What to give as a wedding gift?
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Okay, in two weekends my husband's cousin Michael is getting married. Currently he and his fiance live and work in eastern SD where I used to live--a 2 hour drive. The bride to be is originally from western SD and hasn't lived there in several years. However, they decided to get married out in the Black Hills where she is from. So all of his family and a good portion of hers have to travel out there. Koris is in the wedding so we have to spend an additional night out there. So far I caculate the following for the wedding: 1. kori's tux rental: $100 2. 3 nights of hotel: about $300 3. Gas there and back (a five hour drive each way): about $100 4. Food for the weekend: about $50 So we are shelling out $500+ for this wedding so I really don't want to give them something expensive. And I'm also bitter about the drive. Any ideas? If we give cash, how much?
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Okay, in two weekends my husband's cousin Michael is getting married. Currently he and his fiance live and work in eastern SD where I used to live--a 2 hour drive. The bride to be is originally from western SD and hasn't lived there in several years. However, they decided to get married out in the Black Hills where she is from. So all of his family and a good portion of hers have to travel out there. Koris is in the wedding so we have to spend an additional night out there. So far I caculate the following for the wedding: 1. kori's tux rental: $100 2. 3 nights of hotel: about $300 3. Gas there and back (a five hour drive each way): about $100 4. Food for the weekend: about $50 So we are shelling out $500+ for this wedding so I really don't want to give them something expensive. And I'm also bitter about the drive. Any ideas? If we give cash, how much?
Cash is ALWAYS a bad idea. You have to give a lot to make up for the lack of thoughtfulness. A card that says 'we spent $500 to be here' is almost a better idea.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ Metal Musings - Rex and my new metal blog
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Okay, in two weekends my husband's cousin Michael is getting married. Currently he and his fiance live and work in eastern SD where I used to live--a 2 hour drive. The bride to be is originally from western SD and hasn't lived there in several years. However, they decided to get married out in the Black Hills where she is from. So all of his family and a good portion of hers have to travel out there. Koris is in the wedding so we have to spend an additional night out there. So far I caculate the following for the wedding: 1. kori's tux rental: $100 2. 3 nights of hotel: about $300 3. Gas there and back (a five hour drive each way): about $100 4. Food for the weekend: about $50 So we are shelling out $500+ for this wedding so I really don't want to give them something expensive. And I'm also bitter about the drive. Any ideas? If we give cash, how much?
When we got married the minimum cash gift we recieved from family was around $100. On the other hand a crystal picture frame is a generic gift that works for any wedding.
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When we got married the minimum cash gift we recieved from family was around $100. On the other hand a crystal picture frame is a generic gift that works for any wedding.
If I was getting married, and I was gonna get Crystal, I'd prefer it was a Crystal Pistol[^]. The crystal we got for our wedding is still in the shed somewhere, I think. I broke some of it the other day, actually.
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When we got married the minimum cash gift we recieved from family was around $100. On the other hand a crystal picture frame is a generic gift that works for any wedding.
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Cash is ALWAYS a bad idea. You have to give a lot to make up for the lack of thoughtfulness. A card that says 'we spent $500 to be here' is almost a better idea.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ Metal Musings - Rex and my new metal blog
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If I was getting married, and I was gonna get Crystal, I'd prefer it was a Crystal Pistol[^]. The crystal we got for our wedding is still in the shed somewhere, I think. I broke some of it the other day, actually.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ Metal Musings - Rex and my new metal blog
Yeah, thank god we didn't get alot of that when we got married. I only suggested it because of the tone of the post.
Christian Graus wrote:
I'd prefer it was a Crystal Pistol[^].
Looks much better.
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I can do that! I still have tons of frames from when I was a professional wedding photographer. Sweet!
If you cared and wanted to be nice, wedding photography would be a great present. We paid for a photographer to do the standard stuff, and we hardly ever look at the album, but my brother in law took some gret black and white photos of us together at the reception that we still have hanging on the wall. Of course your artistic sensabilites would have to match.
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If you cared and wanted to be nice, wedding photography would be a great present. We paid for a photographer to do the standard stuff, and we hardly ever look at the album, but my brother in law took some gret black and white photos of us together at the reception that we still have hanging on the wall. Of course your artistic sensabilites would have to match.
Since I used to be a wedding photographer they already "asked" for my services (which means free). Rule number one: don't ever do family. Plus his mom is the "crazy" one of the family. It wouldn't be a good situation. some of the other cousins have already married and I said no.
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I agree with Andy above ... I thought somewhere you mentioned you were a photographer at some stage - so take a camera and put something nice together so they'll remember the special day (your time and thought and expertise is more precious than raw $$) 'g'
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I agree with Andy above ... I thought somewhere you mentioned you were a photographer at some stage - so take a camera and put something nice together so they'll remember the special day (your time and thought and expertise is more precious than raw $$) 'g'
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Okay, in two weekends my husband's cousin Michael is getting married. Currently he and his fiance live and work in eastern SD where I used to live--a 2 hour drive. The bride to be is originally from western SD and hasn't lived there in several years. However, they decided to get married out in the Black Hills where she is from. So all of his family and a good portion of hers have to travel out there. Koris is in the wedding so we have to spend an additional night out there. So far I caculate the following for the wedding: 1. kori's tux rental: $100 2. 3 nights of hotel: about $300 3. Gas there and back (a five hour drive each way): about $100 4. Food for the weekend: about $50 So we are shelling out $500+ for this wedding so I really don't want to give them something expensive. And I'm also bitter about the drive. Any ideas? If we give cash, how much?
