Is there a way out?
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Gin! Seriously. You need to get out and party, meet the right girl, go dancing, films, dinner. Are you working too hard? Ask a girl at work out for a meal. Just tell her the truth, Stranger, needs company and likes beautiful woman to eat with him. If she thinks you asked her out because you think she is beautiful, it is a great start! Most girls are paranoid at heart, and showing an interest is a boost to their ego and confidence. Trust me, I was that soldier. I would look and not ask, then one day I just asked and got told yes! So get the girl, do the food, see the film and then drink the gin!
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Dalek Dave wrote:
Ask a girl at work out for a meal.
Never asked a girl for a dinner in the last three years after I broke up with my college girl friend. I tried to contact her(X) few months ago then i got a mail from her boy friend saying "she is no more the person you are expecting her to be...". it's over completely.... ok I'll take courage and ask someone... thank you for your reply.
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Dalek Dave wrote:
it is his first post
I just checked, and I didn't see "Give a shit" on my list of things to do today...
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Jonahthan wrote:
but no assigments, no responsibilities..
I really hate that :(
Jonahthan wrote:
there are lot of pretty girls in my office but no special one in my life...
Be glad, we have none!
Jonahthan wrote:
there's money in my pocket but don't spent it in the right way....
Be glad, I have a GF, so I again have none.
Jonahthan wrote:
i stay up all night thinking what to do with my life....
I stay up all night wondering about code :) Get a nice pet project or learn something new. (Like Scheme).
Jonahthan wrote:
Incredibly lonely....living in a foreign country... away from my parents...
Find a hobby or a passion, something that will distract you. Heck, take a week off, and fly home.
Jonahthan wrote:
a feeling of complete failure deep down in my heart...
Thats only a feeling. Sometimes I feel the same, then I get out of my comfort zone, and realized it was my silly thinking that got me thinking that. Maybe use some money to go speak to a shrink. It helps to get it out, and he wont laugh at you.
Jonahthan wrote:
Is there a way out?
Yes, but it all takes time :)
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IronScheme - 1.0 alpha 1 out nowleppie wrote:
Heck, take a week off, and fly home.
last week I sublitted my leave application to my project lead who doesn't have any project at all. You know, what he said... "There are lot of developement work lined up... so you can't take a vacation.". I said to him that I waited for almost 12 months for some assignment. nothing showed up till this moment. so either you accept my resignation or sign up my leave application. he approved 21 days of vacation. going home after 1 1/2 years hoping something will change...
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leppie wrote:
Heck, take a week off, and fly home.
last week I sublitted my leave application to my project lead who doesn't have any project at all. You know, what he said... "There are lot of developement work lined up... so you can't take a vacation.". I said to him that I waited for almost 12 months for some assignment. nothing showed up till this moment. so either you accept my resignation or sign up my leave application. he approved 21 days of vacation. going home after 1 1/2 years hoping something will change...
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Dalek Dave wrote:
Ask a girl at work out for a meal.
Never asked a girl for a dinner in the last three years after I broke up with my college girl friend. I tried to contact her(X) few months ago then i got a mail from her boy friend saying "she is no more the person you are expecting her to be...". it's over completely.... ok I'll take courage and ask someone... thank you for your reply.
Jonahthan wrote:
"she is no more the person you are expecting her to be..."
Take his word for it. People say they dont change, but it is because they cant see the difference, to them the world is changing around them. As the old saying goes, let bygones be bygones.
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Good :) Maybe you can find a local job, closer to family and old friends :)
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Jonahthan wrote:
but no assigments, no responsibilities..
I really hate that :(
Jonahthan wrote:
there are lot of pretty girls in my office but no special one in my life...
Be glad, we have none!
Jonahthan wrote:
there's money in my pocket but don't spent it in the right way....
Be glad, I have a GF, so I again have none.
Jonahthan wrote:
i stay up all night thinking what to do with my life....
I stay up all night wondering about code :) Get a nice pet project or learn something new. (Like Scheme).
Jonahthan wrote:
Incredibly lonely....living in a foreign country... away from my parents...
