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Hope somebody can offer me some good advice. I met this guy almost two years ago in an ICQ chat room. Well we started emailing each other a lot and sending pics and chatting a lot. This month he finally flew over to meet and he stayed in a hotel in town. We had a lot of fun together it was great, but towards the end of the first week I found he really did not know anything about computers :(( and was just really a user. I think I would hate to stay in a relationship where I was totally the technology savvy partner. Is it right for me to dump him, just because he does not understand OSes and can not program? Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? I hope I have not bothered anyone by posting this here, but I thought I would turn to my friends first. :rose: Janice :rose:
Janice wrote: Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? There's nothing wrong with wanting a partner who shares your abilities and interests. And there is good reason to avoid a man who poses as someone he is not. The dishonesty won't stop when the courtship is over... Janice wrote: I hope I have not bothered anyone by posting this here, but I thought I would turn to my friends first. I'm glad you thought to ask us. No one here has anything to gain by encouraging you or attempting to dissuade you from this relationship. We just want all of our friends here to find happiness and a life of contentment. It is always right, IMHO, to dump a doomed relationship, no matter what grandiose gestures were made to initiate it. There is no unhappiness in Dante's wildest imaginings so great as being with a partner who is wrong for you. It is far better to suffer the pangs of loneliness, than to be trapped in a relationship with a 'wrong' person!
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Hope somebody can offer me some good advice. I met this guy almost two years ago in an ICQ chat room. Well we started emailing each other a lot and sending pics and chatting a lot. This month he finally flew over to meet and he stayed in a hotel in town. We had a lot of fun together it was great, but towards the end of the first week I found he really did not know anything about computers :(( and was just really a user. I think I would hate to stay in a relationship where I was totally the technology savvy partner. Is it right for me to dump him, just because he does not understand OSes and can not program? Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? I hope I have not bothered anyone by posting this here, but I thought I would turn to my friends first. :rose: Janice :rose:
give him a "teach yourself c++ in 21 days" book wait 21 days give him a test program to write if he gets it right cool else face the thought of life with yinyin (the monkey) and tell im to hit the road :laugh:
"... and so i said to him ... if it don't dance and you can't eat it either f**k it or throw it away"
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Are all programmers male ?? :confused: :confused: :confused: Maxwell Chen Lets make bugs better!
*lauren checks herself in the mirror* ummm apparently not ;P
"... and so i said to him ... if it don't dance and you can't eat it either f**k it or throw it away"
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Hope somebody can offer me some good advice. I met this guy almost two years ago in an ICQ chat room. Well we started emailing each other a lot and sending pics and chatting a lot. This month he finally flew over to meet and he stayed in a hotel in town. We had a lot of fun together it was great, but towards the end of the first week I found he really did not know anything about computers :(( and was just really a user. I think I would hate to stay in a relationship where I was totally the technology savvy partner. Is it right for me to dump him, just because he does not understand OSes and can not program? Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? I hope I have not bothered anyone by posting this here, but I thought I would turn to my friends first. :rose: Janice :rose:
I say forget about him... Personally I need a women who is up to date with current affairs... Theres plenty of tech savvy guys on here.... *** cough *** like me... :) Just my input... Cheers! :) "An expert is someone who has made all the mistakes in his or her field" - Niels Bohr
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Christian Graus wrote: 'Janice', it seems that the CPians have had a discussion and decided you're really a guy. Christian Graus wrote: Just take another photo ( in different undies if you could ), and this time have a book in one hand, ( any book on C++ or the STL will be fine ), and a sign that says 'I am woman, see me browse' in the other. Mmmm, the other CPans must have also noticed that my pic is a photo of a painting. I can hardly be expected to find an artist this early in the morning. :rose: Janice :rose:
Janice wrote: Mmmm, the other CPans must have also noticed that my pic is a photo of a painting. Doesn't look that way to me. Janice wrote: I can hardly be expected to find an artist this early in the morning. Assuming it's a photo of a painting of you, I didn't ask for another photo, did I ? Christian The tragedy of cyberspace - that so much can travel so far, and yet mean so little. And you don't spend much time with the opposite sex working day and night, unless the pizza delivery person happens to be young, cute, single and female. I can assure you, I've consumed more than a programmer's allotment of pizza, and these conditions have never aligned. - Christopher Duncan - 18/04/2002
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Christian Graus wrote: 'Janice', it seems that the CPians have had a discussion and decided you're really a guy. Christian Graus wrote: Just take another photo ( in different undies if you could ), and this time have a book in one hand, ( any book on C++ or the STL will be fine ), and a sign that says 'I am woman, see me browse' in the other. Mmmm, the other CPans must have also noticed that my pic is a photo of a painting. I can hardly be expected to find an artist this early in the morning. :rose: Janice :rose:
