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  • L loctrice

    I don't think they thought I was desperate. They knew I was talking with other companies, and had at least one offer. I think at least a good part of it was corporate limitations since it's such a large company. I mean I think they tried their best offer because they knew I wasn't desperate.

    Elephant elephant elephant, sunshine sunshine sunshine

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    patbob
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    My mistake, I read the counter offer story and thought it was part of your saga, which indicated the second company wasn't as interested and they seemed.. but that's not your dilemma. Well, Company A did their best, but it sounds like someone you'd rather work for made a better offer. My advice still stands, accept the offer from Company B and respectfully bow out from Company A.

    I live in Oregon, and I'm an engineer.

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    • J Jacquers

      Well, the company can't wait around forever for someone to accept an offer, especially if it's an urgent open position.

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      jeron1
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      Agreed, there must be some reasonable timeframe for an applicant to accept or decline an offer.

      "the debugger doesn't tell me anything because this code compiles just fine" - random QA comment "Facebook is where you tell lies to your friends. Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers." - chriselst "I don't drink any more... then again, I don't drink any less." - Mike Mullikins uncle

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      • M musefan

        Dear Company A, I have made the decision to decline your job offer and will no longer be joining you at this time. I have recently been offered an alternative role with another organisation which is much more suited to my current situation. I apologise for any inconvenience this may have caused you and I thank you for your time and interest. Best Regards, Me --- Basically just keep it short and to the point. It is good to mention the other offer as it reduces their need to come back with follow up questions (which they likely will if you don't say anything), which you don't want. If they are professional enough then you will get a short "we are sorry but all the best" reply. Otherwise you might get a short and ungrateful one... either way, you shouldn't need to take any further action with them.

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        Kevin McFarlane
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        Nice. :thumbsup: This happens a lot. It's the nature of job-hunting. If you've had two interviews, and one makes you an offer, and you're under pressure to say yes or no then you should say yes. You can't assume the other will be an offer, so if you don't accept the first you might end up with nothing. In practice it's the agency (if any) that gets upset (and might call you unprofessional) rather than the client, for understandable reasons. But that's life. As I was once told, if you don't look after yourself, no-one else will. Harsh, but true.

        Kevin

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        • L loctrice

          I recently accepted an offer from company A. I didn't have time to wait for company B as the offer would expire. Sure enough company B made me an offer that I can't refuse. I'm comfortable with my decision, but I don't know a good/professional way to tell company A that I've reconsidered. You can find things like resignation letter examples on line, but I don't see any examples of this. Ideas? Suggestions?

          Elephant elephant elephant, sunshine sunshine sunshine

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          Chris Maunder
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          Just be direct and honest. Stuff happens and as an employer myself I would want to know ASAP so I can get back to other candidates who I may have passed over in favour of you. Maybe they still have a chance.

          cheers Chris Maunder

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          • C CodeWraith

            I wonder what position in the A-Team he would have gotten...

            I have lived with several Zen masters - all of them were cats. His last invention was an evil Lasagna. It didn't kill anyone, and it actually tasted pretty good.

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            Murdock, has to be Murdock...

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              I wonder what position in the A-Team he would have gotten...

              I have lived with several Zen masters - all of them were cats. His last invention was an evil Lasagna. It didn't kill anyone, and it actually tasted pretty good.

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              DRHuff
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              It doesn't matter - the plan didn't come together!

              Socialism is the Axe Body Spray of political ideologies: It never does what it claims to do, but people too young to know better keep buying it anyway. (Glenn Reynolds)

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              • L loctrice

                I recently accepted an offer from company A. I didn't have time to wait for company B as the offer would expire. Sure enough company B made me an offer that I can't refuse. I'm comfortable with my decision, but I don't know a good/professional way to tell company A that I've reconsidered. You can find things like resignation letter examples on line, but I don't see any examples of this. Ideas? Suggestions?

