How to forget
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Yulianto. wrote:
get busy.
That is why we have a saying "
An idle mind is devil's workshop"Vasudevan Deepak Kumar Personal Homepage Tech Gossips
Vasudevan Deepak Kumar wrote:
"An idle mind is devil's workshop"
Well Said.
Regards, Satips.:rose: Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow; Don't walk behind me, I may not lead; Walk beside me, and just be my friend. - Albert Camus
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How do you forget someone? I mean how do you get over a relationship that failed? I need help here, and I can't talk to friends about it. I used to know her years ago, but now I have learnt that she left last year. I even disconnected myself from old friends because they would remind me of her. I just wanted it to be over, but now the memories have come back. I need to get over it before I do something stupid. (I don't know if I can get any more stupid than looking for love in the wrong people). I really want myself to be glad it is over, but how? (It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!) Please make some suggestions / words of wisdom.
this is this.
Don't forget her, remember all those good times you had together
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How do you forget someone? I mean how do you get over a relationship that failed? I need help here, and I can't talk to friends about it. I used to know her years ago, but now I have learnt that she left last year. I even disconnected myself from old friends because they would remind me of her. I just wanted it to be over, but now the memories have come back. I need to get over it before I do something stupid. (I don't know if I can get any more stupid than looking for love in the wrong people). I really want myself to be glad it is over, but how? (It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!) Please make some suggestions / words of wisdom.
this is this.
khan++ wrote:
(It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!)
Wow! That sounds familiar. My ex was a psycotic b*tch. I won't forget her, I just refer to her as Lady Voldemort or She-who-must-not-be-named. I tell people about her. About how she smashed the car in to the neighbour's house, how she insulted one of my friends so badly I've not spoken to him in 6 years, how she insulted my uncle that I've not spoken with him in about 6 years also. Due to her my dad refused to visit for about 6 months. And during that relationship I ended up in accident and emergency more times that the rest of my life put together. (And there is more to that than I really want to talk about)
khan++ wrote:
How do you forget someone?
You don't
khan++ wrote:
I mean how do you get over a relationship that failed?
Learn the lesson and move on.
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Simply ignore them.
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How do you forget someone? I mean how do you get over a relationship that failed? I need help here, and I can't talk to friends about it. I used to know her years ago, but now I have learnt that she left last year. I even disconnected myself from old friends because they would remind me of her. I just wanted it to be over, but now the memories have come back. I need to get over it before I do something stupid. (I don't know if I can get any more stupid than looking for love in the wrong people). I really want myself to be glad it is over, but how? (It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!) Please make some suggestions / words of wisdom.
this is this.
Don't blame your self about something you don't have a choice with it , then don't ever remember or think about anyone left you without any reasonable reason. just let it go
When you get mad...THINK twice that the only advice Tamimi - Code
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khan++ wrote:
(It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!)
Wow! That sounds familiar. My ex was a psycotic b*tch. I won't forget her, I just refer to her as Lady Voldemort or She-who-must-not-be-named. I tell people about her. About how she smashed the car in to the neighbour's house, how she insulted one of my friends so badly I've not spoken to him in 6 years, how she insulted my uncle that I've not spoken with him in about 6 years also. Due to her my dad refused to visit for about 6 months. And during that relationship I ended up in accident and emergency more times that the rest of my life put together. (And there is more to that than I really want to talk about)
khan++ wrote:
How do you forget someone?
You don't
khan++ wrote:
I mean how do you get over a relationship that failed?
Learn the lesson and move on.
Upcoming events: * Glasgow: Mock Objects, SQL Server CLR Integration, Reporting Services, db4o, Dependency Injection with Spring ... "I wouldn't say boo to a goose. I'm not a coward, I just realise that it would be largely pointless." My website
Colin Angus Mackay wrote:
Learn the lesson and move on.
it's sometime so costly........ so many tears
When you get mad...THINK twice that the only advice Tamimi - Code
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khan++ wrote:
(It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!)
