Ideas For A Good Time Wanted
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What would be the fun in that? They're all alike in bed. The difference arises when you try to build a life together. When you're young, getting laid is really important; when you reach middle age, having someone special to share your life with becomes far more important. That's what lasts, and the sooner you learn that lesson, the better your life will become. It doesn't matter how young or old she is. All that matters is that ability to share experiences, and enjoy them together. Learn from me, youngster, and live a long, happy life. Or ignore me and live a miserable, lonely life. I really don't give a hoot - I cast pearls before swine regularly, but I never look back. "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
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Roger Wright wrote: Suggestions, anyone... the zoo or a state/national park? yes, there is another reason why I don't date. ;) _________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
That's a great idea - a national park. We have several within a few hours' drive. The Grand Canyon is the obvious choice, but Bryce Canyon and Zion National Park are not that far away. First, though, we have to progress to the point where spending a night together in a hotel is not threatening to her, and we're not yet there. I just met her Saturday, and we had a dinner together, after which she went out to see a friend who runs a tattoo parlor. This is far from being a "relationship" yet; it's just a matter of two people of vastly differing ages getting together to share some fun. I have no idea whether it will ever go beyond that, but I appreciate your thoughts - great ideas, and they're worth pursuing no matter where they lead. Thank you....:-D "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
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Dinner last night went rather well, but it's followup time. I have no idea what modern twenty-something year old ladies enjoy for entertainment. When I was that age they were into clubbing, surfing, smoking dope and strumming guitars; times have changed. I'm planning an escape from the heat for a barbeque in the mountains on Sunday, but I'm stumped for any other creative ideas beyond that. Suggestions, anyone...;) "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
an off the wall suggestion this, but it might be worth a try :) how about a long phone call / talk in person, just friendly conversation, getting to know each other, and then ask her what sort of things she would like to do? it is just possible she will give you some helpful advice :) of course if she says "surprise me" then go with the best of what we think up here in the lounge ;) zen is the art of being at one with the two'ness
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What would be the fun in that? They're all alike in bed. The difference arises when you try to build a life together. When you're young, getting laid is really important; when you reach middle age, having someone special to share your life with becomes far more important. That's what lasts, and the sooner you learn that lesson, the better your life will become. It doesn't matter how young or old she is. All that matters is that ability to share experiences, and enjoy them together. Learn from me, youngster, and live a long, happy life. Or ignore me and live a miserable, lonely life. I really don't give a hoot - I cast pearls before swine regularly, but I never look back. "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
based on the wisdom and intelligence of this reply how about simply being yourself, and going for a quiet walk somewhere scenic? any nice nature reserves / quiet beaches / lightly wooded areas in your area? fresh air, gentle exercise, non threatening environment, plenty of time and space for conversation... if nothing else a nice change from spending all day in front of a computer :) then again i am not a great fan of crowds, so i am prone to advising more quiet and contemplative ideas :) zen is the art of being at one with the two'ness
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Maybe in Cornstalk, Iowa the idea of a 3 or 4 hour 'train ride to nowhere dinner excersion' is so exciting that you would take a 'twenty-something' there on a date. I realize your wife loves the idea but I would venture a guess that she is not 'twenty-something' and it must be considered that she lives in Iowa and probably has tipped a few in her time. If the 'twenty-something' comes from a the place where people outnumber the cows she may have more descriminating taste (pun intended). Life's a bitch ... then you marry one!!!!!!!
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BitchyHacker wrote: Maybe she won't notice your receiding hairline. I don't have one, and you can't spell "receding." BitchyHacker wrote: Life's a bitch ... then you marry one!!!!!!! Nice attitude, and I guarantee that it will be self-fulfilling if you choose to keep it. I think life is an opportunity to excel, and marriage is one of the forums in which one has the chance to prove excellence. I made a mistake the first time around, thinking that I could help someone overcome emotional challenges that I can't even imagine. I won't be making the same mistake twice.:) "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
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That's a great idea - a national park. We have several within a few hours' drive. The Grand Canyon is the obvious choice, but Bryce Canyon and Zion National Park are not that far away. First, though, we have to progress to the point where spending a night together in a hotel is not threatening to her, and we're not yet there. I just met her Saturday, and we had a dinner together, after which she went out to see a friend who runs a tattoo parlor. This is far from being a "relationship" yet; it's just a matter of two people of vastly differing ages getting together to share some fun. I have no idea whether it will ever go beyond that, but I appreciate your thoughts - great ideas, and they're worth pursuing no matter where they lead. Thank you....:-D "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
Roger Wright wrote: I just met her Saturday, and we had a dinner together, after which she went out to see a friend who runs a tattoo parlor. Ask to see her tattoos (I think that is the plural of tats?). You might be surprised at what you see! Life's a bitch ... then you marry one!!!!!!!
