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  • P peterchen

    Paul Watson wrote: Girls have had whacked out ideas about marriage long before the wedding industry blossomed. Yeah, like "close your eyes and think of the country" :cool: (conveyed advice of the english in 18th or 19th century about the wedding night)

    If you go to war, you will destroy a great country a stoned greek chick to the richest man of the world
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    Paul Watson
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    peterchen wrote: Yeah, like "close your eyes and think of the country" I shouldn't laugh but :laugh: How terrible. Sex, making love is just the most glorious thing, for all involved, not just the male. If I were female that alone would piss me off enough to want to get my due from the men.

    Paul Watson
    Bluegrass
    Cape Town, South Africa

    Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

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    • P Paul Watson

      BTW I think Jeremy made a typo and meant to say "attracted to a guy that they can't control." i.e. What you just said. Correct me if I am wrong Jeremy.

      Paul Watson
      Bluegrass
      Cape Town, South Africa

      Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

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      Jeremy Falcon
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      Nope, I meant can. :) And, there is psychology behind it too. A woman's genetic coding stipulates that she is a caretaker. I'm sure you know by now that women don't like to make all the decisions, but they don't want to be controlled at the same time. Women are much better suited for things like endless patience, and care taking, so they can assume a motherly type role. Remember, the goal of any species (even ours) is to reproduce. Also, women love to "improve" things regardless of their current state. They love the idea of taking a "bad" guy and making husband material out of him. This is also another reason they love to decorate - they are "improving" their home. They try to make something out of nothing, and love to “help”. So, they'll be happy to make a husband out of someone they can help if they have the potential (make money, etc.) to be a good husband and provider, after all they put a lot of effort into this person. They are trying to mold the person (aka control), but they don’t think they are controlling. That’s the key point to remember! They don’t think they are! But, when you are in this position, she has basically assumed a motherly-type role with you. If you cannot be controlled, she’ll wish she could, fantasize about it, etc. and it goes from there. And, I do mean sexually too. Women don’t really believe physical and emotional stimulations are exclusive. To them, you can’t have one without the other – even for a one-night stand. They all say sex is love when it comes to their partner. There are exceptions to everything, but this tends to hold true in damn near every case. And I have questioned many different chicks (Yvette, Jeru – yeah that’s her name, Brandy, Ashley, Nancy, etc to name a few) about this stuff too to help confirm my ideas. So, if you want to make her wet when she thinks of you, don’t let her subconsciously think she’s your mother. Be the man, stay in control, but don’t be controlling. Don’t let her change you, and she’ll keep you on the fantasy list. Jeremy Falcon

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      • P Paul Watson

        Simple enough question: What do you attribute the spiralling divorce rate in modern society to? Nish's chauvenistic* post below and his reply that India values of repressing women are the reason for the low divorce rate in India. I thought I would ask for your opinion before replying. :) * however unintended

        Paul Watson
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        David Wulff
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        Well speaking from my endless knowledge on such matters I'd attribute seventy to eighty percent to weak characters. People certainly don't seem to want to put the effort into life anymore. :(

        David Wulff

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        • P Paul Watson

          Jonny Newman wrote: Reminds me of this[^] My god! That is exactly what so many non-Americans are fighting against. Scary stuff. I hope there is an American on CP who agrees with that policy, just so we can pick his brains and see just why and how the hell he thinks.

          Paul Watson
          Bluegrass
          Cape Town, South Africa

          Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

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          Hmm - I can't see anything specific to Australia. HAve we been forgotten in the push towards global supremacy? :( cheers, Chris Maunder

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          • P Paul Watson

            I just want to make myself heard: I disagree totally with what you have said. Mainly because I am a romantic, but also because I believe it won't help. Things change afterall.

            Paul Watson
            Bluegrass
            Cape Town, South Africa

            Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

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            Paul Watson wrote: because I believe it won't help I suppose you're right. Romatics tend to throw common sense out the window. They always have. They go for the rush and deal with the consequences later. Kind of like addicts I suppose.

