The Tiger Mother and the lounge... [modified] THIS IS NOT ME, JUST AN EXCERPT FROM AN ARTICLE
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Anyone read this? http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html[^] Pasting an excerpt here: //BOF EXCERPT //*****THIS A EXCERPT FROM THE ARTICLE, NOT MY OWN DEEDS***** A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it’s like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I’ve done it. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do: •attend a sleepover •have a playdate •be in a school play •complain about not being in a school play •watch TV or play computer games •choose their own extracurricular activities •get any grade less than an A •not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama •play any instrument other than the piano or violin •not play the piano or violin //EOF EXCERPT what do you think?
modified on Friday, January 28, 2011 11:23 AM
iris.frigole wrote:
not be the No. 1 student in every subject
So, these must all be schools where there's only one student per subject per grade, right? I mean, obviously if my kid is #1, then all the rest are not #1.
iris.frigole wrote:
what do you think?
I think the country with half the world's population is raising an emotionally, socially, and culturally deprived youth. Are these kids going to have any compassion for their fellow human being, or do they see the world as a playground for demonstrating their supposed wonderful intellectual skills? Is there no concept that by being #1, you put someone else into the #2 position? Is competition the real message we want to teach children? Marc
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iris.frigole wrote:
not be the No. 1 student in every subject
So, these must all be schools where there's only one student per subject per grade, right? I mean, obviously if my kid is #1, then all the rest are not #1.
iris.frigole wrote:
what do you think?
I think the country with half the world's population is raising an emotionally, socially, and culturally deprived youth. Are these kids going to have any compassion for their fellow human being, or do they see the world as a playground for demonstrating their supposed wonderful intellectual skills? Is there no concept that by being #1, you put someone else into the #2 position? Is competition the real message we want to teach children? Marc
totally agree with this #1 absurd... and how emotionally painful for the kid if #1 can be achieved... i think aiming at being good at something makes sense, aiming at being #1 simply doesn't
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Since last month when JSOP publicly apologized we all have noticed bizarre behavior from him. I'm really concerned. Do you think it is time we take his permit away? ;P
Yusuf May I help you?
Why are you concerned? I'm stating my opinion regardless of how other people feel about it. Nothing has changed.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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iris.frigole wrote:
not be the No. 1 student in every subject
So, these must all be schools where there's only one student per subject per grade, right? I mean, obviously if my kid is #1, then all the rest are not #1.
iris.frigole wrote:
what do you think?
I think the country with half the world's population is raising an emotionally, socially, and culturally deprived youth. Are these kids going to have any compassion for their fellow human being, or do they see the world as a playground for demonstrating their supposed wonderful intellectual skills? Is there no concept that by being #1, you put someone else into the #2 position? Is competition the real message we want to teach children? Marc
Marc Clifton wrote:
So, these must all be schools where there's only one student per subject per grade, right? I mean, obviously if my kid is #1, then all the rest are not #1.
I guess more like one Asian student, the rest all non-Asian. :)
Regards, Nish
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What's wrong with being driven to succeed? Why are we in the west so eager to accept mediocrity as an achievement? These are exactly the reasons the west is in decline. Everyone is expected to succeed or fail to the same level so that nobody stands out as being "better". Your typical Chinese familiy is only allowed to have one child, and getting accepted into a college there is extremely difficult, so if you don't want your kid to be harvesting rice for the rest of his life, you have to use extreme parenting to give them an equal chance at success. I don't have a problem with the strategies listed in the OP as long as the parents aren't psychopaths.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:
Everyone is expected to succeed or fail to the same level so that nobody stands out as being "better".
I agree with this, in part. My kids get graded 'exceeds expectations', 'meets expectations', and 'does not yet meet expectations'. Where is the grade for 'this kid is stupid' ? I've been told that my daughter is getting there with sports, and I told them to stop lying to me, for example. How does pretending we're all equal, not mean we settle for mediocrity.
John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:
I don't have a problem with the strategies listed in the OP as long as the parents aren't psychopaths.
I don't agree, I think parents need to allow for some fun time, sleepovers, having friends, etc. But, I would agree that thinking that they can just float along and life will come their way, is also not doing them a service.
Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.
