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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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I don't think the babies are treated cruelly, they are just got out of there and given medical care instead of a cuddle. I was there for both births, but it was not a C-section. I would be dead set against being there while they cut my wife open. Having said that, I'm sure I'd feel like I had no choice....
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Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:
but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
That's why the procedure is also known as a 'slash and grab'. :)
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Yup, I was in there for the whole thing. Even offered to help! (they turned me down). They wouldn't let me watch the initial incision, I guess because some people don't handle that well. I'm the type that eats lunch while watching surgery on TV so that sort of thing doesn't bother me at all. At any rate, they told me I wouldn't be allowed to bring a camera in however my doctor told me to go get my camera once we were there so there were confusing messages. All-in-all it was an awesome experience. They may seem rough with the kiddo, but when you consider the alternative of being squeezed through a birth canal that's smaller than they are...let's just say that anything short of dropping them on there head is probably a whole lot less hard on them. Good luck! Cheers, Drew.
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I don't think the babies are treated cruelly, they are just got out of there and given medical care instead of a cuddle. I was there for both births, but it was not a C-section. I would be dead set against being there while they cut my wife open. Having said that, I'm sure I'd feel like I had no choice....
Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.
Well, reading up on it, I've found that its "alright" to do that to newborns because their neck bones and cartilage is still not developed/set whereas pulling the baby out by the arms or legs could easily dislocate them.
Christian Graus wrote:
I would be dead set against being there
Me and you both brother. I can't stand feeling helpless or like the proverbial fifth wheel; it drives me insane!
Christian Graus wrote:
I was there for both births
How did it feel? Seeing the videos moves me, I'm sure it'll be times that for my son.
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Grow a pair and man-up. You are there to hold her hand and help her through a hard time, she is one who has carried for 9 months and now has to have a traumatic time. Mop her brow, hold her hand and tell her how much you love her. She needs it! Here endeth the lesson my friend.
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
If the post was helpful, please vote, eh! Current activities: Playing Star Craft II. Don't bother me, eh? Now and forever, defiant to the end. What is Multiple Sclerosis[^]?
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Yup, I was in there for the whole thing. Even offered to help! (they turned me down). They wouldn't let me watch the initial incision, I guess because some people don't handle that well. I'm the type that eats lunch while watching surgery on TV so that sort of thing doesn't bother me at all. At any rate, they told me I wouldn't be allowed to bring a camera in however my doctor told me to go get my camera once we were there so there were confusing messages. All-in-all it was an awesome experience. They may seem rough with the kiddo, but when you consider the alternative of being squeezed through a birth canal that's smaller than they are...let's just say that anything short of dropping them on there head is probably a whole lot less hard on them. Good luck! Cheers, Drew.
Drew Stainton wrote:
Even offered to help!
:laugh:
Drew Stainton wrote:
They wouldn't let me watch the initial incision, I guess because some people don't handle that well. I'm the type that eats lunch while watching surgery on TV so that sort of thing doesn't bother me at all.
Blood and gore doesn't bother me at all. I don't relish it, but if its there, its there.
Drew Stainton wrote:
All-in-all it was an awesome experience.
Nice. I'm looking forward to it now that I've seen some videos on YouTube. Hearing you guys talking about it is like getting a pep talk so now I'm ready to barge in there and tackle that Obstet... I mean, be there to support my wife in her labor!
Drew Stainton wrote:
They may seem rough with the kiddo, but when you consider the alternative of being squeezed through a birth canal that's smaller than they are
Quite.
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Grow a pair and man-up. You are there to hold her hand and help her through a hard time, she is one who has carried for 9 months and now has to have a traumatic time. Mop her brow, hold her hand and tell her how much you love her. She needs it! Here endeth the lesson my friend.
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Dalek Dave wrote:
Grow a pair and man-up.
:confused: I'll do my duty, like any man and husband would, I just don't relish the fact being in a situation where I cannot be in control.
Dalek Dave wrote:
You are there to hold her hand and help her through a hard time, she is one who has carried for 9 months and now has to have a traumatic time. Mop her brow, hold her hand and tell her how much you love her.
Aye aye cap'n! :salute:
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Not had such experience till now. But I would say you should be there to hold her and be with her the whole time. Best of luck to you and Mrs. Mustafa, and congratulation in advance on baby. :rose:
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Don't do what Bobcat Goldthwaite (comedian, played 'Animal' in the Police Academy films) did - when they started the C-section he said "It gives me great pleasure to delcare this womb open.". :doh:
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:laugh: :laugh: Oh, I'm so going to do that now!
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Not had such experience till now. But I would say you should be there to hold her and be with her the whole time. Best of luck to you and Mrs. Mustafa, and congratulation in advance on baby. :rose:
HimanshuJoshi wrote:
But I would say you should be there to hold her and be with her the whole time.
Yeah, I'll be doing just that :)
HimanshuJoshi wrote:
Best of luck to you and Mrs. Mustafa, and congratulation in advance on baby.
Thanks dude!
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Being there the whole nine-yards ( no c-section ). My wife's doc asked me if I want to participate, I said sure and they let me cut the umbilical cord. Sure I was shaking but what a joy.
Yusuf May I help you?
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Ditto what Dalek Dave has to say. Your main purpose is to be there for your wife. I have been through three, and remember them all vividly...You do feel quite helpless. Seeing my wife in some discomfort without being able to do a thing about it is very difficult. But the experience of seeing your children come into this world is amazing!
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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You're bit late Ryan, we've already chosen Mathew about 2 weeks back :) If its any consolation, my cousin's third son is Ryan, he's about 2 now, and he is gorgeous :)
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Ditto what Dalek Dave has to say. Your main purpose is to be there for your wife. I have been through three, and remember them all vividly...You do feel quite helpless. Seeing my wife in some discomfort without being able to do a thing about it is very difficult. But the experience of seeing your children come into this world is amazing!
rickyjos wrote:
You do feel quite helpless.
I REALLY hate that. But I'll go through it for my wife.
rickyjos wrote:
But the experience of seeing your children come into this world is amazing!
I'm sure it is. The videos I've seen. Wow.
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Being there the whole nine-yards ( no c-section ). My wife's doc asked me if I want to participate, I said sure and they let me cut the umbilical cord. Sure I was shaking but what a joy.
Yusuf May I help you?
Nice! I'm going to step up to the plate. We'll see if I can control my shaking :) But I won't be touching the umbilical cord, because we're storing it for medical purposes. Its a great source of stem cells, along with the Placenta.
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Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:
but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
That's why the procedure is also known as a 'slash and grab'. :)
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
I've been trying to think up a proper riposte for the last 30 minutes, but I just can't!
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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I was fortunate enough to be there while both my children were born. It was bar-none the absolutely, fantabulously, awesome day in my life. I even make up words to describe it. Our children were born naturally, but the point is that you're there to see and hear YOUR child take its first breath. Be there if you can. Once you have experienced it, you will understand why I say that. Until you experience it, you won't.
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Well, reading up on it, I've found that its "alright" to do that to newborns because their neck bones and cartilage is still not developed/set whereas pulling the baby out by the arms or legs could easily dislocate them.
Christian Graus wrote:
I would be dead set against being there
Me and you both brother. I can't stand feeling helpless or like the proverbial fifth wheel; it drives me insane!
Christian Graus wrote:
I was there for both births
How did it feel? Seeing the videos moves me, I'm sure it'll be times that for my son.
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Well, to be honest, I'd say it was mostly surreal. I was left standing there, with no idea what to do or say while a bunch of guys kept looking at parts of my wife I thought I had dibs on. But, I'm glad I was there, it was worth it when they finally arrived.
Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.