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  • S Stuart Dootson

    If I were getting married, I'd have the same problem as you - I don't wear a watch and I wouldn't want to wear a ring. My Dad never wore one (nor my Grandad) - I didn't realise until I was quite old that it wasn't just women who wore wedding rings.

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    Rob Philpott
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    Glad to hear I'm not alone in my opinion then. It looks like I have no choice however...

    Regards, Rob Philpott.

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    • R Rob Philpott

      I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.

      Regards, Rob Philpott.

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      Garth J Lancaster
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      congrats for/on the upcoming nuptuals :-) maybe there's middle ground - maybe wear the ring on a leather thong around your neck .. or something - it would still show your better half you care enough 'g'

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      • B benjymous

        It's the same as wearing glasses - they seem odd and weird when you first start wearing them, but soon you stop noticing them, and it feels odd and weird when you don't wear them

        Help me! I'm turning into a grapefruit! Buzzwords!

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        benjymous wrote:

        soon you stop noticing them, and it feels odd and weird when you don't wear them

        I can barely see the end of my nose without them so I notice pretty quickly if I'm not wearing them!

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        • R Rob Philpott

          I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.

          Regards, Rob Philpott.

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          Tom Deketelaere
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          Take the middle road and don't wear it around your finger but on a chain (golden or not) around your neck. My brother does the same, and I will (one day hopefully :) ). I can't stand the feeling just as I can't stand the feeling of a watch. But as said before it's a habit I'm sure if I was to wear a watch after a month I wouldn't notice it anymore.

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          • M Mustafa Ismail Mustafa

            Like you, I'm completely not into jewelry and also like your father, my father never wore a ring. The first time I put the ring on my right finger (engaged) it felt super awkward, unnatural and I'd keep forgetting it places. Then it got to be habit. Then the same thing happened all over again when I put the ring on my left hand (married). Its been a almost 2 years now and I still take off my ring when I wash,shower etc and when I code. If it'll make her happy, you can try? It won't kill you, at least that's the mentality I approached it with. :shrug:

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            Simon P Stevens
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            Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:

            when I code

            Yeah, I often take mine off to code too. It's weird, I think it's to do with the flexibility of the finger.

            Simon

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              Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:

              when I code

              Yeah, I often take mine off to code too. It's weird, I think it's to do with the flexibility of the finger.

              Simon

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              Simon Stevens wrote:

              It's weird, I think it's to do with the flexibility of the finger.

              That's how I feel. Its like something is holding down the finger and the feeling lingers for a few minutes after I take it off, but then its back to normal. Mind you, its all in your head [or at least mine is anyway]. There is absolutely no difference in typing speed whatsoever.

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              • R Rob Philpott

                Thanks for the reply. It looks like I will be wearing one!

                Regards, Rob Philpott.

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                Mustafa Ismail Mustafa
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                Best of luck mate :) Don't worry, its the end of the world!

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                • R Rob Philpott

                  I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.

                  Regards, Rob Philpott.

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                  It sounds like she needs reassurance about things, maybe if you can get her to talk about that (without getting mauled in the process!). Good luck. Elaine :rose:

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                  • M Mustafa Ismail Mustafa

                    Simon Stevens wrote:

                    It's weird, I think it's to do with the flexibility of the finger.

                    That's how I feel. Its like something is holding down the finger and the feeling lingers for a few minutes after I take it off, but then its back to normal. Mind you, its all in your head [or at least mine is anyway]. There is absolutely no difference in typing speed whatsoever.

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                    Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:

                    Mind you, its all in your head [or at least mine is anyway]. There is absolutely no difference in typing speed whatsoever.

                    Yeah, I agree. I know I don't type any faster, it's just uncomfortable sometimes. It kind of rubs the other fingers.

                    Simon

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                    • D Dalek Dave

                      Rob Philpott wrote:

                      I will just do as instructed on the day, I think that's the safest approach.

                      When I was 'Organising' my wedding I had a simple approach, let the mothers and the bride get on with it, my job was just to hand over increasingly large amounts of money and wait to be told where and when to be. I chose the Men's outfits and the menu, selected My ring and picked a bit of music, that was it! It was a great day! It is the best way, trust me! :)

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                      Dalek Dave wrote:

                      When I was 'Organising' my wedding I had a simple approach, let the mothers and the bride get on with it, my job was just to hand over increasingly large amounts of money and wait to be told where and when to be.

                      Safest as well! I did the exact thing. I didn't even complain when it became over budget, not even a peep.

                      Dalek Dave wrote:

                      I chose the Men's outfits and the menu, selected My ring and picked a bit of music, that was it!

                      Lucky, I chose one song, Elton John's the way you look tonight, part of the menu and that's it. I didn't even pick my suit!

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                      It was a great day!

                      It sure was! :D

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                      • R Rob Philpott

                        I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.

                        Regards, Rob Philpott.

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                        Is wearing a ring such a big deal? You soon get used to it and trust me, before long you won't even notice it's there. If you love you other half then surely wearing a ring to keep her sweet is small beer?

