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  • J Jonahthan

    Dalek Dave wrote:

    Ask a girl at work out for a meal.

    Never asked a girl for a dinner in the last three years after I broke up with my college girl friend. I tried to contact her(X) few months ago then i got a mail from her boy friend saying "she is no more the person you are expecting her to be...". it's over completely.... ok I'll take courage and ask someone... thank you for your reply.

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    Brady Kelly
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    Then just go down to the pub, have a few beers and maybe even strike up a conversation with some locals, male or female.  Just get out of your house and in the same space as other people, even if you don't always, or at first, talk to them.  Just don't sit and get shit-faced all on your own.

    My head asplode!

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    • J Jonahthan

      Rajesh R Subramanian wrote:

      I'd recommend that you should look for a job change. And preferably a location change too

      some flight of plans go through my mind everyday and I ask myself If I do this, will things change? If I do that, Will things change? I end up doing nothing... what you said seems to be a practical solution to the problem. probably a new place and a new job would do...I guess... Thank you...

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      Rajesh R Subramanian
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      You're welcome. :) Switch that job for a better one as soon as possible. Don't fall for it if they offer you more money or something. And remember, there will be those times in our life where pain will become unavoidable. But then, suffering is optional. :)

      Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself. - Cicero .·´¯`·->Rajesh<-·´¯`·. Codeproject.com: Visual C++ MVP

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      • realJSOPR realJSOP

        Browning makes a real nice 9mm...

        "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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        "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

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        Nemanja Trifunovic
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        John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:

        Browning makes a real nice 9mm...

        ... so he can buy one, become a professinal hitman which is a very cool profession and women will love him ;P

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        • J Jonahthan

          big organization, big Salary but no assigments, no responsibilities... there are lot of peoples around me but no real friends.... there are lot of pretty girls in my office but no special one in my life.... there's money in my pocket but don't spent it in the right way.... i stay up all night thinking what to do with my life.... i eat one time or two in a day ( a sandwich )... reduced food... Incredibly lonely....living in a foreign country... away from my parents... a feeling of complete failure deep down in my heart... loosing touch with the reality... Is there a way out?

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          El Corazon
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          Jonahthan wrote:

          Is there a way out?

          Yes, choose one of the pretty girls (preferrably based on IQ estimates, but random selection will do as well), sit her down next to you and teach her programming while offering to spend that extra money on her, flowers, jewelry, diamonds, ring. Before you know it, you won't have any more time to ponder such things, you will be always busy and your money always spent. :laugh:

          _________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)

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          • L Lost User

            Jonahthan wrote:

            losing touch with the reality...

            You've hit it there. Find something, anything to get involved in - a sports club, amateur dramatics, anything so you can connect with people again. If there is a language barrier then language lessons. Elaine :rose:

            Visit http://www.notreadytogiveup.com/[^] and do something special today.

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            El Corazon
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            Trollslayer wrote:

            then language lessons.

            this is the best advice yet. Language lessons: teach you to win races, ski down steep slopes like the K12, and outrun angry black-leather clad paperboys, and get the girl. "Language lessons. Inspired words from a man who knows how to ski."

            _________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)

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            • L Lost User

              Dalek Dave wrote:

              DILLIGIF Kevin Bloody Wilson! Do I Look Like I Give A F...

              It's DILLIGAF fer fuck's sake, saw the live show and got the album.

              Michael Martin Australia "I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible." - Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004

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              Flame me for a Typo! I checked google for dilligIf and yep there were loads, so I am not alone! Do I look like I give a ...

              ------------------------------------ I try to appear cooler, by calling him Euler.

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              • C Christian Graus

                So, to summarise: you have good money you eat poorly you can't sleep you don't know anyone Sounds like you just need to get out more, start by finding somewhere you can buy a decent meal. And then, invite a girl, feed her too, things will be looking up in no time.

                Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )

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                realJSOP
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                Oh great. We're about to have another Link2006 on our hands...

