Losing your temper
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Sensibilities be damned! Tell 'em all to go to hell!
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I detest "professionalism", which is no more than a methodology for lying, deceiving, and misleading people. If you're pissed off about something, I want to know about it, so that I can make appropriate adjustments. I don't want you to *ACT* "professional", keep it to yourself, moan, bitch, and whine about it to other people, or -- and this is always an inevitable result -- stab people in the back by denigrating their work or behaviour at the coffee machine or in the boss' office. If you feel angry, let people know you're angry. Otherwise they won't know, and they'll think you're cool with what they're doing. Summary: I want to work with People, not facades. Don't waste my time by not telling me what you really think.
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I detest "professionalism", which is no more than a methodology for lying, deceiving, and misleading people. If you're pissed off about something, I want to know about it, so that I can make appropriate adjustments. I don't want you to *ACT* "professional", keep it to yourself, moan, bitch, and whine about it to other people, or -- and this is always an inevitable result -- stab people in the back by denigrating their work or behaviour at the coffee machine or in the boss' office. If you feel angry, let people know you're angry. Otherwise they won't know, and they'll think you're cool with what they're doing. Summary: I want to work with People, not facades. Don't waste my time by not telling me what you really think.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
I don't know who you're dealing with, but if someone is pulling passive-aggressive nonsense like that and claiming that it's professionalism, it most definitely is not. I see one part of professionalism as being able to say why you don't agree with something while not losing your temper, and not turning it into a pile of back-handed politics. Let people know you're angry, just try not to lose your temper - different people lose it in different ways, and some don't just stop at shouting something that is going to come back and bite them later. It still comes down to the individual to decide when they need to hold their ground and when they might need to compromise (or when they might even *shock* be wrong). Too many people try to twist the term 'professional' to their own advantage - making out that if you're not being a passive-aggressive douche like them, then you're not professional. Do not let them get away with it - professional should mean that you get the job done in the most effective way possible, avoiding as many pitfalls as possible (and pitfalls include unnecessary arguments/office-politicking).
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I don't know who you're dealing with, but if someone is pulling passive-aggressive nonsense like that and claiming that it's professionalism, it most definitely is not. I see one part of professionalism as being able to say why you don't agree with something while not losing your temper, and not turning it into a pile of back-handed politics. Let people know you're angry, just try not to lose your temper - different people lose it in different ways, and some don't just stop at shouting something that is going to come back and bite them later. It still comes down to the individual to decide when they need to hold their ground and when they might need to compromise (or when they might even *shock* be wrong). Too many people try to twist the term 'professional' to their own advantage - making out that if you're not being a passive-aggressive douche like them, then you're not professional. Do not let them get away with it - professional should mean that you get the job done in the most effective way possible, avoiding as many pitfalls as possible (and pitfalls include unnecessary arguments/office-politicking).
Totally agree. Being passive-aggressive and being professional are not the same thing at all. Passive aggressiveness is still an expression of anger and it's an emotional reaction. A professional remembers that it's all about the business, getting the job done. Although we're all human, it's our responsibility as adults to maintain perspective and deal the crap in our life, including our jobs, in an appropriate manner. Put more plainly, just because you feel like "going off" and not caring about the consequences doesn't mean you should. And as for "political correctness", as a person of color I can tell you first hand it has its place in society.
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I detest "professionalism", which is no more than a methodology for lying, deceiving, and misleading people. If you're pissed off about something, I want to know about it, so that I can make appropriate adjustments. I don't want you to *ACT* "professional", keep it to yourself, moan, bitch, and whine about it to other people, or -- and this is always an inevitable result -- stab people in the back by denigrating their work or behaviour at the coffee machine or in the boss' office. If you feel angry, let people know you're angry. Otherwise they won't know, and they'll think you're cool with what they're doing. Summary: I want to work with People, not facades. Don't waste my time by not telling me what you really think.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
Yes but you can let people know you are angry without screaming four letter words at them. My first real systems were in the garment industry back in the 70's - Let me tell you those guys really knew how to express their feelings without once swearing or making every body out to be an idiot. At one time we ended up trading a disc drive to compensate for system issues. Sometimes you walked out of those meetings reeling and wondering if war had been declared but them they would take you out for a nice kosher lunch and every one would be the best of friends again - but at least you knew exactly where you stood - no surprises. Much easier to deal with then the Western busines guys who you never knew if they liked the system or not.
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Yes but you can let people know you are angry without screaming four letter words at them. My first real systems were in the garment industry back in the 70's - Let me tell you those guys really knew how to express their feelings without once swearing or making every body out to be an idiot. At one time we ended up trading a disc drive to compensate for system issues. Sometimes you walked out of those meetings reeling and wondering if war had been declared but them they would take you out for a nice kosher lunch and every one would be the best of friends again - but at least you knew exactly where you stood - no surprises. Much easier to deal with then the Western busines guys who you never knew if they liked the system or not.
You make a good point. But what you're talking about is honesty, sometimes expressed loudly, but honesty nonetheless. My gripe is with mainly with those who personalize hardware/software/design issues and essentially "act out", many times under the guise of being passionate. At the end of the day something either works or it doesn't, and if it doesn't it needs to be fixed. I don't need to "like" code, processor design, people I work with etc., and wish others (mostly developers) felt similarly.
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Mustafa Ismail Mustafa wrote:
Goes to show that sometimes, losing it really helps but seriously destroys your professional image
Losing your temper can be exactly the right thing to do and will not destory your reputation (as long as you are in the right) and can actually enhance it. You are now seen as someone who stands their ground and does not give way to initimidation and comes out fighting. Good for you.
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You make a good point. But what you're talking about is honesty, sometimes expressed loudly, but honesty nonetheless. My gripe is with mainly with those who personalize hardware/software/design issues and essentially "act out", many times under the guise of being passionate. At the end of the day something either works or it doesn't, and if it doesn't it needs to be fixed. I don't need to "like" code, processor design, people I work with etc., and wish others (mostly developers) felt similarly.
True. What really annoys me is when people get all up tight because you find a bug in their stuff. Yeesh it is your software I am having a problem with - not you. Please don't run to my boss saying I am a meany because I said something of yours doesn't work!
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I don't know who you're dealing with, but if someone is pulling passive-aggressive nonsense like that and claiming that it's professionalism, it most definitely is not. I see one part of professionalism as being able to say why you don't agree with something while not losing your temper, and not turning it into a pile of back-handed politics. Let people know you're angry, just try not to lose your temper - different people lose it in different ways, and some don't just stop at shouting something that is going to come back and bite them later. It still comes down to the individual to decide when they need to hold their ground and when they might need to compromise (or when they might even *shock* be wrong). Too many people try to twist the term 'professional' to their own advantage - making out that if you're not being a passive-aggressive douche like them, then you're not professional. Do not let them get away with it - professional should mean that you get the job done in the most effective way possible, avoiding as many pitfalls as possible (and pitfalls include unnecessary arguments/office-politicking).
glenndavidson wrote:
Too many people try to twist the term 'professional' to their own advantage - making out that if you're not being a passive-aggressive douche like them, then you're not professional.
That's the precise definition, in some of the places I've worked, which shell remain nameless -- Oops! That shouldn't have been "hel", it should have been "hal". The entire communications structure of those two places (which I have, of course, not named) is based on sideways whispers and snide remarks, coming from smiling, happy faces. It's not a difficult game to play, but it's not an environment where you can be happy.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!