Is she cheating on me? ...Probably No...
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I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
Matt@Matt wrote:
Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions?
If you walk around with suspicion all the time you'll kill the relationship for sure, so although it's hard you just have to let it go. That being said, if you are suspicious there's probably a good reason human beings are very, very good at sensing these kinds of things. What you have to decide is how you want to act. The best (and the only real) option is to try not to obsess about it and let her be who she wants to be. You can't *make* someone love you, all you can do by trying is make them feel guilty, drag things out and cause everyone (and mostly you) a great deal of pain. Maybe she needs to figure some things out. Only she really knows. I read something a year or so ago that said something like "How your relationship ends is the best testament to what you really had." That's a really hard standard to live up to, but there's great wisdom in it I think. Take care of yourself, hang out with your friends and think about the things that make you a great person. David
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Thomas George wrote:
Do you always call her? . . . or does she ever call you?
Both ways, but i guess i do it much more than she does
What would be her motivation to call you, if she indeed wanted to get it over with you? . . . and since she mentioned that a friend of hers is using the phone, I think you are being paranoid. My suggestion: don't make a mess of it with your suspicion. The telephone being busy at your girlfriend's place, where her friend is also staying, is no reason to even suspect, IMO. But, if you see that she is getting aloof from you, you might as well bring that up in a friendly conversation.
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Thomas George wrote:
Do you always call her? . . . or does she ever call you?
Both ways, but i guess i do it much more than she does
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I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
if you really want to know when you are over there 2 possible ways to find out Caller ID redial with redial on my phone it lists the last 3 calls made. See who she calls and how they answer the phone
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I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
You registered on codeproject just to start this thread? You're as pathetic as your gay lover - Link2006. "Little sister" rule be damned, you're nothin' but a f*ckin' loser troll... ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
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First off you are not pathetic. This kind of thing happens to many of us and you would have to be a strange human not to worry or want to seek help from friends. Second, ask her. You have to talk to her man. You should be comfortable talking to a person you call your girlfriend. Preferably not by text or email, see her face to face :) regards, Paul Watson Ireland Feed Henry!
eh, stop bugging me about it, give it a couple of days, see what happens.
Paul, check his bio - he's been here less than a month and only has two posts. He registered just to post this. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
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I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
Thats not what i am trying not to be "paranoid". Exactly why i took it to the lounge. I wanted to calmly think of best ways to tackle it rationally if a problem exists. This is very insignificant but if something bigger comes up sometime in the future rather than it giving me surprise, i wanna think of phsychological approach i can take -- modified at 8:39 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
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You registered on codeproject just to start this thread? You're as pathetic as your gay lover - Link2006. "Little sister" rule be damned, you're nothin' but a f*ckin' loser troll... ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
I was expecting this to come from someone. just dint wanna mix up my technical discussions with the kind. sorry. You guys are smart enough to put 1 and 1 together and figure out, just let me tell u its not worth it -- modified at 8:38 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
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Paul, check his bio - he's been here less than a month and only has two posts. He registered just to post this. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:
Paul, check his bio - he's been here less than a month and only has two posts. He registered just to post this.
He's probably a regular member who created a new ID to post this. Regards, Nish
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I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
If she's cheating, you'll soon see other signs. Regards, Nish
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The Ultimate Grid - The #1 MFC grid out there! -
Paul, check his bio - he's been here less than a month and only has two posts. He registered just to post this. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
Quoting, well, you... "I don't care who you are, that is funny." regards, Paul Watson Ireland Feed Henry!
eh, stop bugging me about it, give it a couple of days, see what happens.
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If she's cheating, you'll soon see other signs. Regards, Nish
Nish’s thoughts on MFC, C++/CLI and .NET (my blog)
The Ultimate Grid - The #1 MFC grid out there!Yeah - like little white sex pearls dripping out of the corner of her mouth when he arrives home unexpectedly, or maybe one night over dinner, she'll tell him it hurts when she poops, or that he should probably consider having some tests done down at the AIDS clinic, or wait - he notices a cow on the street that bears a striking resemblance to his "girl friend", and he swears it's not his kid... He should own up - he's really Link2006. He should be banned from CP for abusing the user registration process. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
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Yeah - like little white sex pearls dripping out of the corner of her mouth when he arrives home unexpectedly, or maybe one night over dinner, she'll tell him it hurts when she poops, or that he should probably consider having some tests done down at the AIDS clinic, or wait - he notices a cow on the street that bears a striking resemblance to his "girl friend", and he swears it's not his kid... He should own up - he's really Link2006. He should be banned from CP for abusing the user registration process. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
ok THAT wasn't called for X|
"Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come." I refuse to spend my life worrying about what I eat. There is no pleasure worth foregoing just for an extra three years in a geriatric ward.
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Yeah - like little white sex pearls dripping out of the corner of her mouth when he arrives home unexpectedly, or maybe one night over dinner, she'll tell him it hurts when she poops, or that he should probably consider having some tests done down at the AIDS clinic, or wait - he notices a cow on the street that bears a striking resemblance to his "girl friend", and he swears it's not his kid... He should own up - he's really Link2006. He should be banned from CP for abusing the user registration process. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
First of all am not "Link2006" and the topic under discussion is not something too strange, the kindo suspicion happens because i myself am guilty of spending too much time in the office like a lot of others here, be the suspicion true or not, i was only consulting about the phsycological stand point that someone can take under similar circumstances. Anyway you wont understand and i wouldnt care to make understand either but i would like others to read this
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I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
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ok THAT wasn't called for X|
"Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come." I refuse to spend my life worrying about what I eat. There is no pleasure worth foregoing just for an extra three years in a geriatric ward.
He wants to abuse CP, I'll abuse him in return, and believe me, my last post was severely throttled down. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
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I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
There's really only on solution... First, get a black ski mask and stalk like you've never stalked before. Hide out in the bushes outside of her apartment. Be sure to bring a bottle of water and an empty bottle for urination. If that does not yield the results you are looking for, you should cheat on her. Take pictures of the deed, then confront her with them. Get very flustered and say, "YOU DROVE ME TO THIS WITH YOUR CHEATING!!!!". If she actually cheated on you, she'll say something like "WELL I NEEDED TO GET SATISFACTION SOMEHOW!!!". If she didn't cheat on you, she'll probably just cry and break up with you. But ultimately you'll know for sure.
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He wants to abuse CP, I'll abuse him in return, and believe me, my last post was severely throttled down. ------- sig starts "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001
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I know I am a pathetic person to write this in the lounge. But i need some suggestions on the best course of action. She is the one who makes me still a part of the "real world", otherwise my whole life revolves around computers. I am talking of my girl friend. Recently I noticed that I find her increasingly in call waiting. I had rung her up unexpectedly at night after our regular conversation for something and found her to be in call waiting. She said its a friend using her phone, and also in few other ocations when i dint expect her to be on phone. Unlike the regular me these incidents somehow keeps disturbing me. Any suggestions on the best course of action? - "Always Trust" OR "Be Skeptical" OR "Look Out For Proof"? Any suggestions? :confused: -- modified at 7:32 Wednesday 10th May, 2006
That's why I keep living on the other end. Now my Girl friend keeps asking me, "who was on the call".. I feel better with this.
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