                "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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                "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

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                • J Jonahthan

                  big organization, big Salary but no assigments, no responsibilities... there are lot of peoples around me but no real friends.... there are lot of pretty girls in my office but no special one in my life.... there's money in my pocket but don't spent it in the right way.... i stay up all night thinking what to do with my life.... i eat one time or two in a day ( a sandwich )... reduced food... Incredibly lonely....living in a foreign country... away from my parents... a feeling of complete failure deep down in my heart... loosing touch with the reality... Is there a way out?

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                  Jonahthan wrote:

                  Is there a way out?

                  Yes. Go out, go to pubs, have some drinks, meet people, have a laugh, enjoy yourself! STOP TAKING LIFE SO SERIOUSLY!

                  Morality is indistinguishable from social proscription

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                  • T Thunderbox666

                    John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:

                    I just checked, and I didn't see "Give a shit" on my list of things to do today...

                    I didnt have that on my list either... how good is it :D


                    "There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown

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                    El Corazon
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                    Thunderbox666 wrote:

                    how good is it

                    It is good proof that it is always better to give than receive!!!

                    _________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)

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                    • T ToddHileHoffer

                      Wow. Work will always suck. But don't be depressed. Man up. I'm sorry about your situation. If I were you, I'd ask out some girls at work. Go to match.com or another site like that and put up a profile. Do you have any hobbies? I'm into brewing my own beer and have made friends at the homebrew club meetings. I also go out shooting guns with my coworkers somtimes, how fun is that!!! Reality sucks, so loosing touch with it won't hurt at all. Also, are you allowed to have pets where you live? I have two small dogs that keep me company. My one dog is 1/2 Japanese Chin and 1/2 Minature Poodle. She's the best companion ever! Not too mention that walking a cute dog is a great way to meet chicks. Call your parents, everyday if you need to. Also, are you religous? I'm not, but joining a church is a great way to make friends. Good luck and stay positive. Being happy is infectious... So is being depressed. People want to be around happy people. Also, Exercise always helps the mood improve.

                      I didn't get any requirements for the signature

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                      ToddHileHoffer wrote:

                      also go out shooting guns with my coworkers somtimes, how fun is that!!!

                      With or at? ;)


                      I'm largely language agnostic


                      After a while they all bug me :doh:


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                      • M MidwestLimey

                        ToddHileHoffer wrote:

                        also go out shooting guns with my coworkers somtimes, how fun is that!!!

                        With or at? ;)


                        I'm largely language agnostic


                        After a while they all bug me :doh:


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                        With Shotguns at clay pidgeons and with rifles (such as a SKS or AK47) at targets.

                        I didn't get any requirements for the signature

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                        • realJSOPR realJSOP

                          Browning makes a real nice 9mm...

                          "Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
                          -----
                          "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

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                          Ennis Ray Lynch Jr
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                          With lots of cash there are more creative ways to go to be sure. My personal recommnedation is just to blow lots of cash. Retail therapy works wonders.

                          Need a C# Consultant? I'm available.
                          Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know. -- Ernest Hemingway

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                          • J Jonahthan

                            big organization, big Salary but no assigments, no responsibilities... there are lot of peoples around me but no real friends.... there are lot of pretty girls in my office but no special one in my life.... there's money in my pocket but don't spent it in the right way.... i stay up all night thinking what to do with my life.... i eat one time or two in a day ( a sandwich )... reduced food... Incredibly lonely....living in a foreign country... away from my parents... a feeling of complete failure deep down in my heart... loosing touch with the reality... Is there a way out?

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                            declassified
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                            I was there for 8 years and didnt' see a way out. Then one day I decided that I needed to be a man. I wasn't "trapped" like I thought I was - I could do anything that I wanted to do, so I grew some balls and started being more aggressive at life. Get out, take up hiking, talk to some girls. They like confidence! No one will walk up to you and offer to make life better, it will turn out however YOU make it. Now YOU have to decide what kind of life YOU will live. What country are you in by the way?

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