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Grow a pair and man-up. You are there to hold her hand and help her through a hard time, she is one who has carried for 9 months and now has to have a traumatic time. Mop her brow, hold her hand and tell her how much you love her. She needs it! Here endeth the lesson my friend.
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Dalek Dave wrote:
Grow a pair and man-up.
:confused: I'll do my duty, like any man and husband would, I just don't relish the fact being in a situation where I cannot be in control.
Dalek Dave wrote:
You are there to hold her hand and help her through a hard time, she is one who has carried for 9 months and now has to have a traumatic time. Mop her brow, hold her hand and tell her how much you love her.
Aye aye cap'n! :salute:
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Not had such experience till now. But I would say you should be there to hold her and be with her the whole time. Best of luck to you and Mrs. Mustafa, and congratulation in advance on baby. :rose:
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Don't do what Bobcat Goldthwaite (comedian, played 'Animal' in the Police Academy films) did - when they started the C-section he said "It gives me great pleasure to delcare this womb open.". :doh:
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:laugh: :laugh: Oh, I'm so going to do that now!
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Being there the whole nine-yards ( no c-section ). My wife's doc asked me if I want to participate, I said sure and they let me cut the umbilical cord. Sure I was shaking but what a joy.
Yusuf May I help you?
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Not had such experience till now. But I would say you should be there to hold her and be with her the whole time. Best of luck to you and Mrs. Mustafa, and congratulation in advance on baby. :rose:
HimanshuJoshi wrote:
But I would say you should be there to hold her and be with her the whole time.
Yeah, I'll be doing just that :)
HimanshuJoshi wrote:
Best of luck to you and Mrs. Mustafa, and congratulation in advance on baby.
Thanks dude!
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Ditto what Dalek Dave has to say. Your main purpose is to be there for your wife. I have been through three, and remember them all vividly...You do feel quite helpless. Seeing my wife in some discomfort without being able to do a thing about it is very difficult. But the experience of seeing your children come into this world is amazing!
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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You're bit late Ryan, we've already chosen Mathew about 2 weeks back :) If its any consolation, my cousin's third son is Ryan, he's about 2 now, and he is gorgeous :)
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Ditto what Dalek Dave has to say. Your main purpose is to be there for your wife. I have been through three, and remember them all vividly...You do feel quite helpless. Seeing my wife in some discomfort without being able to do a thing about it is very difficult. But the experience of seeing your children come into this world is amazing!
rickyjos wrote:
You do feel quite helpless.
I REALLY hate that. But I'll go through it for my wife.
rickyjos wrote:
But the experience of seeing your children come into this world is amazing!
I'm sure it is. The videos I've seen. Wow.
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Being there the whole nine-yards ( no c-section ). My wife's doc asked me if I want to participate, I said sure and they let me cut the umbilical cord. Sure I was shaking but what a joy.
Yusuf May I help you?
Nice! I'm going to step up to the plate. We'll see if I can control my shaking :) But I won't be touching the umbilical cord, because we're storing it for medical purposes. Its a great source of stem cells, along with the Placenta.
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Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:
but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
That's why the procedure is also known as a 'slash and grab'. :)
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I've been trying to think up a proper riposte for the last 30 minutes, but I just can't!
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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I was fortunate enough to be there while both my children were born. It was bar-none the absolutely, fantabulously, awesome day in my life. I even make up words to describe it. Our children were born naturally, but the point is that you're there to see and hear YOUR child take its first breath. Be there if you can. Once you have experienced it, you will understand why I say that. Until you experience it, you won't.
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Well, reading up on it, I've found that its "alright" to do that to newborns because their neck bones and cartilage is still not developed/set whereas pulling the baby out by the arms or legs could easily dislocate them.
Christian Graus wrote:
I would be dead set against being there
Me and you both brother. I can't stand feeling helpless or like the proverbial fifth wheel; it drives me insane!
Christian Graus wrote:
I was there for both births
How did it feel? Seeing the videos moves me, I'm sure it'll be times that for my son.
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Well, to be honest, I'd say it was mostly surreal. I was left standing there, with no idea what to do or say while a bunch of guys kept looking at parts of my wife I thought I had dibs on. But, I'm glad I was there, it was worth it when they finally arrived.
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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I'm fairly certain your feeling of control in most situations is a figment of your imagination :)
Todd Smith
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Been there for both (C-Section, "natural"). Didn't really feel "helpless" as I was ready to club the ops staff to death if they fucked up, and I didn't have the forethought to clad my hand and arm in medieval armour(the hand and arm the wife was gripping at the time) Earmuffs would have been a good idea too.... (The C-Section was much easier on me, I recommend it)
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Nice! I'm going to step up to the plate. We'll see if I can control my shaking :) But I won't be touching the umbilical cord, because we're storing it for medical purposes. Its a great source of stem cells, along with the Placenta.
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Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:
I'm going to step up to the plate. We'll see if I can control my shaking
The first time I did it, I was shaking like mad. I could not control the scissor, the same way kids have hard time the first time they want to use scissors. During my second child's birth, I asked them and I was much stronger this time around ;)
Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:
But I won't be touching the umbilical cord, because we're storing it for medical purposes. Its a great source of stem cells, along with the Placenta.
you don't need to touch it. They will hold it for you. Good for you. It may come handy one day. Good Luck
Yusuf May I help you?
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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I would not consider a C-section as giving birth, it is a surgical procedure and dammed if I would have been there if my wife had needed one. Having been through 2 (30 odd years ago) I can absolutely understand the control problem. I would have punched out the doctor except he was a young intern, built like a bull and had muscles on his muscles. Said muscles were user to haul the baby out of the wife using those large bent forceps they wrap around the babys skull. Being thee is a very intense experience, I'm still not sure if it was a good or bad one. Oh one thing, women forget, I promise you she will forget the agony of going through labor over the next year or two.
Never underestimate the power of human stupidity RAH
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I don't think the babies are treated cruelly, they are just got out of there and given medical care instead of a cuddle. I was there for both births, but it was not a C-section. I would be dead set against being there while they cut my wife open. Having said that, I'm sure I'd feel like I had no choice....
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I couldn't agree more with what Christan said. I've been there for all 4 of my kids and would of changed that for anything, even when my second lad decided the first thing he'd do was poop down his dads arm. C-section ouch (dont even want to think about that one!) but I'd have to be there if I was stupid enough to have more
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:
Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth?
Not yet, but I will be someday in the first week of May 2011. I hope it is all quick and as least painful as possible. For both your wife (after the operation) and my girlfriend.
Eduardo León
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Has anyone been in the OR with their wife as she gives birth? My wife is having her C-Section soon and she's adamant that I go in with her. Being who I am, I can't stand not being in control of the situation. That would tense me up badly. But for her, I'll move heaven and earth and I'll go in. I'm just wondering if other fathers here have experienced it. YouTube videos are quite moving, but the way they treat some of those babies as they're pulling them out is a bit cruel IMO.
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Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:
I can't stand not being in control of the situation.
Heck, being a parent is a lifelong experience of learning how to be OK with not being in control! Marc