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  • Y Yusuf

    Look, many brilliant and smart people belong to one form or another of discriminated group. Yet they excel in their prospective field above and beyond the norms. Yes, discrimination exists however subtly. But most of us blame other for the things we could not achieve by our own. I speak this as a person who have experienced discrimination because of my origin, skin color or ethnicity. In most cases, I brush it off and propel to prove them otherwise. It takes hard work and at the end you see the light. I've worked with handful of women. Some are brilliant, some average and some should never have sat between the keyboard and screen. Yet, at the end I judge them to what they can/could/did accomplish rather than who they are. I have hired some and and showed others the door. Again, discrimination exist in all forms, but the burden of extraditing it starts with every individual to rise above the occasion.

    Yusuf May I help you?

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    I agree with everything you said (I myself have been subject to discrimination, despite being white, male and able-bodied, a group supposedly immune from such things) except:

    Yusuf wrote:

    some should never have sat between the keyboard and screen

    If they'd sat there, they would not have been able to type, or see the screen (depending on which way they are facing), unless they were contortionists :laugh:

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    Pete o'Hanlon: If it wasn't insulting tools, I'd say you were dumber than a bag of spanners.

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    • Y Yusuf

      Look, many brilliant and smart people belong to one form or another of discriminated group. Yet they excel in their prospective field above and beyond the norms. Yes, discrimination exists however subtly. But most of us blame other for the things we could not achieve by our own. I speak this as a person who have experienced discrimination because of my origin, skin color or ethnicity. In most cases, I brush it off and propel to prove them otherwise. It takes hard work and at the end you see the light. I've worked with handful of women. Some are brilliant, some average and some should never have sat between the keyboard and screen. Yet, at the end I judge them to what they can/could/did accomplish rather than who they are. I have hired some and and showed others the door. Again, discrimination exist in all forms, but the burden of extraditing it starts with every individual to rise above the occasion.

      Yusuf May I help you?

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      QuiJohn
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      Yusuf wrote:

      some should never have sat between the keyboard and screen

      I would think none of them should have. Unless it was on my desk, of course.


      He said, "Boy I'm just old and lonely, But thank you for your concern, Here's wishing you a Happy New Year." I wished him one back in return.

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      • K Keith Barrow

        I agree with everything you said (I myself have been subject to discrimination, despite being white, male and able-bodied, a group supposedly immune from such things) except:

        Yusuf wrote:

        some should never have sat between the keyboard and screen

        If they'd sat there, they would not have been able to type, or see the screen (depending on which way they are facing), unless they were contortionists :laugh:

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        Pete o'Hanlon: If it wasn't insulting tools, I'd say you were dumber than a bag of spanners.

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        Yusuf
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        Keith Barrow wrote:

        If they'd sat there, they would not have been able to type, or see the screen (depending on which way they are facing), unless they were contortionists

        :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

        Yusuf May I help you?

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        • C Chris Maunder

          Pete O'Hanlon wrote:

          JSOP is really Cindy Crawford

          Ow. My brain just segfaulted.

          cheers, Chris Maunder The Code Project | Co-founder Microsoft C++ MVP

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          That's nothing, I just laughed tea out of my nose.

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          • K Keith Barrow

            That's nothing, I just laughed tea out of my nose.

            ragnaroknrol The Internet is For Porn[^]
            Pete o'Hanlon: If it wasn't insulting tools, I'd say you were dumber than a bag of spanners.

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            Pete OHanlon
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            We aims to please.

            Keith Barrow wrote:

            I just laughed tea out of my nose.

            Tannin, the opiate of the masses.

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            • L Lost User

              I was there a year and then I got transferred to the States. I loved living in Marken - I rented an old Dutch house on a terup (sp?) and cycled everywhere. The neighbours were extremely friendly. :)

              It’s not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it’s because we do not dare that things are difficult. ~Seneca

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              AnnieMacD wrote:

              terup (sp?)

              Terp? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Artificial_dwelling_hill[^]

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              • L Lost User

                I don't really have a point on my own account as I can't say that I have experienced much discrimination myself and I've worked in many different countries (including Holland) as a software professional. What I do notice is that so few women appear to be here on CP. In the industry in general the proportion is supposedly 10% but I can't see many women here. :((

                It’s not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it’s because we do not dare that things are difficult. ~Seneca

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                Anna Jayne Metcalfe
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                AnnieMacD wrote:

                What I do notice is that so few women appear to be here on CP. In the industry in general the proportion is supposedly 10% but I can't see many women here.

                Oh we're here all right. Have you met the Trollslayer yet? :) FWIW few developers (maybe one in 20, if that) bother posting in online forums. Certainly just about every place I've been I've been the only dev who did so, and with so few devs being female anyway that means the number who appear in forums such as this one appears to be disproportionately low.

                Anna :rose: Tech Blog | Visual Lint "Why would anyone prefer to wield a weapon that takes both hands at once, when they could use a lighter (and obviously superior) weapon that allows you to wield multiple ones at a time, and thus supports multi-paradigm carnage?"

