Cheer me up.... I'm soooo saaaaad.....
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As far as your responsibility to her, I don't know. I was in a similar situation. I was 18 and I had broken up with this phsycopath. I had a restraining order and was hiding out. My only hope was that he would find someone else to obsess on. He started dating this girl and she came up to me and asked why I broke up with him. Now the instinct for self preservation dictated that I tell her he was great that I was just not worthy so that she would get together with him, but my conscience wouldn't let me do that to her. So I came clean. I told her he was a very paranoid violent man. I guess that impressed her they've been together for over 12 years. Now get this I put my life on the line for her and she hates me. She's very nice to my face but people tell me she talks all kinds of crap behind my back. Go figure. The moral to the story: You should tell her but don't expect any kind of gratitude. Cathy Life's uncertain, have dessert first!
Cathy wrote: I told her he was a very paranoid violent man. I guess that impressed her they've been together for over 12 years. I never cease to be amazed at the number of women who seem to seek out personal abuse! A friend recently got married. They were going to have a big wedding, but her friends refused to attend, and her father refused to give her away. So did three of her good friends she asked to stand in for him. Mind you, this guy has beaten her repeatedly, shoved a gun in her mouth and threatened to kill her, and that's when he's sober. Now they've eloped and are having a potluck reception at the bar where she works. The word on the street is that two McDonald's happy meals should be enough to feed the masses, as only she and her husband will be attending the event. The bartender has to, else he'd be elsewhere too. We're putting together a pool on how long she lives... Sad. I Drowned Schroedinger's Stupid Cat!
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Kit (British English) = clothes! :rolleyes: Best way to make a real scene IMHO. But Samantha has my comiserations - some men should have been castrated long ago. X| Old Simon HB9DRV
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As far as your responsibility to her, I don't know. I was in a similar situation. I was 18 and I had broken up with this phsycopath. I had a restraining order and was hiding out. My only hope was that he would find someone else to obsess on. He started dating this girl and she came up to me and asked why I broke up with him. Now the instinct for self preservation dictated that I tell her he was great that I was just not worthy so that she would get together with him, but my conscience wouldn't let me do that to her. So I came clean. I told her he was a very paranoid violent man. I guess that impressed her they've been together for over 12 years. Now get this I put my life on the line for her and she hates me. She's very nice to my face but people tell me she talks all kinds of crap behind my back. Go figure. The moral to the story: You should tell her but don't expect any kind of gratitude. Cathy Life's uncertain, have dessert first!
Cathy wrote: You should tell her but don't expect any kind of gratitude Actually, I already created an email but I'll just need to click the button "Send"... some of my friends are telling me not to bother and I will just ruin their relationship... but I feel like I couldn't just keep it to myself... if I will send the email to the girl, I might feel relieved or the guy might start bugging me once he learned it from the girl... I know they're going to have a big confrontation... :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
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sAmAnThA****_I'm feeling depressed today... My boyfriend is getting married on Saturday... I just learned it a week ago... If only I could go to the church and interrupt their wedding... He just did it by mistake... just to make revenge on me... but I know I'm the one he really loves... Should I email this girl and tell her everything about us? What shall I do? I say let it all go. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Speaking of that, so what are you doing Friday night? :-D (Just kidding, you know *somebody* had to post something to that effect though.) No generalization is 100% true. Not even this one._
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Roger Wright wrote: being married to the kind of jerk that would do something of this sort will be punishment enough for her The girl didn't know about us... I pity her because she thought the guy loves her... that's why I wanted to e-mail her and tell her everything about us... Should I email her?:confused: :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
sAmAnThA wrote: Should I email her? Problem I: now, when she's getting married, she won't believe you. For her it will be just you being mad about he picked her not you. Problem II: whenever their marriage breaks, you will be the one who didn't tell her. So this POS maneuvered you into a loose-loose situation. If you like *her*, and if you believe he will treat her the same he did treat you, you should tell her. The "morally best" would be: go tell him that if he doesn't tell her, you tell her. But I guess he just tell her "Samantha was here and totally mad, and telling lies and everything." And for you - Shit. So.. tell her: but personally or by phone, or write a letter - not per e-mail. (But that's only my opinion, I seem to be born in the dark ages ;) Be calm, be "done with him", don't show hatred for him, don't tell her what to do: it's her thing. On the other hand, if they have a closer connection than you and her - except the sex thingie -, it might work out good for both of them (and telling her might destroy this) Sorry for saying that. Oh, Clickety Click :-o I'm so embarassed... the link of course should have been Clickety Click
Back in the days before yer Gighertz and Teraflops there was something we old timers called paranoia. Andrew Torrance, The Lounge [sighist]
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I'm feeling depressed today... My boyfriend is getting married on Saturday... I just learned it a week ago... If only I could go to the church and interrupt their wedding... He just did it by mistake... just to make revenge on me... but I know I'm the one he really loves... Should I email this girl and tell her everything about us? What shall I do? :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
Oh fer christ's fuckin sake... Hey! I know! Why don't you contact one of those loser talk show hosts and they can do a show on vindictive bitches that have nothing better to do than to screw up other people's weddings. If you really even are a female (is that you "Janice"? Anna?) , why don't you take this relationship crap somewhere else. Fuckin' harpie... "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
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Paul Watson wrote: One of those days huh? No. I'm very much in love with baby doll today. I feeling no yearnings for San Diego. I just think the earlier you find out the better. She was lucky to find out what a jerk he was so that she doesn't waste any more time on him. Imagine if she had married him, had kids and then found out. What a mess that would be! Cathy Life's uncertain, have dessert first!
