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  • L Lost User

    How should I address a woman in a business letter / mail: Mrs or Ms? [Edit] And of course in Business relation, I don't know whether she is married or not (and what other light or dark things she is doing) [Edit] [Edit1] This is no joke question! [Edit1] Btw. For this, Wiki is something too much theoretical. I like to have pragmatic solution from real people here :-D

    It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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    0x01AA wrote:

    This is no joke question!

    As if this will stop the silly responses. :laugh:

    If you think 'goto' is evil, try writing an Assembly program without JMP.

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    • H H Brydon

      0x01AA wrote:

      How should I address a woman in a business letter / mail: Mrs or Ms?

      I'd go with: Dear Sir/Madam:

      I'm retired. There's a nap for that... - Harvey

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      Thank you, sounds very formal but good.

      It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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        I am a native English speaker. I also speak fluent Spanish and OK French. I'm trying to start Nepali, since my son-in-law is from Nepal. I studied Russian for a year, but don't speak it. English is a horrible language. There are so many exceptions and the way it is spelled will drive a Zen master insane. Change of subject. I speak fluent Spanish, but I can't imagine taking a university course in Spanish. I greatly admire any non native English speaker taking English College courses. They are amazing.

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        Member 12415033 wrote:

        They

        What ... the rays of admiration?

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        • R Revon

          You said you'd written to her before, so presumably she has replied to you. How did she sign it? Ms, Mrs or Jane? First contact should be Dear Sir/Madam, or Dear Ms Doe. Subsequent contact use whatever she signs off as.

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          Thank you. She sign pre/second Name.

          It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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          • B Bob1000

            Simple solutions are: Just use their first name Dr/Prof (overstating their qualifications/flattery never does any harm!) Lady/Highness - good for grovelling/being sarcastic However we really need a modern, polite term to address a person of any gender/martial status with or without a name. Bit like the old 'Dear Sir' Perhaps Dear Hum (as in Human) Dear Sap (as in Homo Sapiens and has the benefit of annoying any Neanderthals still around) or my favourite Dear XYX - covers nearly everyone

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            Thanks for this.

            It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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            • S Slow Eddie

              If you are replying to an email/letter use the name the person signed off on the email to you. If it is Mrs. Jane Doe then use that. If it is Ms. Jane Doe then use that. If it is Jane Doe then use that. BTW you worry far too much. As long as you don't open with "Hey Bitch!" you are probably OK. :laugh:

              "Newer" is NOT automatically better, only Different. (And more complex and bug ridden when it comes to all of the "boutique" languages / frameworks out there)

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              Thank you for this. I try to avoid the one you mentioned in the last sentence :laugh:

              It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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              • K kalberts

                That's exactly what we learned in English class at school. Disclaimer: At least officially, we wer taught "British" English. Maybe the use of Ms is different in American English.

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                Ravi Bhavnani
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                Member 7989122 wrote:

                At least officially, we wer [sic] taught "British" English.

                Me too.

                Member 7989122 wrote:

                Maybe the use of Ms is different in American English.

                'Tis the same. :) /ravi

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                • K Kirk 10389821

                  Dear AppropriateGenderPronoun, Dear Ms. X, or, just drop it: Dear Jane, or, title it: Dear CEO Jane xxx, but NEVER EVER: Dear Leader, that is exclusively reserved for NK...

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                  Thanks :-D

                  It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                  • B Bruce Patin

                    I simply stopped using any form of salutation, especially because official ranks were involved, and those often changed. If I had to for a known female, however, I would use Ms.

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                    Thank you very much.

                    It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                    • T TNCaver

                      0x01AA wrote:

                      This is no joke question!

                      As if this will stop the silly responses. :laugh:

                      If you think 'goto' is evil, try writing an Assembly program without JMP.

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                      I think most of the answers are quite ok :-D

                      It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                      • K kmoorevs

                        Yes, the name Leslie can be a tough one, being an androgynous name, like Pat, or Jordan. If you know the first name, it's best just to address them as such and leave off the last name...unless you live in the Southern US, where it is proper to put a Mr. or Ms. before the first name, usually for older folks. So either Leslie, or Ms. Leslie...unless it's a guy, then it's Leslie, or Mr. Leslie, or just Les, depending on how well you now him...but don't call him Ray! :laugh:

                        "Go forth into the source" - Neal Morse

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                        Generally speaking, Leslie is male and Lesley is the female version. That used to be almost always the case; these days you occasionally find exceptions but I suspect they are often spelling errors on the part of the parent or registrar! In the UK at least it would be very strange to be addressed as Mr Fred, or Ms Susan (without a surname). Confuses the formality of a title with the informality of a first name. When we see it we generally assume the writer is not a native English speaker. We see it most in spam emails and also hear it in calls from Indian call centres... Of course, if you're writing a letter of complaint, a good salutation is the firm but simple Sir,

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                        • L Lost User

