn
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                                          :thumbsup: No way i could live anymore without my kids.

                                          Sorry, my english is bad! Everything is easy for the man who doesn't have to do it himself. (Fran Porretto)

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