Wow! That sounds familiar. My ex was a psycotic b*tch. I won't forget her, I just refer to her as Lady Voldemort or She-who-must-not-be-named. I tell people about her. About how she smashed the car in to the neighbour's house, how she insulted one of my friends so badly I've not spoken to him in 6 years, how she insulted my uncle that I've not spoken with him in about 6 years also. Due to her my dad refused to visit for about 6 months. And during that relationship I ended up in accident and emergency more times that the rest of my life put together. (And there is more to that than I really want to talk about)
khan++ wrote:
How do you forget someone?
You don't
khan++ wrote:
I mean how do you get over a relationship that failed?
Learn the lesson and move on.
Upcoming events: * Glasgow: Mock Objects, SQL Server CLR Integration, Reporting Services, db4o, Dependency Injection with Spring ... "I wouldn't say boo to a goose. I'm not a coward, I just realise that it would be largely pointless." My website
Thanks for the reply. And yes, I had been in more trouble when with her than I have been in without her. I had real bad relations with some university teachers. I was almost kicked out of the uni. I passed out once in the classroom, and nearly a second time. I smashed a glass while standing on stage. I almost hit a teacher once... and many other things I have forgotten. Yes, all because of her.
this is this.
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Colin Angus Mackay wrote:
Learn the lesson and move on.
it's sometime so costly........ so many tears
When you get mad...THINK twice that the only advice Tamimi - Code
Tamimi - Code wrote:
it's sometime so costly........ so many tears
The tears go away after a while. The great big dent in my bank account takes a while longer.
Upcoming events: * Glasgow: Mock Objects, SQL Server CLR Integration, Reporting Services, db4o, Dependency Injection with Spring ... "I wouldn't say boo to a goose. I'm not a coward, I just realise that it would be largely pointless." My website
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Thanks for the reply. And yes, I had been in more trouble when with her than I have been in without her. I had real bad relations with some university teachers. I was almost kicked out of the uni. I passed out once in the classroom, and nearly a second time. I smashed a glass while standing on stage. I almost hit a teacher once... and many other things I have forgotten. Yes, all because of her.
this is this.
khan++ wrote:
I almost hit a teacher once
That sounds more like you were the one with a problem. I never ("almost") hit anybody.
Upcoming events: * Glasgow: Mock Objects, SQL Server CLR Integration, Reporting Services, db4o, Dependency Injection with Spring ... "I wouldn't say boo to a goose. I'm not a coward, I just realise that it would be largely pointless." My website
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Tamimi - Code wrote:
it's sometime so costly........ so many tears
The tears go away after a while. The great big dent in my bank account takes a while longer.
Upcoming events: * Glasgow: Mock Objects, SQL Server CLR Integration, Reporting Services, db4o, Dependency Injection with Spring ... "I wouldn't say boo to a goose. I'm not a coward, I just realise that it would be largely pointless." My website
Colin Angus Mackay wrote:
The great big dent in my bank account takes a while longer.
excuse me but this makes me laugh :laugh: , but its totally true
When you get mad...THINK twice that the only advice Tamimi - Code
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Colin Angus Mackay wrote:
The great big dent in my bank account takes a while longer.
excuse me but this makes me laugh :laugh: , but its totally true
When you get mad...THINK twice that the only advice Tamimi - Code
Tamimi - Code wrote:
excuse me but this makes me laugh
No worries - I can laugh about it now.
Upcoming events: * Glasgow: Mock Objects, SQL Server CLR Integration, Reporting Services, db4o, Dependency Injection with Spring ... "I wouldn't say boo to a goose. I'm not a coward, I just realise that it would be largely pointless." My website
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khan++ wrote:
I almost hit a teacher once
That sounds more like you were the one with a problem. I never ("almost") hit anybody.
Upcoming events: * Glasgow: Mock Objects, SQL Server CLR Integration, Reporting Services, db4o, Dependency Injection with Spring ... "I wouldn't say boo to a goose. I'm not a coward, I just realise that it would be largely pointless." My website
Colin Angus Mackay wrote:
That sounds more like you were the one with a problem
No, I wasn't looking for trouble, ever. The teacher was in love with one of his other students. And that student had a crush on me. The teacher wanted to get rid of me, so I became their (the teachers group's) target, and he kicked me out of that study group into another one. Hence I became a little more aggresive when he tried to push me again, but never hit anyone.
this is this.
