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  • L Lost User

    A while ago I was on the highway and passed the exit named 'Neandertal'. I am very sure that some 200000 or 30000 years ago some guys sat there in a cave around a fire and discussed similar questions. And like them, we can just sit here and guess. Of course you could simply ask her what it is supposed to mean. But do that only if you are the adventurous type and are prepared for the possible consequences. Pick the wrong time/word/gesture/smell/color of your shirt and she will discover some nonexisting hidden meaning in even the most straightforward question and start to make your life interesting.

    "I just exchanged opinions with my boss. I went in with mine and came out with his." - me, 2011 ---
    I am endeavoring, Madam, to construct a mnemonic memory circuit using stone knives and bearskins - Mr. Spock 1935 and me 2011

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    Brian C Hart
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    Hahahaha

    Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart

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    • A AspDotNetDev

      Ah, so women do eventually give up and settle.

      Help a brotha out and vote Managing Your JavaScript Library in ASP.NET as the best ASP.NET article of May 2011.

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      On occasion. She was a lone stranger in a strange (to her, normal to everyone else) city and I must have (somehow) appeared as a brilliant ray of light (or something). She was working on her Master's in psychology and I figured she just needed a subject. ::shrug::

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      • A Albert Holguin

        I agree with Christian... asking this type of question in a development forum is like asking Stephen Hawking for a good jogging route... you may get an answer, but its just not a reliable source... ;P

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        andyharglesis
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        Sexists.

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        • Brian C HartB Brian C Hart

          Hahahaha

          Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart

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          Lost User
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          Yes, it's funny if you put it that way, but it's the actual problem. Some women can't say a single sentence without some hidden meaning or implication. And we just hear either just 'bla bla bla' or take it far too literally. And, the other way around, they try to get your hidden meanings without ever realizing that you simply meant it just the way you said it. If it was god who played that prank on us, I sure hope he really enjoys seeing us stumble around in confusion :)

          "I just exchanged opinions with my boss. I went in with mine and came out with his." - me, 2011 ---
          I am endeavoring, Madam, to construct a mnemonic memory circuit using stone knives and bearskins - Mr. Spock 1935 and me 2011

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          • A Albert Holguin

            I agree with Christian... asking this type of question in a development forum is like asking Stephen Hawking for a good jogging route... you may get an answer, but its just not a reliable source... ;P

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            Lost User
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            I am sure that Stephen Hawking would include some factors into his analysis of the optimum jogging route which many of us never heard of or could even spell :)

            "I just exchanged opinions with my boss. I went in with mine and came out with his." - me, 2011 ---
            I am endeavoring, Madam, to construct a mnemonic memory circuit using stone knives and bearskins - Mr. Spock 1935 and me 2011

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            • Brian C HartB Brian C Hart

              The female gender (no offense) is very confusing sometimes. I'm sure women feel the same way. Anyhoo.... Relationship question -- when my girlfriend of 1.5 months tells me, what's she really saying? "Go away, dude, you bother me?"

              Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart

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              It means she herself doesn't know what she means. All she knows is she feels compelled to move on, but she still has feelings. Pretty stupid if you ask me.

              The difficult we do right away... ...the impossible takes slightly longer.

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              • L Lost User

                I am sure that Stephen Hawking would include some factors into his analysis of the optimum jogging route which many of us never heard of or could even spell :)

                "I just exchanged opinions with my boss. I went in with mine and came out with his." - me, 2011 ---
                I am endeavoring, Madam, to construct a mnemonic memory circuit using stone knives and bearskins - Mr. Spock 1935 and me 2011

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                Good thing for spell-check... :)

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                • Richard Andrew x64R Richard Andrew x64

                  It means she herself doesn't know what she means. All she knows is she feels compelled to move on, but she still has feelings. Pretty stupid if you ask me.

                  The difficult we do right away... ...the impossible takes slightly longer.

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                  andyharglesis
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                  Still sexists.

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                  • Brian C HartB Brian C Hart

                    The female gender (no offense) is very confusing sometimes. I'm sure women feel the same way. Anyhoo.... Relationship question -- when my girlfriend of 1.5 months tells me, what's she really saying? "Go away, dude, you bother me?"

                    Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart

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                    leppie
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                    Brian C Hart wrote:

                    what's she really saying? "Go away, dude, you bother me?"