Cathy wrote: I just think the earlier you find out the better. She was lucky to find out what a jerk he was so that she doesn't waste any more time on him. I guess I am.... it's so happen that I hacked his e-mail and I read all their exchanging of emails.. the truth really hurts... I replaced the password so, he can no longer used it... when we saw each other face to face I throw some copies of the emails that I printed in front of his face.... I felt terrible, I felt the world fell down on me... :(( :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
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Oh fer christ's fuckin sake... Hey! I know! Why don't you contact one of those loser talk show hosts and they can do a show on vindictive bitches that have nothing better to do than to screw up other people's weddings. If you really even are a female (is that you "Janice"? Anna?) , why don't you take this relationship crap somewhere else. Fuckin' harpie... "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
Nice to have the old John back:-D Your last few posts (much too rare lately) have been so, er, patient... I Drowned Schroedinger's Stupid Cat!
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Oh fer christ's fuckin sake... Hey! I know! Why don't you contact one of those loser talk show hosts and they can do a show on vindictive bitches that have nothing better to do than to screw up other people's weddings. If you really even are a female (is that you "Janice"? Anna?) , why don't you take this relationship crap somewhere else. Fuckin' harpie... "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
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Oh fer christ's fuckin sake... Hey! I know! Why don't you contact one of those loser talk show hosts and they can do a show on vindictive bitches that have nothing better to do than to screw up other people's weddings. If you really even are a female (is that you "Janice"? Anna?) , why don't you take this relationship crap somewhere else. Fuckin' harpie... "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
Ouch ! Totally John Simmons / outlaw programmer ! I was expecting a answer like this at some time , since yours last posts were strangely not so direct ! Cheers, Joao Vaz A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person - Natalie Portman (Padme/Amidala of Star Wars)
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Cathy wrote: I just think the earlier you find out the better. She was lucky to find out what a jerk he was so that she doesn't waste any more time on him. I guess I am.... it's so happen that I hacked his e-mail and I read all their exchanging of emails.. the truth really hurts... I replaced the password so, he can no longer used it... when we saw each other face to face I throw some copies of the emails that I printed in front of his face.... I felt terrible, I felt the world fell down on me... :(( :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
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I'm feeling depressed today... My boyfriend is getting married on Saturday... I just learned it a week ago... If only I could go to the church and interrupt their wedding... He just did it by mistake... just to make revenge on me... but I know I'm the one he really loves... Should I email this girl and tell her everything about us? What shall I do? :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
I'm not quite sure if you're saying that your CURRENT boyfriend or your EX-boyfriend is getting married. Based on the "just to make revenge on me", I think it is your EX-boyfriend and you broke up with him. But, based on "If only I could go to the church and interrupt their wedding", it makes me think it is your CURRENT boyfriend or that he broke up with you because you obviously aren't over him. But, if he's your EX-boyfriend, why would you want to "email this girl and tell her everything about us?" - since there is no "us" with an ex-boyfriend. It seems to me that if he is your ex-boyfriend, then there is nothing to tell this other girl and there is no reason to interrupt this wedding. Leave him and his fiance alone and get over him. If he is your current boyfriend, then you'll just have to face the fact that you were the "girl on the side". If he's getting married in less than a week and still fooling around with another you, then you should be happy to get the loser out of your life.