            "How many more people have to die before no one ever dies again?" - Daniel Haley, The Onion

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            • K Kevnar

              Jeremy Falcon wrote: P.S. Here's some info that's invaluable for guys (if they choose to listen). Any woman will never-ever be deep-down, hard-rooted attracted to a guy that they can control. PPS. On the other hand, women will rarely stay involved with a guy they can't control. Thus discontentment is inevitable.

              "How many more people have to die before no one ever dies again?" - Daniel Haley, The Onion

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              Kevnar wrote: PPS. On the other hand, women will rarely stay involved with a guy they can't control. Thus discontentment is inevitable. Well, my experiences lead me to believe otherwise. If a chick leaves a guy, then the guy was settled for in the first place. Check out my reply to Paul about my take on the "control" issue. Jeremy Falcon

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              • P Paul Watson

                Kevnar wrote: Figure out why people marry the wrong person to begin with and you'll have the tools to solve the divorce problem. Now who is being naive? :-D People will always make mistakes, even with something as monumental as marriage. Knowing all the answers, checks, starting variables etc. etc. etc. won't prevent failed marriages. Not taking what you said to extremes though (i.e. 0% divorce) then you are right.

                Paul Watson
                Bluegrass
                Cape Town, South Africa

                Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

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                Well I did say you would have the tools to solve the problem. I didn't say you would solve the problem. Human nature is as unpredictable as the weather.

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                • C Chris Austin

                  To me it is a lack of understanding the commitment, laziness, and a lack of clear expectations up front. Also, I think a lot of people today just don't want to argue with their spouse, which is very necessary in my opinion. Far too many people expect marriage to be easy and without challenge. They just think it will just work without daily effort to make one another happy or feel needed. I also think people tend to mary people who will not challenge them mentally on a constant basis. This was very important for me, I was never seriously attracted to a woman who wasn't smarter than me. The word abbreviation is awfully long for what it means.

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                  Paul Watson
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                  Chris Austin wrote: This was very important for me, I was never seriously attracted to a woman who wasn't smarter than me. It does take a big man though to do that IMO. It is not an automatic and easy thing to do. It is easy to settle.

                  Paul Watson
                  Bluegrass
                  Cape Town, South Africa

                  Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

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                  • P Paul Watson

                    BTW I think Jeremy made a typo and meant to say "attracted to a guy that they can't control." i.e. What you just said. Correct me if I am wrong Jeremy.

                    Paul Watson
                    Bluegrass
                    Cape Town, South Africa

                    Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

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                    Kevnar
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                    Well based on the context of his message I figure he was saying women aren't attracted to men they can control. They prefer a tough virile alpha-male. Someone to protect them and provide for them. I agree with him, inspite of feminist rhetoric.

                    "How many more people have to die before no one ever dies again?" - Daniel Haley, The Onion

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                    • J Jeremy Falcon

                      Nope, I meant can. :) And, there is psychology behind it too. A woman's genetic coding stipulates that she is a caretaker. I'm sure you know by now that women don't like to make all the decisions, but they don't want to be controlled at the same time. Women are much better suited for things like endless patience, and care taking, so they can assume a motherly type role. Remember, the goal of any species (even ours) is to reproduce. Also, women love to "improve" things regardless of their current state. They love the idea of taking a "bad" guy and making husband material out of him. This is also another reason they love to decorate - they are "improving" their home. They try to make something out of nothing, and love to “help”. So, they'll be happy to make a husband out of someone they can help if they have the potential (make money, etc.) to be a good husband and provider, after all they put a lot of effort into this person. They are trying to mold the person (aka control), but they don’t think they are controlling. That’s the key point to remember! They don’t think they are! But, when you are in this position, she has basically assumed a motherly-type role with you. If you cannot be controlled, she’ll wish she could, fantasize about it, etc. and it goes from there. And, I do mean sexually too. Women don’t really believe physical and emotional stimulations are exclusive. To them, you can’t have one without the other – even for a one-night stand. They all say sex is love when it comes to their partner. There are exceptions to everything, but this tends to hold true in damn near every case. And I have questioned many different chicks (Yvette, Jeru – yeah that’s her name, Brandy, Ashley, Nancy, etc to name a few) about this stuff too to help confirm my ideas. So, if you want to make her wet when she thinks of you, don’t let her subconsciously think she’s your mother. Be the man, stay in control, but don’t be controlling. Don’t let her change you, and she’ll keep you on the fantasy list. Jeremy Falcon