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John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:
I thought it was pretty clear myself - he's posting about an article he read.
Yeah, same here. There was no confusion there at all, unless anyone thinks the OP owns the Wall Street Journal domain. :)
Regards, Nish
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That's because he edited the post and added the link, before he just posted some text.
Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.
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That's because he edited the post and added the link, before he just posted some text.
Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.
Christian Graus wrote:
That's because he edited the post and added the link, before he just posted some text.
I think the original post had the link too.
Regards, Nish
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Christian Graus wrote:
if he's stupid, we still love him and want him to be happy
You're speaking for my parents here. :rolleyes:
"Real men drive manual transmission" - Rajesh.
Rajesh R Subramanian wrote:
my parents
So your parents still love you even though you're stupid? That's so compassionate and nice of them!! ;P ;P :laugh:
"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader." - John Quincy Adams
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Haha, believe me, the Huffington Post is not any more credible. The wjs is a joke though. The have a history of BS, selective story editing, plagiarizing, etc. My company put out a press release yesterday and they started calling looking for a quote from an employee. I could have gotten on the phone and told them anything, I doubt they would even fact check who I was.
scary
"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader." - John Quincy Adams
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Christian Graus wrote:
That's because he edited the post and added the link, before he just posted some text.
I think the original post had the link too.
Regards, Nish
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Christian Graus wrote:
That's because he edited the post and added the link, before he just posted some text.
I think the original post had the link too.
Regards, Nish
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Nope, I responded right away and saw no link.
Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.
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Next time I think you should make your post more "clear" as to what you are saying and what the article excerpt is saying. I don't think I was the only one here that misunderstood your post. I am glad to hear that you don't feel this way. :)
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Nope, I responded right away and saw no link.
Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.
Christian Graus wrote:
Nope, I responded right away and saw no link.
I believe I clicked on the link when she posted it. Problem was she linked a single word, like: Anyone read this? So by the time I came back to post my reply a few folks had already assumed those were her daughters :-)
Regards, Nish
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Why are you concerned? I'm stating my opinion regardless of how other people feel about it. Nothing has changed.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:
Why are you concerned?
Chill out man. Not my business, may be you missed the joke icon and sarcasm.
Yusuf May I help you?
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Anyone read this? http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html[^] Pasting an excerpt here: //BOF EXCERPT //*****THIS A EXCERPT FROM THE ARTICLE, NOT MY OWN DEEDS***** A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it’s like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I’ve done it. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do: •attend a sleepover •have a playdate •be in a school play •complain about not being in a school play •watch TV or play computer games •choose their own extracurricular activities •get any grade less than an A •not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama •play any instrument other than the piano or violin •not play the piano or violin //EOF EXCERPT what do you think?
modified on Friday, January 28, 2011 11:23 AM
Saw her on Colbert reoprt. She said (fairly convincingly) that she wasn't serious - i.e. it's supposed to be funny, it's all the things she learnt from raising a kid, yadda yadda.
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Rajesh R Subramanian wrote:
my parents
So your parents still love you even though you're stupid? That's so compassionate and nice of them!! ;P ;P :laugh:
"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader." - John Quincy Adams
All parents are compassionate. You see, someone has raised even you! :laugh:
"Real men drive manual transmission" - Rajesh.
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Vikram A Punathambekar wrote:
Iris sounds like a she to me
Yeah, I just didn't give it that much thought.
Vikram A Punathambekar wrote:
The OP did edit their post, so I have no idea what it originally looked like.
The original version had everything I mentioned. The link to the article, the query about anyone having read it, and that she's posting an excerpt.
Vikram A Punathambekar wrote:
DD and blatant leering sexism, for instance
I am sure he is just playing to the crowd here though. Whatever gets him a few 5s and some laughter!
Regards, Nish
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Nishant Sivakumar wrote:
I am sure he is just playing to the crowd here though. Whatever gets him a few 5s and some laughter!
Yeah, that and the fact that the Lounge is now the de facto Dalek Bloody Dave freak show / personal blog. He does have his moments, but Histrionic personality disorder, anyone?
Cheers, विक्रम (Have gone past my troika - 4 CCCs!) "We have already been through this, I am not going to repeat myself." - fat_boy, in a global warming thread :doh: