Why I hate "Friendly"
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So I'm sitting here, at my desk, which looks outward as I don't like people looking over my shoulder. An employee (i.e, not part of IT) walks by and says "Hello, how are you". They keep walking, their head turned ahead, to their actual target person. No waiting for an answer; a nod; nothing. It's no a unique event. Neither is it unique to me (I know what too many of you were thinking!) It's as though they threw a coin in a toll-booth box. They really had no interest in how I was or wasn't. Some weird obligation as you pass any one of over seven billion people? WTF do they, then, need to bother me? At least dogs has the courtesy to smell one another's asses. I noticed this when I lived in rural places (WV, IL). When I did offer answers, I quickly learned they weren't listening (just say a toe got chopped off: no reaction). They say NY'ers are unfriendly. No - we're not. We just don't bother you if we don't give a damn about you. No pretense. Elephanting annoying, rude, thoughtless, and even insulting, this talking to someone so thoughtlessly. From the wise words of Alfred E. Newman: If you have nothing to say, don't say it.
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"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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W∴ Balboos wrote:
hey say NY'ers are unfriendly
Where in NY are you? I'm up near Albany.
W∴ Balboos wrote:
At least dogs has the courtesy to smell one another's asses.
That has the makings of a great motto with regards to those vacant "how are you" questions, I just can't figure it out at the moment. Marc
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Marc Clifton wrote:
I'm up near Albany.
I live in Schenectady, near Colonie.
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So I'm sitting here, at my desk, which looks outward as I don't like people looking over my shoulder. An employee (i.e, not part of IT) walks by and says "Hello, how are you". They keep walking, their head turned ahead, to their actual target person. No waiting for an answer; a nod; nothing. It's no a unique event. Neither is it unique to me (I know what too many of you were thinking!) It's as though they threw a coin in a toll-booth box. They really had no interest in how I was or wasn't. Some weird obligation as you pass any one of over seven billion people? WTF do they, then, need to bother me? At least dogs has the courtesy to smell one another's asses. I noticed this when I lived in rural places (WV, IL). When I did offer answers, I quickly learned they weren't listening (just say a toe got chopped off: no reaction). They say NY'ers are unfriendly. No - we're not. We just don't bother you if we don't give a damn about you. No pretense. Elephanting annoying, rude, thoughtless, and even insulting, this talking to someone so thoughtlessly. From the wise words of Alfred E. Newman: If you have nothing to say, don't say it.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
I've noticed this as well from people where I work and realized that none of them really care. At one point I actually did start saying that I had a horrible day and so on. Only a few would ask about details and then I'd have to explain why I said it. Now I usually respond with a "I'm doing pretty well, how about you?" The question seems to cause people to pause and actually force them to reply. If I don't really want to know or don't have time for a conversation, I usually just pass by someone I know with a friendly "Hi Bob!" and keep going. If I am curious or do have time, it would be more "Hi Bob, how are you today?" What I say and how I say it are important to what I'm after. That is true about NY'ers though, the wife jokes about when she moved and went to a deli in the south. They actually asked her what she was planning to do with the ham and cheese she was buying! She was very confused at first as in NYC she would expect to order, get said order, pay, and get out. Transaction completed, don't waste time.
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W∴ Balboos wrote:
If you have nothing to say, don't say it.
Don't be silly, Farcebook and Twatter would close in a week... On second thoughts...
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Don't you mean the 90% of the Internet would shut down!
Every day, thousands of innocent plants are killed by vegetarians. Help end the violence EAT BACON
That would mean no Pr0n
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Reasonable supposition. Head was turned towards me when the blurted out the greeting. Looked me in the face, turned their head forward - never breaking their pace.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
W∴ Balboos wrote:
Looked me in the face, turned their head forward - never breaking their pace.
Efficient salutations for workplace create high levels of productivity. No need to await answer. You are at work so your only possible answer is "fine". If you are on the positive side of "fine" then you are happy and obviously need more soul-crushing work to do. If you are on the negative side of "fine" then you need to be fired immediately since you're a detriment to the workplace. :laugh: All of this is Office Efficiencies. :laugh:
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Don't you mean the 90% of the Internet would shut down!
Every day, thousands of innocent plants are killed by vegetarians. Help end the violence EAT BACON
Just shutting down Farcebook and twatter would boost productivity in many companies, and might even cause people to talk to each other again...