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Try the sport gaining in popularity across America that both males and females alike can enjoy... Naked Tennis!
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If you have to ask this question she is too young for you. There is nothing that looks more foolish than an old man trying to impress a young girl. Be sure to comb your hair foward before across your forehead. Maybe she won't notice your receding hairline. Then again there has to be a reason sayings like "there's no fool like an old fool" are so trans-generational. Life's a bitch ... then you marry one!!!!!!!
BitchyHacker wrote: If you have to ask this question she is too young for you. Either that or he respects all of us and really respects her. He might have some great ideas of his own but in querying the rest of us he gleans some more ideas and also confirmation that he's on the right path. I think Roger shows a lot of wisdom in this. Wise men are slow to speak, quick to listen and slow to become angry. The only part of it I understand is that listening can be useful... still working on the whole approach in practice...:^) I'm hopeful though that I'll get better. But I'm a cancer and the only horoscope for cancer I've found useful is, "Don't worry they will find a cure someday." and that tends to generally describe my character flaws but hey, I'm still a kid so it's all good. {I'll just keep telling myself that and pretty soon denial will be a river in Egypt.}:doh:
I know you can't become if you only say what you would have done and you'll miss a million miles of fun." - Len Work hard, play hard. Don't forget who you are and don't forget where you're from. Do all these things well and you won't have to wonder where you are going.
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Dinner last night went rather well, but it's followup time. I have no idea what modern twenty-something year old ladies enjoy for entertainment. When I was that age they were into clubbing, surfing, smoking dope and strumming guitars; times have changed. I'm planning an escape from the heat for a barbeque in the mountains on Sunday, but I'm stumped for any other creative ideas beyond that. Suggestions, anyone...;) "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
My wife and I had a great time yesterday afternoon drinking beverages sitting outside catching some rays (never seems to go above 80 here so that's nice to do) and listening to tunes. When you're with the right person it almost doesn't matter at all what you do. Honestly do you really want to try to impress a 20 something? How far are you willing to take that - Base Jumping? ;P My dad is a little older than you and he dated a woman that was a little younger than I am for a while. It didn't last, I think he wanted someone he could relate to more in the end, but they had fun while it did and they usually did things outside like making up a nice batch of picnic food, good wine and going to a nice spot to laze around and munch out. And what's wrong with clubbing surfing or strumming guitars? (I know plenty of people do do all that and more at every age imaginable around here. Possibly some of the exact same people you might have done it with back in the day.) Sounds like you might be trying too hard Roger, that's a turn off for a woman of any age, just ask her what she would like to do and limit your contribution to the stuff *you* want to do (and don't forget to keep sex on the table as an ongoing option). Just keep your ears peeled for anything she might mention and take it as it comes.
"A preoccupation with the next world pretty clearly signals an inability to cope credibly with this one."
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What would be the fun in that? They're all alike in bed. The difference arises when you try to build a life together. When you're young, getting laid is really important; when you reach middle age, having someone special to share your life with becomes far more important. That's what lasts, and the sooner you learn that lesson, the better your life will become. It doesn't matter how young or old she is. All that matters is that ability to share experiences, and enjoy them together. Learn from me, youngster, and live a long, happy life. Or ignore me and live a miserable, lonely life. I really don't give a hoot - I cast pearls before swine regularly, but I never look back. "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
Roger Wright wrote: when you reach middle age, having someone special to share your life with becomes far more important Just as long as the sex is good! :laugh:
"A preoccupation with the next world pretty clearly signals an inability to cope credibly with this one."