                Elephant elephant elephant, sunshine sunshine sunshine

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                ...some family trouble...u have to do something else...hope ya understand tank u

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                • P PeejayAdams

                  loctrice wrote:

                  made me an offer that I can't refuse

                  Did it involve a suggestion that you might be sleeping with the fishes? :wtf:

                  Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. - Mark Twain

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                  PeejayAdams wrote:

                  Did it involve a suggestion that you might be sleeping with the fishes? :WTF:

                  I did not know we had Troy McClure as a member.

                  Michael Martin Australia "I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible." - Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004

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                  • C Chris Maunder

                    Just be direct and honest. Stuff happens and as an employer myself I would want to know ASAP so I can get back to other candidates who I may have passed over in favour of you. Maybe they still have a chance.

                    cheers Chris Maunder

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                    Chris Maunder wrote:

                    Just be direct and honest. Stuff happens and as an employer myself I would want to know ASAP so I can get back to other candidates who I may have passed over in favour of you. Maybe they still have a chance.

                    I haven't heard back on the Office Alcoholic position I applied for.

                    Michael Martin Australia "I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible." - Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004

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                    • P PIEBALDconsult

                      "the offer would expire." Not sure I would have accepted an offer that had an expiration date in the first place. Sounds unprofessional and disrespectful to me. Just as consumers are advised to walk away from deals that are "only good today". And you would wind up working with a bunch of colleagues who had also fallen for the same bad sales technique.

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                      A elephanting men!

                      Charlie Gilley <italic>Stuck in a dysfunctional matrix from which I must escape... "Where liberty dwells, there is my country." B. Franklin, 1783 “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759

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                      • F F ES Sitecore

                        There is no good\professional way of doing this as what you are doing is unprofessional (sorry, but it is!). Just tell them succinctly that you're declining as you got another offer. Also check the small-print of anything you have signed or agreed to in case there is anything covering this.

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                        charlieg
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                        disagree. 200%. Contract other than show up for a week, we'll pay you a week? Nonsense. If they *really* wanted him, they would have given him golden handcuffs.

                        Charlie Gilley <italic>Stuck in a dysfunctional matrix from which I must escape... "Where liberty dwells, there is my country." B. Franklin, 1783 “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759

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                        • F F ES Sitecore

                          It is different to leaving a current job because when you do that the company has got some value from your work, and you need to give a notice period which gives them a chance to replace you, and that notice period also means you have fully complied with your legal and moral duty to the company. Accepting a job offer and then declining it puts the company in a bad situation for many reasons. For one they may be banking on the fact that you are starting, and now they have to re-start the hiring process. They might have spent money on advertising, on agency fees etc which has gone to waste. If you are waiting on another offer to come through then you should tell the company that you need to wait, not accept it while you wait and see if the other offer comes through.

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                          noob. no offense. I've been a hiring manager. We love people like you.

                          Charlie Gilley <italic>Stuck in a dysfunctional matrix from which I must escape... "Where liberty dwells, there is my country." B. Franklin, 1783 “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759

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                          • F F ES Sitecore

                            There is no good\professional way of doing this as what you are doing is unprofessional (sorry, but it is!). Just tell them succinctly that you're declining as you got another offer. Also check the small-print of anything you have signed or agreed to in case there is anything covering this.

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                            Kevin Marois
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                            Nonsense. If they decided the next day that they didn't need him the would find a way to fire him.

                            If it's not broken, fix it until it is. Everything makes sense in someone's mind. Ya can't fix stupid.

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                            • L Lost User

                              Chris Maunder wrote:

                              Just be direct and honest. Stuff happens and as an employer myself I would want to know ASAP so I can get back to other candidates who I may have passed over in favour of you. Maybe they still have a chance.

                              I haven't heard back on the Office Alcoholic position I applied for.

