Josh Smith wrote:

It often results in superficial emotional highs by both parties.

The difference lies in whether your satisfaction, fulfillment, happiness, etc. is under your control, or not (and note - partially not under your control is effectively not under your control at all). When your happiness is only dependent on you doing what you know is the right thing to do nobody can take it away from you :-D. When it is dependent on the boss being happy - then you're a bad hair day waiting to happen :((. Chris Use what talents you possess; The woods would be very silent if no birds sang there except those that sang best. (William Blake)