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Konstantin Vasserman wrote: she already knows how you feel about her You are abslolutely right. She knows, and it seems she does not mind. Go ahead, Adam. It's now or never. :rose: On the other hand, be warned that you will have less time for your computer. :suss: I vote pro drink :beer:
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Hi, remember my post a while ago? Well, Wednesday she calls at 10:00, and we talk on the phone for two hours. THursday, she calls at 12:02, and we talk for four hours. Then she invites me to go grocery shopping with her at Costco. I'm still confused.
I spent about a year madly in love with a girl and too scared to tell her. While I don't think anything long term would have come of it, it is definately one of my lifes regrets that in hindsight she felt the same way I did and nothing came of it because I spent my time agonising and over analysing, when I should have just told her. So tell her already. As has been said, she knows already, so you've got little to lose. Christian I have come to clean zee pooollll. - Michael Martin Dec 30, 2001
Sonork ID 100.10002:MeanManOz
I live in Bob's HungOut now
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Hi, remember my post a while ago? Well, Wednesday she calls at 10:00, and we talk on the phone for two hours. THursday, she calls at 12:02, and we talk for four hours. Then she invites me to go grocery shopping with her at Costco. I'm still confused.
Confused means you don't know how you feel about her. She doesn't have a clue as to how you feel about her either and treats you as a friend. If you want to be a friend (I don't believe in friendships between the sexes BTW) you need to get away from her. If you want the babe...go after it! NOW, QUIT WHINING, GET OFF YOUR ASS, AND GO FOR IT! Just be sure to post snapshots! ):rolleyes: ed 'Love is an obsessive delusion that is cured by marriage.' Dr. Karl Bowman
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Confused means you don't know how you feel about her. She doesn't have a clue as to how you feel about her either and treats you as a friend. If you want to be a friend (I don't believe in friendships between the sexes BTW) you need to get away from her. If you want the babe...go after it! NOW, QUIT WHINING, GET OFF YOUR ASS, AND GO FOR IT! Just be sure to post snapshots! ):rolleyes: ed 'Love is an obsessive delusion that is cured by marriage.' Dr. Karl Bowman
Ed K wrote: She doesn't have a clue as to how you feel about her either If this is true then Adam needs to run and hide as fast as he can. If she did not figure him out by now she has some serious issues and he is better off without her.
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Nemanja Trifunovic wrote: you will have less time for your computer Hmm... Love for woman vs. love for computer... I think his girl is doomed. :)
Konstantin Vasserman wrote: Love for woman vs. love for computer Such a hard choice!! :-D :-D Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart "And that's the news from Lake Wobegon, where all the women are strong, the men are good-looking, and the children are above-average." - Garrison Keillor
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Hi, remember my post a while ago? Well, Wednesday she calls at 10:00, and we talk on the phone for two hours. THursday, she calls at 12:02, and we talk for four hours. Then she invites me to go grocery shopping with her at Costco. I'm still confused.