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So I'm sitting here, at my desk, which looks outward as I don't like people looking over my shoulder. An employee (i.e, not part of IT) walks by and says "Hello, how are you". They keep walking, their head turned ahead, to their actual target person. No waiting for an answer; a nod; nothing. It's no a unique event. Neither is it unique to me (I know what too many of you were thinking!) It's as though they threw a coin in a toll-booth box. They really had no interest in how I was or wasn't. Some weird obligation as you pass any one of over seven billion people? WTF do they, then, need to bother me? At least dogs has the courtesy to smell one another's asses. I noticed this when I lived in rural places (WV, IL). When I did offer answers, I quickly learned they weren't listening (just say a toe got chopped off: no reaction). They say NY'ers are unfriendly. No - we're not. We just don't bother you if we don't give a damn about you. No pretense. Elephanting annoying, rude, thoughtless, and even insulting, this talking to someone so thoughtlessly. From the wise words of Alfred E. Newman: If you have nothing to say, don't say it.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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RedDk wrote:
... Tuesday ... and we're already disfunctional!
From my point of view, it's already Tuesday and I'm finally dysfunctional.
RedDk wrote:
(I know you're not a hater ...)
Don't you hate it when people post things like that?* * obligatory answer.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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Marc Clifton wrote:
I'm up near Albany.
I live in Schenectady, near Colonie.
Does Marc live in Clifton Park? I work in Albany but commute from Vermont.
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Reasonable supposition. Head was turned towards me when the blurted out the greeting. Looked me in the face, turned their head forward - never breaking their pace.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
Oh I get it now. I was about to say... nothing wrong with saying hello to people. But it sounds like that person was just being nosy to you while passing by along the way to someone else. That's annoying and disrespectful IMO. But it's also the office world. Most people really have no idea or simply don't care enough about how they treat others in the office world. It's not intentional on that person's part... it's just done out of ignorance and lack of self awareness of one's own actions.
Jeremy Falcon
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So I'm sitting here, at my desk, which looks outward as I don't like people looking over my shoulder. An employee (i.e, not part of IT) walks by and says "Hello, how are you". They keep walking, their head turned ahead, to their actual target person. No waiting for an answer; a nod; nothing. It's no a unique event. Neither is it unique to me (I know what too many of you were thinking!) It's as though they threw a coin in a toll-booth box. They really had no interest in how I was or wasn't. Some weird obligation as you pass any one of over seven billion people? WTF do they, then, need to bother me? At least dogs has the courtesy to smell one another's asses. I noticed this when I lived in rural places (WV, IL). When I did offer answers, I quickly learned they weren't listening (just say a toe got chopped off: no reaction). They say NY'ers are unfriendly. No - we're not. We just don't bother you if we don't give a damn about you. No pretense. Elephanting annoying, rude, thoughtless, and even insulting, this talking to someone so thoughtlessly. From the wise words of Alfred E. Newman: If you have nothing to say, don't say it.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
Was he/she saying hello to you or the other person?
Jeremy Falcon
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Oh I get it now. I was about to say... nothing wrong with saying hello to people. But it sounds like that person was just being nosy to you while passing by along the way to someone else. That's annoying and disrespectful IMO. But it's also the office world. Most people really have no idea or simply don't care enough about how they treat others in the office world. It's not intentional on that person's part... it's just done out of ignorance and lack of self awareness of one's own actions.
Jeremy Falcon
I pictured it more as a mindless custom encouraged by local habits. Mindless, and for those not like-mind-less, inconsiderate on a good day. I don't want to hear the snore or phart, either.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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RedDk wrote:
... Tuesday ... and we're already disfunctional!
From my point of view, it's already Tuesday and I'm finally dysfunctional.
RedDk wrote:
(I know you're not a hater ...)
Don't you hate it when people post things like that?* * obligatory answer.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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Was he/she saying hello to you or the other person?
Jeremy Falcon
Head turned toward me as they walked forward toward their destination person. Head turned away before I could answer - obviously they didn't give a shit about the answer and perhaps didn't even know their lips were flapping and making distracting sounds.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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I pictured it more as a mindless custom encouraged by local habits. Mindless, and for those not like-mind-less, inconsiderate on a good day. I don't want to hear the snore or phart, either.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
Still not clear on if he/she was saying hello to you or not. But, if he/she wasn't saying it to you... then yeah I agree.
Jeremy Falcon
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Head turned toward me as they walked forward toward their destination person. Head turned away before I could answer - obviously they didn't give a shit about the answer and perhaps didn't even know their lips were flapping and making distracting sounds.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
Well, assuming he was saying hello to you... this may come as a shock, but not everyone hates the world. :)
Jeremy Falcon
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Well, assuming he was saying hello to you... this may come as a shock, but not everyone hates the world. :)
Jeremy Falcon
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
this may come as a shock, but not everyone hates the world
Only the ignorant . . . and the dead. And I hate happy-face emojis, too! Wake up and smell the flowers bus exhaust. Grumble. Grumble. Grumble. Grumble. Grumble. Grumble.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
this may come as a shock, but not everyone hates the world
Only the ignorant . . . and the dead. And I hate happy-face emojis, too! Wake up and smell the flowers bus exhaust. Grumble. Grumble. Grumble. Grumble. Grumble. Grumble.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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