Janice wrote: Mmmm, the other CPans must have also noticed that my pic is a photo of a painting. Doesn't look that way to me. Janice wrote: I can hardly be expected to find an artist this early in the morning. Assuming it's a photo of a painting of you, I didn't ask for another painting, did I ? Christian The tragedy of cyberspace - that so much can travel so far, and yet mean so little. And you don't spend much time with the opposite sex working day and night, unless the pizza delivery person happens to be young, cute, single and female. I can assure you, I've consumed more than a programmer's allotment of pizza, and these conditions have never aligned. - Christopher Duncan - 18/04/2002
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*lauren checks herself in the mirror* ummm apparently not ;P
"... and so i said to him ... if it don't dance and you can't eat it either f**k it or throw it away"
sonork: 100.18128 8028finder.comlauren wrote: ummm apparently not But most programmers are male I guess. Like traffic cops. No women :-( Nish
Regards, Nish Native CPian. Born and brought up on CP. With the CP blood in him.
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*lauren checks herself in the mirror* ummm apparently not ;P
"... and so i said to him ... if it don't dance and you can't eat it either f**k it or throw it away"
sonork: 100.18128 8028finder.comIs the mirror the one in the story "Snow White" ? :-O :-O :-O Maxwell Chen Lets make bugs better!
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Hope somebody can offer me some good advice. I met this guy almost two years ago in an ICQ chat room. Well we started emailing each other a lot and sending pics and chatting a lot. This month he finally flew over to meet and he stayed in a hotel in town. We had a lot of fun together it was great, but towards the end of the first week I found he really did not know anything about computers :(( and was just really a user. I think I would hate to stay in a relationship where I was totally the technology savvy partner. Is it right for me to dump him, just because he does not understand OSes and can not program? Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? I hope I have not bothered anyone by posting this here, but I thought I would turn to my friends first. :rose: Janice :rose:
Is it right for me to dump him, just because he does not understand OSes and can not program? As an admin you should be accustomed to LART'ing. If it turns out he's incapable or unwilling to learn... Well, wouldn't you say it's grounds for account termination? But I'd also say that if you've kept in touch with this person for two years and didn't find out he's a computer illiterate until you met him IRL, maybe his computer skills matches your person skills? :-> Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? I don't think so, it's just common sense to look for someone that knows at least the most basic of procedures during an earthquake in the SF bay area. Rather, stay away from someone that don't know what to do.
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I'm a software developer and as so I have to work with users too often. I find they really give me headaches. Most of the people I work with are male and I prefer the smart ones by far. I really enjoy stimulating conversation and discovering, having to teach a guy anything doesn't interest me. If we get in to a long term relationship and I have continually have to explain things to him I'll be driven crazy. :rose: Janice :rose:
Janice wrote: I'm a software developer and as so I have to work with users too often. Everyone is something and is good at what he/she is doing and may think as the people he/she interacts to as users. For instance when you go to an info desk at a bank and you inquire some information doesn't the desk officer there find you a loser because you don't know abount accounts, money and interest and all the information you are inquiering for? Doesn't that person get pissed off when everybody is asking the same questions again and again? Should that person wait for someone to ask the smart question? Janice wrote: I really enjoy stimulating conversation and discovering, having to teach a guy anything doesn't interest me. Were you talking about computers only? That's not good news. I am sure there are things he could teach you all the time. ;) ;) Now the real piece of advice: If your heart feels smth for him don't let it go away so far. If not, fell free to dump him. Best regards, Alexandru Savescu
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Hope somebody can offer me some good advice. I met this guy almost two years ago in an ICQ chat room. Well we started emailing each other a lot and sending pics and chatting a lot. This month he finally flew over to meet and he stayed in a hotel in town. We had a lot of fun together it was great, but towards the end of the first week I found he really did not know anything about computers :(( and was just really a user. I think I would hate to stay in a relationship where I was totally the technology savvy partner. Is it right for me to dump him, just because he does not understand OSes and can not program? Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? I hope I have not bothered anyone by posting this here, but I thought I would turn to my friends first. :rose: Janice :rose:
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Hope somebody can offer me some good advice. I met this guy almost two years ago in an ICQ chat room. Well we started emailing each other a lot and sending pics and chatting a lot. This month he finally flew over to meet and he stayed in a hotel in town. We had a lot of fun together it was great, but towards the end of the first week I found he really did not know anything about computers :(( and was just really a user. I think I would hate to stay in a relationship where I was totally the technology savvy partner. Is it right for me to dump him, just because he does not understand OSes and can not program? Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? I hope I have not bothered anyone by posting this here, but I thought I would turn to my friends first. :rose: Janice :rose:
