Approaching my limit...
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Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
If I live to be old enough to get away with it I'm just going to start biting people.
Check out my IoT graphics library here: https://honeythecodewitch.com/gfx And my IoT UI/User Experience library here: https://honeythecodewitch.com/uix
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Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
Two months into it myself. SO has been a work from home controller for a couple small companies and is the bread winner. So I'm adapting to being a "house boy" and doing everything I can to not annoy her. We have been together since high school.
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If I live to be old enough to get away with it I'm just going to start biting people.
Check out my IoT graphics library here: https://honeythecodewitch.com/gfx And my IoT UI/User Experience library here: https://honeythecodewitch.com/uix
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If I live to be old enough to get away with it I'm just going to start biting people.
Check out my IoT graphics library here: https://honeythecodewitch.com/gfx And my IoT UI/User Experience library here: https://honeythecodewitch.com/uix
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Two months into it myself. SO has been a work from home controller for a couple small companies and is the bread winner. So I'm adapting to being a "house boy" and doing everything I can to not annoy her. We have been together since high school.
Same here, high school sweet heart. But MIL is about 70% the way down the dementia curve. So, the more she reads, now she hands me paper and says, "You need to read this, you are showing early signs..."
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
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Funny, but seriously don't. They'll put you on meds and you'll be sleeping the rest of your life away.
dandy72 wrote:
They'll put you on meds and you'll be sleeping the rest of your life away.
Some days that doesn't sound so bad.
There are no solutions, only trade-offs.
- Thomas SowellA day can really slip by when you're deliberately avoiding what you're supposed to do.
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dandy72 wrote:
They'll put you on meds and you'll be sleeping the rest of your life away.
Some days that doesn't sound so bad.
There are no solutions, only trade-offs.
- Thomas SowellA day can really slip by when you're deliberately avoiding what you're supposed to do.
- Calvin (Bill Watterson, Calvin & Hobbes)Agreed!
"the debugger doesn't tell me anything because this code compiles just fine" - random QA comment "Facebook is where you tell lies to your friends. Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers." - chriselst "I don't drink any more... then again, I don't drink any less." - Mike Mullikins uncle
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Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
I'm less than a year away and looking forward to it. I have had many years of practice staying out of the Queen's way, and plenty of caves nearby to hide in when I don't.
There are no solutions, only trade-offs.
- Thomas SowellA day can really slip by when you're deliberately avoiding what you're supposed to do.
- Calvin (Bill Watterson, Calvin & Hobbes) -
Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
God, if you exist, please let me go during... :-\ way before retirement.
"the debugger doesn't tell me anything because this code compiles just fine" - random QA comment "Facebook is where you tell lies to your friends. Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers." - chriselst "I don't drink any more... then again, I don't drink any less." - Mike Mullikins uncle
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Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
Ah, yes, our "Golden Years"! My first retirement 35 years ago, play lots of golf, blah, blah. Reality set in. Started contracting, part time. Retired again (rinse, repeat). SO and I give each other space, divide "around the house" stuff without really documenting it, just happens. Like the saying goes, I just click OK. Older relatives and their ailments/dementia episodes came and went, dealt with as best we could. Hurts when it is parents. I point to my left elbow, "that doesn't hurt". Hang in there, life is good.
>64 It’s weird being the same age as old people. Live every day like it is your last; one day, it will be.
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Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
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Ah, yes, our "Golden Years"! My first retirement 35 years ago, play lots of golf, blah, blah. Reality set in. Started contracting, part time. Retired again (rinse, repeat). SO and I give each other space, divide "around the house" stuff without really documenting it, just happens. Like the saying goes, I just click OK. Older relatives and their ailments/dementia episodes came and went, dealt with as best we could. Hurts when it is parents. I point to my left elbow, "that doesn't hurt". Hang in there, life is good.
>64 It’s weird being the same age as old people. Live every day like it is your last; one day, it will be.
theoldfool wrote:
I point to my left elbow, "that doesn't hurt"
I got that reference.
I’ve given up trying to be calm. However, I am open to feeling slightly less agitated. I’m begging you for the benefit of everyone, don’t be STUPID.