Find a hobby or a passion, something that will distract you. Heck, take a week off, and fly home.
Jonahthan wrote:
a feeling of complete failure deep down in my heart...
Thats only a feeling. Sometimes I feel the same, then I get out of my comfort zone, and realized it was my silly thinking that got me thinking that. Maybe use some money to go speak to a shrink. It helps to get it out, and he wont laugh at you.
Jonahthan wrote:
Is there a way out?
Yes, but it all takes time :)
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IronScheme - 1.0 alpha 1 out nowleppie wrote:
I have a GF
Yet
leppie wrote:
I stay up all night wondering about code
Shurely shome mishtake?
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Jonahthan wrote:
"she is no more the person you are expecting her to be..."
Take his word for it. People say they dont change, but it is because they cant see the difference, to them the world is changing around them. As the old saying goes, let bygones be bygones.
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Damn, did you not get the memo? let me just fax it through my magic "hey, be nice once a day" fax machine! Oh! it appears to be broken. Let me fax it through my magic "ok I am a cynical hard-bitten old bastard" fax machine! There thats better. :) DILLIGIF Kevin Bloody Wilson! Do I Look Like I Give A F...
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Dalek Dave wrote:
DILLIGIF
Looks like people can't even get first letters right these days :sigh: (of course I checked, and it indeed is DILLIGIF, it just makes little sense to me)
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Jonahthan wrote:
"she is no more the person you are expecting her to be..."
Take his word for it. People say they dont change, but it is because they cant see the difference, to them the world is changing around them. As the old saying goes, let bygones be bygones.
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IronScheme - 1.0 alpha 1 out nowThere is an old truism... Men Marry Women and don't expect them to ever change, but they do. Women Marry Men and expect that they will change them, but they never can. Or, As Oscar Wilde put it, Boys will be Boys, and so will a lot of middle aged men!
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big organization, big Salary but no assigments, no responsibilities... there are lot of peoples around me but no real friends.... there are lot of pretty girls in my office but no special one in my life.... there's money in my pocket but don't spent it in the right way.... i stay up all night thinking what to do with my life.... i eat one time or two in a day ( a sandwich )... reduced food... Incredibly lonely....living in a foreign country... away from my parents... a feeling of complete failure deep down in my heart... loosing touch with the reality... Is there a way out?
A particular Doors song comes to mind. ;P But really, you are the poster child for "change begins with me". Marc
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Browning makes a real nice 9mm...
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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:laugh: here's my 5.
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norm .net wrote:
here's my 5.
That's a rotten deal, you only got 1 in return ;P
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IronScheme - 1.0 alpha 1 out nowLife is a trade-off.
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
Damn, did you not get the memo? let me just fax it through my magic "hey, be nice once a day" fax machine! Oh! it appears to be broken. Let me fax it through my magic "ok I am a cynical hard-bitten old bastard" fax machine! There thats better. :) DILLIGIF Kevin Bloody Wilson! Do I Look Like I Give A F...
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Dalek Dave wrote:
DILLIGIF Kevin Bloody Wilson! Do I Look Like I Give A F...
It's DILLIGAF fer fuck's sake, saw the live show and got the album.
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leppie wrote:
Heck, take a week off, and fly home.
last week I sublitted my leave application to my project lead who doesn't have any project at all. You know, what he said... "There are lot of developement work lined up... so you can't take a vacation.". I said to him that I waited for almost 12 months for some assignment. nothing showed up till this moment. so either you accept my resignation or sign up my leave application. he approved 21 days of vacation. going home after 1 1/2 years hoping something will change...
I think that is your main problem. No assignments for 12 months? WTF. I'd recommend that you should look for a job change. And preferably a location change too, if that would help. Going home would definitely help you rejuvenate fast from this depressed state. Avoid sitting idle. That would worsen your problem.Keep yourself busy by joining a gym, playing a guitar, etc., as per your taste. :)
Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself. - Cicero .·´¯`·->Rajesh<-·´¯`·. Codeproject.com: Visual C++ MVP
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big organization, big Salary but no assigments, no responsibilities... there are lot of peoples around me but no real friends.... there are lot of pretty girls in my office but no special one in my life.... there's money in my pocket but don't spent it in the right way.... i stay up all night thinking what to do with my life.... i eat one time or two in a day ( a sandwich )... reduced food... Incredibly lonely....living in a foreign country... away from my parents... a feeling of complete failure deep down in my heart... loosing touch with the reality... Is there a way out?