Black Hills Gold trinkets are fairly cheap, and you should be able to grab a handful of 'em on your way in...
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Yeah, thank god we didn't get alot of that when we got married. I only suggested it because of the tone of the post.
Christian Graus wrote:
I'd prefer it was a Crystal Pistol[^].
Looks much better.
Andy Brummer wrote:
Looks much better.
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Since I used to be a wedding photographer they already "asked" for my services (which means free). Rule number one: don't ever do family. Plus his mom is the "crazy" one of the family. It wouldn't be a good situation. some of the other cousins have already married and I said no.
leckey wrote:
some of the other cousins have already married and I said no.
erm.... not to each other, I hope.
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Okay, in two weekends my husband's cousin Michael is getting married. Currently he and his fiance live and work in eastern SD where I used to live--a 2 hour drive. The bride to be is originally from western SD and hasn't lived there in several years. However, they decided to get married out in the Black Hills where she is from. So all of his family and a good portion of hers have to travel out there. Koris is in the wedding so we have to spend an additional night out there. So far I caculate the following for the wedding: 1. kori's tux rental: $100 2. 3 nights of hotel: about $300 3. Gas there and back (a five hour drive each way): about $100 4. Food for the weekend: about $50 So we are shelling out $500+ for this wedding so I really don't want to give them something expensive. And I'm also bitter about the drive. Any ideas? If we give cash, how much?
If you don't give a gift that is one less thank you card they have to write.
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You could do what I'm going to do for my friends' wedding, buy them a tea set. I'm still trying to decided between the cherry blosum tea set http://www.japanesegifts.com/adtea.asp[^] and the phoenix and dragon tea set http://www.enjoyingtea.com/phdrjtease.html[^]. I generally think that gifts that are related to food or drink are generally the best if they are something that people would love to have but won't usually buy for themselves. Plus you can generally stuff some extra stuff into the package[^] to really make them go gaga. Just remember that if they both enjoy beer that giving them too large mugs and a keg probably will get you weird looks. Not that I ever did that.... :-O
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Okay, in two weekends my husband's cousin Michael is getting married. Currently he and his fiance live and work in eastern SD where I used to live--a 2 hour drive. The bride to be is originally from western SD and hasn't lived there in several years. However, they decided to get married out in the Black Hills where she is from. So all of his family and a good portion of hers have to travel out there. Koris is in the wedding so we have to spend an additional night out there. So far I caculate the following for the wedding: 1. kori's tux rental: $100 2. 3 nights of hotel: about $300 3. Gas there and back (a five hour drive each way): about $100 4. Food for the weekend: about $50 So we are shelling out $500+ for this wedding so I really don't want to give them something expensive. And I'm also bitter about the drive. Any ideas? If we give cash, how much?
leckey wrote:
4. Food for the weekend: about $50
Is that for one person? Assuming breakfast, lunch and dinner for 3 days, that's about 5 bucks a meal for 1 person. Might want to bump that budget up a bit, unless you're relying on fast food. Or maybe restaurants are cheaper in SD, haven't been there in awhile... As far as a gift, give them something whacky that sits around the house and everytime they see it, they remember you. Or something unique they might not use everyday, but when they do they think of you. Some of the best gifts we got, we're the ones that weren't on our registry.
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leckey wrote:
some of the other cousins have already married and I said no.
erm.... not to each other, I hope.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ Metal Musings - Rex and my new metal blog
Who cares? It's South Dakota, after all, and it stays in the family :cool:
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Okay, in two weekends my husband's cousin Michael is getting married. Currently he and his fiance live and work in eastern SD where I used to live--a 2 hour drive. The bride to be is originally from western SD and hasn't lived there in several years. However, they decided to get married out in the Black Hills where she is from. So all of his family and a good portion of hers have to travel out there. Koris is in the wedding so we have to spend an additional night out there. So far I caculate the following for the wedding: 1. kori's tux rental: $100 2. 3 nights of hotel: about $300 3. Gas there and back (a five hour drive each way): about $100 4. Food for the weekend: about $50 So we are shelling out $500+ for this wedding so I really don't want to give them something expensive. And I'm also bitter about the drive. Any ideas? If we give cash, how much?
leckey wrote:
1. kori's tux rental: $100
When I was 21 my parents (along with the rest of the family) chipped into get me a full Prince Charlie style Highland Dress[^]. Moving Cultures: Would it not be cheaper, in the long run, just to own the Tux?
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leckey wrote:
4. Food for the weekend: about $50
Is that for one person? Assuming breakfast, lunch and dinner for 3 days, that's about 5 bucks a meal for 1 person. Might want to bump that budget up a bit, unless you're relying on fast food. Or maybe restaurants are cheaper in SD, haven't been there in awhile... As far as a gift, give them something whacky that sits around the house and everytime they see it, they remember you. Or something unique they might not use everyday, but when they do they think of you. Some of the best gifts we got, we're the ones that weren't on our registry.
- S 50 cups of coffee and you know it's on!
It's more than enough if you hit the supermarket and the frying pan :) I spent half a year with a friend on a $18/day average for both of us - and most of that went into gas and reparing keeping the car running
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