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Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
charlieg wrote:
I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy
After retirement one needs to fill at least an extra 40 hours a week for another 20 years. So on top of whatever stuff one was already doing while working. That is lot of time. And one has to be completely self driven as well. On the job one is always thinking 'I got to get this done because Bob and Mary really need it to happen'. But in retirement the only driver, again for 20 years, is yourself. More time for gardening? 20 years worth? How big is that yard really? Home improvements? 20 years worth? Even presuming the back holds up. Learning to oil paint? You will be an expert in only 5 years.
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If I live to be old enough to get away with it I'm just going to start biting people.
Check out my IoT graphics library here: https://honeythecodewitch.com/gfx And my IoT UI/User Experience library here: https://honeythecodewitch.com/uix
I paid too much money for these implants to risk them, but I have been considering taking up randomly humping legs. It might not be as much fun as it sounds, but it's likely to score me a private room at the nursing home! :-D
Will Rogers never met me.
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Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
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Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
I was gonna retire last July, but I bought another hotrod and SWMBO said I couldn't retire quite yet. Now, I'm set to retire in a year and a half. Me and SWMBO have been working from home since the covid bio attack happened, so we're used to each other. :)
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013 -
dandy72 wrote:
They'll put you on meds and you'll be sleeping the rest of your life away.
Some days that doesn't sound so bad.
There are no solutions, only trade-offs.
- Thomas SowellA day can really slip by when you're deliberately avoiding what you're supposed to do.
- Calvin (Bill Watterson, Calvin & Hobbes) -
Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
I am almost 70, and still love working as a .NET/Azure developer full time. I keep up with changing technology (recently built my first production Blazor web app) so I don’t let age and experience get in the way of being proficient in current and coming technologies. I am sure the day is coming when I either can’t or don’t want to work full time. But that day is not here yet, nor knocking at the door (yet). To preview retirement, I work from home 100% remote. My wife and I worked out the issues of me being home with her 24x7. I have my room for daytime work with a refrigerator, bathroom nearby, and a small kitchen so I don’t get in her way. She comes down to visit and watch TV when she wants to during the day. If possible in the reader’s job, try a year or so of 100% remote before retiring. It sure helped us.
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I was gonna retire last July, but I bought another hotrod and SWMBO said I couldn't retire quite yet. Now, I'm set to retire in a year and a half. Me and SWMBO have been working from home since the covid bio attack happened, so we're used to each other. :)
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013 -
Ah retirement, the golden years... I'm approaching fts (I'll let you figure out what that means). I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy and away from my SO who is trying to adapt to retirement as well. But wow. I just deleted the rest of my rant. If you are close to this, I would strongly suggest an early trial period if you are married or in a relationship. I'm going bat $hit crazy. Being under the microscope and being hovered over is tasking me. Toss in an 86 yo demented MIL that broke her hip 2 weeks ago, an 88 yo FIL who is showing signs... :mad:
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
I appreciate all of your feedback. I know there are some very experienced people here ;) and say something stupid on the lounge, you will reap what you sow. On the other hand, there is an enormous wealth of technical, life, cooking and dealing with cats experience here. In retrospect, I confess to whining a bit. Part of my stress is the MIL busting her hip a few weeks ago (and I'm the in-law). So, wife is stressed for FIL. MIL/FIL have been in an a long term abusive relationship (won't go into it - mental issues at play) and MIL is post mid stage dementia. FIL is now slightly distancing himself from her noise and getting some sleep - starting to see things rationally. The physical situation is that they have lived 5 houses up the street for 10 years, and at first, I thought it was a curse. Today, it's a blessing. We can give him a hot meal (MIL is in PT for another 10 days) and let him vent a bit. He expressed his appreciation that he could drop in, eat some good food and just decompress. Broke my heart that I was irritated at all of the disruption. Helping older family at this time is extraordinarily difficult. You don't want to see it coming, and when it does it's an elephanting freight train. As for work, the first thing I'm going to do is stop bitching and get into the projects. It will help get MIL into assisted living and the next phase of family life. I've committed to MBW to fix or get rid of the broken car and repaint the downstairs with all trim. I'll check in next month. Side note: if there is anyone out there getting into this elder parent care thing, feel free to reach out. All I have are scars, so I might be able to have some suggestions. I used to thing software was complicated, then I started dealing with this.
Charlie Gilley “They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759 Has never been more appropriate.
