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Is she cheating on me? ...Probably No...

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    Matt Matt
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    I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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      I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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      R Giskard Reventlov
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      You're being paranoid. home
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        I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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        Cedric Moonen
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        Matt@Matt wrote:

        "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions?

        And why not simply speak ? If there is a problem, this is the best to solve it (without knowing what is the problem, it is difficult to solve it). And if there is nothing, then this will clear your doubts. Of course, there is also the way of abording the conversation :rolleyes:. Don't come and ask sudenly: "What's the problem with you ?". I don't think this will be appreciated ;P Maybe you are simply a little bit paranoid ;)

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          I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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          Vikram A Punathambekar
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          Maybe she was just calling her regular girl friends. :) Cheers, Vikram.


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            I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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            Monty2
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            No need to be paranoid, you have no evidence. Relax and enjoy your time with her :)


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              I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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              Paul Watson
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              First off you are not pathetic. This kind of thing happens to many of us and you would have to be a strange human not to worry or want to seek help from friends. Second, ask her. You have to talk to her man. You should be comfortable talking to a person you call your girlfriend. Preferably not by text or email, see her face to face :) regards, Paul Watson Ireland Feed Henry!

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              eh, stop bugging me about it, give it a couple of days, see what happens.

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                I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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                Do you always call her? . . . or does she ever call you?

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                  You're being paranoid. home
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                  Matt Matt
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                  Thanks. Actually thats what i dont wanna be "paranoid". Thats exactly y i thought of putting this in the launge and think of wats best to do. How to tackle such or more serious senarios in the future. This is a very small thing I am sure, but if somethings is gonna go wrong i dont want it coming to me as a surprise -- modified at 8:05 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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                    I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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                    David Cunningham
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                    Matt@Matt wrote:

                    Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions?

                    If you walk around with suspicion all the time you'll kill the relationship for sure, so although it's hard you just have to let it go. That being said, if you are suspicious there's probably a good reason human beings are very, very good at sensing these kinds of things. What you have to decide is how you want to act. The best (and the only real) option is to try not to obsess about it and let her be who she wants to be. You can't *make* someone love you, all you can do by trying is make them feel guilty, drag things out and cause everyone (and mostly you) a great deal of pain. Maybe she needs to figure some things out. Only she really knows. I read something a year or so ago that said something like "How your relationship ends is the best testament to what you really had." That's a really hard standard to live up to, but there's great wisdom in it I think. Take care of yourself, hang out with your friends and think about the things that make you a great person. David

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                      Do you always call her? . . . or does she ever call you?

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                      Thomas George wrote:

                      Do you always call her? . . . or does she ever call you?

                      Both ways, but i guess i do it much more than she does

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                        Thomas George wrote:

                        Do you always call her? . . . or does she ever call you?

                        Both ways, but i guess i do it much more than she does

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                        What would be her motivation to call you, if she indeed wanted to get it over with you? . . . and since she mentioned that a friend of hers is using the phone, I think you are being paranoid. My suggestion: don't make a mess of it with your suspicion. The telephone being busy at your girlfriend's place, where her friend is also staying, is no reason to even suspect, IMO. But, if you see that she is getting aloof from you, you might as well bring that up in a friendly conversation.

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                          Thomas George wrote:

                          Do you always call her? . . . or does she ever call you?

                          Both ways, but i guess i do it much more than she does

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                          Matt@Matt wrote:

                          i guess i do it much more than she does

                          Then you really have to worry.:laugh:

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                            I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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                            L_u_r_k_e_r
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                            if you really want to know when you are over there 2 possible ways to find out Caller ID redial with redial on my phone it lists the last 3 calls made. See who she calls and how they answer the phone

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                              I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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                              You registered on codeproject just to start this thread? You're as pathetic as your gay lover - Link2006. "Little sister" rule be damned, you're nothin' but a f*ckin' loser troll... ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

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                                First off you are not pathetic. This kind of thing happens to many of us and you would have to be a strange human not to worry or want to seek help from friends. Second, ask her. You have to talk to her man. You should be comfortable talking to a person you call your girlfriend. Preferably not by text or email, see her face to face :) regards, Paul Watson Ireland Feed Henry!

                                Shog9 wrote:

                                eh, stop bugging me about it, give it a couple of days, see what happens.

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                                Paul, check his bio - he's been here less than a month and only has two posts. He registered just to post this. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

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                                  I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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                                  Thats not what i am trying not to be "paranoid". Exactly why i took it to the lounge. I wanted to calmly think of best ways to tackle it rationally if a problem exists. This is very insignificant but if something bigger comes up sometime in the future rather than it giving me surprise, i wanna think of phsychological approach i can take -- modified at 8:39 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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                                    You registered on codeproject just to start this thread? You're as pathetic as your gay lover - Link2006. "Little sister" rule be damned, you're nothin' but a f*ckin' loser troll... ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

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                                    I was expecting this to come from someone. just dint wanna mix up my technical discussions with the kind. sorry. You guys are smart enough to put 1 and 1 together and figure out, just let me tell u its not worth it -- modified at 8:38 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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                                      Paul, check his bio - he's been here less than a month and only has two posts. He registered just to post this. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

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                                      John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:

                                      Paul, check his bio - he's been here less than a month and only has two posts. He registered just to post this.

                                      He's probably a regular member who created a new ID to post this. Regards, Nish


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                                        I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006

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                                        Nish Nishant
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                                        If she's cheating, you'll soon see other signs. Regards, Nish


                                        Nish’s thoughts on MFC, C++/CLI and .NET (my blog)
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                                          Paul, check his bio - he's been here less than a month and only has two posts. He registered just to post this. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

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                                          Quoting, well, you... "I don't care who you are, that is funny." regards, Paul Watson Ireland Feed Henry!

                                          Shog9 wrote:

                                          eh, stop bugging me about it, give it a couple of days, see what happens.

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