Adam Arthur wrote: invites me to go grocery shopping with her at Costco Do you think she did this because (a) she needed a ride and help carrying her shopping, or (b) she sees you as a potential mate and what better way to let you know this than to share her nesting instincts or (c) none of the above? Probably (c). Adam Arthur wrote: I'm still confused. No you're not! You're just scared of rejection. It's the price you pay for being human. Welcome to the club. <advice> Now, stop analyzing and ask her out for a movie. It's unlikely she'll refuse. Make sure you buy the tickets. If she protests, tell her it's your treat and she can pay next time. But if she insists, let her buy her own ticket. After the movie, suggest that you guys grab a bite or a cup of coffee. Chances are she'll say yes. That'll also give her the opportunity to even the treat if she's feeling uncomfortable. Keep the conversation light and don't talk much about yourself - when you do, interject the odd self-deprecating remark. Ask her what she thinks of things, but don't get too deep. Keep your sense of humor. In short, ENJOY her company! Give her the chance to get to know you. Don't come on strong like Rambo, just be human and honest. (But don't confuse honesty with pouring your heart out). At the end of the evening, casually throw in the "Hey, I had a great time - we should do this again!" thing. At time t (24 hours <= t < 48 hours) give her a call and let her know you had a nice time. This will let her know beyond a doubt that you're interested in more than shopping at Costco. Gauge her reaction, and don't feel bad if it reeks of "platonic". If she responds in kind (don't ask me how you'll know - you'll know!) you're on your way to getting to know each other better. If not, you've just found someone to hang out with and be friends with. Or maybe she just wants more time. Either way, you can't lose. </advice> The important thing to remember is that people come into each other's lives for a reason. Perhaps she's just meant to be your friend. Or maybe she'll end up being the best friend you'll ever have. But you'll never know unless you ask her out. /ravi "There is always one more bug..." http://www.ravib.com ravib@ravib.com
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Adam Arthur wrote: invites me to go grocery shopping with her at Costco Do you think she did this because (a) she needed a ride and help carrying her shopping, or (b) she sees you as a potential mate and what better way to let you know this than to share her nesting instincts or (c) none of the above? Probably (c). Adam Arthur wrote: I'm still confused. No you're not! You're just scared of rejection. It's the price you pay for being human. Welcome to the club. <advice> Now, stop analyzing and ask her out for a movie. It's unlikely she'll refuse. Make sure you buy the tickets. If she protests, tell her it's your treat and she can pay next time. But if she insists, let her buy her own ticket. After the movie, suggest that you guys grab a bite or a cup of coffee. Chances are she'll say yes. That'll also give her the opportunity to even the treat if she's feeling uncomfortable. Keep the conversation light and don't talk much about yourself - when you do, interject the odd self-deprecating remark. Ask her what she thinks of things, but don't get too deep. Keep your sense of humor. In short, ENJOY her company! Give her the chance to get to know you. Don't come on strong like Rambo, just be human and honest. (But don't confuse honesty with pouring your heart out). At the end of the evening, casually throw in the "Hey, I had a great time - we should do this again!" thing. At time t (24 hours <= t < 48 hours) give her a call and let her know you had a nice time. This will let her know beyond a doubt that you're interested in more than shopping at Costco. Gauge her reaction, and don't feel bad if it reeks of "platonic". If she responds in kind (don't ask me how you'll know - you'll know!) you're on your way to getting to know each other better. If not, you've just found someone to hang out with and be friends with. Or maybe she just wants more time. Either way, you can't lose. </advice> The important thing to remember is that people come into each other's lives for a reason. Perhaps she's just meant to be your friend. Or maybe she'll end up being the best friend you'll ever have. But you'll never know unless you ask her out. /ravi "There is always one more bug..." http://www.ravib.com ravib@ravib.com
Well guys... i think we have our first article for "The DateProject". :-D Mauricio Teichmann Ritter Brazil mauricioritter@hotmail.com
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Adam Arthur wrote: invites me to go grocery shopping with her at Costco Do you think she did this because (a) she needed a ride and help carrying her shopping, or (b) she sees you as a potential mate and what better way to let you know this than to share her nesting instincts or (c) none of the above? Probably (c). Adam Arthur wrote: I'm still confused. No you're not! You're just scared of rejection. It's the price you pay for being human. Welcome to the club. <advice> Now, stop analyzing and ask her out for a movie. It's unlikely she'll refuse. Make sure you buy the tickets. If she protests, tell her it's your treat and she can pay next time. But if she insists, let her buy her own ticket. After the movie, suggest that you guys grab a bite or a cup of coffee. Chances are she'll say yes. That'll also give her the opportunity to even the treat