                              Michael Martin Australia "I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible." - Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004

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                              Chris Maunder
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                              And here I was thinking you weren't showing up to work because you were too busy at the pub. Don't even try and expense that off as "research"

                              cheers Chris Maunder

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                                And here I was thinking you weren't showing up to work because you were too busy at the pub. Don't even try and expense that off as "research"

                                cheers Chris Maunder

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                                Chris Maunder wrote:

                                And here I was thinking you weren't showing up to work because you were too busy at the pub. Don't even try and expense that off as "research"

                                But I'm drinking lots of different things. That's experimentation and research right there.

                                Michael Martin Australia "I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible." - Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004

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                                • F F ES Sitecore

                                  There is no good\professional way of doing this as what you are doing is unprofessional (sorry, but it is!). Just tell them succinctly that you're declining as you got another offer. Also check the small-print of anything you have signed or agreed to in case there is anything covering this.

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                                  Jon McKee
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                                  I can't understand this mindset many people have (especially in the states) where employees should be both beholden and loyal to companies even at their own cost but companies have zero obligation to the employee beyond a static paycheck. Hypocritical. In general: Loyalty, like respect, is a two-way street. If a company doesn't want to worry about hiring difficulties, then take the steps to keep talent you've hired. It's not like job-hunting is free for the labor either (in dollars or in time). EDIT: Also in this specific case, no contracts have been signed yet. Do you honestly think a company would "do what's right" even if it cost the company money and they had no legal obligation to do it? :laugh:

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                                  • L loctrice

                                    I recently accepted an offer from company A. I didn't have time to wait for company B as the offer would expire. Sure enough company B made me an offer that I can't refuse. I'm comfortable with my decision, but I don't know a good/professional way to tell company A that I've reconsidered. You can find things like resignation letter examples on line, but I don't see any examples of this. Ideas? Suggestions?

                                    Elephant elephant elephant, sunshine sunshine sunshine

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                                    GenJerDan
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                                    Take the better offer. Just tell the first "Never mind." Sheesh. You think they lose sleep over it? You think they'll even remember your name in two days?

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                                    • M musefan

                                      Dear Company A, I have made the decision to decline your job offer and will no longer be joining you at this time. I have recently been offered an alternative role with another organisation which is much more suited to my current situation. I apologise for any inconvenience this may have caused you and I thank you for your time and interest. Best Regards, Me --- Basically just keep it short and to the point. It is good to mention the other offer as it reduces their need to come back with follow up questions (which they likely will if you don't say anything), which you don't want. If they are professional enough then you will get a short "we are sorry but all the best" reply. Otherwise you might get a short and ungrateful one... either way, you shouldn't need to take any further action with them.

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                                      Mark_Wallace
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                                      musefan wrote:

                                      I have made the decision to decline your job offer and will no longer be joining you at this time

                                      Too brutal, too much information, and with bits in the wrong order. Unfortunately, circumstances dictate that things will not be able to go forward as planned, and I am no longer able to join you at this time. I thank you for your time and interest in me, and apologise for any inconvenience this may cause. You've got to use things like "join you at this time" and "your interest in me", in case the other job goes pear-shaped.

                                      I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!

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                                      • C charlieg

                                        noob. no offense. I've been a hiring manager. We love people like you.

                                        Charlie Gilley <italic>Stuck in a dysfunctional matrix from which I must escape... "Where liberty dwells, there is my country." B. Franklin, 1783 “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759

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                                        All employers love me because I act professionally and have high moral standards :)

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                                        • L loctrice

                                          I recently accepted an offer from company A. I didn't have time to wait for company B as the offer would expire. Sure enough company B made me an offer that I can't refuse. I'm comfortable with my decision, but I don't know a good/professional way to tell company A that I've reconsidered. You can find things like resignation letter examples on line, but I don't see any examples of this. Ideas? Suggestions?

                                          Elephant elephant elephant, sunshine sunshine sunshine

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                                          Dominic Burford
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                                          If the offer from Company B is the one that right for you and your family, then just be honest and say you've had a better offer. No debate, no discussion, just move along. I wouldn't give it a second thought, but that's just me.

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