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                      Kevnar
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                      Jeremy Falcon wrote: So, if you want to make her wet when she thinks of you Perhaps a little too crude, but it gets the point across. :laugh:

                      "How many more people have to die before no one ever dies again?" - Daniel Haley, The Onion

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                      • M Megan Forbes

                        I'm no expert (having never been divorced), but I think part of it is the instant gratification lifestyle we lead these days. That, and the fact that expecting such a lifestyle is owed to us. One day you decide you would be happy married - so you get married, as quickly as possible. A few years later you decide you would be happier if you were not married - easy solution, get a divorce as quickly as possible. The world owes you happines, why should you work for it. Very sad state of mind we seem to have found for ourselves. Especially as experience teaches any sane person that the things they've had to work hardest for are the things they enjoy and appreciate the most. Hmmm... I'm not typing very coherently today am I? :rolleyes:

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                        Jeremy Falcon
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                        Megan Forbes wrote: Especially as experience teaches any sane person that the things they've had to work hardest for are the things they enjoy and appreciate the most. You so reinforced one of the points my posts made - thanks! :) P.S. I'm not being sarcastic either. Jeremy Falcon

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                        • N Nitron

                          The grounds for athiesm are shaky at best. I don't mean to turn this in a religious direction, but I will attempt to make one small point. Before evaluating any given fact about religion, people bring to the table a pair of rose-colored glasses representing their world-view. This world-view is a culimination of all their experiences and beliefs, as well as the root of their logic. Everyone needs a starting point for their arguments: a faith-based assumption so to speak. From the secular athiest point of view, all there exists in the universe is molecules in motion. Love is nothing more than random firings of neurons that can be duplicated by consuming lots of cholocate. It is their belief that the universe came into being merely by chance, and there is no intelligent creator (God). However, that assumption is not scientifically provable, and as thus is merely an assumption of faith. There is no scientific method to prove what is beyond the universe or supernatural. Now from a bible-believing point of view, the faith assumption is that the bible is the inerrant word of god. A revealing of the nature of God to his people. Like the secular point of view, this assumption is also not provable by scientific method, but is a faith assumption. Thus it is the bible-believer who argues that the only reason the laws of the universe make any sense is that there is an intelligent creator. It is the bible-believer who states that it is no accident that the earth is the exact distance from the sun that it needs to be. The bible-believer will argue that the only reason man can do what he does is that an intelligent creator set it all in motion. Well, considering those two points of view, an athiest marriage is nothing more than random electrical neural patterns, with no set course and no arguable reason to be in the relationship in the first place. Wheras, the believers in a supreme being (God) have taken an oath in front of God as has been revealed to them in God's word. Thus the marriage has a goal and substance, and is not merely random chemical and electrial responses to the presence of the other individual. I am not intending to move this to religious debate, just supporting my response. - Nitron

                          "Those that say a task is impossible shouldn't interrupt the ones who are doing it." - Chinese Proverb

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                          Kinda strange that the US' highest divorce rates occur in the Bible Belt, isn't it? ------------------------------------------ "What happened in that Rhode Island club is shocking. To think that over a hundred people would attend a Great White concert." - The Onion

