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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
I don't wear a ring either. You could agree to a ring-exchange but then remove it immediately afterwards, so you don't have to keep it on for too long.
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
Rob Philpott wrote:
We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger.
I see you decided to wear one; as mentioned, you will get used to it. Think of it as a pride thing, you are proud of your wife and glad to make this little sacrifice. After a while it will be second nature. I used to take mine off during showers, still do most of the time, but often I forget I am wearing it because it became a natural habit.
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb) John Andrew Holmes "It is well to remember that the entire universe, with one trifling exception, is composed of others."
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
It depends how ugly you are ... and how much of a irascible curmudgeon you tend to be. That being said, I don't wear a wedding ring and have not for 12 years and my wife doesn't seem to mind.
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
As El Corazon says, it will honor your marriage, it is a privilege to wear a ring. Trust me, this will not be your only compromise, you need to get use to those too :-D Oh yeah, be sure to remove it when you are working around car batteries :)
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Don't know much about Warwick Uni but I think it's OK! What made you pick it? And what's your research area?
Sorry, I was out seeing the nutritionist, total weight loss in one month just over 9Kg :D Anyways, I'm choosing Warwick because its one of the leading research universities in my intended area of research (Bioinformatics, Computational and Systems Biology and the Modeling and Forecasting of Diseases or Biochemical reactions in Biological Systems, I have an incredible love for Chemistry and Biology). Also, my wife's family is from Birmingham, and Coventry is a short drive from there, so it sorta made sense.
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As El Corazon says, it will honor your marriage, it is a privilege to wear a ring. Trust me, this will not be your only compromise, you need to get use to those too :-D Oh yeah, be sure to remove it when you are working around car batteries :)
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Rocky Moore wrote:
be sure to remove it when you are working around car batteries
In my case, it was a server rack that wasn't earthed properly. In Jordan they use 230v instead of the 110v in the US and Canada. Thank God for circuit breakers.
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Rob Philpott wrote:
We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger.
I see you decided to wear one; as mentioned, you will get used to it. Think of it as a pride thing, you are proud of your wife and glad to make this little sacrifice. After a while it will be second nature. I used to take mine off during showers, still do most of the time, but often I forget I am wearing it because it became a natural habit.
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb) John Andrew Holmes "It is well to remember that the entire universe, with one trifling exception, is composed of others."
Obviously, it's important to her that you wear a ring. Principle: unless you have a compelling reason to do things differently than your spouse wants, prefer to do things their way. Perhaps you can offset your unhappiness about wearing a ring with taking joy in your bride's happiness that you are wearing one... Shop around for something thin if the bulk of it is annoying. You will get used to it in pretty short order. Of course, safety first -- when working around electricity, heavy work with your hands, playing conga drums, etc., the ring comes off (mine goes into my coinpurse for safekeeping). Otherwise it's on my finger. -matt
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
The first thing that struck me about this thread was the number of people who take their rings off, or don't wear them at all. Personally, I'm very proud to wear a wedding ring and I think I've only ever taken it off about 5 times in the nearly 11 years I've been married. I would suggest that Sigmund Freud might have something to say about a fear of wearing a wedding ring...
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I awoke this morning to a bit of a frosty other-half. This stems from a 'discussion' we had last night which sadly I do not recall but suspect I put my point across quite forcefully (I was comfortably stewing in a gallon of Indian Pale Ale at the time, good it was). We're getting married in six months time and I don't want to wear a wedding ring. Not in anyway because I wish to hide the fact that I'll be married but purely because I'm not one for jewelry. I struggle to wear a watch and just am not happy with the idea of wearing something which looks like a thing you'd find in a tap on my finger. This is not sitting well whatsoever with my fiancee. My father never wore one. Apparently men didn't so much in those days, but I have to admit every married man I know does. Any opinions on this? I almost want to be pursuaded that I'm being a bit odd and to fall in line so life regain its peaceful air.
Regards, Rob Philpott.
For God's sake, man, stand up for yourself! You're not even married yet and you're caving like a spelunker! To wear or not to wear - all, I think, would agree is a trivial question; your fiance thinks you should, you think you shouldn't; the simplest solution is for you to continue with a nude third finger, and for her to respect your preferences. Jeez - next she'll be asking you to do the washing up!
If I knew then what I know today, then I'd know the same now as I did then - then what would be the point? .\\axxx (That's an 'M')
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Rocky Moore wrote:
be sure to remove it when you are working around car batteries
In my case, it was a server rack that wasn't earthed properly. In Jordan they use 230v instead of the 110v in the US and Canada. Thank God for circuit breakers.
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uh.. OUCH! ;) I do like the 110v around here ;)
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