Why the "real world" sucks
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I predict you're not likely to get laid any time soon. Sorry, dude.
Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.
From the lofty viewpoint of someone who is no longer in the game (married 40 years so far):cool:, I can say with authority: "Stop trying to get laid!". Instead, try to make friends with the opposite sex. If you're are first a friend, then the sex happen in due time. If you try to set a time table or go for the gold instead of friendship, then you will be acting exactly like the type of person that most women try to avoid. Also, a bar is probably the worst hunting ground that I can think of. Try taking on a hobby or activity that both men and women like. You're less likely to meet an alcoholic this way.
Fletcher Glenn
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Unless you're lucky to be one of the few who have a natural ability to interact with the opposite sex or are lucky enough to be so attractive to the opposite sex that nothing else about you matters, unless you are lucky enough to fall into one of those groups know that you're really like everyone else, stunbling thru and figuring it out as you go. Its also very true, the saying that the harder you try the harder it is. Of all dates and relationships I've been involved in, the most enjoyable and the one that has stuck (my current wife) were ones were I finally quit trying and she just happened into my life. Funny how reality likes to poke fun at us humans on a regular basis.
YSLGuru wrote:
Its also very true, the saying that the harder you try the harder it is. Of all dates and relationships I've been involved in, the most enjoyable and the one that has stuck (my current wife) were ones were I finally quit trying and she just happened into my life. Funny how reality likes to poke fun at us humans on a regular basis.
A 5 for that. For years and years that seemed endless to me, I tried so very hard to find a girl to be with. And all that time, a lot of people gave me exactly this advice. Stubborn as I was, I didn't believe them - I had to know better. I went on and tried and went on dates and almost every single one went to shit. After a long time alone, I gave up. I just had enough. And what do you know, just then this wonderful woman popped out of nowhere into my life. No clumsy and tiresome dates, we just happened to meet each other (because I bought a used PSP) and fall in love with each other. I'm as happier than I thought I could ever be. Enough of my rambling. What I want to say is: this man is absolutely right. You'd do good to listen to those wise words.
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You got way too much anger and resentment in there. No chick in her right mind would give you the time of day with that attitude. Nobody *wants* to feel miserable. You need to cheer up a bit before even bothering to attempt picking up a chick. Most attractive women are only bitchy because they're tired of being hit on constantly by guys that don't interest them. It's human nature. If you were an attractive chick you would be that way too. If bozo the clown stopped you on your way to work and got in your way ever day of your life. You'd eventually not be happy with bozo the clown. Same principle. I've known girls that would wear a fake wedding wing when single just to try and cut down on the fuss the average Joes make so they can work, etc. in some peace. So, what's the solution? Don't be the average Joe. How you say? Women aren't stupid, they know most guys start acting totally different around them - usually a wuss too. Don't do that. Try being yourself. And yes, it takes practice. That doesn't mean repeat the same mistakes over and over again. If one thing doesn't work, try another and so on. I can tell you one that will never work... making a big deal out of the initial conversation like you are right now. She won't be comfortable, and unless she's desperate you're not going to get anywhere.
Jeremy Falcon
You know... I hate it when all these attractive women hit on me. They just make me feel like I'm a piece of meat. I shun them now and tell them to go away. ;)
ragnaroknrol: Yes, but comparing a rabid wolverine gnawing on your face while stabbing you with a fountain pen to Vista is likely to make the wolverine look good, so it isn't exactly that big of a compliment.
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You know... I hate it when all these attractive women hit on me. They just make me feel like I'm a piece of meat. I shun them now and tell them to go away. ;)
ragnaroknrol: Yes, but comparing a rabid wolverine gnawing on your face while stabbing you with a fountain pen to Vista is likely to make the wolverine look good, so it isn't exactly that big of a compliment.
firegryphon wrote:
You know... I hate it when all these attractive women hit on me. They just make me feel like I'm a piece of meat. I shun them now and tell them to go away.
:laugh: That's the spirit!
Jeremy Falcon
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From the lofty viewpoint of someone who is no longer in the game (married 40 years so far):cool:, I can say with authority: "Stop trying to get laid!". Instead, try to make friends with the opposite sex. If you're are first a friend, then the sex happen in due time. If you try to set a time table or go for the gold instead of friendship, then you will be acting exactly like the type of person that most women try to avoid. Also, a bar is probably the worst hunting ground that I can think of. Try taking on a hobby or activity that both men and women like. You're less likely to meet an alcoholic this way.
Fletcher Glenn
fglenn wrote:
"Stop trying to get laid!". Instead, try to make friends with the opposite sex. If you're are first a friend, then the sex happen in due time.
Hmmm... You start by "wanna be my ping pong buddy?", then turn this into "how about a beer after all that swinging", then you try to turn those into "it's 3am and we're drunk : we go to my place or your place", then you push further to "how about you sleep on the couch". And that's when she either freaks out and dissapear forever (tip for next time : she didn't drink enough) or things get to "btw, you got condoms here right?" on their own... PS. Save often in case your tongue slips and you say something stupid again. Is it just me or is there something surrealistic in this picture?