Warning - this message contains abusive and downright ugly words. If you have a weak constitution, I suggest you go to the next message for your entertainment. You have been warned. Scroll to see the rest... 1) Anybody that wants to meet someone with the intent of starting a romantic relationship based solely on ICQ chat exchanges is a fuckin' loser (actually BOTH people are fuckin' losers). 2) If you post an obviously false photo of yourself, people here are gonna think you're a guy posing as a chick. In fact, you said that you exchanged photos with each other. How about showing us one of the pics you supposedly sent to bait the other loser into buying an airline ticket just to meet you. 3) If you are a chick, and you don't want to "teach a guy anything", you're not really a chick (every women *I've* ever met thinks they have something to teach a man), so you're just a true flaming bitch who cares nothing about anyone or anything but herself, and I hope you die alone with only your cats to watch your final minutes on this earthly plane. 4) Who truly gives a rat's ass about your lovelife unless it directly affects one of us? 5) You've been registered here since February of this year, and I can't honestly remember seeing a post from you before today. "Friends"? I think that's stretching it a bit until you've posted a few hundred messages and gotten your hands dirty with some truly meaningful topics (both here and in the Soapbox forum), and not the insufferable bilge water posts like this one. 6) Wasting my time on these kinds of posts really pisses me off. If you're really a chick and your feelings are hurt, tough shit - I ain't no politician, and you brought it on yourself. If you're a guy posing as a chick, you're in serious need of prison life (you'll find lots of friends in there that want to make you their bitch), because you're just a latent faggot exploring your new sense of self in the wrong goddamn place. "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
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Hope somebody can offer me some good advice. I met this guy almost two years ago in an ICQ chat room. Well we started emailing each other a lot and sending pics and chatting a lot. This month he finally flew over to meet and he stayed in a hotel in town. We had a lot of fun together it was great, but towards the end of the first week I found he really did not know anything about computers :(( and was just really a user. I think I would hate to stay in a relationship where I was totally the technology savvy partner. Is it right for me to dump him, just because he does not understand OSes and can not program? Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? I hope I have not bothered anyone by posting this here, but I thought I would turn to my friends first. :rose: Janice :rose:
Janice wrote: Am I being selfish wanting somone who can boot from a floppy? No. But try not to overlook his good points just because he's non-geeky. That being said, imho compatibility is almost always based on communication (verbal, emotional and physical), and if you find you can't communicate with him because he's not interested in most of the things that interest you, it's probably not worth taking the relationship further. Janice wrote: Is it right for me to dump him, Why not stay friends? Never underestimate the power of friendship! Whatver you choose to do, be completely honest with him, regardless of why you find him less appealing now than before. Of course, being honest doesn't preclude being diplomatic and cognizant of not hurting his feelings, but be honest all the same. Good luck! /ravi "There is always one more bug..." http://www.ravib.com ravib@ravib.com
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Warning - this message contains abusive and downright ugly words. If you have a weak constitution, I suggest you go to the next message for your entertainment. You have been warned. Scroll to see the rest... 1) Anybody that wants to meet someone with the intent of starting a romantic relationship based solely on ICQ chat exchanges is a fuckin' loser (actually BOTH people are fuckin' losers). 2) If you post an obviously false photo of yourself, people here are gonna think you're a guy posing as a chick. In fact, you said that you exchanged photos with each other. How about showing us one of the pics you supposedly sent to bait the other loser into buying an airline ticket just to meet you. 3) If you are a chick, and you don't want to "teach a guy anything", you're not really a chick (every women *I've* ever met thinks they have something to teach a man), so you're just a true flaming bitch who cares nothing about anyone or anything but herself, and I hope you die alone with only your cats to watch your final minutes on this earthly plane. 4) Who truly gives a rat's ass about your lovelife unless it directly affects one of us? 5) You've been registered here since February of this year, and I can't honestly remember seeing a post from you before today. "Friends"? I think that's stretching it a bit until you've posted a few hundred messages and gotten your hands dirty with some truly meaningful topics (both here and in the Soapbox forum), and not the insufferable bilge water posts like this one. 6) Wasting my time on these kinds of posts really pisses me off. If you're really a chick and your feelings are hurt, tough shit - I ain't no politician, and you brought it on yourself. If you're a guy posing as a chick, you're in serious need of prison life (you'll find lots of friends in there that want to make you their bitch), because you're just a latent faggot exploring your new sense of self in the wrong goddamn place. "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
John, tell us what you really feel. Don't hold back like this; it is distressing to see such a namby-pamby post from you. You didn't even mention that her bio says Norway but her phrasing and use of slang says American.