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                • L Lost User

                  This was in the CP Newsletter today so most of you will have seen it. Women in Technology[^]

                  It’s not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it’s because we do not dare that things are difficult. ~Seneca

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                  I've worked with several women developers. One thing I've observed is that the group is small enough that when you have the inevitable loser, she can't get lost in the crowd like the loser male programmers often can. Another observation is that most good computer programmers I know already had a deep interest in computers and/or electronics in high school. I don't know if women are interested at the same rate, but the ones that are get a lot of peer pressure from other girls (and some guys, but mostly girls) to be interested in something else. My daughter, now 22, noticed this when she took several auto mechanics classes in high school. Besides learning that she could get the guys to do anything for her (something she's been gifted at since she was an hour old), she found that while guys in general would be surprised that she knew more about cars than them, they'd soon accept it, but most the girls she knew or met wouldn't. It was never clear why not, but they just didn't. Computers aren't much different. (Why aren't there more women in auto sports? Because there aren't many twelve year old girls doing Karting and rebuilding engines. Unfortunately, there is a lot of discrimination at that age, though mostly from mothers [most the dads I know love when their girls to do car things with them], but it's also because twelve year old girls in general just aren't that interested in cars.)

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                    AnnieMacD wrote:

                    What I do notice is that so few women appear to be here on CP. In the industry in general the proportion is supposedly 10% but I can't see many women here.

                    Oh we're here all right. Have you met the Trollslayer yet? :) FWIW few developers (maybe one in 20, if that) bother posting in online forums. Certainly just about every place I've been I've been the only dev who did so, and with so few devs being female anyway that means the number who appear in forums such as this one appears to be disproportionately low.

                    Anna :rose: Tech Blog | Visual Lint "Why would anyone prefer to wield a weapon that takes both hands at once, when they could use a lighter (and obviously superior) weapon that allows you to wield multiple ones at a time, and thus supports multi-paradigm carnage?"

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                    Pete OHanlon
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                    Get back to your Vegas sandbox Engelbert. ;P

                    "WPF has many lovers. It's a veritable porn star!" - Josh Smith

                    As Braveheart once said, "You can take our freedom but you'll never take our Hobnobs!" - Martin Hughes.

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                    • J Joe Woodbury

                      I've worked with several women developers. One thing I've observed is that the group is small enough that when you have the inevitable loser, she can't get lost in the crowd like the loser male programmers often can. Another observation is that most good computer programmers I know already had a deep interest in computers and/or electronics in high school. I don't know if women are interested at the same rate, but the ones that are get a lot of peer pressure from other girls (and some guys, but mostly girls) to be interested in something else. My daughter, now 22, noticed this when she took several auto mechanics classes in high school. Besides learning that she could get the guys to do anything for her (something she's been gifted at since she was an hour old), she found that while guys in general would be surprised that she knew more about cars than them, they'd soon accept it, but most the girls she knew or met wouldn't. It was never clear why not, but they just didn't. Computers aren't much different. (Why aren't there more women in auto sports? Because there aren't many twelve year old girls doing Karting and rebuilding engines. Unfortunately, there is a lot of discrimination at that age, though mostly from mothers [most the dads I know love when their girls to do car things with them], but it's also because twelve year old girls in general just aren't that interested in cars.)

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                      Pete OHanlon
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                      Joe Woodbury wrote:

                      it's also because twelve year old girls in general just aren't that interested in cars.

                      I have an 8 year old that is. Does that count?

                      "WPF has many lovers. It's a veritable porn star!" - Josh Smith

                      As Braveheart once said, "You can take our freedom but you'll never take our Hobnobs!" - Martin Hughes.

                      My blog | My articles | MoXAML PowerToys | Onyx

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                        Joe Woodbury wrote:

                        it's also because twelve year old girls in general just aren't that interested in cars.

                        I have an 8 year old that is. Does that count?

                        "WPF has many lovers. It's a veritable porn star!" - Josh Smith

                        As Braveheart once said, "You can take our freedom but you'll never take our Hobnobs!" - Martin Hughes.

                        My blog | My articles | MoXAML PowerToys | Onyx

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                        Joe Woodbury
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                        Pete O'Hanlon wrote:

                        I have an 8 year old that is. Does that count?

                        So did I, but after the mechanics classes (that cost me a bundle in tools that my daughter still has) she went to cosmetology school and is now a very good hair stylist (and I do get a lifetime of free haircuts, but would have preferred a life time of free car repairs.) I've pushed her to open a car repair / salon but that hasn't gone anywhere. Put your daughter in Go Karts, dad! There's got to be some girl out there who will eventually actually win races (instead of just getting lots of hype)! (Can she whine well? If so, she'd be perfect for F1 :) )

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                          I don't really have a point on my own account as I can't say that I have experienced much discrimination myself and I've worked in many different countries (including Holland) as a software professional. What I do notice is that so few women appear to be here on CP. In the industry in general the proportion is supposedly 10% but I can't see many women here. :((

                          It’s not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it’s because we do not dare that things are difficult. ~Seneca

