The Rules of Marriage
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Not at the same time.:-D
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Frank Kerrigan wrote:
Not at the same time.
you're safe for now.... :-D
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
This picture could have a chance to become the photo of the day: http://www.flickr.com/photos/binarycoco/553892764/^ My canary birds are a great long term couple. A few weeks ago they didn't notice that I was behind them with a camera. It is one of my best snapshots ever and I think it fits into this thread. ;) ;)
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Interesting post:) I hope that my marriage that starts 1september will be also good.:-O
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Pawel Gielmuda wrote:
I hope that my marriage that starts 1september will be also good.
What a coincidence, Pawel... I'm also getting married 1st September. ;) Congratulations, and the best for you. Great words of wisdom we see in this post! :-D
Congrats :) And thanks:)