town home property encroachment
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Too late to undo the shouting and cursing, but as long as you weren't threatening he doesn't have anything he can come after you with. Let's face it you are not going to be invited to his trampoline party or get a christmas card. Doesn't sound like someone who you would probably like to socialize with so there is no loss there. The HOA route is the only way to go. They will probably come over to take a look and tell him to remove it because there has been a complaint.
Once you lose your pride the rest is easy. In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. – Buddha
JimmyRopes wrote:
The HOA route is the only way to go. They will probably come over to take a look and tell him to remove it because there has been a complaint.
I hope. They don't seem to be terribly efficient in getting back to me, but we shall see.
Jeremy Falcon
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
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Sander Rossel wrote:
But now you've gone and made an ass of yourself, shouting and cursing at him. And now you're both wrong
I know you're right man. I can't go back in time, but I'm gonna try to handle it the right way now at least.
Jeremy Falcon
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
I can't go back in time
Grab a few beers, knock on your neighbors door again tell him you have some anger issues and that you're sorry and if he'd like to join you for a drink! That'll show him (no really, it's what he least expects)! After a few he might just move his trampoline too :D
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Regards, Sander
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
I can't go back in time
Grab a few beers, knock on your neighbors door again tell him you have some anger issues and that you're sorry and if he'd like to join you for a drink! That'll show him (no really, it's what he least expects)! After a few he might just move his trampoline too :D
Visit my blog at Sander's bits - Writing the code you need. Or read my articles at my CodeProject profile.
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Regards, Sander
Didn't say I was a coward either. I don't intend to make friends with people like that. I just made a mistake. I don't need to be his friend.
Jeremy Falcon
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Didn't say I was a coward either. I don't intend to make friends with people like that. I just made a mistake. I don't need to be his friend.
Jeremy Falcon
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Didn't say I was a coward either.
Admitting you were wrong is only for the bravest of the brave :D
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
I don't intend to make friends with people like that.
You don't have to. You're just going to have a friendly talk with him, and a few beers, about his trampoline. You'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar and all that.
Visit my blog at Sander's bits - Writing the code you need. Or read my articles at my CodeProject profile.
Simplicity is prerequisite for reliability. — Edsger W. Dijkstra
Regards, Sander
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
As a father, I wouldn't yell at another father with kids around, unless it was warranted and wouldn't want it done to me. I think you definitely made the correct choice to speak to him man to man, but any hostility on you part may not have been acceptable. Also, if you came knocking on my door and yelled at me, I would close the door in your face. If you pushed the issue I would be arrested for assault and battery, especially if my kids were around. Just saying.
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
IMHO, venting at the offender affords immediate gratification as it offers an outlet for one's anger or annoyance. But it usually makes things worse, not better. You may have gotten a better result by talking to the other neighbor and both of you quietly knocking on the offender's door and requesting him to move or take down the trampoline. The offender may still be a twit in your opinion, but at least a twit who responded to your request to remove the monstrosity from the common area shared with other neighbors. :) /ravi
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P0mpey3 wrote:
But the fact it's a Trampoline suggests he probably has very small kids, like me. If you had come round my house banging on my door and shouting at me I would probably hit you (as long as your not big and muscly or anything).
You are correct with the assumption of him having kids. Although I didn't see any behind the door when I was around. I'm sure my voice may have carried, but I wouldn't deliberately do that in front of kids. That being said, I still don't think I was in the wrong, having kids or not. I didn't yell in front of the kids or to his wife. It was man to man. He's an adult and he should act like one.
Jeremy Falcon
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
He's an adult and he should act like one.
Ahem... :) /ravi
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We're going to need more details: - Were voices raised? - Was swearing involved? - Any direct insults to his wife or children? - Any threats of bodily harm? - Were any weapons drawn? - Did the word "lawyer" get muttered?
Contrary to popular belief, nobody owes you anything.
Mike, are your services available for hire? :-D /ravi
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Mike, are your services available for hire? :-D /ravi
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Didn't say I was a coward either.
Admitting you were wrong is only for the bravest of the brave :D
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
I don't intend to make friends with people like that.
You don't have to. You're just going to have a friendly talk with him, and a few beers, about his trampoline. You'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar and all that.