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Navin wrote: Speaking of that, so what are you doing Friday night? Nice try.... :-O :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
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Cathy wrote: I told her he was a very paranoid violent man. I guess that impressed her they've been together for over 12 years. I never cease to be amazed at the number of women who seem to seek out personal abuse! A friend recently got married. They were going to have a big wedding, but her friends refused to attend, and her father refused to give her away. So did three of her good friends she asked to stand in for him. Mind you, this guy has beaten her repeatedly, shoved a gun in her mouth and threatened to kill her, and that's when he's sober. Now they've eloped and are having a potluck reception at the bar where she works. The word on the street is that two McDonald's happy meals should be enough to feed the masses, as only she and her husband will be attending the event. The bartender has to, else he'd be elsewhere too. We're putting together a pool on how long she lives... Sad. I Drowned Schroedinger's Stupid Cat!
Yes that is very sad. This guy would put a gun to his head and threaten to kill himself if I left him. Luckily I was in therapy at the time and the therapist told me to go to Battered Women's meetings. I went. It really woke me up. Soon after that he broke into my house and was pinning me and kicking me. I stabbed him in the neck with a pen and called the police. He took off. They came. He called on the phone and was telling them he was going to kill himself. The male police officer wanted me to talk to him to calm him down. I said no way. You go take care of him. I'm done. The female officer told me how to get a restraining order. My dad, who was so upset at me for being with this guy that he wasn't speaking to me anymore, filed a complaint against the male police officer. Anyways I learned what personality type to watch out for and I've never been in an abusive relationship since. Cathy Life's uncertain, have dessert first!
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Oh fer christ's fuckin sake... Hey! I know! Why don't you contact one of those loser talk show hosts and they can do a show on vindictive bitches that have nothing better to do than to screw up other people's weddings. If you really even are a female (is that you "Janice"? Anna?) , why don't you take this relationship crap somewhere else. Fuckin' harpie... "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote: why don't you take this relationship crap somewhere else. Well, if you don't like the topic and you feel offended by this.... find somewhere else and make your own thread... Or maybe just pick up some dry leaves, I guess that would make you feel better and you will be a big help to the community...:omg: :rolleyes: :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
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Cathy wrote: You should tell her but don't expect any kind of gratitude Actually, I already created an email but I'll just need to click the button "Send"... some of my friends are telling me not to bother and I will just ruin their relationship... but I feel like I couldn't just keep it to myself... if I will send the email to the girl, I might feel relieved or the guy might start bugging me once he learned it from the girl... I know they're going to have a big confrontation... :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
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John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote: why don't you take this relationship crap somewhere else. Well, if you don't like the topic and you feel offended by this.... find somewhere else and make your own thread... Or maybe just pick up some dry leaves, I guess that would make you feel better and you will be a big help to the community...:omg: :rolleyes: :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
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Yes that is very sad. This guy would put a gun to his head and threaten to kill himself if I left him. Luckily I was in therapy at the time and the therapist told me to go to Battered Women's meetings. I went. It really woke me up. Soon after that he broke into my house and was pinning me and kicking me. I stabbed him in the neck with a pen and called the police. He took off. They came. He called on the phone and was telling them he was going to kill himself. The male police officer wanted me to talk to him to calm him down. I said no way. You go take care of him. I'm done. The female officer told me how to get a restraining order. My dad, who was so upset at me for being with this guy that he wasn't speaking to me anymore, filed a complaint against the male police officer. Anyways I learned what personality type to watch out for and I've never been in an abusive relationship since. Cathy Life's uncertain, have dessert first!
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Yes that is very sad. This guy would put a gun to his head and threaten to kill himself if I left him. Luckily I was in therapy at the time and the therapist told me to go to Battered Women's meetings. I went. It really woke me up. Soon after that he broke into my house and was pinning me and kicking me. I stabbed him in the neck with a pen and called the police. He took off. They came. He called on the phone and was telling them he was going to kill himself. The male police officer wanted me to talk to him to calm him down. I said no way. You go take care of him. I'm done. The female officer told me how to get a restraining order. My dad, who was so upset at me for being with this guy that he wasn't speaking to me anymore, filed a complaint against the male police officer. Anyways I learned what personality type to watch out for and I've never been in an abusive relationship since. Cathy Life's uncertain, have dessert first!
Good for you, Cathy! Some do learn, though far too few:( I Drowned Schroedinger's Stupid Cat!
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I'm feeling depressed today... My boyfriend is getting married on Saturday... I just learned it a week ago... If only I could go to the church and interrupt their wedding... He just did it by mistake... just to make revenge on me... but I know I'm the one he really loves... Should I email this girl and tell her everything about us? What shall I do? :rose::rose::rose::rose::rose: Samantha
sAmAnThA****Should I email this girl Send her 'I LOVE YOU' virus! :) Don't worry! You will find another boyfriend! MP Maciej Pirog
