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Pathak, For whatever its worth, I'm an Alaskan rather than an Indian, but I *am* a woman and have a strong opinion about your quandry. You should definitely go but you should try moving heaven and earth to find some way to bring your wife along with you. Working in a foreign country for a period will undoubtedly help your career and broaden your future prospects, even if you both hate it at the time. Your wife is a part of your life now and should share this experience with you. If you both are in love (and it sounds like you are), then you, your wife, and your marriage will prosper through this adventure. The company may be sponsoring your trip, but two can live as cheaply as one once you've arrived in town. Perhaps there is somebody in one of your families whom you could talk to about borrowing the airfare? Perhaps your company would be willing to front the cost of her airfare and let you pay it back gradually? If you decide not to go so as to stay with her or decide to go and leave her behind, I'm sure your marriage will survive. It will leave a small scar in your memories as you grow older, though. If the rest of your marriage is good, this won't really matter. Still, if you can find some way to bring her along, you can be proud of yourself...for sure your wife will be.
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Nishant Sivakumar wrote:
Try and make sure your wife actually wants you to go. Sometimes, women may tell you to go ahead and do what you want, only to make you regret it for the rest of your lives
Now what is that supposed to mean? :suss: - Smitha Every problem has a gift for you in its hands. -- Richard Bach -- modified at 11:05 Wednesday 26th April, 2006
Smitha Vijayan wrote:
Nishant Sivakumar wrote: Try and make sure your wife actually wants you to go. Sometimes, women may tell you to go ahead and do what you want, only to make you regret it for the rest of your lives Now what is that supposed to mean? - Smitha
Nish, really what is that supposed to mean... ;P --- With best regards, A Manchester United Fan The Genius of a true fool is that he can mess up a foolproof plan!
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Pathak, There is probably much to be gained, but the unavoidable thing about accepting a post in the US is that you will be surrounded by Americans. Maybe wear a baseball cap continuously, even in the shower, and maybe you'll blend in and they won't notice you have real culture showing.
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Pathak, I was facing the same decision as you, just countries were different. I decided to stay at home with my wife and whole family. I never regret my decision. If your wife cannot go with you, stay at home and enjoy the life. 4 months could be long time. And usualy it's not enough and in fact you'll be forced by employer to stay longer, because you're so damn good (and cheap)... My advice: stay at home enjoying your wife. Or make kids, then you'll stop thinking about such things ;-) PS: because you're good, you'll have same opportunity several times per life. Not only once. Your current wife can be your wife only once in your life. Think about it.
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Pathak, I was facing the same decision as you, just countries were different. I decided to stay at home with my wife and whole family. I never regret my decision. If your wife cannot go with you, stay at home and enjoy the life. 4 months could be long time. And usualy it's not enough and in fact you'll be forced by employer to stay longer, because you're so damn good (and cheap)... My advice: stay at home enjoying your wife. Or make kids, then you'll stop thinking about such things ;-) PS: because you're good, you'll have same opportunity several times per life. Not only once. Your current wife can be your wife only once in your life. Think about it.