if she's feeling uncomfortable. Keep the conversation light and don't talk much about yourself - when you do, interject the odd self-deprecating remark. Ask her what she thinks of things, but don't get too deep. Keep your sense of humor. In short, ENJOY her company! Give her the chance to get to know you. Don't come on strong like Rambo, just be human and honest. (But don't confuse honesty with pouring your heart out). At the end of the evening, casually throw in the "Hey, I had a great time - we should do this again!" thing. At time t (24 hours <= t < 48 hours) give her a call and let her know you had a nice time. This will let her know beyond a doubt that you're interested in more than shopping at Costco. Gauge her reaction, and don't feel bad if it reeks of "platonic". If she responds in kind (don't ask me how you'll know - you'll know!) you're on your way to getting to know each other better. If not, you've just found someone to hang out with and be friends with. Or maybe she just wants more time. Either way, you can't lose. </advice> The important thing to remember is that people come into each other's lives for a reason. Perhaps she's just meant to be your friend. Or maybe she'll end up being the best friend you'll ever have. But you'll never know unless you ask her out. /ravi "There is always one more bug..." http://www.ravib.com ravib@ravib.com
Different people do and want different things. Your advice will never work for me, for example. The problem with doing things the way you have suggested is that it leaves too many maybes for Adam. At the end of the day he will still not have a straight answer to his question. It would just drive him insane. He will go into never ending analysis of every word she said and how she said it and when she said it and what reason she might have to be saying it. I am sure Adam is already doing that, so why not just cut to the chase and resolve the problem. I am not saying act as a Rambo, just be straight with her and tell her what is on his mind. Even if she does not feel like being anything other than a friend she will still be able to be a friend after his words. What is there better than a friend that loves you? If she does not understand that and get scared - she is probably not worthy of his love anyway.
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Different people do and want different things. Your advice will never work for me, for example. The problem with doing things the way you have suggested is that it leaves too many maybes for Adam. At the end of the day he will still not have a straight answer to his question. It would just drive him insane. He will go into never ending analysis of every word she said and how she said it and when she said it and what reason she might have to be saying it. I am sure Adam is already doing that, so why not just cut to the chase and resolve the problem. I am not saying act as a Rambo, just be straight with her and tell her what is on his mind. Even if she does not feel like being anything other than a friend she will still be able to be a friend after his words. What is there better than a friend that loves you? If she does not understand that and get scared - she is probably not worthy of his love anyway.
Konstantin Vasserman wrote: At the end of the day he will still not have a straight answer to his question. Imho, things like this can take time. Of course it's entirely possible that at the end of the day Adam will have an answer. But will it be the one he wants? Adam, we await your posts! /ravi "There is always one more bug..." http://www.ravib.com ravib@ravib.com
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Well guys... i think we have our first article for "The DateProject". :-D Mauricio Teichmann Ritter Brazil mauricioritter@hotmail.com
Gee, what can I say? People have been coming to me for advice for years. :) Hmmm, maybe if I'd followed some of it I wouldn't be spending Saturday night working on my next product... /ravi "There is always one more bug..." http://www.ravib.com ravib@ravib.com
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Konstantin Vasserman wrote: Love for woman vs. love for computer Such a hard choice!! :-D :-D Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart "And that's the news from Lake Wobegon, where all the women are strong, the men are good-looking, and the children are above-average." - Garrison Keillor
Unless you can find a woman who likes computers too .. oh, wait, nevermind... "Am I talking too fast, or are you just playing dumb? If you want I can write it down." -Jarvis Cocker/Pulp
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Hey dude, Remember the advice you got ! We demend an update . So will it be a slap on the face or success ? :-) Regardz Colin J Davies
Sonork ID 100.9197:Colin
I live in Bob's HungOut now
Frankly Colin, I don't think what he is doing is smart. What if she comes across this thread. or someone she knows sees this thread and forwards it to her. He's gonna be in trouble. Nish Sonork ID 100.9786 voidmain www.busterboy.org If you don't find me on CP, I'll be at Bob's HungOut
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What in the world are you confused about? Stop being confused. It looks like she is very much interested in you. Make your move and figure your doubts later. If you just sit on your behind being confused she will loose interest in you before you get a chance to find out what it's all about... Gash, I thought you already got married by now. :) Good luck.
Konstantin Vasserman wrote: Gash, I thought you already got married by now LOL Not so soon, not so soon..... Nish Sonork ID 100.9786 voidmain www.busterboy.org If you don't find me on CP, I'll be at Bob's HungOut
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Konstantin Vasserman wrote: Love for woman vs. love for computer Such a hard choice!! :-D :-D Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart "And that's the news from Lake Wobegon, where all the women are strong, the men are good-looking, and the children are above-average." - Garrison Keillor
Brian Hart wrote: Love for woman vs. love for computer Such a hard choice!! Not all all. The decision is obvious. The lady has to go! Some other time, maybe, but now it has to be the computer Nish Sonork ID 100.9786 voidmain www.busterboy.org If you don't find me on CP, I'll be at Bob's HungOut
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Konstantin Vasserman wrote: At the end of the day he will still not have a straight answer to his question. Imho, things like this can take time. Of course it's entirely possible that at the end of the day Adam will have an answer. But will it be the one he wants? Adam, we await your posts! /ravi "There is always one more bug..." http://www.ravib.com ravib@ravib.com
Ravi Bhavnani wrote: Adam, we await your posts! Are we? I'd have thought he'd be better off, not saying all these things here in public. Damn, he's even using his real name. The girl is not dumb, right? What if she sees this whole thread? I dont think she'd like it when she knows that 25 people from 15 different countries are discussin her relationship with Adam Nish Sonork ID 100.9786 voidmain www.busterboy.org If you don't find me on CP, I'll be at Bob's HungOut
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Unless you can find a woman who likes computers too .. oh, wait, nevermind... "Am I talking too fast, or are you just playing dumb? If you want I can write it down." -Jarvis Cocker/Pulp
No, even that wont matter. Its either the woman or the comp, see? So the woman's liking/disliking for comps dont come into the pic at all. Nish Sonork ID 100.9786 voidmain www.busterboy.org If you don't find me on CP, I'll be at Bob's HungOut
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Gee, what can I say? People have been coming to me for advice for years. :) Hmmm, maybe if I'd followed some of it I wouldn't be spending Saturday night working on my next product... /ravi "There is always one more bug..." http://www.ravib.com ravib@ravib.com
Ravi Bhavnani wrote: Hmmm, maybe if I'd followed some of it I wouldn't be spending Saturday night working on You do not know how lucky and fortunate you are Ravi! Nish Sonork ID 100.9786 voidmain www.busterboy.org If you don't find me on CP, I'll be at Bob's HungOut
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Hi, remember my post a while ago? Well, Wednesday she calls at 10:00, and we talk on the phone for two hours. THursday, she calls at 12:02, and we talk for four hours. Then she invites me to go grocery shopping with her at Costco. I'm still confused.
Well, she went to her aunt's this weekend. I am going to invite her to go hiking in the Santa Monica mountains. We both enjoy this type of activity, so I think its a good oppertunity to break the ice. Thanks everyone for your advice, I really appreiciate it! And, I'll be sure to update you. Thanks, once again!
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Ravi Bhavnani wrote: Hmmm, maybe if I'd followed some of it I wouldn't be spending Saturday night working on You do not know how lucky and fortunate you are Ravi! Nish Sonork ID 100.9786 voidmain www.busterboy.org If you don't find me on CP, I'll be at Bob's HungOut
Ah... sometimes I think so, but often I don't. :| /ravi "There is always one more bug..." http://www.ravib.com ravib@ravib.com
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Hi, remember my post a while ago? Well, Wednesday she calls at 10:00, and we talk on the phone for two hours. THursday, she calls at 12:02, and we talk for four hours. Then she invites me to go grocery shopping with her at Costco. I'm still confused.
Adam Arthur wrote: Well, Wednesday she calls at 10:00, and we talk on the phone for two hours. Thursday, she calls at 12:02, and we talk for four hours. How can you be confused? What the hell did you talk about for 6 hours? I don't think I've spent 6 hours talking to my wife on the phone... total... in 16 years!!! Jesus Christ*, man!!! Stop being a wuss and tell her how you feel!!! At your current pace, you'll both be middle-aged before your first kiss. Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!!! *Religous reference for effect only, I'm actually an athiest!!
Mike Mullikin - Sonork 100.10096 "Programming is like sex. One mistake and you have to support it for the rest of your life." - Michael Sinz