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                            Jonny Newman wrote: Reminds me of this[^] Just read the 'Statement of Principles' :confused: Was this reply intended for me? If so, don't get it. :~ I thought we were talking about divorce, which accidentally slipped on the floor of religion, but bumping my head on the wall of politics?! :confused: How did we end up there? - Nitron

                            "Those that say a task is impossible shouldn't interrupt the ones who are doing it." - Chinese Proverb

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                            It was the phrasing of that atheist quote reminded me of that page. No It has nothing directly related to the topic. But then life is full of suprises :-D

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                            • C Chris Maunder

                              Hmm - I can't see anything specific to Australia. HAve we been forgotten in the push towards global supremacy? :( cheers, Chris Maunder

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                              Hmmmm, they're webserver must be down: http://www.newaustraliancentury.org/[^] ;) ------------------------------------------ "What happened in that Rhode Island club is shocking. To think that over a hundred people would attend a Great White concert." - The Onion

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                                Hmm - I can't see anything specific to Australia. HAve we been forgotten in the push towards global supremacy? :( cheers, Chris Maunder

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                                I'm sure the beer and insect life will keep invaders out for the time being :-D ;P

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                                • K Kevnar

                                  Well based on the context of his message I figure he was saying women aren't attracted to men they can control. They prefer a tough virile alpha-male. Someone to protect them and provide for them. I agree with him, inspite of feminist rhetoric.

                                  "How many more people have to die before no one ever dies again?" - Daniel Haley, The Onion

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                                  Jeremy Falcon
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                                  Bingo! Here's the sad part though. More guys could be that type of person if they set ego aside for a moment, analyze the situation, and see where they need to change. I know this because that's exactly what I did. I looked at myself objectively and went from there. So now I know the feeling of being rejected, AND I know the feeling of doing the rejection. Jeremy Falcon

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                                  • P Paul Watson

                                    Simple enough question: What do you attribute the spiralling divorce rate in modern society to? Nish's chauvenistic* post below and his reply that India values of repressing women are the reason for the low divorce rate in India. I thought I would ask for your opinion before replying. :) * however unintended

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                                    Bluegrass
                                    Cape Town, South Africa

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                                    What do you attribute the spiralling divorce rate in modern society to? Marriage. :-D Marc Help! I'm an AI running around in someone's f*cked up universe simulator.
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                                      Simple enough question: What do you attribute the spiralling divorce rate in modern society to? Nish's chauvenistic* post below and his reply that India values of repressing women are the reason for the low divorce rate in India. I thought I would ask for your opinion before replying. :) * however unintended

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                                        Kinda strange that the US' highest divorce rates occur in the Bible Belt, isn't it? ------------------------------------------ "What happened in that Rhode Island club is shocking. To think that over a hundred people would attend a Great White concert." - The Onion

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                                        Brit wrote: Kinda strange that the US' highest divorce rates occur in the Bible Belt, isn't it? Not really. Just as there are different flavors of atheism, there are (sadly) even more flavors of Christianity. I have met many self proclaiming "Christians" who behave in stark contrast to the teachings of the bible. IMO the "bible-belt" term is overrated. - Nitron

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                                        • D David Wulff

                                          Well speaking from my endless knowledge on such matters I'd attribute seventy to eighty percent to weak characters. People certainly don't seem to want to put the effort into life anymore. :(

                                          David Wulff

                                          "Somebody get this freakin' duck away from me!" - Strong Bad [^]

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                                          David Wulff wrote: People certainly don't seem to want to put the effort into life anymore. I was gonna reply with a detailed essay on why you are wrong about this... ...but, eh, don't wanna bother typing that much. ---

                                          My whole life I've practiced the art of self-sabotage -- fearing success perhaps even more than fearing failure. I think I have got this flareup resolved, but I'm constantly waiting to see what new and exciting ways I can spoil my chances for a better life. - koreykruse, Compulsive Skin Picking

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