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                        • B benjymous

                          It's the same as wearing glasses - they seem odd and weird when you first start wearing them, but soon you stop noticing them, and it feels odd and weird when you don't wear them

                          Help me! I'm turning into a grapefruit! Buzzwords!

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                          Mustafa Ismail Mustafa
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                          I had the worst vision possible short of being blind. So it was terrible not having my glasses on. Then I went ahead and did a Lasik operation and thankfully, now I have perfect vision but at first, it felt really weird not putting on my glasses.

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                          • R Rob Philpott

                            I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.

                            Regards, Rob Philpott.

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                            I always remember a story I heard while on course as a company safety rep. The instructor said you should NEVER wear any type of ring and told us of a guy who, when his ring got hooked when jumping over a wire fence, had his ring finger ripped off. Maybe you can run that one past your other half. Cheers, Brett PS: Still wearing my wedding ring though, I just avoid jumping over fences !

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                            • M Mustafa Ismail Mustafa

                              I had the worst vision possible short of being blind. So it was terrible not having my glasses on. Then I went ahead and did a Lasik operation and thankfully, now I have perfect vision but at first, it felt really weird not putting on my glasses.

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                              Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:

                              Lasik operation

                              I've never been keen on burning the top layers off my cornea - how did it go? Do you need glasses at all now? When tv reports show people working in Lasik-type centres wearing specs I wonder why they haven't had it done themselves if it's so safe?

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                                Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:

                                Lasik operation

                                I've never been keen on burning the top layers off my cornea - how did it go? Do you need glasses at all now? When tv reports show people working in Lasik-type centres wearing specs I wonder why they haven't had it done themselves if it's so safe?

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                                It went perfectly fine for me. 10 minutes and then I had to stay away from any and every CRT source for three days, and to stay cocooned in darkness for about 12 hours. I went the extra-cautious way and doubled the amount of time specified. Perfect vision, "eagle" vision in my right eye. My sister did the operation about 2 weeks after I did and she sees "halos" about light sources at night, I don't. In winter sometimes, my vision gets a teeny bit less sharp, 2 drops of eye-drops and I'm as good as before, it turns out that they can dry out. And that's it. Mind you, its an operation that's not for everyone.

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                                  It went perfectly fine for me. 10 minutes and then I had to stay away from any and every CRT source for three days, and to stay cocooned in darkness for about 12 hours. I went the extra-cautious way and doubled the amount of time specified. Perfect vision, "eagle" vision in my right eye. My sister did the operation about 2 weeks after I did and she sees "halos" about light sources at night, I don't. In winter sometimes, my vision gets a teeny bit less sharp, 2 drops of eye-drops and I'm as good as before, it turns out that they can dry out. And that's it. Mind you, its an operation that's not for everyone.

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                                  Are your sister's halos permanent or can they be fixed with glasses or contacts?

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                                  • R Rob Philpott

                                    I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.

                                    Regards, Rob Philpott.

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                                    You keep wearing it and you get used to it. Just DON’T take it off. It’s that simple. My hubby complained a lot but got used to it. My brother lost his engagement ring the very next day. We didn’t want to upset his then fiancé so we didn’t tell her and managed with a similar looking ring. He used to take it off every chance he got; now he finally wears it on a chain around his neck. :laugh: And Best Wishes :)

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                                    • M Mawil Ramos

                                      Just try it on for about 27 days. After that it will become a habit. I used to sleep with my uniform on after a hard day (I know it's dirty and all but I'm really tired). But I realized this is a very bad habit so I put a stop to this (someone advised me about the 27 days). I make it a point to change even if my eyes are betraying me. After that, it became a habit. I can't sleep if I won't change. :zzz: I hope it will work for you.

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                                      Mawi Ramos wrote:

                                      27

                                      I think you meant 42.

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                                      • R Rob Philpott

                                        I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.

                                        Regards, Rob Philpott.

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                                        Rob Philpott wrote:

                                        I don't want to wear a wedding ring

                                        Before being married, I was finding that rather awkward for a man to wear jewelry. My first intention was to keep the ring on a necklace. The first few times I tried one, I was not much convinced. I finally chose one that caught my eye. And then it happened. During the wedding ceremony, as we exchanged rings, I was so stuck by the moment that I sort of realized the symbol behind the ring. Now I would rather have my finger cut than removing the ring from it. For me, it is like having a little part of my wife always with me, and it gives me a kind of strength against everything, just as if I was wearing a shield on this arm that could protect me against anything. I know this can sound rather bizarre, but this is how I feel about it. </soapy> On the very practical side, it was a bit itchy at the beginning but you get used to it after a while. So I would recommend you to wear one.

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                                        • H hairy_hats

                                          Are your sister's halos permanent or can they be fixed with glasses or contacts?

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                                          Mustafa Ismail Mustafa
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                                          I called her up and she says that they're intermittent and have become less with time. Also, the dryness of her eyes, the angle at which she looks at the light source, the strength of the light source, all that come into play. From what I gathered, its not something that stops you from seeing perfectly (otherwise), though I'm sure its annoying. She describes it as similar to when you're looking at a street lamp with a squint and you see a halo about the light and then it goes away when you open your eyes. Wikipedia lists it: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LASIK#Potential_complications[^]

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