Wow. Work will always suck. But don't be depressed. Man up. I'm sorry about your situation. If I were you, I'd ask out some girls at work. Go to match.com or another site like that and put up a profile. Do you have any hobbies? I'm into brewing my own beer and have made friends at the homebrew club meetings. I also go out shooting guns with my coworkers somtimes, how fun is that!!! Reality sucks, so loosing touch with it won't hurt at all. Also, are you allowed to have pets where you live? I have two small dogs that keep me company. My one dog is 1/2 Japanese Chin and 1/2 Minature Poodle. She's the best companion ever! Not too mention that walking a cute dog is a great way to meet chicks. Call your parents, everyday if you need to. Also, are you religous? I'm not, but joining a church is a great way to make friends. Good luck and stay positive. Being happy is infectious... So is being depressed. People want to be around happy people. Also, Exercise always helps the mood improve.
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I think that is your main problem. No assignments for 12 months? WTF. I'd recommend that you should look for a job change. And preferably a location change too, if that would help. Going home would definitely help you rejuvenate fast from this depressed state. Avoid sitting idle. That would worsen your problem.Keep yourself busy by joining a gym, playing a guitar, etc., as per your taste. :)
Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself. - Cicero .·´¯`·->Rajesh<-·´¯`·. Codeproject.com: Visual C++ MVP
Rajesh R Subramanian wrote:
I'd recommend that you should look for a job change. And preferably a location change too
some flight of plans go through my mind everyday and I ask myself If I do this, will things change? If I do that, Will things change? I end up doing nothing... what you said seems to be a practical solution to the problem. probably a new place and a new job would do...I guess... Thank you...
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Wow. Work will always suck. But don't be depressed. Man up. I'm sorry about your situation. If I were you, I'd ask out some girls at work. Go to match.com or another site like that and put up a profile. Do you have any hobbies? I'm into brewing my own beer and have made friends at the homebrew club meetings. I also go out shooting guns with my coworkers somtimes, how fun is that!!! Reality sucks, so loosing touch with it won't hurt at all. Also, are you allowed to have pets where you live? I have two small dogs that keep me company. My one dog is 1/2 Japanese Chin and 1/2 Minature Poodle. She's the best companion ever! Not too mention that walking a cute dog is a great way to meet chicks. Call your parents, everyday if you need to. Also, are you religous? I'm not, but joining a church is a great way to make friends. Good luck and stay positive. Being happy is infectious... So is being depressed. People want to be around happy people. Also, Exercise always helps the mood improve.
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ToddHileHoffer wrote:
Do you have any hobbies?
I'm a movie freak. I hardly miss any english romantic commedy. But how many romantic movies I can watch sitting alone in my room? This should change.
ToddHileHoffer wrote:
are you allowed to have pets where you live?
Nop. I'm a dog lover too. Few years ago I had a german sepherd and a pomranian.
ToddHileHoffer wrote:
Call your parents, everyday if you need to
I will.
ToddHileHoffer wrote:
are you religous?
I was.
ToddHileHoffer wrote:
Good luck and stay positive.
Thank you...
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big organization, big Salary but no assigments, no responsibilities... there are lot of peoples around me but no real friends.... there are lot of pretty girls in my office but no special one in my life.... there's money in my pocket but don't spent it in the right way.... i stay up all night thinking what to do with my life.... i eat one time or two in a day ( a sandwich )... reduced food... Incredibly lonely....living in a foreign country... away from my parents... a feeling of complete failure deep down in my heart... loosing touch with the reality... Is there a way out?
Stop feeling sorry for yourself get out and do something; you got money so travel and do stuff. You're a lot better off than you think you are.
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