Congradulations! We took a different path, and got my wives parents to live with us. After the initial bit of adjustment this has worked like a charm. My wife spent 6 months at home after having each of our kids, then went back to work full time. If you can get either set of parents over to help out, by all means do so. Trust me, you will really want a second set of hands around. As for loosing your skill set, if you don't program for 5 years, then yes you will become quite rusty. I would take consulting jobs as they come along just to keep my hand in. It will take some effort, because small children are a full time job by themselves.