                    "Go away, dude, you're my brother"

                    ((λ (x) `(,x ',x)) '(λ (x) `(,x ',x)))

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                    • C Christian Graus

                      I'd say she's telling you she wants to cease all access to her trouser area, but to stay on friendly terms. But, women are confusing, don't ask a bunch of geeks to decode, ask her for clarification.

                      Christian Graus Driven to the arms of OSX by Vista. Read my blog to find out how I've worked around bugs in Microsoft tools and frameworks.

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                      NormDroid
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                      :) Christian has just hit the nail firmly on the head.

                      Software Kinetics - The home of good software

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                      • A andyharglesis

                        Sexists.

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                        Pete OHanlon
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                        Go on. I'll bite. Why is it sexist to say you may not get a good answer here? I'm genuinely curious.

                        Forgive your enemies - it messes with their heads

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                        • Brian C HartB Brian C Hart

                          The female gender (no offense) is very confusing sometimes. I'm sure women feel the same way. Anyhoo.... Relationship question -- when my girlfriend of 1.5 months tells me, what's she really saying? "Go away, dude, you bother me?"

                          Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart

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                          peterchen
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                          Nice to have you around, but not worth fighting for. Sorry. :rose:

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                          • A Albert Holguin

                            I agree with Christian... asking this type of question in a development forum is like asking Stephen Hawking for a good jogging route... you may get an answer, but its just not a reliable source... ;P

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                            Albert Holguin wrote:

                            asking Stephen Hawking for a good jogging route

                            You might get a fresh perspective, though...

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                            • Brian C HartB Brian C Hart

                              The female gender (no offense) is very confusing sometimes. I'm sure women feel the same way. Anyhoo.... Relationship question -- when my girlfriend of 1.5 months tells me, what's she really saying? "Go away, dude, you bother me?"

                              Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart

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                              Slacker007
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                              It only matters to you if you are "in love" with her. I know from my personal experience that if a woman says that she is not "in love" with you that usually means she doesn't want anything intimate from you and she has probably been thinking about a way out of your relationship for sometime. Women think with their hearts and men think with their clicks.

                              ----------------------------- Just along for the ride. -----------------------------

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                                Albert Holguin wrote:

                                asking Stephen Hawking for a good jogging route

                                You might get a fresh perspective, though...

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                                Albert Holguin
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                                he may recommend jogging through black holes and wormholes... :~

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                                • P PIEBALDconsult

                                  Depends... the woman who is my wife dumped me a few times while we were dating. She kept pulling me back in. :-D

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                                  GenJerDan
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                                  "Just when I thought that I was out they pull me back in."

                                  Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life. My Mu[sic] My Films My Windows Programs, etc.

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                                  • Brian C HartB Brian C Hart

                                    The female gender (no offense) is very confusing sometimes. I'm sure women feel the same way. Anyhoo.... Relationship question -- when my girlfriend of 1.5 months tells me, what's she really saying? "Go away, dude, you bother me?"

                                    Sincerely Yours, Brian Hart

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                                    GenJerDan
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                                    With approximately 2,187,838,153 women in the world, how could it possibly matter what she meant? Head for the bus stop. :laugh:

                                    Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life. My Mu[sic] My Films My Windows Programs, etc.

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                                    • S Slacker007

                                      It only matters to you if you are "in love" with her. I know from my personal experience that if a woman says that she is not "in love" with you that usually means she doesn't want anything intimate from you and she has probably been thinking about a way out of your relationship for sometime. Women think with their hearts and men think with their clicks.

                                      ----------------------------- Just along for the ride. -----------------------------

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                                      andyharglesis
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                                      Sexist.

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                                        With approximately 2,187,838,153 women in the world, how could it possibly matter what she meant? Head for the bus stop. :laugh:

                                        Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life. My Mu[sic] My Films My Windows Programs, etc.

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                                        andyharglesis
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                                        Sexist.

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                                        • P Pete OHanlon

                                          Go on. I'll bite. Why is it sexist to say you may not get a good answer here? I'm genuinely curious.

                                          Forgive your enemies - it messes with their heads

                                          My blog | My articles | MoXAML PowerToys | Mole 2010 - debugging made easier - my favourite utility

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                                          andyharglesis
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                                          This whole topic is becoming a juvenile discussion of raging chimps.

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