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Well, I have never seen so many posts to a single topic on CP before. Best regards, Alexandru Savescu
You obviously haven't been here very long - nope - april 5th - I thought so. There are PLENTY of threads with more responses than this one. "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
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You obviously haven't been here very long - nope - april 5th - I thought so. There are PLENTY of threads with more responses than this one. "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote: You obviously haven't been here very long - nope - april 5th - I thought so. April 5th is my birthday... I joined CP in august, but I admit I only recently start posting on the Message Boards. Best regards, Alexandru Savescu
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give him a "teach yourself c++ in 21 days" book wait 21 days give him a test program to write if he gets it right cool else face the thought of life with yinyin (the monkey) and tell im to hit the road :laugh:
"... and so i said to him ... if it don't dance and you can't eat it either f**k it or throw it away"
sonork: 100.18128 8028finder.com:laugh: Good solution!
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Warning - this message contains abusive and downright ugly words. If you have a weak constitution, I suggest you go to the next message for your entertainment. You have been warned. Scroll to see the rest... 1) Anybody that wants to meet someone with the intent of starting a romantic relationship based solely on ICQ chat exchanges is a fuckin' loser (actually BOTH people are fuckin' losers). 2) If you post an obviously false photo of yourself, people here are gonna think you're a guy posing as a chick. In fact, you said that you exchanged photos with each other. How about showing us one of the pics you supposedly sent to bait the other loser into buying an airline ticket just to meet you. 3) If you are a chick, and you don't want to "teach a guy anything", you're not really a chick (every women *I've* ever met thinks they have something to teach a man), so you're just a true flaming bitch who cares nothing about anyone or anything but herself, and I hope you die alone with only your cats to watch your final minutes on this earthly plane. 4) Who truly gives a rat's ass about your lovelife unless it directly affects one of us? 5) You've been registered here since February of this year, and I can't honestly remember seeing a post from you before today. "Friends"? I think that's stretching it a bit until you've posted a few hundred messages and gotten your hands dirty with some truly meaningful topics (both here and in the Soapbox forum), and not the insufferable bilge water posts like this one. 6) Wasting my time on these kinds of posts really pisses me off. If you're really a chick and your feelings are hurt, tough shit - I ain't no politician, and you brought it on yourself. If you're a guy posing as a chick, you're in serious need of prison life (you'll find lots of friends in there that want to make you their bitch), because you're just a latent faggot exploring your new sense of self in the wrong goddamn place. "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.
i always had a soft spot for you now i know why :laugh:
"... and so i said to him ... if it don't dance and you can't eat it either f**k it or throw it away"
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Janice wrote: I find it so hard to meet guys. It's so hard to meet girls here... I mean where I work and where I live. :(( :(( :(( :(( :(( Maxwell Chen Lets make bugs better!
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give him a "teach yourself c++ in 21 days" book wait 21 days give him a test program to write if he gets it right cool else face the thought of life with yinyin (the monkey) and tell im to hit the road :laugh:
"... and so i said to him ... if it don't dance and you can't eat it either f**k it or throw it away"
sonork: 100.18128 8028finder.com