Visit my blog at Sander's bits - Writing the code you need. Or read my articles at my CodeProject profile.
Simplicity is prerequisite for reliability. — Edsger W. Dijkstra
Regards, Sander
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As a father, I wouldn't yell at another father with kids around, unless it was warranted and wouldn't want it done to me. I think you definitely made the correct choice to speak to him man to man, but any hostility on you part may not have been acceptable. Also, if you came knocking on my door and yelled at me, I would close the door in your face. If you pushed the issue I would be arrested for assault and battery, especially if my kids were around. Just saying.
His kids weren't around. I'm not that cold man.
Jeremy Falcon
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IMHO, venting at the offender affords immediate gratification as it offers an outlet for one's anger or annoyance. But it usually makes things worse, not better. You may have gotten a better result by talking to the other neighbor and both of you quietly knocking on the offender's door and requesting him to move or take down the trampoline. The offender may still be a twit in your opinion, but at least a twit who responded to your request to remove the monstrosity from the common area shared with other neighbors. :) /ravi
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I know you're right man. +5
Jeremy Falcon
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Sander Rossel wrote:
Admitting you were wrong is only for the bravest of the brave
I was wrong for the name calling, but I wasn't wrong about not being happy. He was wrong with that.
Jeremy Falcon
Well, you know, be the better man and all that. Perhaps I just have no spine, pride and honor. Which is really convenient when dealing with people though :laugh:
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Simplicity is prerequisite for reliability. — Edsger W. Dijkstra
Regards, Sander
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
He's an adult and he should act like one.
Ahem... :) /ravi
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:-D Touché!
Jeremy Falcon
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For my own future reference, does CP also have a mushroom emoticon to go with the badger?
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JimmyRopes wrote:
The HOA route is the only way to go. They will probably come over to take a look and tell him to remove it because there has been a complaint.
I hope. They don't seem to be terribly efficient in getting back to me, but we shall see.
Jeremy Falcon
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
They don't seem to be terribly efficient in getting back to me, but we shall see.
Be sure to remind them of the liability issue that they will be a party to if someone should seek compensation in a court of law for injuries sustained using the trampoline. That should motivate them. :-D
Once you lose your pride the rest is easy. In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. – Buddha
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Just tell him that if it accidentally catches fire because it is encroaching on your smoke pit, you won't be held responsible. Also it may be blocking your Archery Range, but not to worry I am sure the arrows will pass harmlessly between anyone bouncing on the trampoline if you get the timing just right. If he can use all the area for a pastime then so can everyone else. BTW: I never yell when I am angry at someone. In fact I do my best to not show my anger at all, I just make my point(s) in a quiet, calm manner. Some people have told me I am scary when I do this - maybe because I am British and all Americans think we are all secretly evil masterminds per Hollywood stereotypes! Obviously, if you are an American this wouldn't work for you so the yelling (not in front of spouse and offspring) is probably the acceptable norm. PS. Casually carrying a gardening implement, such as a hoe, machete or axe can also help make sure they pay attention. Wear gardening gloves to enhance the impression that you were just recently working in the garden and not actually being threatening.
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Forogar wrote:
In fact I do my best to not show my anger at all, I just make my point(s) in a quiet, calm manner. Some people have told me I am scary when I do this
Do you also twitch in one of your eyes and refer to 'Mother' when you do this? :-D ... as in [in a nerdy emotionless voice] "Mother always taught me" [eye twitch] " to be polite when people are bad to me" [eye twitch]...
“That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.”
― Christopher Hitchens
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His kids weren't around. I'm not that cold man.
Jeremy Falcon
I hear you. It also sounds that you were in a tough spot. Hope it all works out for you.
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
It sounds to me like the trampoline itself causes you no inconvenience - but it's a principal thing. Instead of trying to solve it in a mature, sensible manner, you've taken the 'he's a git, so I'll be a git' approach. So all you've really achieved is to lower yourself beneath his level (he did something he thought, perhaps, would be good - sure it was perhaps thoughtless, but who knows what his thoughts were - you didn't take the time to as - whereas you just ranted and raved like a dick. It genuinely astonishes me how people can act so aggressively over something like this that is such a 1st world problem!
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