Racism at work place
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One of our staff misunderstood my behaviour at work place and we had a big argument . During that she started talking about my race and skin color and all. I directly went to HR and made a complain , they are investigating it now. We are supposed to go for discussion this Friday. How should I handle this? I am disturbed , don't want to face that lady during the office hours, but have no option, whenever I see her ,I am feeling really uncomfortable. Any advice guys?
I sympathise with your plight. Hopefully by the time you meet on Friday, some of the proverbial dust would have settled. I'm sure it'll be uncomfortable until then so keep your integrity on firm foundations. Be civil to her which won't be a natural response but don't give her any opportunity to collate anything against you. My wife is a white South African who works for the NHS. They had a ward meeting some time back and they were discussing how to respond to Asian patients who are abusive to the nurses. The manager said to my wife "there's no point asking her, she's South African and she's a racist." My wife sat there and toyed with the idea of reporting her for her abuse but she didn't. I sometimes think there are more racists here in the UK than I ever knew in SA. :) Best of luck to you.
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Norm .net wrote:
Take her out on a dinner date and see how things plan out
You bet there is going to be a fight on what to order!
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What did you do, and how did she "misunderstand" it. As far as being "disturbed" about it, I think you just need to go to the store and buy some big girl panties.
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"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997No need to justifiy racism because he did or did not do something.
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No need to justifiy racism because he did or did not do something.
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"Misunderstanding" is how a lot of harassment claims start. Besides, when you only get part of one side of the story, you gotta wonder what's being left out.
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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You never argued with anyone over the work?
Every man can tell how many goats or sheep he possesses, but not how many friends.
No I argue a lot, but it is always work related argument - why the application behaves a certain way or why a particular button is placed where it is on the screen and so on. Also when you are busy with work, it is rare that you will find time for arguments which are not work related. Also the solution for not getting disturbed is to find a distraction. What is a better distraction than work at a workplace.
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You take Chinese foreign aid, and £20 Billion later you feel like some more.
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Make sure she pays!
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No I argue a lot, but it is always work related argument - why the application behaves a certain way or why a particular button is placed where it is on the screen and so on. Also when you are busy with work, it is rare that you will find time for arguments which are not work related. Also the solution for not getting disturbed is to find a distraction. What is a better distraction than work at a workplace.
So how is concentrating on work going to avoid getting into an argument then? And why would an argument about work be less likely to involve one party descending into some sort of abuse or bullying?
Every man can tell how many goats or sheep he possesses, but not how many friends.
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One of our staff misunderstood my behaviour at work place and we had a big argument . During that she started talking about my race and skin color and all. I directly went to HR and made a complain , they are investigating it now. We are supposed to go for discussion this Friday. How should I handle this? I am disturbed , don't want to face that lady during the office hours, but have no option, whenever I see her ,I am feeling really uncomfortable. Any advice guys?
tssutha03 wrote:
During that she started talking about my race and skin color and all.
Ok, and? Do you have control over your race or skin color? Quit getting so hung up on words, man. As long as folks continue to play the race card, we will continue to have racial problems.
tssutha03 wrote:
I directly went to HR and made a complain...
Not the best career move.
tssutha03 wrote:
Any advice guys?
Apologize and move on. Whether or not this other person accepts your apology is not your problem. You've made peace, and that's all you can do.
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One of our staff misunderstood my behaviour at work place and we had a big argument . During that she started talking about my race and skin color and all. I directly went to HR and made a complain , they are investigating it now. We are supposed to go for discussion this Friday. How should I handle this? I am disturbed , don't want to face that lady during the office hours, but have no option, whenever I see her ,I am feeling really uncomfortable. Any advice guys?
Funny thing - my wife's place is going through this same thing right now. A black man was called a n****** by a white man at one of their places. The black man then hauled off and slapped the white man. The result - both are now being fired through the company's no tolerance policy for either thing.
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What did you do, and how did she "misunderstand" it. As far as being "disturbed" about it, I think you just need to go to the store and buy some big girl panties.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997Bringing up someone race, disability, gender, or sexuality is not a good idea during an argument at work, just as it is not smart during an interview, or during the committal of a crime. You don't have to agree to the law to be bound by it. Anyway, unless a pattern is established (happened more than once) or she is a superior, nothing will happen, probably sensitivity training.
"I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson
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So how is concentrating on work going to avoid getting into an argument then? And why would an argument about work be less likely to involve one party descending into some sort of abuse or bullying?
Every man can tell how many goats or sheep he possesses, but not how many friends.
ChrisElston wrote:
And why would an argument about work be less likely to involve one party descending into some sort of abuse or bullying?
If it does you are clearly working at in a wrong company with wrong people. I will seek a new job in that case. Professionals should not act that way.
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He left the French out because he still doesn't know what they look like... he's only ever seen their backside.
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ChrisElston wrote:
And why would an argument about work be less likely to involve one party descending into some sort of abuse or bullying?
If it does you are clearly working at in a wrong company with wrong people. I will seek a new job in that case. Professionals should not act that way.