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You might want to consider the remote (to you) possibility that you may be selling yourself short. Perhaps you may be more attractive than you think. We do tend to be our own worst critics in these matters, you know... I'm a homely muthuh, as anyone who has seen my picture knows, but I'm a gentleman, and a genuinely good person, and often that is far more important to a lady. Any man who claims to know what a woman will find attractive is a fool. They make their own choices based on standards that they persist in not sharing with us, and there is absolutely nothing we can do about it. When questioned, they have no idea how to explain their selections, although I have a private theory that the uglier you are, and the lower the standards you maintain, the better your chances are. I've never seen an exception to that rule around here, but the world is large. I think we're all clueless when it comes to relationships, especially relationships of the best kind. Best bet, to my thinking, is to roll with the punches and be happy with whatever comes your way, so long as the match is close enough to make tomorrow an event to look forward to.:-D I have no idea whether this young lady will become a wife, a lover, a friend, or a stranger I once knew. I don't care all that much what form the relationship takes; I care much more that she and I come to know each other well enough to make an informed choice. I'm having fun on this adventure, and if it ends tomorrow, that's okay - I still had fun. Not to mention a magnificent dinner...:-D "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
Roger Wright wrote: You might want to consider the remote (to you) possibility that you may be selling yourself short... Any man who claims to know what a woman will find attractive is a fool... I have no idea whether this young lady will become a wife, a lover, a friend, or a stranger I once knew... This gets a 5 right back because it's true. The magical thing is she can be a wife, lover, friend and stranger all at the same time. That's an incredible experience.
I know you can't become if you only say what you would have done and you'll miss a million miles of fun." - Len Work hard, play hard. Don't forget who you are and don't forget where you're from. Do all these things well and you won't have to wonder where you are going.
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That's a great idea - a national park. We have several within a few hours' drive. The Grand Canyon is the obvious choice, but Bryce Canyon and Zion National Park are not that far away. First, though, we have to progress to the point where spending a night together in a hotel is not threatening to her, and we're not yet there. I just met her Saturday, and we had a dinner together, after which she went out to see a friend who runs a tattoo parlor. This is far from being a "relationship" yet; it's just a matter of two people of vastly differing ages getting together to share some fun. I have no idea whether it will ever go beyond that, but I appreciate your thoughts - great ideas, and they're worth pursuing no matter where they lead. Thank you....:-D "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
Roger Wright wrote: The Grand Canyon is the obvious choice, but Bryce Canyon and Zion National Park are not that far away. Just remember, Grand Canyon is best on the North side with a fraction of the visiters and IMHO much better views. :) Just came through Bryce & Zion and north end of grand canyon last oct. When you are up to staying the night, you can even book the lodge on the north rim and wake up to the view of sunrise on the canyon walls. I have done that once, though I camped, no one with me so camping was easier. _________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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BitchyHacker wrote: If you have to ask this question she is too young for you. Either that or he respects all of us and really respects her. He might have some great ideas of his own but in querying the rest of us he gleans some more ideas and also confirmation that he's on the right path. I think Roger shows a lot of wisdom in this. Wise men are slow to speak, quick to listen and slow to become angry. The only part of it I understand is that listening can be useful... still working on the whole approach in practice...:^) I'm hopeful though that I'll get better. But I'm a cancer and the only horoscope for cancer I've found useful is, "Don't worry they will find a cure someday." and that tends to generally describe my character flaws but hey, I'm still a kid so it's all good. {I'll just keep telling myself that and pretty soon denial will be a river in Egypt.}:doh:
I know you can't become if you only say what you would have done and you'll miss a million miles of fun." - Len Work hard, play hard. Don't forget who you are and don't forget where you're from. Do all these things well and you won't have to wonder where you are going.
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Roger Wright wrote: The Grand Canyon is the obvious choice, but Bryce Canyon and Zion National Park are not that far away. Just remember, Grand Canyon is best on the North side with a fraction of the visiters and IMHO much better views. :) Just came through Bryce & Zion and north end of grand canyon last oct. When you are up to staying the night, you can even book the lodge on the north rim and wake up to the view of sunrise on the canyon walls. I have done that once, though I camped, no one with me so camping was easier. _________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
The last time I was at Grand Canyon it was a misbegotten attempt to meet up with Shog9. We were both there, but both discovered that our cell phones are worthless. We never met, and I ended up having a possum burger at the Roadkill Cafe in Seligman. Great trip, though...:-D The last time I saw Bryce Canyon was also the last design review I hosted at Hill AFB for Peacekeeper. I chose to drive rather than fly that trip, and took along my camping gear - I still have no idea why. When I got to Bryce Canyon I had no cash left for a hotel, but had enough to buy coffee, bacon, eggs, and two small bundles of firewood from a convenience store nearby. It was Jan 19th - I'll never forget that - and the campground was closed for the winter with 3' of snow on the ground. I shovelled out a space for my tent, pitched it and settled in for the night. Every fifteen minutes or so I was awakened by the cold - it was -10 that night - and relit my Coleman heater for a few minutes. A few minutes with one of those catalytic heaters is enough to heat a small space way too hot. In the morning I managed somehow to make a pot of coffee and cook a pound of bacon before my wood ran out. The eggs I left for the racoons. I autographed the snow in the usual male manner, packed the tent, and left the $6 fee for camping in the drop box by the exit on my way out, then spent the morning exploring those roads that my car could reach before continuing my journey home. What an awesome place that canyon is... I could spend weeks exploring it. Zion was just a drive-thru on that trip, and I'd love to see it properly one day. I'd just much rather not have to do so alone... I'm so tired of doing everything alone.:sigh: Thanks for a great suggestion!:-D "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley
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My wife and I had a great time yesterday afternoon drinking beverages sitting outside catching some rays (never seems to go above 80 here so that's nice to do) and listening to tunes. When you're with the right person it almost doesn't matter at all what you do. Honestly do you really want to try to impress a 20 something? How far are you willing to take that - Base Jumping? ;P My dad is a little older than you and he dated a woman that was a little younger than I am for a while. It didn't last, I think he wanted someone he could relate to more in the end, but they had fun while it did and they usually did things outside like making up a nice batch of picnic food, good wine and going to a nice spot to laze around and munch out. And what's wrong with clubbing surfing or strumming guitars? (I know plenty of people do do all that and more at every age imaginable around here. Possibly some of the exact same people you might have done it with back in the day.) Sounds like you might be trying too hard Roger, that's a turn off for a woman of any age, just ask her what she would like to do and limit your contribution to the stuff *you* want to do (and don't forget to keep sex on the table as an ongoing option). Just keep your ears peeled for anything she might mention and take it as it comes.
"A preoccupation with the next world pretty clearly signals an inability to cope credibly with this one."
John Cardinal wrote: what's wrong with clubbing surfing or strumming guitars? Absolutely nothing - I've played for over 40 years. But youngsters like headbanging stuff, and I've never understood the value of it. John Cardinal wrote: Just keep your ears peeled for anything she might mention and take it as it comes. I'm doing just that, and tossing in ideas that I think might be fun. I never try too hard - what would be the point in that? If I have to become someone different to be compatible with a partner, then I have the wrong partner. I did that once, and was dumb enough to marry her. I won't be doing that again. I may be old and slow, but I'm not stupid.;) John Cardinal wrote: do you really want to try to impress a 20 something? No, I don't want to impress anyone. I just want to appreciated for what I am, and if someone 26 years old happens to be the person who does, I will be appropriately grateful. I don't care if she's 86 - it doesn't matter. I've lived through 30-some years of women playing stupid guessing games with men - I neither know how to play, nor have any interest in learning. So, color me stupid and stubborn. I just want to find someone who enjoys my company and doesn't need to play silly games. Kelly seems to be a fairly straightforward lady, despite her young age, and I appreciate that a lot. If she never wants to see me again, that's okay with me - I had a great night in her company. If she does, that's even better. But, no, I'm not out to "impress" her. I'm just out to be me, and let her decide. I was looking for ideas, just in case I'm really out of date. I didn't want to be suggesting outings that make me look like an antique. As it turns out, things haven't changed all that much since I was "in the market." :-D "...putting all your eggs in one basket along with your bowling ball and gym clothes only gets you scrambled eggs and an extra laundry day... " - Jeffry J. Brickley