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                          JudyL_MD
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                          If you think percentages, the few of us you see might be accurate. What is the percentage of CP members that actually post? Very very small if you judge by the number of unique names (couple of hundred, maybe) in the lounge recently versus that 7million member. 10% of that very small number is the 10's and I can think of about 10 females off the top of my head. Re that 10% number. I've never worked in a place where 10% of the software developers were women in the 24 years of my working life. It's always been about 3%. However, I think that is due to the domains where I've worked rather than the 10% being wrong. With the exception of my first job (back in '86 when female software types were very rare), I've always worked in industries where the software works hand-in-circuit with the hardware in the system. Try the EE field for a male-dominated field!! In contrast, one of my female SW cronies, who didn't like working so close to the hardware, changed jobs to a "real" software shop, and her percentage at her place is much closer to that 10% number. It probably also makes a difference that, despite years of trying to equalize the distribution of domestic duties, women still do the big majority of that work which severely cuts down on their leisure time to indulge in things like CP participation. Me, I've got my husband well-trained so I have time :laugh: Judy

                          Be wary of strong drink. It can make you shoot at tax collectors - and miss. Lazarus Long, "Time Enough For Love" by Robert A. Heinlein

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                          • P Pete OHanlon

                            You're right. Elaine is really a MMA trucker called Harold. The good Anna Jayne is actually Englebert Humperdink, and Chris' disproportionate number of lady team members are all Transformers. Let's not forget Ali P - she's really Dalek Dave. On the other side, JSOP is really Cindy Crawford.

                            "WPF has many lovers. It's a veritable porn star!" - Josh Smith

                            As Braveheart once said, "You can take our freedom but you'll never take our Hobnobs!" - Martin Hughes.

                            My blog | My articles | MoXAML PowerToys | Onyx

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                            Vikram A Punathambekar
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                            You forgot the lovely Corinna.

                            Cheers, विक्रम (Got my troika of CCCs!) Need sig - urgentz!!!

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                              You forgot the lovely Corinna.

                              Cheers, विक्रम (Got my troika of CCCs!) Need sig - urgentz!!!

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                              Pete OHanlon
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                              Damn. :doh:

                              "WPF has many lovers. It's a veritable porn star!" - Josh Smith

                              As Braveheart once said, "You can take our freedom but you'll never take our Hobnobs!" - Martin Hughes.

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                                Get back to your Vegas sandbox Engelbert. ;P

                                "WPF has many lovers. It's a veritable porn star!" - Josh Smith

                                As Braveheart once said, "You can take our freedom but you'll never take our Hobnobs!" - Martin Hughes.

                                My blog | My articles | MoXAML PowerToys | Onyx

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                                ;P ;P ;P ;P ;P ;P ;P ;P ;P ;P ;P

                                Anna :rose: Tech Blog | Visual Lint "Why would anyone prefer to wield a weapon that takes both hands at once, when they could use a lighter (and obviously superior) weapon that allows you to wield multiple ones at a time, and thus supports multi-paradigm carnage?"

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                                • E Ennis Ray Lynch Jr

                                  I am a big fan of more women in software development but there has to be more to the lack of women than subtle discrimination. The handful of women I have met that consider themselves programmers were not overly competent by any measure and all but one bore a chip on her shoulder that suggested, "No man will help me". All in all software development is taught via mentorship and camaraderie. If you want more good female developers then more women will have to be open to the concept that receiving help from a developer who just so happens to be a man is not discrimination or gender bias but the way that every man learned how to master the craft.

                                  Need custom software developed? I do custom programming based primarily on MS tools with an emphasis on C# development and consulting. I also do Android Programming as I find it a refreshing break from the MS. "And they, since they Were not the one dead, turned to their affairs" -- Robert Frost

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                                  Female programmers?? Do they actually exist? :wtf:

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                                    I've said this before - my wife used to be a developer. She went to a company where she was treated like shit by some dipshit bumcuddler who was less qualified and less experienced than she was, yet he considered that suitable work for her was typing up letters. He and I, how shall I put it, had a full and frank exchange on a night out one night where he discovered that it's not wise to get the back up of the husband, especially when he used to do Muay Thai.

                                    "WPF has many lovers. It's a veritable porn star!" - Josh Smith

                                    As Braveheart once said, "You can take our freedom but you'll never take our Hobnobs!" - Martin Hughes.

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                                    Respectfully, one experience does not quantify a rational conclusion.

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                                      Female programmers?? Do they actually exist? :wtf:

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                                      Dan Neely
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                                      Caslen wrote:

                                      Female programmers?? Do they actually exist? WTF

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                                        Caslen wrote:

                                        Female programmers?? Do they actually exist? WTF

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                                        That doesn't answer the question :)

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                                        • L Lost User

                                          This was in the CP Newsletter today so most of you will have seen it. Women in Technology[^]

                                          It’s not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it’s because we do not dare that things are difficult. ~Seneca

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                                          It's my belief that it all boils down to genetics, as it accurately does for females in sports. While there are exceptions for every rule, the stereotypical nature of men and women are not without merit, and with a good result. Typically men are not good at many things that, generally, women are. That said, riding the discrimination bandwagon is just as ignorant as are the remaining minority of folks who contrbute to it. There's my two cents, and all IMHO. Let me stress "opinion". :-D

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