                          How should I address a woman in a business letter / mail: Mrs or Ms? [Edit] And of course in Business relation, I don't know whether she is married or not (and what other light or dark things she is doing) [Edit] [Edit1] This is no joke question! [Edit1] Btw. For this, Wiki is something too much theoretical. I like to have pragmatic solution from real people here :-D

                          It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                          Now to add to your worries: :) If you start with "Dear Sir/Madam", make sure you sign off with, "Yours faithfully". If you start with their name, sign off with "Yours sincerely". Yours faithfully or Yours sincerely?[^]


                          "These people looked deep within my soul and assigned me a number based on the order in which I joined." - Homer

                          "These people looked deep within my soul and assigned me a number based on the order in which I joined" - Homer

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                            How should I address a woman in a business letter / mail: Mrs or Ms? [Edit] And of course in Business relation, I don't know whether she is married or not (and what other light or dark things she is doing) [Edit] [Edit1] This is no joke question! [Edit1] Btw. For this, Wiki is something too much theoretical. I like to have pragmatic solution from real people here :-D

                            It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                            You could use Dear Madam.

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                            • L Lost User

                              How should I address a woman in a business letter / mail: Mrs or Ms? [Edit] And of course in Business relation, I don't know whether she is married or not (and what other light or dark things she is doing) [Edit] [Edit1] This is no joke question! [Edit1] Btw. For this, Wiki is something too much theoretical. I like to have pragmatic solution from real people here :-D

                              It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                              I always use Ms. I don't differentiate the treatment of men depending on if they are married or not, so I do the same with women. In Spain, to call the equivalent to Mrs to a woman is something quite old-fashioned -usually it comes from seniors- and considered offensive. But could be acceptable for a teenager.

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                                How should I address a woman in a business letter / mail: Mrs or Ms? [Edit] And of course in Business relation, I don't know whether she is married or not (and what other light or dark things she is doing) [Edit] [Edit1] This is no joke question! [Edit1] Btw. For this, Wiki is something too much theoretical. I like to have pragmatic solution from real people here :-D

                                It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                                Dear baby. :-D

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                                • Richard DeemingR Richard Deeming

                                  Now to add to your worries: :) If you start with "Dear Sir/Madam", make sure you sign off with, "Yours faithfully". If you start with their name, sign off with "Yours sincerely". Yours faithfully or Yours sincerely?[^]


                                  "These people looked deep within my soul and assigned me a number based on the order in which I joined." - Homer

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                                  I think I will go with "to whom it may concern" :laugh:

                                  It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                                  • L Lost User

                                    I think I will go with "to whom it may concern" :laugh:

                                    It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                                    How about "Darling Fascist Bully-Boy[^]"? :-D


                                    "These people looked deep within my soul and assigned me a number based on the order in which I joined." - Homer

                                    "These people looked deep within my soul and assigned me a number based on the order in which I joined" - Homer

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                                      How should I address a woman in a business letter / mail: Mrs or Ms? [Edit] And of course in Business relation, I don't know whether she is married or not (and what other light or dark things she is doing) [Edit] [Edit1] This is no joke question! [Edit1] Btw. For this, Wiki is something too much theoretical. I like to have pragmatic solution from real people here :-D

                                      It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                                      Traditionally (in American English, at least), "Mrs." implies married, and "Miss" implies unmarried. "Ms." (pronounced more like "Mizz") avoids that distinction. It is an appropriate professional address for a female regardless of marital status. Marital status is irrelevant. * * * Unfortunately, there's no gender-neutral address, which is a problem when one can't tell from the name whether someone is a "Mr." or a "Ms." -- e.g., native English speakers trying to decode Chinese or Indian names. In those cases, I usually just avoid the "Mr." or "Ms." pronoun and simply use the person's full name. "Dear , ..."

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                                        Traditionally (in American English, at least), "Mrs." implies married, and "Miss" implies unmarried. "Ms." (pronounced more like "Mizz") avoids that distinction. It is an appropriate professional address for a female regardless of marital status. Marital status is irrelevant. * * * Unfortunately, there's no gender-neutral address, which is a problem when one can't tell from the name whether someone is a "Mr." or a "Ms." -- e.g., native English speakers trying to decode Chinese or Indian names. In those cases, I usually just avoid the "Mr." or "Ms." pronoun and simply use the person's full name. "Dear , ..."

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                                        Thank you very much for this Information.

                                        It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question

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                                        • P Peter Shaw

                                          Your asking this question in the Lounge.... There is about a 0.00000001% chance that your going to get anything anywhere near serious (And Iv'e probably just skewed those odds with this reply) Your not going to get a serious answer in here, not because of any offensiveness, but simply because it's the lounge. Think of this place like the "School Playground of Code Project", what happens here, stays here, and answering serious questions is not a concept easily understood. EDIT [DANG] - I retract my words.... I didn't notice there was a second page!!! :-O I'm impressed, go "The Lounge"!!!

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                                          Peter Shaw wrote:

                                          Think of this place like the "School Playground of Code Project"

                                          That explains all the running around with scissors and matches... ;)


                                          Common sense is admitting there is cause and effect and that you can exert some control over what you understand.

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