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Don't blame your self about something you don't have a choice with it , then don't ever remember or think about anyone left you without any reasonable reason. just let it go
When you get mad...THINK twice that the only advice Tamimi - Code
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How do you forget someone? I mean how do you get over a relationship that failed? I need help here, and I can't talk to friends about it. I used to know her years ago, but now I have learnt that she left last year. I even disconnected myself from old friends because they would remind me of her. I just wanted it to be over, but now the memories have come back. I need to get over it before I do something stupid. (I don't know if I can get any more stupid than looking for love in the wrong people). I really want myself to be glad it is over, but how? (It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!) Please make some suggestions / words of wisdom.
this is this.
Buy a XBOX 360 and go play on XBOX Live. It's easy to forget everything there :)
I see dead pixels Yes, even I am blogging now!
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Thanks for the reply. And yes, I had been in more trouble when with her than I have been in without her. I had real bad relations with some university teachers. I was almost kicked out of the uni. I passed out once in the classroom, and nearly a second time. I smashed a glass while standing on stage. I almost hit a teacher once... and many other things I have forgotten. Yes, all because of her.
this is this.
did you ever think that she don't deserve you ?? !!!
When you get mad...THINK twice that the only advice Tamimi - Code
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did you ever think that she don't deserve you ?? !!!
When you get mad...THINK twice that the only advice Tamimi - Code
Tamimi - Code wrote:
did you ever think that she don't deserve you ?
No, I left her because she would hang out with Flash designers instead of the only true C++ programmer in the area. [/joke] But seriously, No, I thought that she didn't deserve me after what she used to do to make me feel bad. May be it made her feel better. She left me once, and it was a clear indication that she would do it again if I stayed. So I left.
this is this.
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Find someone else, that are interested in what you do and say.
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Tamimi - Code wrote:
did you ever think that she don't deserve you ?
No, I left her because she would hang out with Flash designers instead of the only true C++ programmer in the area. [/joke] But seriously, No, I thought that she didn't deserve me after what she used to do to make me feel bad. May be it made her feel better. She left me once, and it was a clear indication that she would do it again if I stayed. So I left.
this is this.
khan++ wrote:
So I left.
so git my 5
When you get mad...THINK twice that the only advice Tamimi - Code
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How do you forget someone? I mean how do you get over a relationship that failed? I need help here, and I can't talk to friends about it. I used to know her years ago, but now I have learnt that she left last year. I even disconnected myself from old friends because they would remind me of her. I just wanted it to be over, but now the memories have come back. I need to get over it before I do something stupid. (I don't know if I can get any more stupid than looking for love in the wrong people). I really want myself to be glad it is over, but how? (It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!) Please make some suggestions / words of wisdom.
this is this.
khan++ wrote:
(It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!) Please make some suggestions / words of wisdom.
One of the largest mistakes of people who are in an abusive relationship is not filling the gap with something about you. I am not saying fill it all with work, though some will (and I did for a while), but find some hobbies you enjoy and enjoy them. I took hikes, I photographed caverns, I learned to play the native american flute, etc. You said you gave up friends so that you wouldn't be reminded, but the problem is if you didn't fill your time with anything else, you will always be reminded. After that, just have patience. Time will help. And, maybe, you will meet someone. BUT, jumping from one relationship to another isn't good, so be patient and don't let that be the focus of any of your hobbies. Do things for you, not because you want to meet someone. Enjoy life, for life's sake.
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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How do you forget someone? I mean how do you get over a relationship that failed? I need help here, and I can't talk to friends about it. I used to know her years ago, but now I have learnt that she left last year. I even disconnected myself from old friends because they would remind me of her. I just wanted it to be over, but now the memories have come back. I need to get over it before I do something stupid. (I don't know if I can get any more stupid than looking for love in the wrong people). I really want myself to be glad it is over, but how? (It was an abusive relationship for me that started in 1999 that I ended around mid 2003, four years ago!) Please make some suggestions / words of wisdom.
this is this.